It’s a beautiful spring weekend and time to share some of our favorite stories about dating, love and romance from around the web and on Twitter with you.
First of all, we’d like to thank Ithaca College for the terrific article in their IC View magazine that is sent out to all alumni. The story, Finding Love Online featured my dating advice and tips for singles on the dating scene. Many thanks to our friends at Sparkology for including us in their Dating Experts column in, “How to Politely Say You’re Not Interested.”
My two cents worth:
More often-than-not, online messages are ignored. Don’t start humming to the Nick Lowe song, “You’ve Got to be Cruel to be Kind” if you decide to respond. Say thank you, but add that you don’t feel you have enough in common to pursue a relationship, or let them know if they’re out of your geographic location or age range.
Of course the hot romantic news of the week was the Friday the 13th announcement of Brad and Angelina’s engagement. There’s no shortage of stories about the ring, but our favorites include CBS News who reports that Brad worked on the engagement ring for a year and Vanity Fair who announced that the famous ring now has an agent.
USA Today interviewed Steve Harvey, author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, which we had featured in our Reading Room. In this article, the cast dished dating advice, both from the film and how they handle love in the real world. Cosmo posted 10 Fun First Date Ideas He’ll Love. Our favorite was sneaking into a matinee. Our friend Natasha Burton posted on Huffington Post Weddings: Should You Follow Your Nose — Not Your Heart–To Find Love. Would you go to a Pheromone Party to find love at first sniff? See what Natasha has to say on the subject.
YourTango reported on Chris Noth’s (aka Mr. Big) Hawaiian wedding bells to his long-time girlfriend Tara Wilson. Yes, there can be happy ending for a 10-year relationship. Sometimes patience is a virtue.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
The Cyber-Dating Expert Team
Love never goes out of style and there was no shortage of love links this week on our Twitter stream.
The week started out with the huge news that the California Attorney General Kamala D. Harris announced her joint release for online dating safety. Dating sites eHarmony, Match, and Spark Networks, owner of JDate and Christian Mingle joined together to make singles feel safer while looking for love online. This story was covered everywhere in the world, including USA Today, Time, and Mashable.
As a cyber-relations and online dating expert, I helped spread the good news on Huffington Post in How to Use Google and Facebook for Online Dating Safety. On GenConnect, you can view videos from both myself and Attorney General Kamala D. Harris in Online Dating to Become Safer for Singles. On Sunday at 5pm/pt, I’ll be a guest with Phil Shuman on FOX News to talk about this subject as well. For more safety tips, check out the SAFETY link on our home page. We take online dating safety seriously. We also want to help you fall in love online.
On a lighter note, MBA Programs posted an Infographic called “Gamers Get Girls.” We loved it so much that we added it to our pinboard on Pinterest. You’ll see an interesting comparison of how online dating stacks up to online gaming. Our friends at Ask Men taught the guys that telling your date too much just isn’t a good idea. Check out Killing Challenge: Why you shouldn’t reveal too much too soon. In honor of the return of Mad Men, How About We shared a great post, Are You a Don Draper or a Trudy Campbell: Find Your Mad Men Dating Style. One of our latest success couples sent me a text message from the airport on their way to Paris! Yes, her irresistible profile on Match helped her find her dream guy. In honor of their new love, I’m sharing an article I enjoyed on GalTime, 6 Most Romantic Places in Paris. Speaking of GalTime, many thanks to Marianne Beach for featuring our dating advice in A Dozen Tips for Dating in a Facebook World, which also appeared on Yahoo! Shine.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
~The Cyber-Dating Expert Team
Links to love, when you’re in the mood for love.
We’ve gone green for St. Patrick’s Day and are feeling slightly crazy with March Madness going on. We couldn’t let the week end without thanking those who have featured us, quoted us, and share the articles we loved and tweeted this week.
A huge thank you to Jen Kirsch for featuring our advice on Canadian Living in 6 Online Dating Tips and Jenna Birch who asked for my two cents worth on YourTango in March Madness Time: 5 Reasons to Date a Girl Who Loves Sports. Very thrilled to appear on StyleList with the Rules of Netiquette for Texting and had a blast on Planet Love Match Radio with Jen and Josh.
