Social Media Guide for New Couples
Our friends at Mashable decided to post a story called, Social Media Helps Romantic Relationships Thrive.
While it’s debatable whether social media helps or hurts relationships, I was a great honor to be asked to chime in on the story along with Alexandra Samuel, Ph.D. and Rob Cottingham, as well as Dr. Karen Ruskin.
Meeting someone new used to be more exciting. Being able to Google someone and read their Facebook, Linkedin, About.me and Twitter profiles in full, takes all the initial mystery and intrigue out of getting to know someone.
This is the new dating mistake many are making, says Julie Spira, online dating and netiquette guru and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
“When your relationship is new, I say avoid connecting on social media sites at first,” Spira tells Mashable. “Sure he or she may be excited about your relationship and can easily follow you on Twitter, but if you receive a friend request before or after a first date, it’s best not to accept it.”
A Facebook request or Twitter follow may seem harmless. However, experts warn being fast friends on social media could result in hurt feelings.
“Remember that it’s a new relationship and one may still be playing the field while the other only has eyes for you,” Spira says. “Becoming friends prematurely may result in hurt feelings when you see his photo posted hugging another woman. Even though it may be his cousin, your feelings will be hurt and you might be jumping to conclusions.”
How long should love birds wait? It could take a couple weeks or a couple months. It really depends on the individuals in a relationship, experts say.
Julie Spira is an online dating and cyber-relations expert. She’s the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating and The Rules of Netiquette. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and like her at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and Facebook.com/RulesofNetiquette