How to Make the Most of Your Free eHarmony Weekend
Sep 2nd
Labor Day weekend is almost here. Starting tonight at midnight, our friends at eHarmony have a special weekend that I highly recommend.
Goodbye, Summer. Hello, Love. Connect on eHarmony FREE 9/3-6!
With summer relationships winding down, many singles will be looking for love online. If you’re ready to start dating, here’s my advice on how to make this weekend work the best for you during their 4-day event.
1. You can take advantage of their offer by signing up now and creating your profile so it’s ready to go tonight at midnight. Their in-depth questionnaire is really targeted to those who are looking for serious relationships and marriage.
2. If you need help with your irresistible online dating profile, at Cyber-Dating Expert, we work with singles to make the process easier and more enjoyable.
3. Make sure you carve out the time to get organized and spend several hours a day reviewing the matches that eHarmony sends to you.
4. Respond in a timely manner to those who start the communication process with you.
5. If you’re ready to communicate, jump over to their fast-track where you can send emails to your matches.
I know that eHarmony works. I was with dozens of their success couples in New York during their 10th anniversary celebration earlier this month. Their online dating site is now responsible for over 500 people getting married every day.
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Cyber Love Song of the Week – Boys of Summer
Sep 1st
Welcome to the first day of September.
As summer is nearing it’s end, we thought we’d sharing one of our favorite Cyber Love Songs by Don Henley, Boys of Summer.
10 Best Cities to Find Love Online
Aug 30th
Our friends at OkCupid looked at over 1 million active users on their free online dating site to see where the most active singles resided in the past year.
In an article on Forbes.com, Sam Yagan, OkCupid’s CEO and a friend of CyberDatingExpert.com talked about the specifics of each city. Whether they are filled with tech-savvy singles or college students who chose to reside in their college town, overall the popularity of online dating continues to rise.
As more singles are busy signing onto Facebook on a daily basis, they are expanding their personal search onto Internet dating sites in record numbers.
If you’re lucky to live in one of these top 10 cities, it’s time to log on more often and revise your online dating profile. If not, I suggest you cast a wider net and look outside your geographical area if you are serious about finding love online.
OkCupid’s Top 10 Cities to Find Love Online
1. Boston, MA
2. Washington, DC
3. San Francisco, CA
4. Seattle, WA
5. Atlanta, GA
6. Portland, OR
7. Philadelphia, PA
8. Los Angeles, CA
9. Dallas, TX
10. Detroit, MI
Cyber Dating Tip – Going from Online to Offline
Aug 26th
This week’s Cyber Dating tip for successful online dating is quite simply, take your relationship from online to offline as soon as possible.
How soon you may ask? After sending a few emails, it’s best to move the relationship to the telephone. Find out if you have that same offline chemistry and you have online. Too often, I see singles falling in love from behind their computer screens. Sometimes, it’s with someone they believe is single and is available for a relationship, when in fact the complete opposite can be true. If during your phone conversation, you don’t feel comfortable, don’t feel obligated to set up a date on the calendar.
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Why You Need an Irresistible Online Dating Profile
Aug 25th
I’m often out during the evenings speaking to singles looking for love online. As a dating expert, I’m asked to look at existing profiles from those frustrated with the process of cyberdating. I see photos with arms hanging over shoulders, essays as long as a novel, and sometimes find an entire flickr or picasa album posted. I meet successful men and beautiful women who just aren’t getting the results they want. If your profile looks like this, chances are you aren’t meeting the man or woman of your dreams. Before you cancel your membership, look at some of my top tips that you can do on your own to tweak your profile. These 5 simple tips will help you stand out in the crowded playing field of Internet dating.
1. Catchy Screen Name and headline. Get creative. Show your flirty side. Make it more than the number that the online dating site creates for you. Include your hobby, favorite travel spot, or passion.
2. Profile Photos worth being on the front page of a newspaper. You’d be surprised at the amount of blurry photos, photos with multiple people in them, or one’s that don’t have you looking your best. Smile in your photos. Smile on the phone. Don’t forget to smile on that first date as well. Both men and women are visual. Look your best. Wear your favorite color.
