Flirtexting – How to Text Your Way Into His Heart

After a fun and fabulous interview with authors Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, I’m pleased to add their dating advice book, Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way to His Heart to the Cyber-Dating Expert Reading Room.

Their mantra in the book is, “We date,  therefore we text.” Flirtexting, according to the two, has become the new “first step” in dating.

Deb and Liv describe Flirtexting as “Any text message sent between you and a boy you would like to date or are currently dating (i.e., someone you would like to make out with or are currently making out with). These texts are normally comprised of the flirty, witty banter that you throw back and forth with each other that typically leads to a date and, if you’re lucky, then some.”

If you aren’t sure who should make the first move in the electronic generation, then this book is for you. You’ll learn about some fun and flirty ways to communicate with the opposite sex.

Some questions you’ll get answered include:

• Should a woman send a text message to a man to thank him after a date?
• What are the benefits of texting while dating?
• What are the do’s and don’ts of texting
• What is sexting and should you press the send button?

You’ll also find out which of the two authors actually was asked to the prom via text message.

It’s a fun and easy book to read and fits in nicely with our theme of dating in a Web 2.0 World.

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Dating Advice – Could your first boyfriend be “the one?”

Read my dating expert column on DateDaily.com, where one woman wants to know if her first boyfriend could be “the one.”

A man isn’t happy with any of the women he meets online and asked for some dating advice.  Could he be “too picky?”

Another  man wants to have sex with his girlfriend before they are married. Should he put a ring on her finger first and set a date?

Read the answers to these relationship questions from singles on Date Daily and feel free to comment!

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Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com where you can sign up for the Weekly Flirt and receive expert dating advice.

FIDM Debut 2010 Runway Show

It’s on the calendar every year. Those with a passion for fashion on the west coast anxiously await for the Fashion Week every March.

One of the treats leading up to Fashion Week is the FIDM Debut Runway show. It’s an exciting time for the students at FIDM, Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising in Los Angeles.  Over 10,000 people view the invitation-only runway show over a period of 3 days.

I attended the dress rehearsal along with other members of the Costume Council of LACMA as one our annual events.

The theme this year included FIDM’s Theatre Costume Design presentation: “FIDM goes to the movies – A Tribute to Judy and Liza,” complete with 2 Judy and Liza impersonators, a chorus line,  and film clips from their famous movies including, Easter Parade and The Wizard of Oz.

The event is supported by Industry Leaders and the business community. Proceeds from the evening will benefit the FIDM Scholarship Foundation. The event showcases exciting and unique collections from FIDM’s graduating students in Fashion Design, Theatre Costume Design, Interior Design, Textile Design, and Graphic Design Advanced Study Program.

Along with the excitement and festivities for Fall Fashion Week scheduled for March 17-24, 2010, I think I’ll do a bit of spring cleaning in my closet.

Marry Him’s Lori Gottlieb on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show where my guest, author Lori Gottlieb talked about her book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough.

Find out why women have a list of 300 deal breakers while men typically have only three. Listen to the show to find out exactly what those three traits will excite the man enough to want a second date.

Hear Lori’s dating advice and her experience with online dating.

Find out EXACTLY what it means to settle, why it’s not such a bad idea,  and how to find happiness in your relationship. Are women too picky? Listen to the show to find out.

Learn more about dating, love, and romance in a Web 2.0 World on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

Cyber Love Story of the Week – Lisa and Kevin

Lisa joined the online dating site OkCupid while she was still in college in southern California. She was busy working on her thesis on online dating for her major in Sociology so she thought she’d give the free site a try. She participated in their “quick match” game where each participant receives a picture and some information. She saw Kevin’s picture and clicked on “yes.”

Kevin was working as a computer programmer in northern California when he received an email from Lisa who lived hundreds of miles away. Fortunately fate brought them together when he also clicked “yes” when he saw Lisa’s photo. It was the epitome of a digital cupid!

As a student and waitress, Lisa couldn’t financially justify a flight up to San Francisco just to meet this guy she’d been talking to over the internet, so she painstakingly called in every favor of everyone she knew in order to get a job interview in San Francisco.  It took her 6 months to secure the interview and another month to pick her outfit (not for the job, but for their first date.) Oddly enough, she ended up getting the job, and was able to move up to the same city where Kevin resided.

Because they were so far away, and didn’t meet for so long,  they had the opportunity to do something that many people don’t get. They were able to get to know one another as friends. They hadn’t met in person, and didn’t want things to get romantic until they had done so. But they had such an incredible passion for one another, that they stayed up late every night talking on the phone for months, learning every detail about one another before their first date. Lisa and Kevin liked talking so much, that it was a short leap to full-fledged relationship. The first time he kissed her, she had this incredible jolt and  got the strongest feeling that this was the person she was going to kiss for the rest of her life.

The relationship grew quite quickly and she moved in with Kevin. They have now been together for 19 months and she couldn’t be happier with him than she already is.

Congratulations to Lisa and Kevin where a simple class experiment turned into a beautiful relationship of love.

For consideration in the Cyber Love Story of the Week, send us your stories!

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Woman’s Day Guide to Online Dating

Woman’s Day just published their guide to online dating. Both eHarmony’s Gian Gonzaga and myself were featured in their guide.

They listed 12 important dating and relationship tips to be successful while looking for love online. Just how many people should you date at once? What are the keys to a successful Internet dating profile? Which are the most popular sites to try?

Read the article for the answers to these questions and to improve your odds to make your online dating experience more enjoyable.

