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November 29, 2011
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Cyber Specials – Irresistible Coaching and Online Dating Profiles
November 28, 2011
Did you miss our Cyber Monday special?
No need to fret, there’s still time to have an irresistible online dating profile in time for the holidays.
For details and to orders yours, click here.
It’s Our Irresistible Anniversary Celebration
October 14, 2011
We’re jumping for joy at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters as we celebrate our IRRESISTIBLE anniversary all weekend long.
It’s been 3-years since we launched CyberDatingExpert.com as a site to help singles while dating in a Web 2.0 World. We’d like to thank you for helping us remain the #1 online dating expert site!
In honor of our birthday, we’d like to give you a gift to help you with your love life.
From Friday, October 14th through Sunday, October 16th, we will be giving our readers a free .pdf copy of our bestselling online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Click here to reserve your copy.
In addition, we’ll be answering your dating questions for FREE all weekend long. So do take a moment and join in on the fun. If you have a dating dilemma, let us know!
Now for a few bragging rights and in case you missed some of our highlights, we’re sharing our year-in-review for you.
Best Dating Blog Finalist
You voted for us for the best dating blog in the world and we became a finalist. Yes, there were thousands of votes and the competition was steep. CyberDatingExpert.com was a finalist in the 2011 Readers’ Choice Awards from About.com, a New York Times company. It’s with heartfelt thanks that we acknowledge your support.
In the News
From tips on using digital coupons on a date, online dating safety, breaking up in a facebook world, and our latest article on CNN, which was shared over 450 times on facebook, we were featured in many articles and programs about dating in a web 2.0 world. Our dating advice reached millions on multiple continents! Most of our media can be found in our press room. Here’s a sample of media outlets we’re so proud of being a part of this past year.
ABC TV, Ai inSite, Always New You, BBC, Bad Online Dates, Business 2 Community, CBS News, CNN, College Times, Columbia News Service, Cupid’s Pulse, Daily Buzz, Daily Kansan, Date Night Magazine, Dating Marketplace, Elle magazine, Examiner, Fabulous Living, Fast Company, First Wives World, Forbes, Forces PenPals, GalTime, GenConnect, Heartbeat Radio, Her Campus, Huffington Post, In York, JDate, John Tesh, KCSF, KFI Radio, KFWB Radio, KPSP-TV, KZSB Radio, Love to Know, Mancow Radio Show, MarketWatch, Match.com, Men’s Health, MSN Glo, NBC TV, North by Northwestern magazine, Pink Kisses, Pittsburgh Better Times, Planet Love Match, Power Connection show, Psychology Today, Redbook magazine, Romance Files, Safer Dates, She Knows, Single Edition radio, Single Minded Women, Singular City, The Joe Show, The Kilgore News Herald, The Look TV, The Sydney Morning Herald, The Times Herald, The Toronto Sun, TodayShow.com, Top 10 Blog, Uniquely You magazine, Wall Street Journal, WCHE Radio, WHK Cleveland, WLW Radio, Woman’s Day, Women’s eNews, Yahoo! Shine, and YourTango
In Real Life
I had the opportunity to meet many of you when I was a speaker at the Internet Dating Conference in Miami, 140 Conference in LA, West Hollywood Book Fair, as well as seeing you at BlogWorld, where I’ll be speaking about the Rules of Netiquette at 1:45pm on Friday, November 4th this year in Los Angeles.
Videos
During the past year, YourTango came to my home to shoot several dating advice videos for their Ask the Expert and He Said/She Said series. I was joined by colleagues Charles J. Orlando and Adam Sheck for the guys point of view. In case you missed them, here’s a list of videos for your viewing pleasure.
- Cell Phone Netiquette: Help My Boyfriend Won’t Put His Cellphone Away
- Should You Google a First Date?
- Can a Couple Get Past Infidelity?
- Should a Woman Propose to a Man?
- When Should You Change Your Facebook Relationship Status?
- Should You Kiss on the First Date?