Our friends at The Frisky posted the Official Frisky Girl Code of Conduct worth sharing. My friend Rita Watson wrote a beautiful post on Psychology Today, 13 Romantic Ideas for Lovers. Match shared the Cities Luckiest in Love in 2011 and on Woman’s Day, you can read, 10 Things Your Husband’s Friends Won’t Tell You.
Don’t forget, our friends at eHarmony are having their Free Communication Weekend, so you just might have a St. Patrick’s date after all. We’ve officially changed our Facebook page to the new Timeline, so check out our new cover and Like us!
Links to Love, When You’re in the Mood for Love.
March certainly roared in like a lion. Happy Friday. It’s time to take a digital peek at some of the best dating and relationship content that crossed our desktops as we love to share the love.
First of all, I have to say how sad so many of us were this week to hear about the loss of our favorite heartthrob Monkee, Davy Jones. I’ve been humming to Daydream Believer since I saw the news on Facebook, and thought I’d share the video below as a tribute. I have to admit, I’ve been playing the CD: Best of the Monkees since I heard the news.
My friend Rita Watson wrote about 6 Breaking-Up Styles: Hers and His on Psychology Today, which many of us can relate to. Over at Your Tango, they shared The Frisky’s story 5 ways Relationships Get Drawn Out Past Their Expiration Date, which gives you something to ponder.
On the Cyber Dating Expert Facebook page, we had to share Ivy Date’s post, Why We Kiss: The Science. My new friend, dating and relationship expert Jen Kirsch contributed to Yahoo! Shine with, Can a Blood Test Detect True Love? I’m wondering just how many men will be lining up to confirm their intentions.
Many thanks to Jen for including my thoughts on digital marriage proposals on Yahoo! Sine in Man Proposes to Girlfriend in Infographic and to the fine folks at Sparkology for including me as one of their dating experts in Should I Facebook Friend Someone Before the First Date.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
Have a great weekend and never stop dreaming. RIP Davy Jones.
Cyber Love Links – Links to love, when you’re in the mood for love.
Now that Valentine’s is a distant memory, we’re taking a digital moment to thank some of those who included us in their dating advice stories for what we called, worldwide romance week.
A huge Shout out and thank you to the Miami Herald who featured my online dating tips in “Dating sites become mainstream and focus on more niche markets.” The article features Matchmaker.com and Jewcier founder Meir Strahlberg, a Miami entrepreneur and friend of Cyber-Dating Expert. Thanks to our new friends at Prevention magazine for “Should you Ditch Online Dating?” and to Rita Watson on Psychology Today for featuring me in her Love and Gratitude column. It was a thrill to be quoted on NBC News: Safely Surfing for Your Sweetheart and to appear on FOX News in three separate television segments.
For the singles dating in college, check out College Magazine’s “Wine and Dine Me: Tips on Being Romantic,” Daily Kansan: “Tips on Virtual Love,” and Campus Explorer for “Rise in Online Dating for Students.”
For your viewing pleasure, our friends at YourTango posted their Ask the Experts Video, “What is Mobile Dating?” Yes, it’s the hottest trend so it’s time to hop on board.
Over at GenConnect, I contributed a guest post, “Still Need a Date for Valentine’s? and gave my two cents worth on Huffington Post in “Experts and Researchers Say Online Dating Has Lost its Stigma,” which has been tweeted 83 times and still counting. Hint, hint. We love the social media love.
Ever wonder who signs on to Missed Connections on Craig’s List? So did The Brooklyn Paper and Digital Trends. Find out how a professor took a deeper look and created a site to help those in search of the one who got away.