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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Lori Gottlieb

Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira on Saturday, March 13, 2010 as she welcomes Lori Gottlieb, author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

Lori’s book is now on both the New York Times and Los Angeles Times bestseller lists. She has appeared on the Today show, Dr. Phil, CNN, and more.

Recently, I had the opportunity to talk to Lori about her book.  You can read Marry Him: A Conversation with Lori Gottlieb on Huffington Post.

Get your list of your questions ready for this rare opportunity to talk directly to the author and hear expert dating advice. Find out really what it means to “settle” and hear Lori’s personal experience with online dating and her quest to find Mr. Right.

Call in at 646-929-0012 at 2PM/EST, 12noon/CST, 11am/PST with your questions and to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

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Julie Spira on The Mark and Brian Show

Listen to the Mark and Brian Radio Show on 955 KLOS where hosts Mark and Brian asked Cyberdating Expert Julie Spira about the Top 10 Rules of Netiquette for online daters.

Find out which of the Top 10 Rules from the book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating were their favorites as well as tips for your Internet dating profile on The Mark and Brian Radio Program.

Dating Advice: Top 10 Rules of Netiquette for Online Dating

The Top Ten Rules of Netiquette for Online Dating

1. The Google Rule – Googling your date. We all do it. It’s just too easy to find out the juicy details of the person you have on your date card. If you do decide to do a search, please don’t tell your date he or she has been “Googled” on your first date.  Can you believe some actually brag about the fact that they did a background check on you before your first date? If you choose to “Google” a date, it’s best to keep it to yourself.

2. The Cut-Off Rule – Authenticity Matters. I urge singles to be honest about their age and weight in their profiles. However, we all know that some people want to fit into a search and age is one of the biggest misrepresentations in a profile. If you feel compelled to stretch it, please don’t subtract more than 5-pounds off your actual weight or 5-years from your age on your online dating profile. I can’t force the universe to tell their correct age online, so If you do choose to subscribe to this cut-off rule, please come clean about your age either on the phone, in your profile, or on your first date– especially if you want to make it to a second date.

3. The Food and Beverage Rule – A man should not suggest sharing an appetizer on a first date, nor should he meet his date for coffee without the intention of ordering a beverage. I once went on a date where the man brought his own bottle of water to the coffee bar. Another date made a point of asking what my favorite cuisine was so he could select the perfect restaurant for dinner. He refused to order food after we sat down at the table. Neither of them made it to a second date.

4. The Valet Parking Rule – It’s just gentlemanly and chivalrous to offer to pay for the woman’s valet parking on a first date, especially if you like her and want to get to the second date. Is it worth standing on ceremony and not paying $5 for parking? It’s typically much less than the cost of the next cosmopolitan. You’ll get extra bonus points if you ask the valet parking attendant to bring her car first. Even if you aren’t interested in a second date, she will remember this kind gesture and
may have a friend to introduce you to. Make a great first impression.

5. The Ex Rule - Never discuss an ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, or ex-spouse on a first date. If your date insists on talking about spousal support or how happy they are that their payments are about to end, change the subject, or run. He’s just not over her or him.

6. The Body Parts Rule – Don’t discuss cosmetic surgery, vasectomies, or anything that personal in nature regarding your body parts. Yes, this does come up on first dates, and it should not.

7. The To Go Bag Rule – Don’t EVER, take your food from a first date to go in a doggy bag. And even more importantly, don’t request your date’s food to go in your doggy bag as well. The man who asked for the remains of his pizza crust to go along with the scraps of my salad didn’t make a good impression.

8. The Send Button Rule - When in doubt, don’t push the send button in an angry or emotional email that you’ve written when you are upset at your date. Sleep on it or send it to yourself instead. You can’t take it back. Your date’s revenge could be in forwarding your email all over the Internet. If it gets indexed by Google, you’ll have a hard time finding another date.

9. The Marriage Proposal Rule – Don’t give or accept a marriage proposal online or in a text message. If you think this hasn’t been done this before, give me a call! Falling in love from your keyboard or iPhone isn’t really love. It’s a false fantasy that you are in a relationship.

10. The Break Up Rule – Never break up with a significant other in an email or a text message. It’s just common courtesy to have a conversation and preferably in person. Do you really want to go down in history as the one who frequently dumps their dates in an email or text? Sure, celebrities are ending relationships in text messages these days. But is it right?

Excerpts from the bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online by Julie Spira
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Dating Advice – Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Dear Julie,

I’m a 42-year old male and have never been married. I’m Jewish and would like to meet a Jewish woman and have children. I’ve tried JDate and have met some nice women, but no one worth marrying.  I’d like a woman who is honest, kind, pretty, who must be politically and sexually compatible with myself. Do you think I’m too picky?

~Single Guy in LA

Dear Single Guy,

There are more women than you can imagine who are looking for a marriage-minded man. Especially one who is interested in having children. Focus in on the profiles of women that specifically say they are looking for children. Join more than one dating site to widen your search. Be open to the possibilities of meeting someone who is divorced and may want to have another child.

As far as politically compatible, join the political groups and attend fundraisers where you will meet women you know you can easily have a conversation with. Unless you are hopping into bed right away, you won’t know if you are sexually compatible. Chances are if the first kiss is good, it’s a sign of good things to come. Hang in there and go on at least 3 dates with a woman who matches your requirements in 3 out of the 5 categories. No one gets it all, all the time.

Good luck with your search.

Julie Spira

Julie Spira is known worldwide as the Cyber-Dating Expert. She creates irresistible online dating profiles for singles. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

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