Online Dating Minute Videos
Our Online Dating Minute featured social dating site Jazzed, which you can now see on the dating TV show Excused, as well as Match.com’s study about the relationship between dating and money, and more.
Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps
Back by popular demand and in conjunction with Social Media Week, we announced the Cyber Dating Expert Top 10 Mobile Dating Apps for 2011. According to Comscore, over 14 million people worldwide are now using mobile dating apps. They are now more popular than web dating on your computer. Why wait until you get home? It’s time to start dating on your cell phone. We included the super eHarmony iPad App, which ranked high on our list for iPad. View our post to see all the features of our favorites this year.
Online Dating Safety
We tackled a subject that breaks my digital heart, online dating safety. I was interviewed by ABC News, KESQ-TV, KPSP-TV, Online Dating Awareness, Sympatico.ca, The Sudbury Star, and Your Tango.
Your Online Dating Stories
We thank you for submitting your online dating stories for consideration in the Cyber Love Story of the Week and the Peril of the Week. Thank you for sharing your stories.
Irresistible Profiles
We’ve enjoyed working with singles looking for love online and have created irresistible profiles all year long. Contact us if you’d like to find the man or woman of your dreams!
From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for another amazing year of support. If you get a moment, do like us on Facebook and follow me on Twitter @JulieSpira.
Cell Phone Netiquette While on a Date [video]
October 11, 2011
Is he paying more attention to his mobile phone than you on a date? Watch my latest “Ask the Expert” video for advice on Dating in a Web 2.0 World.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and like her at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
I’m Taking Over the Your Tango Facebook Page
August 2, 2011
I do hope you’ll join me on Thursday, August 4, 2011 as I take over YourTango’s Facebook page. I’ll be answering your questions about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World as well as talking about my most recent article, Is Flirting on Twitter and Facebook Considered Cheating?
You can RSVP here to the invitation on Facebook. The online chat will be taking place from 2pm – 3pm Eastern Time.
Send us your questions in advance and get ready for an hour of FREE dating and relationship advice, as well as learning the dos and don’ts for online dating success. Now’s the time to ask the cyber dating expert anything! See you there!
Online Dating is More than Just Socially Acceptable
April 11, 2011
There’s seems to be no shortage of ways to find love. Last night, I was reading an article on Inc.com written by Tim Donnelly. Tim listed online dating and matchmaking as one of the best industries in 2011 for starting a business. Apparently everyone is joining in on the digital dating bandwagon.
According to the numbers from IBISWorld, there are 14,427 online dating and matchmaking sites in the United States. Cyber-Dating Expert, formed in 2008 is proud to one of them, helping singles create irresistible profile and find dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
Back in the early days of online dating, 15-20 years ago, you didn’t brag about. It’s only been in the past few years that the surge of online dating for the masses has become socially acceptable. Sites are popping up daily, and if you’re single and are on facebook, there’s a great likelihood that you’ve also signed up for one of the thousands of Internet dating sites.
Not a day goes by that I don’t hear another success couple which I enjoy featuring in the Cyber Love Story of the Week. But dating is a numbers game. You have to play to win. You also may need to widen your search to consider dating someone older or younger, and even change the radius of your search to meet someone in another city or country. I encourage you to change your zip code while traveling for vacation or business and to be open to the possibilities. There are over 96 million singles in the United States and over 116 million singles visiting online dating sites worldwide. There’s no excuse anymore. There are great singles out there finding love online. It’s time to dip your toe in and sign up for an online dating site.
Julie Spira is bestselling author an online dating expert. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com. Like her at facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert
Dating Advice in a Web 2.0 World – Radio Show
April 6, 2011
Many thanks to Marie Pijanowski, for featuring me as her guest this week on The Power Connection Show to talk about dating in a web 2.0 world.
We talked about the latest trends in online dating and I shared two of my favorite heartwarming stories from the Cyber Love Story of the Week. The first couple, Betty and Bob met on eHarmony and were married at the age of 70. There’s hope for everyone of all ages. The other couple, Evita and Billy who started their cyber romance on SKYPE. After he disclosed his physical disabilities, she still decided he was the one for her. They’ve been happily married for four years.
