Cyber Love Song of the Week – Boys of Summer
September 1, 2010
Welcome to the first day of September.
As summer is nearing it’s end, we thought we’d sharing one of our favorite Cyber Love Songs by Don Henley, Boys of Summer.
Peril of the Week – No Photo, No Class
August 26, 2010
The online dating profile of a sophisticated woman simply stated, contact me if my profile piques your curiosity. The response rate was high from men curious to know more about this mysterious woman who was a bestselling author. On the list of her favorite items was the name of a well-respected magazine, Vanity Fair, which she reads from cover-to-cover every month to enrich her life.
Sharing hobbies and interests is an important part of your online dating profile. Favorite movies, books, travel spots, they all give an indication of what you like to do in your spare time.
You can’t imagine how stunned she was one day when she received an email from a man without a profile photo. This man decided to make it a point to insult a woman he never met.
His email simply stated the following:
Photo: None
Subject matter: He typed the word, “None.”
A bit confused by the introduction, the body of the email was quite insulting. It simply stated:
“Your intelligence can be determined by what you read, and it certainly can be stimulated by penetrating reading.”
“Vanity Fair is definitely not an example of profound literature, but it’s the only reading that apparently you’ve done recently and that you’re proud to share with others. I can’t imagine that your book has any depth if what you’ve been feeding your brain is essentially tabloid trivia.”
On a personal note, the woman who was the recipient of this email was none other than myself. One has to ask, what is the purpose of deliberately insulting someone they have never met? And why hide behind a profile without a photo? My mother always said, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all.” My mother’s dating advice is smart. She’s a wise woman.
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When Love Comes to Town- Celebrating eHarmony’s 10th Anniversary
August 20, 2010
Julie Spira and Leeza Gibbons
When I was invited to celebrate eHarmony’s 10th Anniversary with them both in Los Angeles and New York, I couldn’t say no. Unfortunately, I missed the wedding ceremony for success couple Sheri and Rob at eHarmony’s headquarters in Pasadena due to a last minute trip to New York, but luckily I met up with the newlyweds during the online dating site’s pedicab parade in Manhattan.
Bright and early 25 online dating success couples along with Grand Marshall, Leeza Gibbons and eHarmony executives, we arrived at The Early Show plaza for our first stop of the day. The success couples were dressed in tee shirts commemorating the decade of love from eHarmony with their new campaign, “Love Begins Here.” After brief appearances on the CBS morning program, we boarded our pedicabs for the motorcade throughout the city.
eHarmony Pedicab Parade
Our next stop was at Rockefeller Center, home to the Today Show. Leeza emceed the first of many kisses among the couples who found love online. We continued to FOX News and ended up in Times Square to view the new 4-story mural of thousands of singles who met on eHarmony.
Don’t forget to visit the interactive online mosaic at eHarmony.com/love
Congratulations to eHarmony for 10 years of helping singles find love online.
Complete article @Huffington Post
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Scientific Match
August 19, 2010
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert
Are you ready to learn more about DNA matchmaking? Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira as she welcomes Eric Holzle, founder of Scientific Match to Ask the Cyber Dating Expert Radio Show.
According to Scientific Match, when you share chemistry with someone, you significantly increase your chances of realizing these amazing benefits:
1. You’ll love their natural body fragrance–they’ll smell “sexier” than other people.
2. You’ll have a more satisfying sex life.
3. If you’re a woman, you’ll have a higher rate of orgasms.
4. There will be less cheating in your exclusive relationship.
5. As a couple, you’ll be more fertile.
6. Your children will be healthier.
Call in on Saturday August 21 at 2pm/ET, 12 noon/CT, 11am/PT at 646-929-0012 to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
What Guys Look For In A Serious Relationship
August 11, 2010
By Tiernan McKay – ShoppingLifestyle.com
Recently, I was interviewed by ShoppingLifestyle along with author Zachary Davis on what guys look for in a serious relationship. This subject is near and dear to my heart, as I am committed to helping you find and keep this relationship oriented man. The article, 10 Traits Men Look For In A Girlfriend will keep you on your toes and in his heart.
