5 Ways to Botox Your Online Dating Profile
If you’ve suddenly become single or have an online dating profile that’s over a year old, guess what? Chances are your profile is as outdated as your resume from 10-years ago, which is still sitting in a drawer. If this sounds familiar, it’s time for your dating profile to be reviewed and get a digital facelift.
My friend Lisa Johnson-Mandel, author of Career Comeback talks about ‘How to Botox your resume.’ I was a recent guest on her television show, “This Week in Careers,” where I realized that her strategies for resume revisions would also apply to Internet dating. Hence, I decided it’s time for me to share some tips on how to “botox” your online dating profile. I promise it will be painless and won’t break the bank.
This doesn’t mean that you need to make an appointment with your cosmetic dermatologist for expensive injections, but it does mean that some of your wording, especially keeping an outdated screen name, may send a message to your perspective dates that you’ve been on the site too long. He or she may quickly move onto a fresher and more appealing profile. Lisa provides tips that I highly recommend on how to look younger in a job interview. I’ll take it a step further for matters of the heart.
It’s a competitive digital landscape and you must appear as the fresh new face to get noticed. Here are some tips to Botox and refresh your online dating profile.
- Screen name revision. If your screen name included your age such as Ken53 and your date of birth on your profile indicates that you’re 56, it will appear that you hadn’t been successful in finding love online for three years. Even if your two-year relationship just ended and you’re back again as a new profile, take the age off completely, especially if it’s inaccurate.
- Discard the glamour shots. We all know that nothing is more important than your profile photos. If you invested in glamour shots years ago, it’s time to toss them away, along with the “big hair” look. Replace them with more natural activity photos that are represented on your Facebook or social networking sites. If your online dating profile photos don’t look anything like your current Facebook photos, your perspective date will find out quickly and will be turned off, or possibly even walk out on the date.
- Update your wardrobe. Any photos showing clothing with padded shoulders or last year’s trendy styles should be deleted from your profile. Get rid of the little black dress and add some new photos with bright colors that will help your profile photo stand out from the thousands of thumbnails in his or her search. Confidence is in. Sexy is out. Photos of men with bare chests or women with too much cleavage may result in getting more views of your profile, but it doesn’t mean you’ll find the man or woman of your dreams. Leave the lingerie shots for the bedroom, not for mass advertising on your Internet dating profile.
- Toss out confusing photos. If you are seen with a mustache and beard in one photo and are clean-shaven in others, it will confuse the person viewing your profile. Toss out the outdated photos for your current look to avoid disappointment. This applies to hair color as well. If you were brunette in the fall, auburn in the spring, and blonde in the summer, make sure you only post photos with one hair color–your present one.
- Delete any reference to your children’s ages. If your kids were 8, 10, and 12 when you wrote your first profile and they’re now driving age, you and your profile will appear outdated. Mention your three terrific kids in your profile, but don’t provide details of their dates, weddings, or graduations. You can always talk about that on the phone, in an email, or in person.
Other tips to keep your profile on the top of a search include changing the order of your photos and add new ones, periodically update your screen name and your bio description, and log on daily to show that you’re active and are serious about meeting someone.
For more help in creating your irresistible online dating profile, contact us at CyberDatingExpert.com and we’ll work with you to personalize your experience and help you while looking for love online.
Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Like her at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and follow her at Twitter.com/JulieSpira