We Magazine Names Cyber-Dating Expert in Top 101 Women Bloggers to Watch in 2010
August 18, 2010
It’s with great honor to announce that Cyber-Dating Expert has been named One of the Top 101 Women Bloggers to Watch in 2010 by We Magazine for Women.
According to We Magazine’s editor, Heidi Richards, “This list of inspiring and aspiring bloggers is one of our best yet.” Richards added, “Most of the women bloggers to watch that made this list have been blogging for at least 2 years, but we do have some relative newcomers to the world of blogging. Each blog has a style of its own with substantive content that is both interesting and targeted to specific demographics.
Julie Spira, founded Cyber-Dating Expert in 2008 prior to the publication of her bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. “It’s truly an honor to be listed among this esteemed group of women who are making a difference through blogging,” said Spira. Spira added, “I hope to share my 16 years of online dating advice and tips with singles on the dating scene.” Cyber-Dating Expert provides dating advice and is a site where singles and couples share their online dating stories.
For a complete list of bloggers, visit We Magazine.
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Dating Advice – Why Her First boyfriend Probably Isn’t “the one”
July 8, 2010
Cyber-Dating Expert
The excitement of a first love or first crush can make your emotions fly high, hormones hit the roof, and create a feeling of overall happiness. However, in your early 20s, it’s more likely that it’s the first of many new relationships.
Read my dating advice for Dara who met her first boyfriend online.
Dear Julie:
I’m a very inexperienced 23-year-old and I’ve never had a boyfriend, until now. I joined Mate1.com about two weeks ago and met a really great guy.
We chat almost everyday, exchange calls, and even met up a few times. He is kind, respectful, and gives me as much space as I need, but lately things have become quite intimate and I think I might be developing some serious feelings.
My question is; am I rushing into things? Should I try meeting other guys to see what else is out there? I’ve felt so happy since I met him, but then I’m not used to getting attention from men so is it because of him or the attention?
Dara
Hi Dara,
Congratulations on meeting a quality guy online. At 23-years old, you are aware that you are not very experienced with men. Chatting with your new beau almost every day after only a few weeks of dating is a good sign that you are developing a relationship.
What kind of relationship? It’s too soon for anyone at any age to know after two weeks. It’s important to know that when a woman becomes intimate with a man, she automatically bonds to him.
The chemicals are released and you might even feel like you love this man early on. If you have serious feelings for him and the feelings are mutual, just enjoy it. He has all of the qualities of a dream guy so far. Unless you have the conversation about being exclusive, assume you are not.
By dating other men, it will help keep this new relationship in perspective. If you both decide together to retire your online dating profiles, then you will need to focus on this relationship and treat him the way you want to be treated.
Enjoying the honeymoon phase of a new relationship and see where it goes. Don’t put too expectations on the relationship and hope that he is as happy as you are.
Julie Spira is known worldwide as the Cyber-Dating Expert. She coaches singles on finding love online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com
Single Edition Solo Spotlight: Julie Spira
June 3, 2010
This week, Single Edition interviewed me about my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Read about one of the funniest dates I had experienced in the 1990s, how to find the right dating site for you, and how I differentiate myself from other dating coaches. I discuss the changes in the Internet dating landscape in the past 15 years as well as social media marketing tools that helped define my brand of Cyber-Dating Expert.
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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Josh Meyers, CEO of People Media
May 13, 2010
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert
Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira on Saturday, May 15, 2010, as she welcomes Josh Meyers, CEO of People Media to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.
People Media runs over 20 online dating sites and communities including the popular Senior People Meet, Black People Meet, and Single Parent Meet.
You’ll hear about their features and why niche sites are growing in popularity.
Call in at 2 pm/ET, 12 noon/CT, 11am/PT at 646-929-0012 for dating advice and to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
Cyber Dating Safety on WPIX-TV
April 22, 2010
Tamsen Fadal and Julie Spira at WPIX
This morning, I was a featured guest on WPIX in New York with dating and relationship expert, Tamsen Fadal.
Online dating is a terrific way to meet someone when your friends aren’t fixing you up anymore. However, you don’t know who is behind the computer screen just yet.
Today we talked about some of my recommended online dating safety tips.
They included:
• Never Give Out Your Last Name – Protect your identity
• Never Give Out Your Address – I suggest that singles consider using a P.O. box for their mailing address
• Never Talk About Money – First date conversations should be light and casual
• Always Meet In A Public Place – If you uncomfortable, you can always leave
• Use the “Buddy System” (Telling a Friend Where You’ll Be and Who You’ll Be With)
Practice these tips for safe cyberdating and enjoy the experience while looking for love online.
Weekly Flirt
April 14, 2010
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Hip Sunglasses for Spring
March 30, 2010
In my excitement of the arrival of spring, I found a neglected drawer filled with Ray-Ban Wayfarer sunglasses that had been retired many years ago.
