Single Edition on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, where Sherri Langburt, founder of SingleEdition.com shared her mission of creating a lifestyle site to help singles in many areas of their lives.

Sherri, herself, is an online dating success story. After 10 years of online dating, she met her husband on JDate.

Single Edition provides dating and relationship advice from experts, along with suggestions for traveling solo, as well as health and beauty advice.

Find out Sherri’s secrets on why her online dating profile led to her marriage and hear her inspiration for singles looking for love online.

Listen to the program where you will hear more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

Julie Spira, Cyber-Dating Expert Sizzle Reel

Everyone at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters is excited today. I’m pleased to release our new media and sizzle reel. You’ll see highlights with some of my favorite and best online dating advice from my news appearances. To book an interview with Julie Spira, visit  CyberDatingExpert.com/Contact

Peril of the Week – The Donny Downer

You may have heard the stories of the “Debbie Downer” on a date. She’s the girl that talks about all of her problems and turns guys away faster than the speed of lightning. This week, you’ll meet her counterpart, the “Donny Downer.” Our online dating story this week is about the tale of the gentleman who came completely unprepared for his date. He didn’t rehearse his conversation on the long drive to lunch.

When they sat down at the restaurant, he first complained about the calorie count of the entrees. She smiled and changed the subject. Then he complained about his bad back and asked her if she had any back problems. He went on to talk about his father’s dementia and his mother’s hospital stay. She didn’t believe in bringing her medical history to the table.

The conversation then switched to the financial and gambling problems his adult son had. She wondered why he thought she needed to know. In between the appetizer and entree, he managed to talk about his two ex-wives.

Finally, he asked her what she thought of Obama as the President of the United States and talked about how awful he was in doing his job as the leader of our country. She preferred not to talk about politics.

Here’s my dating advice for this situation.  Please leave the baggage behind. Conversations about the ex, financial, and health problems shouldn’t be on the top of your list on a first date. Keep your first date positive, upbeat and light.  He was a classic “Donny Downer.” Although he might have been a nice guy, he wasn’t about to get to a second date.

Do you have an online dating story to share? For consideration in the Peril of the Week, please send us your stories.

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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show: Single Edition

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Join Cyber Dating Expert Julie Spira on Saturday July 31, 2010, as she welcomes Sherri Langburt, Founder of Single Edition to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

This week we’ll be starting the program earlier at 1pm/eastern time.

Single Edition is a lifestyle site filled with dating advice for singles: women and men of all ages who have never been married as well as those who are divorced, solo parents or suddenly single.

We are honored to have Sherri, an online dating success story, share with us some of her best dating and relationship tips for singles looking for love online.

Call in with your relationship questions on Saturday, July 31, 2010 at 1pm/ET, 11am/CT, 10am/PT at 646-929-0012 to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

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Love Potions – Sofia Wines

At a recent charity event, The Saban Free Clinic’s Extravaganza for the Senses, I walked around a Hollywood Studio Lot filled with some of the finest delicacies and wines for the most discriminating palate.

When I walked past the booth for Francis Ford Coppola’s Winery, a set of hot pink cans filled with sparkling wine caught my eye. It turns out that Coppola promised his daughter Sofia when she was a little girl, that he would someday make a sparkling wine and name it after her. That dream came true on her wedding day.

The vintage, Sofia-Blanc de Blancs from Monterey County is now available in a set of hot pink individual cans with sipping straws perfect for a bachelorette party or a quick night out on the town.

Fruity and refreshing, Sofia Blanc de Blancs is a rare blend of Pinot Blanc, Sauvignon Blanc, and Muscat.  Mellow flavors of apples and pears are topped by a hint of citrus and honeysuckle. Elegant in character, this wine is lightly textured and vibrant through the finish.

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Cyber-Dating Expert Weekly Flirt

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7 First Date Mistakes You Absolutely Can’t Afford to Make

Have you ever felt like Internet dating was similar to an online auction? What happens when there’s multiple bidders for the newest fresh face? In a recent article on Match.com’s Happen Magazine, I point out seven key items

Sometimes singles dating online feel like they are nothing other than a 2-dimensional object.  What you need to remember is that online dating is simply the first step in building a relationship between two people. The goal is to successfully move your relationship from offline to online. Remember, there could be heavy competition for dates — and you can’t afford to blow your first impression, either online or off-line.

Here are some first-date mistakes that you absolutely can’t afford to make if you want to put a second date on your social calendar:

1. Avoid the ex-factor. I’ve seen too many dinner dates that start out great only to end up being over before the main course has arrived. Why? Because too many people bring their exes to the table with them. This includes not only former spouses and lovers, but jobs, too. No one wants to hear about your sad past on a first date. Instead, always try to keep it light and fun. Talk about your favorite film, play, vacation spot, book, or what you enjoy doing on the weekends.

2. Flirting with disaster. My dad likes to flirt with waitresses. It’s fine for my parents, as they have been married for over 50 years. Too often, though, I hear about men staring at their cute waitress or having a roving eye while on their first date with someone. So, men: focus on the woman you are meeting. Be captivated by your first-date conversation. Engage with the person sitting across the table from you.

3. Don’t dress for the bedroom. Men are visual creatures and they can imagine undressing women with their eyes the moment they meet. This doesn’t mean that women should wear a sexy low-cut outfit showing off lots of cleavage. Men like to slowly unwrap a package, so to speak. Unless you’re just looking for a hook-up, women should leave the sexy clothes for when they really are ready for a more intimate relationship.