As always, I wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
We know you haven’t selected a Valentine’s gift for you or your sweetheart yet. With all of the advanced hype, selecting the perfect gift usually happens the day of, or a few days before. So instead of standing in a long line at Sees Candies or visiting Sprinkles in search the perfect cupcake, we’re proud to announce the 2012 Cyber-Dating Expert Irresistible and Romantic Valentine’s Gift Guide. Indulge yourself if you’re single. Spoil your Valentine if you’re taken.
Some of the gifts are so irresistible, well you just might want to keep them for yourself.
1. Valentino Couture Bow Pump
Put them on your wish list today. Cost: $645 Neimans Marcus
2. Tiffany – Heart Lock Pendant
Who wouldn’t enjoy opening a blue box with a white ribbon this Valentine’s Day? Tiffany’s Heart Lock Pendant will make a memorable impression without breaking the bank. Cost: $125 at Tiffany & Co.
3. Beats by Dr. Dre
For him, or her, enjoy these over-the-top and over-the-ear headphones.Perfect for listening to tunes while he’s watching the game, or for him to wear to tune her out and still keep smiling. Cost: $299 at Amazon. Beats Studio by Dr. Dre – Hi-Def Noise-Canceling Over-Ear Headphones,Red
4. Rescue Me Tote
Shouldn’t your four-legged loyal puppy be celebrating Valentine’s this year? Even if you’re pet-less, you’ll love this foxy feline Rescue Me Tote in pink, white, or red. Shop or dine in style while keeping your puppy happy. It gives a whole new meaning to puppy love. The signature paw-ware purse feet are too adorable for words. Cost $209.95 JCLA
5. Little Black Book of Big Red Flags
Sure, I’m friend with the authors, but it’s only because they wrote this awesome book. A great gift to give to your single girlfriends instead of staying home and male bashing alone.The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags: Relationship Warning Signs You Totally Spotted… But Chose to Ignore on Amazon.
6. Devil Made Me Do It Body Polish
Toss out the calories this Valentine’s and instead, indulge yourself with this chocoholic’s dream come true body scrub. The Devil Scrub exfoliates, softens, moisturizes and leaves your skin healthy, smooth and silky while emitting a beautiful and tantalizing aroma. Devilish indeed and only $12.50 at
7. Scarlet Fever Pochette
Designed by Deborah Sawaf, recipient of Fashion International Group’s Rising Star award, the Phone Pochette features a single chain with a leather shoulder strap for your iPhone, credit cards, and keys. He’ll be happy you won’t be hauling a suitcase as a purse on date nights. Cost: $120 ThaleBlanc.com
This brings new meaning to “Lost Without Your Love,” not. No matter where your sweetie travels, let him or her know you’ll be there when they come home with this fine pewter heart compass. One side carries the sentiment “my heart will guide you home,” the other side holds a compass. Cost $18.00. My Heart Will… Pocket Compass
9. Hanky Panky Thongs
Warning: This gift is for you to give to your guy for Valentine’s Day. Forget ties and cufflinks, oh so boring.
Give him the Hanky Panky Signature Lace Low Rise Thong 5-Pack Panty set an I.O.U. card, and he’ll be dreaming about your for days to come.
Cost: $90. Bare Essentials.
10. 15 Magic Minutes
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
*Some of the items in our Valentine’s Gift Guide may be a part of an affiliate program.
Ho, Ho, Ho, It’s Here! The Cyber-Dating Expert Holiday Gift Guide
We’ve selected our top 10 favorite romantic gifts for the Cyber-Dating Expert Holiday Gift Guide to take you from the kitchen to the bedroom.
Enjoy and Happy Holidays!
Jewelry for Her
Return to Tiffany Bead Bracelet
Inspired by a Tiffany key ring from 1969, this celebrated collection bears a hallmark that reminds one that there’s no place like Tiffany. Small heart tag in sterling silver on a black onyx bead bracelet. 7.5″ long. Beads, 8 mm.
Jewelry for Him
He’ll Always Know Where to Find You With These Compass Cufflinks
Actual working compass will send him home right into your arms.
It’s Still Chanel
My favorite cologne for decades will never go out of style.
If I had ten stockings this holiday season, I’d be happy with ten bottles of Chanel No. 5.
