Cyber Love Story of the Week – Jeanelle and Barry

Meet Jeanelle and Barry who were looking for love online on MySpace.

Both single, the two were hoping to meet someone to build a relationship with, but weren’t searching in the same zip code range. Barry was searching for girls in his zip code in Arizona and Jeanelle was searching within 50 miles of her own.

One day when Barry was online, his computer crashed causing him to have to restore his data. When he logged on to his MySpace page his search had mistakenly changed to include Jeanelle’s zip code. Barry told Jeanelle that her picture was on the second page of the results and although he kept looking for a few days, he kept going back to view Jeanelle’s photo.

For three days Barry read over Jeanelle’s page and wondered if he should reach out to Jeanelle and start a mixed-race relationship. Both Jeanelle and her friends were African-American according to the photos that Barry had viewed. Barry wasn’t sure if Jeanelle would be interested in meeting a white man for a serious relationship.

Barry emailed Jeanelle a sweet email welcoming her to Arizona and said that she could email him anytime. The two emailed each other for a month before they spoke on the phone and then talked via phone for an entire month before they met. They both wanted to make sure they were building a friendship before jumping into an intimate relationship.

What really made Jeanelle fall in love with Barry is that even after she told him that she had two sons and MS, he still chose to be with her. She knew they were really in love. After the two months of courting, the two finally met and one year later on the anniversary of their first date, they were married. “He’s my best friend and because we became friends first, we remain friends through any challenge we face,” said Jeanelle.  “Online dating can be successful when both parties go in wanting a friendship before they become intimate.”

Congratulations to Jeanelle and Barry who teach us that true friendship is the basis of a long term and loving relationship.

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Julie Spira is an online dating, netiquette and cyber-relations expert. Visit CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and where you can sign up for the Weekly Flirt. Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

Announcing the First-Ever Mobile Dating BootCamp

Mobile Dating Boot Camp

 

 

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Online Dating Expert Julie Spira and ThreeDayRule to Host Mobile Dating Boot Camp

Los Angeles, CA — May 9, 2012  Julie Spira, the leading online dating expert and ThreeDayRule, Los Angeles’ top singles event company will join forces to create the first-ever Mobile Dating Boot Camp, designed to help online daters improve their chances to find a date, a friend, or love online using the latest mobile dating apps.

Twelve of ThreeDayRule’s most eligible singles will participate in a four-week challenge starting on May 17, 2012. Each contestant will utilize two mobile dating apps daily during the period and chronicle their experiences at mobiledatingbootcamp.com.

The selected daters’ will share their experiences on the use of these apps in a mobile dating focus group led by Spira at iDate/Mobile Dating Conference in front of Internet Dating Executives on June 22, 2012 at the SLS Hotel in Beverly Hills, CA.

“It’s an honor to have been selected to moderate the first-only mobile dating user focus group at this year’s iDate Conference,” said Spira. “Mobile dating is certainly on the rise and is the number one topic at the summer Internet Dating Conference,” Spira added.  “Users are more engaged and online dating sites are embracing mobile strategies. Knowing what their customer base thinks of existing mobile apps will help sites formulate a better strategy, while helping singles find love online much faster on their smartphones.”

According to a Juniper research study, the mobile industry is expected to grow to $1.4 billion by 2013. Users of mobile apps are more engaged than those who visit the web-based site versions of dating sites.

Contestants in the Mobile Dating Boot Camp will receive over $600 in prizes including an online dating profile critique from Cyber-Dating Expert, a dating coaching session from ThreeDayRule, and will receive other prizes, including a luxurious catered lunch at the SLS Hotel.

About Cyber-Dating Expert

Cyber Dating Expert is the leading online dating advice site created by Internet dating pioneer, online dating expert and mobile dating expert Julie Spira. Spira’s dating advice has reached millions and she is a well-sought out expert in the media on the topic of cyber-relations. Spira is the author of the bestseller,“ The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.” She was an early adopter of the Internet having created her first online dating profile in 1994. She coaches singles with her signature irresistible profiles program. This will be Spira’s third time speaking at the Internet Dating Conference. Visit CyberDatingExpert.com and MobileDatingExpert.com.

