Marry Him’s Lori Gottlieb on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show where my guest, author Lori Gottlieb talked about her book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough.

Find out why women have a list of 300 deal breakers while men typically have only three. Listen to the show to find out exactly what those three traits will excite the man enough to want a second date.

Hear Lori’s dating advice and her experience with online dating.

Find out EXACTLY what it means to settle, why it’s not such a bad idea,  and how to find happiness in your relationship. Are women too picky? Listen to the show to find out.

Learn more about dating, love, and romance in a Web 2.0 World on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

Woman’s Day Guide to Online Dating

Woman’s Day just published their guide to online dating. Both eHarmony’s Gian Gonzaga and myself were featured in their guide.

They listed 12 important dating and relationship tips to be successful while looking for love online. Just how many people should you date at once? What are the keys to a successful Internet dating profile? Which are the most popular sites to try?

Read the article for the answers to these questions and to improve your odds to make your online dating experience more enjoyable.

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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Lori Gottlieb

Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira on Saturday, March 13, 2010 as she welcomes Lori Gottlieb, author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

Lori’s book is now on both the New York Times and Los Angeles Times bestseller lists. She has appeared on the Today show, Dr. Phil, CNN, and more.

Recently, I had the opportunity to talk to Lori about her book.  You can read Marry Him: A Conversation with Lori Gottlieb on Huffington Post.

Get your list of your questions ready for this rare opportunity to talk directly to the author and hear expert dating advice. Find out really what it means to “settle” and hear Lori’s personal experience with online dating and her quest to find Mr. Right.

Call in at 646-929-0012 at 2PM/EST, 12noon/CST, 11am/PST with your questions and to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

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Dating Advice: Top 10 Rules of Netiquette for Online Dating

The Top Ten Rules of Netiquette for Online Dating

1. The Google Rule – Googling your date. We all do it. It’s just too easy to find out the juicy details of the person you have on your date card. If you do decide to do a search, please don’t tell your date he or she has been “Googled” on your first date.  Can you believe some actually brag about the fact that they did a background check on you before your first date? If you choose to “Google” a date, it’s best to keep it to yourself.

2. The Cut-Off Rule – Authenticity Matters. I urge singles to be honest about their age and weight in their profiles. However, we all know that some people want to fit into a search and age is one of the biggest misrepresentations in a profile. If you feel compelled to stretch it, please don’t subtract more than 5-pounds off your actual weight or 5-years from your age on your online dating profile. I can’t force the universe to tell their correct age online, so If you do choose to subscribe to this cut-off rule, please come clean about your age either on the phone, in your profile, or on your first date– especially if you want to make it to a second date.

3. The Food and Beverage Rule – A man should not suggest sharing an appetizer on a first date, nor should he meet his date for coffee without the intention of ordering a beverage. I once went on a date where the man brought his own bottle of water to the coffee bar. Another date made a point of asking what my favorite cuisine was so he could select the perfect restaurant for dinner. He refused to order food after we sat down at the table. Neither of them made it to a second date.

4. The Valet Parking Rule – It’s just gentlemanly and chivalrous to offer to pay for the woman’s valet parking on a first date, especially if you like her and want to get to the second date. Is it worth standing on ceremony and not paying $5 for parking? It’s typically much less than the cost of the next cosmopolitan. You’ll get extra bonus points if you ask the valet parking attendant to bring her car first. Even if you aren’t interested in a second date, she will remember this kind gesture and
may have a friend to introduce you to. Make a great first impression.

5. The Ex Rule - Never discuss an ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, or ex-spouse on a first date. If your date insists on talking about spousal support or how happy they are that their payments are about to end, change the subject, or run. He’s just not over her or him.

6. The Body Parts Rule – Don’t discuss cosmetic surgery, vasectomies, or anything that personal in nature regarding your body parts. Yes, this does come up on first dates, and it should not.

7. The To Go Bag Rule – Don’t EVER, take your food from a first date to go in a doggy bag. And even more importantly, don’t request your date’s food to go in your doggy bag as well. The man who asked for the remains of his pizza crust to go along with the scraps of my salad didn’t make a good impression.

8. The Send Button Rule - When in doubt, don’t push the send button in an angry or emotional email that you’ve written when you are upset at your date. Sleep on it or send it to yourself instead. You can’t take it back. Your date’s revenge could be in forwarding your email all over the Internet. If it gets indexed by Google, you’ll have a hard time finding another date.

9. The Marriage Proposal Rule – Don’t give or accept a marriage proposal online or in a text message. If you think this hasn’t been done this before, give me a call! Falling in love from your keyboard or iPhone isn’t really love. It’s a false fantasy that you are in a relationship.

10. The Break Up Rule – Never break up with a significant other in an email or a text message. It’s just common courtesy to have a conversation and preferably in person. Do you really want to go down in history as the one who frequently dumps their dates in an email or text? Sure, celebrities are ending relationships in text messages these days. But is it right?

