Labor Day weekend is almost here.  Starting tonight at midnight, our friends at eHarmony have a special weekend that I highly recommend.

Goodbye, Summer. Hello, Love. Connect on eHarmony FREE 9/3-6!

With summer relationships winding down, many singles will be looking for love online. If you’re ready to start dating, here’s my advice on how to make this weekend work the best for you during their 4-day event.

1. You can take advantage of their offer by signing up now and creating your profile so it’s ready to go tonight at midnight. Their in-depth questionnaire is really targeted to those who are looking for serious relationships and marriage.

2. If you need help with your irresistible online dating profile, at Cyber-Dating Expert, we work with singles to make the process easier and more enjoyable.

3. Make sure you carve out the time to get organized and spend several hours a day reviewing the matches that eHarmony sends to you.

4. Respond in a timely manner to those who start the communication process with you.

5. If you’re ready to communicate, jump over to their fast-track where you can send emails to your matches.

I know that eHarmony works. I was with dozens of their success couples in New York during their 10th anniversary celebration earlier this month. Their online dating site is now responsible for over 500 people getting married every day.

Don’t Labor Over Finding Love—Connect on eHarmony FREE 9/3-6! Let us know if you meet that someone special!

Although summer is nearing an end, the Summer Singles Brunch events at LA Singles Society are continuing into the fall. It’s with great pleasure and an honor to be invited to speak to the group on Sunday, September 19, 2010 at 11:30 am in Tarzana, CA.

Tickets are $8.00 and include 45 minutes of networking, light lunch, and then singles will learn the art of how to create an irresistible online dating profile.

There will be a book signing of The Perils of Cyber-Dating at the event. It’s a terrific way to meet other singles and get expert dating advice. Come with your questions and online dating profile screen names and leave enriched and ready to embark on your successful journey in cyberspace.

To purchase tickets visit LA Singles Society

Welcome to the first day of September.

As summer is nearing it’s end, we thought we’d sharing one of our favorite Cyber Love Songs by Don Henley, Boys of Summer.

Our friends at OkCupid looked at over 1 million active users on their free online dating site to see where the most active singles resided in the past year.

In an article on Forbes.com, Sam Yagan, OkCupid’s CEO and a friend of CyberDatingExpert.com talked about the specifics of each city. Whether they are filled with tech-savvy singles or college students who chose to reside in their college town, overall the popularity of online dating continues to rise.

As more singles are busy signing onto Facebook on a daily basis, they are expanding their personal search onto Internet dating sites in record numbers.

If you’re lucky to live in one of these top 10 cities, it’s time to log on more often and revise your online dating profile. If not, I suggest you cast a wider net and look outside your geographical area if you are serious about finding love online.

OkCupid’s Top 10 Cities to Find Love Online

1. Boston, MA

2. Washington, DC

3. San Francisco, CA

4. Seattle, WA

5. Atlanta, GA

6. Portland, OR

7. Philadelphia, PA

8. Los Angeles, CA

9. Dallas, TX

10. Detroit, MI

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

If it’s time to leave the drama behind, you’ll want to listen to our radio show featuring Paige Parker and Dating Without Drama. Learn how to move your relationship status from single and skeptical to confident and committed.

Find out about more about Facebook Without Drama including should you friend your new beau on Facebook and the dos and don’ts of text messaging your date.

You’ll hear about the red flags and deal breakers for online daters and Paige will share her personal story on how she became a very happily married woman by changing her personal strategies.

Listen to hear dating advice from myself as well as Paige on this special edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

Click here and let the flirting begin>>>

The online dating profile of a sophisticated woman simply stated, contact me if my profile piques your curiosity. The response rate was high from men curious to know more about this mysterious woman who was a bestselling author. On the list of her favorite items was the name of a well-respected magazine, Vanity Fair,  which she reads  from cover-to-cover every month to enrich her life.

Sharing hobbies and interests is an important part of your online dating profile. Favorite movies, books, travel spots, they all give an indication of what you like to do in your spare time.

You can’t imagine how stunned she was one day when she received an email from a man without a profile photo. This man decided to make it a point to insult a woman he never met.

His email simply stated  the following:

Photo: None

Subject matter:  He typed the word, “None.”

A bit confused by the introduction, the body of the email was quite insulting. It simply stated:

“Your intelligence can be determined by what you read, and it certainly can be stimulated by penetrating reading.”

“Vanity Fair is definitely not an example of profound literature, but it’s the only reading that apparently you’ve done recently and that you’re proud to share with others. I can’t imagine that your book has any depth if what you’ve been feeding your brain is essentially tabloid trivia.”

On a personal note, the woman who was the recipient of this email was none other than myself. One has to ask, what is the purpose of deliberately insulting someone they have never met? And why hide behind a profile without a photo? My mother always said, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all.” My mother’s dating advice is smart. She’s a wise woman.

Do you have an online dating story to share? For consideration in the Peril of the Week, please send us your stories.

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This week’s Cyber Dating tip for successful online dating is quite simply, take your relationship from online to offline as soon as possible.

How soon you may ask? After sending a few emails, it’s best to move the relationship to the telephone. Find out if you have that same offline chemistry and you have online. Too often, I see singles falling in love from behind their computer screens. Sometimes, it’s with someone they believe is single and is available for a relationship, when in fact the complete opposite can be true. If during your phone conversation, you don’t feel comfortable, don’t feel obligated to set up a date on the calendar.

For more cyberdating tips and dating advice, Visit CyberDatingExpert.com

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Join Cyber Dating Expert Julie Spira at a very special time and date on Friday, August 27, 2010 at 3pm with Paige Parker, author of Dating Without Drama on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

You’ll hear Paige’s dating advice on how a woman can successfully attract a man, leave the drama behind, and become more confident while looking for love online.

You won’t want to miss this end of summer special program.

Call in at 646-929-0012 at 2pm/ET, 12noon/CT, 11am/PT to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

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I’m often out during the evenings speaking to singles looking for love online. As a dating expert, I’m asked to look at existing profiles from those frustrated with the process of cyberdating. I see photos with arms hanging over shoulders, essays as long as a novel, and sometimes find an entire flickr or picasa album posted. I meet successful men and beautiful women who just aren’t getting the results they want.  If your profile looks like this, chances are you aren’t meeting the man or woman of your dreams. Before you cancel your membership, look at some of my top tips that you can do on your own to tweak your profile. These 5 simple tips will help you stand out in the crowded playing field of Internet dating.

1. Catchy Screen Name and headline. Get creative. Show your flirty side. Make it more than the number that the online dating site creates for you. Include your hobby, favorite travel spot, or passion.

2. Profile Photos worth being on the front page of a newspaper. You’d be surprised at the amount of blurry photos, photos with multiple people in them, or one’s that don’t have you looking your best. Smile in your photos. Smile on the phone. Don’t forget to smile on that first date as well. Both men and women are visual. Look your best. Wear your favorite color.

3. Word Count. Sometimes less is more. Writing eight paragraphs in your essay is too overwhelming. I recommend refining your word count to 150-200 words. Leave something to talk about on your first date and leave the novel out of your profile

4. Avoid Cliché’s. Looking for soul mate may be a given, but it won’t grab his or her attention. Be a little quirky and someone will want to know more about your fun personality.

5. Be Specific. If you are interested in marriage, don’t be afraid to check off that box. If religion is important to you, make note of that. Don’t say what you don’t want, but make sure that you say what you do like about being in a relationship.

If after revising your profile on your own, you still aren’t achieving the results that you need, it’s time to visit a dating coach and get an outside opinion. Contact us at CyberDatingExpert.com and we’ll help you create an irresistible online dating profile.