4. Obey the food and beverage rule. While dating can be expensive if it includes multiple restaurants or drink tabs every week, if a man asks a woman out for coffee on a first date, he should offer to order her a beverage. If you think this is ridiculous, you’d be surprised. Often, I hear about coffee dates where a gentleman will either bring his own water or just refuse to order a cup of tea for the woman he is meeting. If he is truly interested in getting to a second date, a coffee date means exactly that: it involves a beverage. Offer to order a coffee. A lunch or dinner date means ordering something to eat.

5. Hide the iPhone and BlackBerry. Sure, you connect with others online. You can even use MatchMobile™ while you’re on the go. But when you get to your date, put your smartphone in your pocket or purse and leave it there. It shouldn’t be a visible accessory on your date. Otherwise, it will give the impression that you are waiting for a better invitation to come in. Avoid the urge to check your messages and text a friend while you’re on a date.

6. Do your homework. Just as you should be prepared for a job interview by researching your prospective employer to make a good impression, you should remember important details about the date you’re meeting. If your calendar is filled with dates, it can be confusing. Nothing is more of a turn-off than a man asking a woman why she never got married when she’s actually been married twice before. A man won’t feel good about his date when she asks why he decided to go into real estate when he’s really a doctor. Print out your date’s profile. Make notes on the page outlining the conversations you have together. Mention something that you liked about his or her profile. Don’t act like this person’s just another number in a series and that you’re too busy dating around to remember individual details.

7. It’s a first date, not an instant relationship. Dating and courting is a process. Even if you connect on a deeper level and think he or she could be The One, don’t start talking about your future together right now. It’s just a first date. Enjoy the fact that it’s going well. Be excited that you both want to put a second date on the calendar, but don’t start filling up someone’s life as the instant girlfriend or instant boyfriend. It can come across as needy and you might get a voicemail message later on canceling date number two. Show your date that you have a full and happy life. Having someone special in it will just make it that much better. And remember that courtship should be enjoyable!

Even if there is no chemistry on your date, don’t be rude and walk out. What if your date happens to have a friend he or she’d be happy to introduce to you that would be a better fit? What if your date invites you to a business-networking event? Look at every date as a possibility for expanding your social network or meeting a new friend. If it turns into a romantic relationship, then you’ve hit the jackpot.

Julie Spira is a worldwide authority in online dating who posted her first online dating profile in 1994 and author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Spira’s dating advice has been featured in such publications as The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Glamour, Men’s Health, Woman’s Day, and more. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com.

Cyber Love Song of the Week – Summer Love

We’re in the middle of summer and our featured Cyber Love Song of the Week is Justin Timberlake’s Summer Love.

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Finding Your Perfect Match

After Dr. Pepper Schwartz’s appearance on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, I just needed to share more with you. It’s with great pleasure for me to add her book, Finding Your Perfect Match to the Cyber-Dating Expert Reading Room.

Dr. Schwartz is the Chief Relationship Expert at Perfect Match, an online dating site that she helped create the Duet Compatibility Profiles for. Her book helps readers identify the eight specific personality characteristics that they need to understand about themselves-and others. In her book, she helps singles determine who they would be compatible with based upon similar personalities. Her book includes a series of self-tests that have helped thousands of people in their search for love, gives them an intimate and honest appraisal of who they are, what they want, and ultimately, who they should be with.

Some of the lifestyle issues she focuses on includes: money, sex, children, core values, and social life. You’ll learn what your deal-breakers are and be able to determine whether someone is a potential match before getting deeply involved. If you are looking for a lasting relationship, this book may be for you.

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Take me out to the Ball Game

It’s been years since I attended a baseball game at Dodger Stadium. I often wondered why baseball was America’s favorite past time.

One day, an invitation arrived on Facebook from an old friend I hadn’t seen in 30 years. It simply said, “Let’s Go Mets!” I couldn’t resist saying no, so I accepted the invite from a true serious New York Mets fan. More than a Mets fan, my friend is a Mets fanatic. He arrived wearing his Mets tee shirt and shorts proudly displaying his favorite team’s emblem. He talked about how his life had changed years earlier, after attending Mets fantasy camp. The enthusiasm about the New York Mets playing against the Los Angeles Dodgers was contagious. I couldn’t wait to get to Dodger Stadium.

I sent out a tweet that said “Let’s go Mets!” and my online conversation started about the upcoming team.  A friend of mine sent me a tweet saying the Mets will win by 5 + runs. The Mets had been on a losing streak, but I was hopeful they would win this one game. My Mets fanatic pal talked about his years of following the team around the country. It was his greatest passion. He had over 500 shirts with Mets logos on them and a house filled with museum quality memorabilia.

I arrived in time to watch a home-run. I got excited. I watched another ball player smash his face into the fence to catch the ball. It could have been a million dollar catch. I witnessed a marriage proposal on the big screen which said, “Robyn will you marry me? Love, Andrew” followed by, “She said yes!”  I immediately shared this experience on Twitter. We sang “God Bless America” and “Take Me Out to the Ball Game” during the 7th inning stretch. We talked about love, marriage, relationships, and my friend admitted he had a crush on me 30 years ago.

The best part of the evening was, the Mets beat the Dodgers, 6-1. My friend on Twitter must be thrilled that he picked the game, my Mets fanatic pal got to see a victory, and I learned a little more about baseball, crushes, and friendship.

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