Excerpts from the bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online by Julie Spira
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Dating Advice – Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Dear Julie,

I’m a 42-year old male and have never been married. I’m Jewish and would like to meet a Jewish woman and have children. I’ve tried JDate and have met some nice women, but no one worth marrying.  I’d like a woman who is honest, kind, pretty, who must be politically and sexually compatible with myself. Do you think I’m too picky?

~Single Guy in LA

Dear Single Guy,

There are more women than you can imagine who are looking for a marriage-minded man. Especially one who is interested in having children. Focus in on the profiles of women that specifically say they are looking for children. Join more than one dating site to widen your search. Be open to the possibilities of meeting someone who is divorced and may want to have another child.

As far as politically compatible, join the political groups and attend fundraisers where you will meet women you know you can easily have a conversation with. Unless you are hopping into bed right away, you won’t know if you are sexually compatible. Chances are if the first kiss is good, it’s a sign of good things to come. Hang in there and go on at least 3 dates with a woman who matches your requirements in 3 out of the 5 categories. No one gets it all, all the time.

Good luck with your search.

Julie Spira

Julie Spira is known worldwide as the Cyber-Dating Expert. She creates irresistible online dating profiles for singles. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

Flirtexting on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show where Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz, authors of Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way to His Heart discussed the fine art of flirting on your BlackBerry’s and iPhones.

You’ll hear about the benefits of Flirtexting and why it works so well in our faced paced lives. The authors dished out dating advice and their thoughts about how to use text messages to improve the quality of your relationship.

Listen to find out just which one of the two was asked out to the prom via text message and how she felt about it.

Find out some texting do’s and don’ts and remember to put March 11, 2010 at 10:00am on your calendar, where the authors will be talking about sexting for the over 50 crowd on the Today show with Kathy Lee and Hoda.

Learn all of this and more on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio show where we talk about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

The Art of Love Radio Show

On Sunday, March 7, 2010, Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira will be a featured guest on The Art of Love radio show hosted by relationship expert, Lucia.

Listen to the program on LA Talk Radio at 3:00pm, PST for dating advice and to hear more about finding love on your favorite online dating site.

You’ll hear more about the top ten rules of netiquette for online daters from the book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Weekly Flirt

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Peril of the Week – Hero in the Dog House

A man enjoys being the hero in his woman’s life. When he lends a hand to help her and she shows her appreciation he feels good.

And so the story goes about a woman who was dating a man she met online.  Every day he did something to impress her. When she was a damsel in distress, he was at her side offering his expert advice. In time, he became her hero and he was a happy man. He proudly nicknamed himself, HRH – Her Royal Hero.

Both appeared to be happy until that pivotal point in the relationship. The date when they finally wound up in the bedroom for the first time. All of their pent up tension that led to their first night of passion. He said it was good for him. She thought it was good for her. One would think flowers would arrive the next morning or at least a phone call. However, the morning after that momentous evening, he was no where to be found. No email, no voice mail, no sweet nothings. He simply disappeared.

She secretly wondered, did she rush in to it? Was he really a typical guy who vanishes after he scores? She got mad. While he still had a smile on his face from the evening before, she had no idea. He broke a cardinal rule and didn’t call her the next day.

Rather than crying over spilled milk, she renamed her guy from HRH to HDH–Hero in the Dog House. Did she hear from her guy? Eventually, yes, but only after she let him have it. Apparently, he was just busy and forgot to call.  The moral of the story, if it’s more than a booty call and you really are interested in having a relationship with a woman you have slept with,  make sure you contact them the next day with some sweet nothings. An email or text won’t suffice. It’s dating advice – 101. You’ve become intimate. Make sure she hears the sound of your voice, even if it’s only a voicemail.

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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show With Flirtexting

Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira on Saturday, March 6, 2010 as she welcomes Debra Goldsetin and Olivia Baniuszewicz , co-authors of Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way to His Heart to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

Living by the moto, “we date therefore we text,”  Debra and Olivia, demystified the Flirtext in their first book! As single women gallivanting the NYC social scene circa 2006, they began noticing that their cell phones had become a crucial part of their dating lives. These savvy flirts quickly picked up on the fact that texting had become the NEW first step in dating. They knew they weren’t the only ones who were mystified by how the game had changed since texting was introduced; so they continued to date, flirt and text, until they felt they had successfully demystified this new flirting trend.

Debra and Olivia named this dating phenomenon Flirtexting^TM and put the rules down on paper once and for-all in their popular “how-to” guide, Flirtexting^TM.

If you’re interested in learning exactly how to flirt through the convenience of your iPhone or BlackBerry you won’t want to miss this show!

Call in at 646-929-0012 at 2PM/EST, 12noon/CST, 11am/PST with your questions and to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

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