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While it’s no secret that sex is important to the male species, sometimes it’s a bit tough to identify just what men look for in a girlfriend — we’re talking long-term relationship material here.
Tapping into the knowledge of two relationship experts, we’ve come up with a list of 10 characteristics that will take a man from “just a date” to “meet my girlfriend”.
1. A sense of humor
“Nobody wants to date ‘Debbie Downer’ and men enjoy joking with their women,” says Zachary Davis, author of Roses and Brass Knuckles: A Man’s Pocket Guide To Winning The Dating and Marriage Game. Clearly, this is something that men and women can agree on. You don’t want to spend your time with someone who is seriously serious so be sure to lighten the mood when you can. Men like it when a women has the confidence to be funny. “Believe me, we want you to make us laugh too,” says Davis.
2. Flexibility
No, we’re not talking about physical flexibility (though, no doubt, plenty of men have that on their list). We’re talking about the ability to be adventurous and explore life as it happens. Julie Spira is a best-selling author, radio host, columnist and dating/relationship expert. She believes that “Men love it when a woman doesn’t mind if the plans get changed last minute. Spontaneity excites a man.” Last minute plans from a movie night to a pizza date? Don’t panic. Go with the flow and impress him with your carefree spirit.
3. Honesty
No long-term relationship can survive without honesty and men want to trust their girlfriends. “Women don’t like to admit it, but it is a lot easier for you to deceive us than it is for us to deceive you,” says Davis. “We don’t pick up on a lot of the signs that women do, so we have to be able to trust you fully.” If you really want a solid relationship, leave your affinity for little white lies behind you.
4. Positivity
There’s no question that life has its ups and downs but an emotional roller coaster is not high on any man’s list of desired traits in a girlfriend. Regardless of what life throws your way, a positive outlook on life will get you far. “Too much doom and gloom usually works its way into the bedroom,” according to Davis. “How can we have good night if you are always having bad days?”
5. Supportive
This can apply to both his personal and professional life, but men want a woman who is in his corner no matter what. “A man’s self esteem and ego are driven by his success in the business world,” says Spira. “When a woman admires a man for his work achievements and becomes his cheerleader, she’s on the top of his list.” Take an interest in his work, make an effort to understand his struggles and then provide encouragement.
6. Reliability
It’s doubtful that an unreliable woman (or man) will change her (or his) stripes once a relationship is in full swing, so men want to see this trait in a woman before things get serious. “Just like women want a man they can count on, we want the same in return,” says Davis. “It is easy to love when you can count on someone!” Some ways to show that you’re reliable include being on time, following through on commitments and being a good friend.
7. Motivation
Motivation is usually high on the list of characteristics that women look for in a man, but it goes both ways. “How can we move forward in a relationship, when you don’t want to move forward in your life?” asks Davis. Openly sharing your professional and personal aspirations will show him that you have big plans in life (that may or may not include him).
8. A social life
Even men who enjoy being in a relationship need their space, and they need to know that their girlfriend can have fun without him if necessary. “Nothing is worse than when you starting dating a woman and she becomes completely attached, and the two of you are together 24/7,” says Davis. “Then we start to think, what was she doing before we met? Time apart makes the heart grow fonder, even in the beginning.” Don’t even think about turning your back on your girlfriends just because Mr. Right comes along. Chances are, in the short term, he won’t be pleased and in the long-term, you won’t be happy.
9. Sexy + Smart
We all know the first characteristic tops a man’s list, but combine sexy with smart and you have “girlfriend material” written all over. “The combination will send a woman to the top of the list,” says Spira. “Men are visual. When they see a woman with the intelligence behind the pretty face, it’s a winning combination.” Don’t hesitate to share your intellectual passions. Maybe you are a crossword puzzle buff, an economic genius, a business whiz or aspiring author. Whatever your area of interest, flaunt it; don’t hide it.
10. Confidence
Again, this is something men and women have in common when looking for a long-term partner. “A man is attracted to a woman who is confident on their own,” says Spira. “Although they look forward to sharing together as a couple, if she can make it on her own and isn’t needy, she’ll capture his heart.” Davis agrees saying, “If you don’t love yourself then I can’t love you. Simple as that.” Take pride in your abilities, your body and your life and men will find you hard to resist.