Michael Buble – Let It Snow
Winter, spring, summer or fall. Michael Buble’s music is wonderful all year long. This CD will certainly get you in the mood for the holidays.
In the Kitchen
Flirting While Dining
These hand-painted lipstick-red rimmed plates read, “hey, handsome!” and “hi, beautiful!”
They are meant to stir those butterfly feelings from a couple’s first in-home dining experience.
A Candle for a Scandle
A Scandle? Why Not?
Back by popular demand! The Scandle is a candle that burns at 2 degrees above body temperature to produce a soothing oil for romantic massage. Made with 100% natural ingredients, it’s an ideal gift for a romantic setting and is a gift couples can share.
For the Flirt in You
2010 will go down in history as the year of the flirt cards. Here are my top picks when just a flirt and smile will do.
Cheek’d cards. 50 Cards. 1-month membership. Cost $25.00
Flip Me Dating 20 cards. 3-month membership. Cost: $24.99
Single Tease 12 cards. Cost $12.00
Naughty or Nice?
No need to worry about getting coal in your stocking this year. The Naughty weekender kit will be enjoyed by the two of you, after the holidays are over. Kit includes chocolate warming massage oil, sizzling body candy, sensual body balm, satin eye mask, four mood setting tea lights and a spinner game. With sexy scenarios and suggestions just a spin away, this kit will ensure any couple has a weekend full of sensual pleasures. Contents: Spinner game, massage lotion, tea lights, sizzling body candy, satin eye mask, bliss balm & satin storage pouch “
Books for Love
For the Hopeful Romantic in You
We’d be remiss if we didn’t suggest our online dating book, still on the Amazon bestseller list for 22-months.
You’re Still a Baby….Doll
This baby doll eyelet lingerie by Victoria’s Secret in holiday red is guaranteed to steam up the bedroom.
For those who are too busy to shop for a last minute gift for their Valentine, giiv.com provides you with a digital way to get to his or her heart from the comfort and ease of your cell phone.
The recently launched site calls it “Texting with Benefits.” I say, it can be a life-saver if you didn’t make it to the Hallmark store or Tiffany’s this year.
Some of the popular gifts include gift certificates to Amazon.com, Teleflora and movie tickets to Fandango.
You choose the gift and the recipient receives it with a personalized message on their cell phone along with a redemption code. You are off the hook and are now the hero for remembering to order her flowers this year.
Are you looking for a holiday gift or stocking stuffer this year for your single friends? Pick up a copy of the online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
This tell-all memoir spans 15 years and is a witty and heartfelt romantic story of the quest to find love in cyberspace. The book’s message is about authenticity, never settling, and staying optimistic even during the most difficult times. Is there a happy ending? You’ll have to read the book to find out.
Here’s what they are saying about The Perils of Cyber-Dating
“Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book.”
~ Joan Rivers
Comedienne and Best Selling Author
“It’s like Sex and The City in a Web 2.0 World.”
~E. Jean Carroll
Columnist, “Ask E. Jean” Elle Magazine
“This book is a must for this generation of singles, both male and female, who are into cyber-dating. It is possible to find someone if you know the rules.”
~ Dane Robert Swanson
Santa Monica Daily Press
The Perils of Cyber-Dating gives hope to singles that they can successfully meet someone online.”
~ Dr. Pat Allen
Author of the best-seller of Getting to “I Do”
“Thank goodness there are still hopeful romantics left in this world!”
~ Cheryl Woodcock
Producer and Correspondent, Entertainment Tonight-The Insider
This book is your must-have navigation guide to help you safely travel through the perilous landscape of cyber-dating. Plus, Spira’s personal stories are a hoot and a half!”
~ Diane Dimond
Journalist and Author
“Julie Spira tells a compelling story, shares intimate moments, and transforms her experience into means of larger good.”
~ Veronica De Laurentiis
Best-selling Author of Rivoglio La Mia Vita
To purchase a copy of the book or for media inquiries, visit CyberDatingExpert.com
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