For those who have taken a break, it’s raining men. Yes, now that the holidays are over and spring fever is here, men are reappearing and are ready to find love online. Listen to hear more about the dos and don’ts for your online dating profile, so you can make your Internet dating experience an enjoyable one.
Wishing you much love in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
Dating with Discounts – Dating Dos and Don’ts
March 28, 2011
Groupon, Living Social, and a myriad of deal-of the day sites have sprouted up like wild-fire. It’s too tempting not to look at a deal in your city. So what’s a dater to do when the options are presented to him, but he wants to make a good first impression when he meets his online date?
I was asked a series of questions on the subject in relation to the New York Post article, Discount Dating, and as a coupon-cutter myself, have some strong thoughts on dating with discounts. If you follow these rules of netiquette for dating in a web 2.0 world, you’ll be on your way to a second or third date.
1. Should you tell your date if you’re using a discount? Or should you keep the Groupon in your pocket a secret? Why or why not?
If you’re meeting someone for the first time, bragging about your two-for-one discount won’t make you look good. She’ll think your entire courtship will be done on frequent flyer miles. It’s best to just hand the coupon to the server when you place your order. Your date will notice and will appreciate your tact and desire to impress her while staying on a budget.
2. If you do tell your date, when should you let them know? Before the date or during the date?
If your discount-dating offer is for a very specific menu item or activity, you’ll need to share that with your date at the time you sit down to order or meet. There’s no point in saying in advance, “I’d love to have a date with you and I’ll be using a discount coupon.” You’ll run the risk of her turning you down as your frugal ways won’t be filled with sex-appeal.
3. If you feel using discounts on a date is tacky, should you speak up? Or suffer in silence?
There’s nothing wrong with using discounts on a date as long as they aren’t the focus of your conversation. Saying, “Hey baby, do you want to go on a discount date with me?” or “I’ve got this great coupon” won’t impress her if you’re on a first or second date. If you’ve been dating for a while, you should feel comfortable in suggesting an outing that involves a discounted item or Groupon offering. Dating can be expensive and if you’re looking to impress your date, going for more than coffee may result in you getting a second date with the object of your affection.
4. What type of discount is best to use (a discount for an unusual activity like rockclimbing or shooting range lessons — or a more traditional date like 50% off dinner?)
Activity discounts are never looked down upon as cheap. The tricky part is grabbing your discount during a limited time period while hoping that your date will want to go rock climbing or white water rafting. There is something unique about activity dates where a woman will look the other way when the coupon is presented.
5. Is using Groupon OK for a first or second date?
Using Groupon on a first date for dining is just a step above asking someone to split an appetizer when you thought you were meeting for a full meal on your date. It can be awkward with someone you have just met.
You have a split-second to make a bad impression on a first date. I recommend saving the Groupon or deal-of-the-day offer for future dates once you’re more comfortable with each other. The only way Groupon is acceptable on a first date is when you go to a restaurant with a pre-paid purchase towards your meal. If you buy $50 worth of food at a great restaurant for $25 and it goes towards your total meal value, it’s no different than using a gift card that you might have received as a present. It’s best to downplay the use of Groupon or a deal-of-the-day coupon in front of your date early on in the relationship. If you’re worried you might make a bad impression by using Groupon or a deal-of-the day discount, or your deal requires that your date order a specific entrée, save your deal for future dates when you’ve gotten to know her better, or use your offer on your Guys’ Night Out.
6. What about using a Groupon discount for all of your first three or four dates with someone?
Using a Groupon type service on all of your first few dates will backfire on you. She may be the Coupon Queen at the grocery store, but dating a Coupon King just isn’t very sexy. He’ll come across as cheap instead of someone who’s smart about money.
7. Are there different do’s and don’t for men and women regarding these discounts? IS it OK for women to suggest using the discount?