About ThreeDayRule

ThreeDayRule is an online dating site for sophisticated singles. The ThreeDayRule experience is different because the community is curated. The result? A high quality pool of potential candidates with impressive careers, achievements, and great personalities.  Request membership at ThreeDayRule.com

About the Internet Dating Conference

Since 2004, iDate is the worldwide leading trade show and convention for the dating business.  The event brings together CEOs and senior executives from all the major dating companies.  The event covers online dating, social dating, speed dating, matchmaking, mobile dating, dating coaching, software, dating affiliate management, dating services and other forms of the industry. iDate will be held on June 22-24, 2012 at the SLS Hotel in Beverly Hills, CA. To register, visit internetdatingconference.com.


Top 10 Love Quotes for Global Love Day

Love Day - Cyber Dating Expert

Did you know that May 1st is International Global Love Day? The Day was created by Harold Becker, founder of The Love Foundation on May 1, 2004 and has been celebrated around the world ever since.

Even in a Web 2.0 world, over 800 avatars have professed their virtual love for each other in Second Life.

In our of our favorite topic of love, the team at Cyber-Dating Expert headquarters voted on our favorite love and romance quotes that we’ve posted on Twitter.

The competition was steep, but we’re happy to share our love quotes list with you and hope that you contribute your favorites in the comments.

1. A kiss makes the heart young again and wipes out the years. ~Rupert Brooke

2. A very small degree of hope is sufficient to cause the birth of love. ~Stendhal

3. At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet. ~Plato

4. Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit. ~Peter Ustinov

5. Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. ~Robert Frost

6. Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. ~Albert Einstein

7. Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love. ~Mother Teresa

8. Life is the flower for which love is the honey. ~Victor Hugo

9. Love is a game that two can play and both win. ~Eva Gabor

10. When I saw you I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew. ~William Shakespeare

Whatever your love stage is, from friendship to infatuation, a crush to a deep love, single, madly in like, taken, or ready to mingle, we hope you enjoy all the love that surrounds you. Return the love in a boomerang and enjoy the day.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

~Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team

Photo credit: © PeterPunk – Fotolia.com

Cyber Love Links – Links to Love, When You’re in the Mood for Love

Cyber Love Links

As April is winding down, there’s no shortage of Spring Fever in the air. My inbox is filled with emails from happy online daters, so without further digital adieu, here are some of our favorite articles from the web and on Twitter this week.

First up, our moment of gratitude.  Thank our pal Sofi at Yahoo! Shine who included us in her article, Controversial Miss Travel dating site proves there’s no such thing as a free trip. Thank you as well to FOX News in Charlotte for the wonderful interview on online dating safety. We’ll post a link next week.

Over at CNN, Brenna Ehrlich and Andrea Bartz shared some of their favorite online dating sites in Three Niche Dating Sites for Targeted Romance. Their list included SingleFitPeople.com, TasteBuds.com for music enthusiasts and Tawkify, based on Klout scores for social media powerhouses, which we featured last week. On Huffington Post, I featured a story called, Puppy Love: New Online Dating Sites for Dogs. Shouldn’t your puppy find love on the Internet? One out of ten pets do have a Facebook profile. Are you in that percentage?

On Singles Warehouse, our friend Laurel House (@QuickieChick) gave her opinion on who should pay for a first date. Laurel believes in chivalry with the gentleman picking up the tab. What do you think? At Tecca, they posted Geeky Tales: 10  techie marriage proposals that worked. Our favorite pick was Digg employee Matt Van Horn’s “Proposal 2.0 Marry Me Leslie.” Of course, she said yes!

Our friends at YourTango are in the middle of their Online Dating Bootcamp. Our three best online dating tips are scheduled to post on April 29th. Our favorite tip this week was from Janet Ong, 10 Dos and Dont’s Before Meeting Mr. Online In Person.

As always, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

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Julie Spira is the leading online dating and cyber-relations expert. She’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online

Cyber Love Story of the Week – Dabney and Vic

Dabney and Vic - Cyber Love StoryAfter 15 years of marriage, Dabney was ready to start dating again. She created a profile on Match.com and went on just five lunch dates.