3. Word Count. Sometimes less is more. Writing eight paragraphs in your essay is too overwhelming. I recommend refining your word count to 150-200 words. Leave something to talk about on your first date and leave the novel out of your profile
4. Avoid Cliché’s. Looking for soul mate may be a given, but it won’t grab his or her attention. Be a little quirky and someone will want to know more about your fun personality.
5. Be Specific. If you are interested in marriage, don’t be afraid to check off that box. If religion is important to you, make note of that. Don’t say what you don’t want, but make sure that you say what you do like about being in a relationship.
If after revising your profile on your own, you still aren’t achieving the results that you need, it’s time to visit a dating coach and get an outside opinion. Contact us at CyberDatingExpert.com and we’ll help you create an irresistible online dating profile.
Signs You May be Dating a Cyber Player
Aug 23rd
You’ve signed up for an online dating site. Your inbox is full of interested singles trying to capture your attention. You put yourself out there and opened up your heart. How can you tell if he’s sincere or if he or she is a cyber player or serial dater?
In a recent article on Sympatico.ca Personals, I shared some of my insights, online dating tips, and red flags with Jenna Stone.
They’re the scourge of the dating scene, the stealth enemy of anyone seeking a long-term, committed relationship – The Players.
There you are, putting yourself out there, hoping to find someone with whom to spend your life, and there he/she is messing it all up. They make the apparent right gestures and tell you what you want to hear, all the while working the same schtick on someone else, or several someone elses.
And they’re not just lurking in the bars and clubs either. They’re online, sneaking around your favourite dating sites. How can you avoid…(insert dramatic B Movie monster music here)…THE CYBER PLAYER?
Julie Spira is a cyber dating expert, and author of the online book The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She offered some insight on how to keep the cyber serial dater at bay.
She says, “There are certainly a lot of them online. They become these little kids in a candy store because they can always find a pretty face. And they get five new e-mails in their inbox every day.” Spira is quick to point out that, while many people DO indeed commit, the web has “really created a feeding ground for people who can’t.”
Spira says there are two categories of online players. The first are people who are also offline players and it’s how they live their lives. “They see online dating as an extra way to feed their egos.” The other type, she says, are those who were shy and unlucky in love, but then tried online dating and “all of the sudden they go from being socially challenged to suddenly having all of these options.”
Sometimes, she adds, they don’t even meet anyone in person. “They just talk and chat. They get sort of addicted to it.”
So, that’s red flag #1. They keep putting off meeting you in real life. Seems obvious right? But a lot of people can’t read the clearest signs and wind up wasting a lot of time.
If someone won’t eventually come play outside, they might not be socially capable. They might even be hiding behind an entirely constructed persona.
Once you do meet them outside, Spira says that, oddly, they tend to come on strong and talk a lot about commitment. “When you go on a date with a cyber player, they will say things that are the complete opposite from what you’d expect. They say things like ‘I was married before and I want to be married again,’ ‘I’m looking for one woman to wake up with every morning.’ They say these types of things a little too much and you might find yourself raising an eyebrow.”
But then, right after they leave you, they’re back cruising the cyber singles scene.
“They go home and send you an e-mail that says ‘I had such an amazing date with you, there was so much chemistry. I can’t wait to see you again,’ and you see that they’ve already logged on at 12:30 in the morning after your date ended at eleven o’clock that night.” (Most dating sites allow you to see when a member is online)
Of course, it’s OK to spend as much time as you please cruising when you’re just dating. It’s when things are supposed to be getting serious that these become red flags.
Spira advises you err on the side of caution, keep your own profile up and continue to date other people. And, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, “Do not sleep with someone who is unwilling to pull down their profile.
“If you’re on a casual dating site and are advertising that you’re accepting that type of relationship, that’s one thing. But if you go on a site dedicated to serious relationships, like e-Harmony or JDate or Match.com, and you state on the profile that you are looking for a long term relationship and marriage, that’s another.”
It’s a common question: When is the appropriate time to take down the profile? There’s no right answer. But you need to be comfortable. If you’re uncomfortable with the other person’s profile remaining up, then it’s not unreasonable to address that.
Spira says, “I’ve seen it too many times where a woman says ‘I’ve been dating this guy for a year and he won’t pull down his profile.’ I say, ‘Well, you never really talked about that before your clothes wound up on the floor.”
The bottom line? Talk about it.
