Halloween Flirting Tips

Halloween is one of the most fun holidays for singles and couples of all ages. Dressing up for Halloween is an absolute must for singles looking to connect.

So how does a single person enjoy this fun and flirty holiday? I believe that Halloween gives you permission to jump out of your comfort zone and become more approachable. Besides the youthful trick-or-treaters ringing your doorbell,  singles holiday parties are in abundance. I suggest you RSVP to as many as possible, grab a few friends and go out with a smile on your face along with a devilish grin.

In preparation for Halloween, it’s also a good time to brush up on your flirting skills. Dr. Pat Allen, author of “Getting to I Do” and one of my mentors,  teaches the 5-second flirt technique and encourages singles to flirt with 5 men every day and gaze into their eyes for five very long seconds.  Although it’s a challenge and may seem like an eternity, on Halloween it should be a piece of cake, or at least a handful of candy corn.

Let’s start with selecting your sexy Halloween costume. Although you wouldn’t dress like this on a first date, you now have permission to show some skin without the expectation of jumping into the bedroom. Some of my favorites are from Leg Avenue.

Halloween Cheerleader

1. The Cheerleader. What guy didn’t fantasize about being with a cheerleader in high school? Now’s his chance with this sexier version guaranteed to put a smile on his face. Cost $38.

Halloween - French Maid

2. The French Maid. This class Halloween costume never goes out of style. Now’s your chance to flirt with him with your duster in tow. Who knows just where he might be ticklish? Cost $65.

Halloween - Queen of Hearts

3. Queen of Hearts. Poker night will never be the same after he sees you in this Queen of Hearts outfit. Approach him and make a bet. See if he ups the ante.  Price $75.

Don’t forget to bring your camera, iPhone or PDA and set your camera settings to movie. Go up to that cute guy and compliment him on his costume and ask if you can take his photo. Better yet, jump into the shot and have your friend take a picture of you and that hot guy. Then ask him if you can friend him on Facebook or email him the photos.

Remember to memorialize your Halloween festivities in a video on YouTube or upload your photos to Facebook. Go ahead and tag him if he agrees.  He’ll be flattered that you took the time to do so.

Julie Spira is an online dating and relationship expert and author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating.  Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com where you can share your Internet dating stories. Follow her on Twitter @JulieSpira and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert

To Friend or Not to Friend on Facebook [video]

Should you accept all facebook friends requests?

In our Ask the expert series on Your Tango, I was asked, “Should I accept a friends request from my husband’s friends?” Just what are the rules of netiquette on Facebook?

Watch our video with my tips on how to handle a delicate digital situation.

For more dating and netiquette advice, like us at Facebook.com/rulesofnetiquette and Facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert and follow Julie Spira on Twitter @JulieSpira

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It’s Our Irresistible Anniversary Celebration

We’re jumping for joy at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters as we celebrate our IRRESISTIBLE anniversary all weekend long.

It’s been 3-years since we launched CyberDatingExpert.com as a site to help singles while dating in a Web 2.0 World. We’d like to thank you for helping us remain the #1 online dating expert site!

In honor of our birthday, we’d like to give you a gift to help you with your love life.

From Friday, October 14th through Sunday, October 16th, we will be giving our readers a free .pdf copy of our bestselling online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Click here to reserve your copy.

In addition, we’ll be answering your dating questions for FREE all weekend long. So do take a moment and join in on the fun. If you have a dating dilemma, let us know!

Now for a few bragging rights and in case you missed some of our highlights, we’re sharing our year-in-review for you.

  Best Dating Blog Finalist

You voted for us for the best dating blog in the world and we became a finalist. Yes, there were thousands of votes and the competition was steep. CyberDatingExpert.com was a finalist in the 2011 Readers’ Choice Awards from About.com, a New York Times company. It’s with heartfelt thanks that we acknowledge your support.