When she first spoke to Vic, the two had instant phone chemistry. Vic had his list of questions that he asked all prospective dates. Dabney passed the test with flying colors.

When the two finally met in person, they were both delighted that the phone chemistry matched their feelings in-real-life. Vic went to hold Dabney’s hand and she pulled back in surprise. Vic asked Dabney, “Did you feel that?” Dabney tells us, “It was electric.”

Dabney and Vic were fortunate to have felt a spiritual and soulful connection on their first date. Five years later, during a vacation in the Florida Keys, Vic proposed to Dabney. Dabney, of course said “Yes!”

Congratulations to Dabney and Vic, who prove that you can have a second chance at love while looking for love online.

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Julie Spira is an online dating, netiquette and cyber-relations expert. Visit CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and where you can sign up for the Weekly Flirt. Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

Online Dating in a Klout World – Tawkify Speaks Out

Klout Heart

Klout - Talkify

Most singles who I coach on finding love online aren’t aware of Klout, social media reputation, or the marriage of social media and technology.

Perhaps they see their percentages of a Match on OkCupid with their Quiver matches, where a 90+ match is worth responding to.

Often they’re matched up on Chemistry.com with their Builder/Negotiator, Explorer/Director, created by biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher.

Most singles just want to find love, with any algorithm they can find.

So what happens when you marry a new dating site, Tawkify, created by Cyber-Dating Expert’s friend and Elle columnist E. Jean Carroll, with social influence site Klout? Talkify is the first dating site to partner with Klout  to use the Klout scores as a measurement of allure and as a prediction of falling in love. Curious to hear more?

E. Jean tells Klout, “In a series of blind experiments (the thirty couples we matched were not told we were using their Klout Scores), we’ve found that Klout Scores will predict the brilliance or dullness of match—-and how quickly people will click.”

I have to admit, I do check my Klout score daily and it’s been steady at 61 for a while, where I’m labeled a “Broadcaster.” I now qualify for Tawkify’s “Red Carpet Vip Service.” Does that mean I need to meet someone else who is social media savvy with a 60+ score? Not really as the best relationships I’ve been in are with men who don’t tweet.  I’m excited to see how the two will work together and would be curious to see if a Klout personality type of “Broadcaster” will match nicely with a “Thought Leader” or “Celebrity” with an “Observer,” or even “Pundit” with a “Specialist.”

So how does Tawkify work? You fill out a profile, answer ten questions and on Monday night your phone rings with a match. I’m hoping if there’s no match, that they won’t deduct the credit from your account. Prices range from $8 for one match to $1499 for the miracle worker.(with a special New York Times offer of $250.

Another brand that I admire who has partnered with Klout is fashion site Gilt, where you get discounts based upon your Klout score.  We’ll be excited to share a Klout love story any day in our Cyber Love Story of the Week.

At the end of the digital day, online dating has finally moved to what I call social dating, and it’s here to stay.

Question: Would you value your date’s Klout score? Would you take a digital peek before deciding to go on a date?

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and social media strategist. She’s the CEO and Editor-in-Chief at CyberDatingExpert.com. As an early adopter of online dating, Julie created her first profile in 1994. Today, she writes irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and is an expert in mobile dating.  For more dating advice, Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.


Online Dating Tips for Spring Fever

Spring Fever
In case you haven’t noticed it yet, the change of seasons brings a new beginning for many singles looking for love online. There’s an abundance of men and women who have spring fever and are hoping to connect with you.

Whether your relationship recently ended, are newly divorced, or have taken a break from dating, we’re here to help you with your digital search. These lucky seven tips will speed the process so you won’t be wasting your time with Mr. or Ms. Wrong this spring.

1.  Be open to all of the possibilities. With the change of seasons comes a new attitude, both online and offline.  Outdoor cafes are filled with patrons again. Convertible tops are down, and it’s time to tune up your flirting techniques and jump back on the online dating saddle.