My enthusiasm resulted in a glow, as the famous brand is now back in style in a big way. Ray-Ban sunglasses have been seen on celebrities including Katie Holmes, David Beckham, Jennifer Love Hewitt, and Jessica Alba. If you aren’t as lucky as I am to have a collection of your own, visit Zappos where you can pick up a pair for the spring season.
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Online Dating Observations
March 29, 2010
The American University School of Journalism’s Graduate School decided to do a story about online dating. Online dating is extremely popular in Washington, DC. When they asked me for some advice, I put in my two-cents for their article entitled, Online Dating Horror Stories.
Don’t run away just yet. The piece has a positive spin filled with dating advice and suggestions to make your cyber dating experience one to enjoy.
by Michael Flynn
More people are using their Internet connection to make a love connection — sometimes with shockingly negative results.
A recent BBC World Service poll found that almost one in three Internet users have gone online to look for love, using sites such as eHarmony.com and Match.com. But it’s not all hearts and cupids..
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Julie Spira, bestselling author of “The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online,” provides advice on her Web site, cyberdatingexpert.com. Of course, most people won’t admit that they’re overweight, a racist or a cheater in their descriptions. Spira revealed that deception in online profiles is pretty common.
“I believe in authenticity in your online dating profile, but I can’t force people to tell the truth,” Spira explained. “It’s very common for singles to deduct five to 10 pounds off their actual weight and age. Also, men on the shorter side will add approximately 2 inches to their height. It’s the biggest complaint I hear from singles when their date doesn’t look like their profile photo. How often does it happen? Quite often.”
Spira said having a sense of humor will help you get through the bad experiences online. Of course, all examples of online dating don’t end in nightmares. In fact, three of the singles interviewed said they had found long-term relationships by using online dating.
To try and have the best online dating experience Spira offers these tips:
1. Find the time. “You need to carve out an hour a day or at least three days a week on the online dating site of your choice. If you can take the time to go to the gym and to see your friends, you should add online dating to your calendar.”
2. Be organized. “Does it sound like a class project? Well, almost. I suggest that you create an Excel spreadsheet and list the screen names of those you are interested in writing to and those who have contacted you. Create columns for screen name, age, occupation or school, marital status, height, weight or anything that will keep your interested parties on your list. Color code those you have written to in one color, and select another color for those who have written to you. After a while, you’ll see who rises to the top of the sheet.”
3. Create a catchy screen name. “Just like a newspaper headline will capture your attention, so will creating an enticing online dating screen name. Steer away from generic names, such as your first name and a few numbers afterwards. Think about a hobby that you enjoy and incorporate it into your screen name. I have used ‘Paperback Writer,’ and both Beatles fans and other writers felt comfortable in sending me an introductory e-mail.”
4. Copy plus paste = erase. “Women have caught onto the fact that many men copy and paste the same introductory e-mail to a group of women all at once. If your e-mail doesn’t appear to be personalized and seems canned, don’t expect to get a reply.”
5. It’s all about the photo. “Both men and women are visual. I suggest that your profile photo either be taken professionally or have a friend with a digital camera and a good eye take some photos of you. Make sure your primary photo doesn’t have your buddies or the extra arm hanging over your shoulder. First impressions matter. Think about your dream job and the perfect resume that you will be sending to your future employer. Make sure your profile is your personal resume to get your dream date.”
6. Respond in a timely manner. “Forget the old rules of waiting for three days before you write back or call the object of your affection. With online dating, if you play the waiting game, chances are her ‘inbox’ will be full of other potential male suitors. By the time she hears from you, she may be getting ready to retire her profile. If you like him or her, seize the opportunity and let them know.”
7. Cast a wide net. “Online dating and social dating have become more acceptable as Facebook continues to increase in popularity. You may not be meeting the one, but you may likely find a new friend, a business opportunity, or your date might just have a friend. Don’t discount the first date if there’s no chemistry.”
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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show With Flirtexting
March 4, 2010
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert
Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira on Saturday, March 6, 2010 as she welcomes Debra Goldsetin and Olivia Baniuszewicz , co-authors of Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way to His Heart to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.
Living by the moto, “we date therefore we text,” Debra and Olivia, demystified the Flirtext in their first book! As single women gallivanting the NYC social scene circa 2006, they began noticing that their cell phones had become a crucial part of their dating lives. These savvy flirts quickly picked up on the fact that texting had become the NEW first step in dating. They knew they weren’t the only ones who were mystified by how the game had changed since texting was introduced; so they continued to date, flirt and text, until they felt they had successfully demystified this new flirting trend.
Debra and Olivia named this dating phenomenon FlirtextingTM and put the rules down on paper once and for-all in their popular “how-to” guide, FlirtextingTM.
If you’re interested in learning exactly how to flirt through the convenience of your iPhone or BlackBerry you won’t want to miss this show!
Call in at 646-929-0012 at 2PM/EST, 12noon/CST, 11am/PST with your questions and to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
Cyber-Dating Expert Weekly Flirt
February 19, 2010
