Internet dating has evolved from the early days of chat rooms and dial up Internet to high-speed wireless Internet and now to a social dating experience. From getting dating advice on Twitter from @Match or @eHarmony to checking out your potential date’s Facebook page, while still chatting on the phone with him or her, digital dating has ramped it up a big notch.
Let’s face it. You’re hanging your digital hat on Facebook and Twitter a bit more often than logging into your online dating account, and with good reason. You like to see what your friends are up to and cheer them on with an occasional like or two. Staring at ‘Selfies’ photos can be fun, and watching someone change their relationship status is a golden moment.
Most online dating sites are now entrenched with social media allowing you to upload your photos directly from Facebook and even using the like button for people to vote on their favorite photos of you. This is quite helpful as you can and should change your photos around a bit. If you notice that some are getting more attention, then they’re keepers.
When Facebook launched their Social Graph search in January, I spoke with USA Today. The article, Facebook Unleashed Cupid Potential came out while many of the Internet dating executives were at the Internet Dating Conference.
I was quoted as saying:
Dating norms, however, have already taken root on Facebook. People have long-perused the photos and postings of members in the game of attraction, says Julie Spira, a digital-dating maven who runs CyberDatingExpert.com.
“It’s the world’s largest social network, and they could be the world’s largest dating network if they want to go there,” Spira said.
No longer could online dating sites and singles ignore the big digital gorilla in the room. A few weeks later, we debuted Facebook Love Stories, featuring real world couples who met or reconnected on Facebook and fell madly in love.
Cyber-Dating Expert friend Cliff Lerner, the CEO of Are You Interested wrote an interesting piece in Huffington Post entitled, Why Facebook Graph Search Will Make Online Dating Cool.
I have to agree with Lerner. There are some that still think there’s a stigma with online dating, but have no problem contacting other singles on Facebook chat. This my friends is social dating at it’s best.
At the end of the digital day, you need to cast a very wide net. If you’re uncomfortable saying that you’re an online dater, tell people that you’re a social dater. Do whatever it takes to find love, online, offline, and on Facebook.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, on Facebook, or wherever you may roam.
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In between is one of my favorite holidays to celebrate with or without a date. This is St. Patrick’s Day.
Although I’m not Irish, I always wear something green, change my Twitter photo to include a leprechaun hat and hope that I’ll have the luck as a friend of the Irish.
Whether you know the history of St. Patrick or not, it’s the perfect time to brush up on your flirting skills to get ready for spring fever. With St. Patrick’s Day on a Sunday, you can start celebrating early and make it a weekend event.
To get into the spirit of St. Patrick’s Day, you don’t need to be Irish. If you practice these expert dating and flirting skills, you’ll likely have a date on your calendar before the weekend is over, or will enjoy the time together with the object of your affection.
Online Dating and Flirting
1. Log onto your online dating site and change your profile photo to wearing something green.
2. Revise your headline or first sentence of your profile to days, “Kiss me if you’re Irish.”
3. Send a text message the the person you’ve had a crush on to say “Happy St. Patrick’s Day. Even if they aren’t Irish, chances are they’ll reply to you.
4. Sign up for eHarmony’s free communication weekend from March 14 – 18 (5 Full Days! #af)
Offline Dating and Flirting
5. If you have a date on the calendar, pick up a green carnation for him or her. Although receiving carnations might appear tacky on Valentine’s Day, a month later it’s fine. Suggest going to a St. Patrick’s Day parade together.
6. Set up a coffee date and order the green tea Frappuccino at Starbucks or meet at an ice cream shop and grab a mint-chocolate ice cream cone.
7. If an Irish pub and drinking green beer isn’t your thing, go to a sushi bar or your favorite Japanese restaurant and sip on some hot green tea and order green-tea ice cream for dessert.
Keep in mind St. Patrick’s Day is the perfect time to practice the art of flirting. Go ahead and wear that flashing green button to draw attention to yourself. If you are not one to visit a local pub, go to a public place and wear green and start smiling. You have permission to do it all.
Do you have plans to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day this year?
Julie Spira is an online dating expert, bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating, and is the CEO of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert
If drinking green beer or nibbling on a mint-chocolate chip ice cream cone aren’t on your menu, we’re thrilled to share Rose Cole’s healthy recipe for her Raw Mint-Chip Shamrock Shake.
- 1-2 Tbs cacao nibs (or chocolate chips)
- 1 frozen large banana (the more ripe, the better)
- 1-2 drops peppermint extract (or handful of fresh mint leaves)
- 1/4 cup frozen spinach (or opt for all-natural green food coloring, or just make a white mint shake)
- 2/3 cup non-dairy milk of choice (coconut, almond, hemp, etc. Use more or less, depending on desired thickness.)
Optional Ideas & Add-ins
- cocoa powder
- chocolate protein powder
- garnish with fresh mint leaves
- 2-4 drops liquid stevia (I love the peppermint liquid stevia from Sweet Leaf)
- a pinch of guar gum and xantham to make pudding (or just reduce milk)
Blend everything together and enjoy! For more healthy recipes, visit RoseCole.com.
For more romantic recipes, check out our Love Potions!
Happy Music Monday.
All me to put my DJ hat on and enjoy this week’s classic video montage of “Something” by the Beatles.