2. Dress it up. Appearance counts online and offline. After all, isn’t it your goal to turn that online romance into an offline relationship? Spend an afternoon spring-cleaning session in your very own closet. Recycle a dress or outfit in your closet and make it your first date outfit.

3.  Sensual Scent. Try a fresh new perfume or cologne to wear on your first online date. Hopefully your date won’t be allergic and will find your new scent appealing enough to put a second date on the calendar.

4. Going Mobile! Why wait to go home to meet your dream date? Download a mobile dating app and respond to your date’s email while it’s still fresh in your inbox. Here’s the Mobile Dating Expert’s list with some of our favorites.

5. Turn on your webcam. Many online dating sites now offer webcam or video chat as part of their features. Go ahead and put on your lipstick and comb your hair. Remember to smile. It’s show time. By using video chat, your potential honey will know it’s the real you and not your younger sister. This will prevent that disappointing look one receives when the photos of their online dates don’t match up in real life.

6. Renew and Refresh. If you’ve let your online dating account expire, go ahead and renew your membership. Refresh your profile with new photos and a new catchy screen name. Need a little help? Check out IRRESISTIBLE profiles, and we’ll help you in your quest to find love online.

7.  It’s a numbers game. We know that online dating can be a lot of work and is time consuming. So is finding your dream job and working out at the gym. Allocate an hour a day every day to your online dating site. Respond to, or write to at least 5 online profiles every day for one week and see what happens. Check out who’s viewed your profile or added you to their favorites or hot lists and send them an email. Initiate the conversation and you may find someone who will be so flattered to hear from you.

If you are lucky in love and meet the one online, let us know. We may feature you in the Cyber Love Story of the Week.

~The Cyber-Dating Expert Team.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and Editor-in-Chief at CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene.  For more dating advice, like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert



Cyber Love Song – Bruce Springsteen

Cyber Love Song of the WeekHappy Music Monday. This week, Bruce Springsteen’s Wrecking Ball Tour commences in New York at Madison Square Garden on April 9, 2012 and ends up on July 31, 2012 in Helsinki, Finland.

In honor of the Boss’ first tour in 3-years, we’re featuring one of our favorite rock-love songs, Dancing in the Dark.

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Cyber Love Links – Links to Love When You’re in the Mood for Love

Cyber Love Links

We hope you’re enjoying your holiday weekend.  It’s time to share our favorite stories shared on Twitter and on our site this week.

A timely post from our friends at  YourTango answers the question that mystifies many as to when is the right time to introduce your new GF or BF to your family.  Is it the Right Time to Bring Him Home for Easter or Passover? They were kind enough to include our recent video, What is Mobile Dating? at the end of the holiday post.

In her Love & Gratitude column, Rita Watson shared her inspiration on Psychology Today with Come to the Table of Love: An Easter and Passover Tradition.

Our friends at Zoosk announced their new Couples Profiles where you can continue sharing your love milestones on a combined profile. Our favorite Infographic this week comes from FreeDating.co.uk on Dating in a Virtual World. Find out if gentlemen prefer blondes and who falls in love at first sight the most.

Still nervous about online dating? Apparently Sinead O’Connor is looking for love online. Her profile is on Plenty of Fish and we wrote about celebrities who have joined online dating sites. Chemistry.com released their latest Top 10 Cities Survey that was a hot tweet with results that will increase or decrease your passion, depending on where you live.

Over at Glamour.com, we fell in digital love with this story, 10 Stellar Responses to Use the Next Time Some Rude Person Asks, “Why Are You Still Single?

Our favorite Quote of the Day came from BFFTips.com,  ”If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t, nothing will make him stay.”

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Wishing you much love and joy in Cyberspace, or wherever you man roam.

~The Cyber-Dating Expert Team

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Cyber Love Song – Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell – Ain’t Nothing Like the Real Thing

Cyber Love Song of the WeekToday, Marvin Gaye would have been 73 years old. In honor of his birthday, we’re featuring a love song, Ain’t Nothing Like the Real Thing, a beautiful duet that he performed with Tammi Terrell.

Happy Birthday Marvin

~The Cyber-Dating Expert Team

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