Once offline, if you find yourself falling for a player and want to try to get them to tame their wild ways, Spira suggests a few things that include,
1: Keeping busy. Don’t always be readily available and live a life that’s exciting and fun, and will continue to be so with or without them in it.
2. Setting a time limit. Make it clear you’ll only wait around for so long.
3. Giving instructions on how you want to communicate. If you want daily phone calls and flirty text messages, Spira says don’t be afraid to ask for them.
A lot of people do find themselves trying to catch the player, convinced they can make them change. It’s one option.
Remember, there’s always another option. You could just move on to someone else.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for Dating Advice
Cyber Love Song of the Week – I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
Aug 23rd
Michael Buble’s song, I Just Haven’t Met You Yet is our latest pick for the Cyber Love Song of the Week. Buble will be performing at the Grand Opening of Nordstroms at Santa Monica Place in Santa Monica, CA on August 25, 2010. You can’t help but feel positive about meeting the one when listening to this song from heart throb, Buble.
When Love Comes to Town- Celebrating eHarmony’s 10th Anniversary
Aug 20th
Julie Spira and Leeza Gibbons
When I was invited to celebrate eHarmony’s 10th Anniversary with them both in Los Angeles and New York, I couldn’t say no. Unfortunately, I missed the wedding ceremony for success couple Sheri and Rob at eHarmony’s headquarters in Pasadena due to a last minute trip to New York, but luckily I met up with the newlyweds during the online dating site’s pedicab parade in Manhattan.
Bright and early 25 online dating success couples along with Grand Marshall, Leeza Gibbons and eHarmony executives, we arrived at The Early Show plaza for our first stop of the day. The success couples were dressed in tee shirts commemorating the decade of love from eHarmony with their new campaign, “Love Begins Here.” After brief appearances on the CBS morning program, we boarded our pedicabs for the motorcade throughout the city.
eHarmony Pedicab Parade
Our next stop was at Rockefeller Center, home to the Today Show. Leeza emceed the first of many kisses among the couples who found love online. We continued to FOX News and ended up in Times Square to view the new 4-story mural of thousands of singles who met on eHarmony.
Don’t forget to visit the interactive online mosaic at eHarmony.com/love
Congratulations to eHarmony for 10 years of helping singles find love online.
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Out of Work? Zoosk Says Try Your Luck at Dating
Aug 19th
My friends over at social dating community Zoosk surveyed their members this month to learn more about the relationship between money and dating during the present economic climate. The good news for men is, if you’re unemployed, more women will want to date you than a year ago.
According to the study, 60% of women said they’d date someone unemployed. Compared to 52% in 2009, women are now adjusting their expectations in the available dating pool.
The study also revealed that 90% of men said they’d date someone unemployed. Is it still only about looks for men?
So how are these online daters spending their money? The Zoosk study says that 90% of men say they usually pick up the tab on a date. It also appears men are spending more money on the average date than they did a year ago.The women on the other hand, are spending less than they did a year ago.
More singles are taking advantage of free activities than a year ago.
Should you tell your date you are unemployed? According to Zooskers, the answer is yes. 83% of men and 93% of women agree that if you’re out of work, you should reveal it right away.
Has the economy affected the ways that you date? Are you attending more free events? Let us know your thoughts. Comments are always appreciated.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and dating coach. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com
We Magazine Names Cyber-Dating Expert in Top 101 Women Bloggers to Watch in 2010
Aug 18th
It’s with great honor to announce that Cyber-Dating Expert has been named One of the Top 101 Women Bloggers to Watch in 2010 by We Magazine for Women.
According to We Magazine’s editor, Heidi Richards, “This list of inspiring and aspiring bloggers is one of our best yet.” Richards added, “Most of the women bloggers to watch that made this list have been blogging for at least 2 years, but we do have some relative newcomers to the world of blogging. Each blog has a style of its own with substantive content that is both interesting and targeted to specific demographics.
Julie Spira, founded Cyber-Dating Expert in 2008 prior to the publication of her bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. “It’s truly an honor to be listed among this esteemed group of women who are making a difference through blogging,” said Spira. Spira added, “I hope to share my 16 years of online dating advice and tips with singles on the dating scene.” Cyber-Dating Expert provides dating advice and is a site where singles and couples share their online dating stories.
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