It’s a great way to start the week and may just put a smile on your face.
Do you have a favorite Cyber Love Song to share?
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As we gather together with our friends, family, and loved ones, it’s time to reflect on all that you’re grateful for. This Thanksgiving, we’re happy to share our favorite quotes from the web and Twitter for gratitude on the holiday.
1. Nothing is more honorable than a grateful heart. ~Seneca
2. Thanksgiving Day is a jewel, to set in the hearts of honest men; but be careful that you do not take the day, and leave out the gratitude. ~ E. P. Powell
3. To give thanks in solitude is enough. Thanksgiving has wings and goes where it must go. Your prayer knows much more about it than you do. ~ Victor Hugo
4. Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. ?~William Arthur Ward
5. In ordinary life we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich. ~Dietrich Bonhoeffer
6. The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings. ~Henry Ward Beecher
7. As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. ~John F. Kennedy
8. Thanksgiving Day comes, by statute, once a year; to the honest man it comes as frequently as the heart of gratitude will allow. ~Edward Sandford Martin
9. What we’re really talking about is a wonderful day set aside on the fourth Thursday of November when no one diets. I mean, why else would they call it Thanksgiving? ~Erma Bombeck
10. Thanksgiving, after all, is a word of action. ~W.J. Cameron
11. Thanksgiving was never meant to be shut up in a single day. ~Robert Caspar Lintner
12. Thanksgiving dinners take eighteen hours to prepare. They are consumed in twelve minutes. Half-times take twelve minutes. This is not coincidence. ~Erma Bombeck
13. An optimist is a person who starts a new diet on Thanksgiving Day. ~Irv Kupcinet
14. Forever on Thanksgiving Day, the heart will find the pathway home.?~Wilbur D. Nesbit
15. A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all the other virtues. ~Cicero
16. Thanksgiving is possible only for those who take time to remember; no one can give thanks who has a short memory. ~Unknown
17. Hem your blessings with thankfulness so they don’t unravel. ~Unknown
18. Gratitude is the sign of noble souls. ~Aesop
19. Small cheer and great welcome makes a merry feast. ~William Shakespeare
10. Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving. ~W.T. Purkiser
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team.
This Thanksgiving season, we searched near-and-far to find the perfect Love Potion romantic recipe to bake for your sweetheart, while showing gratitude for your relationship.
With over 1500 rave reviews on AllRecipes.com, this double layer pumpkin cheesecake recipe tops our list for Thanksgiving.
If you have four hours of time on your hands, along with a spare 425 calories, this recipe must be on your list this year.
Not spending Thanksgiving with your sweetheart? Don’t fret. This yummy recipe can be shared throughout the holidays. Let your cyber-date know what’s on the menu and he’ll happily schedule you in his calendar.
- 2 (8 ounce) packages cream cheese, softened
- 1/2 cup white sugar
- 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 2 eggs
- 1 (9 inch) prepared graham cracker crust
- 1/2 cup pumpkin puree
- 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
- 1 pinch ground cloves
- 1 pinch ground nutmeg
- 1/2 cup frozen whipped topping, thawed
1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C).
2. In a large bowl, combine cream cheese, sugar and vanilla. Beat until smooth. Blend in eggs one at a time. Remove 1 cup of batter and spread into bottom of crust; set aside.
3. Add pumpkin, cinnamon, cloves and nutmeg to the remaining batter and stir gently until well blended. Carefully spread over the batter in the crust.
4. Bake in preheated oven for 35 to 40 minutes, or until center is almost set. Allow to cool, then refrigerate for 3 hours or overnight. Cover with whipped topping before serving.
This recipe and photo are provided courtesy of AllRecipes.com For more love potions recipes, click here
Our featured song this week is Colbie Caillat’s “I Do.”
Enjoy this uplifting song about the exciting feeling of meeting someone and falling in love.
Click here for our other featured Cyber Love Songs.
Being an online dating expert and living in the heart of Hollywood, I frequently get calls from television producers and casting agents looking for singles for new dating and relationship shows.
I’m happy to share the news that the fine folks at Emmy-winning Magical Elves (Top Chef, Fashion Star) are casting for a new Bravo TV show and you’re invited to audition.
If you’re in Los Angeles and are between 24-50 and are dating online, here’s a terrific opportunity to be on national TV and to have a fun time at an exclusive upscale party.
Join me on Monday, July 30th at the Viceroy in Santa Monica from 5pm-8pm for the Singles Elite Casting Meet & Greet. This is a VIP event for fabulous upscale single men and women who are looking for love online.
What: Singles Meet & Greet casting party for a new Bravo TV show
Where: Viceroy Hotel, 1819 Ocean Ave, Santa Monica, CA
When: Monday, July 30, 5pm – 8pm
Why: Because we know you’re fabulous, want to fall in love, and haven’t been successful yet with online dating
Each attendee will get a chance to win an autographed copy of my bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and fresh from the Top Chef goodie vault you’ll have a chance to win a signed Top Chef cookbook, signed Top Chef wine chiller carry bag, and a chef coat from Top Chef Season 9, signed by the entire cast.
Space is limited, so RSVP at Facebook.com/SinglesEliteCastingMeetAndGreet
I look forward to seeing you there!
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team