In the News

From tips on using digital coupons on a date, online dating safety, breaking up in a facebook world, and our latest article on CNN, which was shared over 450 times on facebook, we were featured in many articles and programs about dating in a web 2.0 world. Our dating advice reached millions on multiple continents!  Most of our media can be found in our press room. Here’s a sample of media outlets we’re so proud of being a part of this past year.

ABC TV, Ai inSite, Always New You, BBC, Bad Online Dates, Business 2 Community, CBS News, CNN, College Times, Columbia News Service, Cupid’s Pulse, Daily Buzz, Daily Kansan, Date Night Magazine, Dating Marketplace, Elle magazine, Examiner, Fabulous Living, Fast Company, First Wives World, Forbes, Forces PenPals, GalTime, GenConnect, Heartbeat Radio, Her Campus, Huffington Post, In York, JDate, John Tesh, KCSF, KFI Radio, KFWB Radio, KPSP-TV, KZSB Radio, Love to Know, Mancow Radio Show, MarketWatch, Match.com, Men’s Health, MSN Glo, NBC TV, North by Northwestern magazine, Pink Kisses,  Pittsburgh Better Times, Planet Love Match, Power Connection show, Psychology Today, Redbook magazine, Romance Files, Safer Dates, She Knows, Single Edition radio, Single Minded Women, Singular City, The Joe Show, The Kilgore News Herald, The Look TV, The Sydney Morning Herald, The Times Herald, The Toronto Sun, TodayShow.com, Top 10 Blog, Uniquely You magazine, Wall Street Journal, WCHE Radio, WHK Cleveland, WLW Radio, Woman’s Day, Women’s eNews, Yahoo! Shine, and YourTango

In Real Life

I had the opportunity to meet many of you when I was a speaker at the Internet Dating Conference in Miami, 140 Conference in LA, West Hollywood Book Fair, as well as seeing you at BlogWorld, where I’ll be speaking about the Rules of Netiquette at 1:45pm on Friday, November 4th this year in Los Angeles.

Videos

During the past year, YourTango came to my home to shoot several dating advice videos for their Ask the Expert and He Said/She Said series. I was joined by colleagues Charles J. Orlando and Adam Sheck for the guys point of view. In case you missed them, here’s a list of videos for your viewing pleasure.

• Cell Phone Netiquette: Help My Boyfriend Won’t Put His Cellphone Away
• Should You Google a First Date?
• Can a Couple Get Past Infidelity?
• Should a Woman Propose to a Man?
• When Should You Change Your Facebook Relationship Status?
• Should You Kiss on the First Date?

Online Dating Minute Videos

Our Online Dating Minute featured social dating site Jazzed, which you can now see on the dating TV show Excused, as well as Match.com’s study about the relationship between dating and money, and more.

Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps

Back by popular demand and in conjunction with Social Media Week, we announced the Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps for 2011. According to Comscore, over 14 million people worldwide are now using mobile dating apps. They are now more popular than web dating on your computer. Why wait until you get home? It’s time to start dating on your cell phone. We included the super eHarmony iPad App, which ranked high on our list for iPad. View our post to see all the features of our favorites this year.

Online Dating Safety

We tackled a subject that breaks my digital heart, online dating safety. I was interviewed by ABC News, KESQ-TV, KPSP-TV, Online Dating Awareness, Sympatico.ca,  The Sudbury Star, and Your Tango.

 Your Online Dating Stories

We thank you for submitting your online dating stories for consideration in the Cyber Love Story of the Week and the Peril of the Week. Thank you for sharing your stories.

Irresistible Profiles

We’ve enjoyed working with singles looking for love online and have created irresistible profiles all year long. Contact us if you’d like to find the man or woman of your dreams!

From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for another amazing year of support. If you get a moment, do like us on Facebook and follow me on Twitter @JulieSpira. 

Celebrating Chocolate Week

Did you know that this week,  October 10-15 is Chocolate Week in the U.K.?