There are so many stereotypes as it relates to dating and digital dating has it’s own set of rules. Women who use coupons are looked upon favorably by men. A guy will think she’ll be considerate about how to spend his money and that dating her won’t break his bank. Unfortunately, the opposite is true as it relates to men. A woman will look at a discount guy as cheap early on in the relationship. It’s best for a man not to suggest a discount on a first or second date. Bragging about his recent Groupon acquisitions just isn’t sexy to a woman.
8. Who should pay (man or woman) if a discount is used? The person who does the asking? The person who finds the coupon? Should it be split if the coupon is giving you 50% off?
Generally, men pay on the first date and most dates with or without a coupon. If the woman has purchased a Groupon or deal-of-the day coupon, it’s her way of offering to pay or at least contribute the value of the coupon towards the meal. Asking to split the cost of the Groupon or coupon is like asking someone to go Dutch treat. It’s a netiquette no-no.
8. Any other do’s and don’ts you advise when it comes to discount dating?
Discount Dating Do’s:
Do let your guy take the lead. If he suggests a discount dating event, feel free to suggest one for a future date.
Do expect to pay for your deal-of-the day or Groupon meal or activity if you purchased it on your own. Asking to be reimbursed is a netiquette no-no.
Do find plays or activities of interest to you and your date using deal-of-the-day or Groupon type specials.
Do downplay your Groupon or discount if it comes up while submitting it to the server. Make your date think she’s worth every moment and every cent.
Discount Dating Don’ts:
Don’t make every date a discount date. Select a restaurant or venue within your budget and vary it up.
Don’t make the subject of discount dating at the top of your list. It goes hand-in-hand with talking about your ex, and that breaks the rules of netiquette for dating.
Don’t take inventory of all of your Groupon purchases while on a date. Even at 50% off, it can add up and you’ll appear to have a spending problem.
Don’t complain to your date that they are cheap if they are using a discount dating offer. Dating can be expensive and if he wants to take you somewhere other than a coffee shop, appreciate his efforts to impress you and act like a lady.
Are you using discount coupons while dating? We’d like to hear your thoughts and comments.
Julie Spira is an online dating, social media, and netiquette expert. She’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Manners on the Web. Follow her on Twitter @JulieSpira. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com. Like her at Facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert
Meetcha Live on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show
September 18, 2010
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert
Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show where Julie Spira spoke with Jeff Taylor, founder of the new social and online dating site Meetcha.com.
Meetcha focuses on baby boomers and singles 40+ who are interested in meeting other singles in group settings.
Their features include:
* Easy to use Profile Builders
* Matching Engine to bring people together in a natural way with their common passions
* PODS – People out Doing Stuff, where the users can now create events
* Smiles, nudges and more
Learn about their less pressured way for singles to meet both online and offline and hear the results of their Dating Sex and Romance Survey. You’ll find out just exactly where coffee dates and romance rank for singles looking for love as well as how long boomers really do want to wait before becoming physically intimate.
Meetcha is offering Cyber Dating Expert listeners and readers a special offer of $3 for a 3-month membership, but you must sign up before 9/30/2010. Use the promo code of “cyber.”
Listen to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Jeff Taylor – Meetcha
September 16, 2010
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert
Join Cyber-Dating Expert and bestselling author Julie Spira on September 18, 2010 as she welcomes Jeff Taylor, founder of Meetcha to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.
Meetcha is a social dating site for ages 40+ that offers one-on-one matching as well as group dating. Their dating site that offers a more fun, less pressured way for singles to to meet and created the notion of PODS – People Out Doing Stuff, where groups with similar interest meet up.
Jeff was also the previous founder and CEO of Monster.com.
You’ll hear the details of their recently released Get Back Out There Dating, Sex and Romance Survey to find out what singles around the age of 40 are most interested in while looking for love online.
In honor of Jeff”s appearance, Meetcha is offering Cyber-Dating Expert listeners and readers a special offer of $3 for a 3-month membership during September, 2010. Use the code “cyber” to join.
Call in at 646-929-0012 at 2pm/Eastern Time, 12pm/Central Time, 11am/Pacific Time to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