For the full article visit ShoppingLifestyle.com
Julie Spira is a dating and relationship expert and bestselling author. She creates irresistible online dating profiles and coaches singles who are looking for love online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com
Cyber Love Song of the Week – Walking on Sunshine
August 9, 2010
It’s another summertime Music Monday and this week we are featuring Katrina and the Waves with their 1983 hit, “Walking on Sunshine.”
Online Dating Site ‘Can Do Better’ Polls Users Based on Looks
August 2, 2010
Chelsea Clinton and Marc Mezvinsky Source: CanDoBetter.com
Do looks matter? Apparently so. Online dating site, CanDoBetter.com has received quite a bit of buzz lately. The new niche site lets their members vote on couples based on their attractiveness to decide if they think either one can do better, or if they are indeed a good match.
ABC News ran the story just prior to Chelsea Clinton’s wedding to Marc Mezvinsky. Photos of the couple who wed on July 31, 2010, were posted on the site prior to their marriage. Members claimed they were a mismatch based upon their looks.
When ABC News asked me what I thought about the site, and it’s obvious shallowness, I explained that celebrity buzz and attractiveness has always been something that people are interested in seeing.
Each week, a celebrity couple is featured on the site. Member couples looking for feedback post their photos and the peanut gallery gets to vote on the public Internet.
“About 40 million American singles, about half of the 90 million single population, have gone online to find love,” according to Julie Spira, a cyber dating expert and author of “The Perils of Cyber Dating.”
“Niche dating sites are the fastest growing sites on the Internet,” according to Spira, “and those that capitalize on celebrities and provide the visuals to engage users.”
“It’s a clever way of getting people to enter the onling dating industry,” she said. “I give them credit for creating buzz.”
Celebrity couples who ranked high on their site based upon looks include Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie as well as Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith.
Would you be willing to post your photos online? Do looks rank higher on the totem pole than common values? Your comments and feedback are always welcome.
Click here for full article @ABC News
Single Edition on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show
July 31, 2010
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert
Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, where Sherri Langburt, founder of SingleEdition.com shared her mission of creating a lifestyle site to help singles in many areas of their lives.
Sherri, herself, is an online dating success story. After 10 years of online dating, she met her husband on JDate.
Single Edition provides dating and relationship advice from experts, along with suggestions for traveling solo, as well as health and beauty advice.
Find out Sherri’s secrets on why her online dating profile led to her marriage and hear her inspiration for singles looking for love online.
Listen to the program where you will hear more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
Julie Spira, Cyber-Dating Expert Sizzle Reel
July 30, 2010
Everyone at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters is excited today. I’m pleased to release our new media and sizzle reel. You’ll see highlights with some of my favorite and best online dating advice from my news appearances. To book an interview with Julie Spira, visit CyberDatingExpert.com/Contact
Peril of the Week – The Donny Downer
July 30, 2010
You may have heard the stories of the “Debbie Downer” on a date. She’s the girl that talks about all of her problems and turns guys away faster than the speed of lightning. This week, you’ll meet her counterpart, the “Donny Downer.” Our online dating story this week is about the tale of the gentleman who came completely unprepared for his date. He didn’t rehearse his conversation on the long drive to lunch.
When they sat down at the restaurant, he first complained about the calorie count of the entrees. She smiled and changed the subject. Then he complained about his bad back and asked her if she had any back problems. He went on to talk about his father’s dementia and his mother’s hospital stay. She didn’t believe in bringing her medical history to the table.
The conversation then switched to the financial and gambling problems his adult son had. She wondered why he thought she needed to know. In between the appetizer and entree, he managed to talk about his two ex-wives.
Finally, he asked her what she thought of Obama as the President of the United States and talked about how awful he was in doing his job as the leader of our country. She preferred not to talk about politics.
Here’s my dating advice for this situation. Please leave the baggage behind. Conversations about the ex, financial, and health problems shouldn’t be on the top of your list on a first date. Keep your first date positive, upbeat and light. He was a classic “Donny Downer.” Although he might have been a nice guy, he wasn’t about to get to a second date.
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