Throughout the country, chocolate lovers are attending tasting events and celebrating the holiday.

Here in the U.S., we celebrate National chocolate day in March, perhaps to keep the sweetness of Valentine’s Day alive. Since we live in a global society, I’ve decided we should celebrate from afar.

Chocolate, as you may know, has many benefits. It’s an antioxidant and consumed in moderation, can be good for your health.

Chocolate makes an excellent gift for someone you may have a crush on and to bring on a date.

Sharing chocolate can be romantic as you spoon-feed each other some delicious chocolate mouse. Check out some of our chocolate recipes in our Love Potions for some suggestions for the holiday.

Chocolate is passionate. Heart shaped chocolate can be an aphrodisiac, so I suggest you stop by your local chocolatier, guilt-free, and celebrate the holiday.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at http://CyberDatingExpert.com and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and on facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert

Cell Phone Netiquette While on a Date [video]

Is he paying more attention to his mobile phone than you on a date? Watch my latest “Ask the Expert” video for advice on Dating in a Web 2.0 World.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and like her at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

Weekly Flirt – Online Dating Advice

Your source of online dating and relationships advice for singles looking for love online.

Dating Advice – Would You Move For Love?

There’s no doubt about it, that online dating allows you to cast a very wide net. You can easily change your zip code to a new city when you’re traveling to meet single men or women to find love online in another city. (Yes, I’ve done this myself).

If you’ve just moved and are the new face in town, chances are you don’t have a social network to rely on. This is where Internet dating can become your best digital friend.

Take for example, our Cyber Love Story couple, Sophie and Greg who met on JDate. Sophie was from Paris. Greg resided in Los Angeles. After 5-months of corresponding online, the two met. They had a whirlwind romance and were married in eight months. Sophie happily relocated to Los Angeles.

On Catholic Match, success couple John and Krystina didn’t let distance get in the way. John had just relocated to Michigan. He had hoped to meet someone close to home, but fell in love with Krystina, who resided in Massachusetts. Eighteen months later, the couple became engaged.

Recently, I was interviewed for an article on Match.com for dating advice magazine, Happen. In the article, Love: Make Your Move on how to find love online and offline when you move to a new city, I provided some tips for those who are willing to widen their search or have just relocated to a new city.

Online Dating Profile Makeover tips

“You should overhaul your online dating profile every few months. This is especially the case when you’re moving to a new city. Add some recent photos and start your ‘About Me’ section with something like, “I’ve just relocated from Chicago and am new in town.”

Offline Dating Strategy

Don’t forget your off-line strategies, says Julie Spira (www.cyberdatingexpert.com), a Los Angeles author, blogger and public speaker. “Introduce yourself to your neighbors and let them know that you’re single,” she suggests. “Find clubs and activities that match your interests and join them.”

Would you move for love? Are you presently in a long-distance relationship with someone you met online?

Your comments are welcome and if you get a moment, follow me on Twitter @JulieSpira and at Facebook.com/JulieSpira 

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and coach. She creates irresistible online dating profiles for singles on the dating scene and is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and to share your online dating stories.

10th Annual West Hollywood Book Fair

On Sunday, October 2, 2011 from 10am – 6pm, join me at the West Hollywood Book Fair, where I’ll be autographing copies of my bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

The event will be held at West Hollywood Park and at the new West Hollywood Library at 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. in West Hollywood.

Among the festivities and featured authors, you’ll have the chance to see Jane Fonda, Dyan Canon, Meredith Baxter, Jackie Collins, Marcia Clark, Julie Newmar, Hal Needham, Tatum O’Neal and more.

The event is free and will include 300 featured authors, 12 stages, and 25,000 guests.

I’ll be at the Womens National Book Association Booth # B8-B9. If you can’t find me, just sent a tweet to @JulieSpira.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert, social media strategist, and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com, Rulesof Netiquette.com, and SocialMediaMore.com.