With online dating, we’ve been told it’s all about the photo, as both men and women are visual.
Today, our friends at OkCupid have launched their Crazy Blind Date mobile app, where you go back to the basics of when your grandmother fixed you up, along with a technology twist.
In honor of the launch, you’ll feel a bit naked when you log on to OkCupid today, as the site celebrates “Love is Blind Day.” OkCupid has removed all ten million photos on their members’ profiles to create awareness of their new app.
Sam Yagan, OkCupid founder and Cyber-Dating Expert friend says, “People will say that Crazy Blind Date is too crazy.” He adds, “But for a whole generation of young singles, it’s going to be a great adventure, and a great compliment to online dating.”
One thing we know for sure, is that mobile dating does speed up the process to meet someone IRL. In our recent Mobile Dating BootCamp, several of the participants used OkCupid’s mobile app and other mobile dating apps to try to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. This app could help you if you’re looking for a last minute date or don’t want to be dateless on Valentine’s Day.
OkCupid says that Crazy Blind Date takes less than a minute of work:
- Download the Crazy Blind Date app for iPhone or Android
- Choose which nights this week you want to go on dates.
- Pick your favorite bar or coffee shop.
- Go on with your day; Crazy Blind Date does the rest.
Users are encouraged to share their dates on Twitter with the hashtag of #CrazyBlindDate and fees for the dates will apply.
Are you ready to go back to blind dating?
Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the host of Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp. Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @Juliespira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.
I’m often asked what’s the best dating site by singles that I meet and coach. While there’s no one-size-fits-all answer there are a few favorite Internet dating sites that I’ve been recommending. OkCupid is clearly one of my Top 5 favorites. Their mobile app, Ok Locals was included in the recent Mobile Dating BootCamp and was favorably received by the single contestants.
So when Britney Fitzgerald from Huffington Post Tech asked me for my opinion on OkCupid Dating No-No’s, I was happy to chime in. I shared not only my professional advice, but also those from the recent Mobile Dating BootCamp focus group which was held last month in Beverly Hills.
A main feature of OkCupid is answering their intriguing and often thought provoking questions. While you’re not judged and you’ll never fail the quiz, the site does give you percentiles for a Match, Friend, and Enemy. Having a match that shows you’re over 80% compatible usually raises some digital eyebrows in a good way and is a terrific ice-breaker to contact someone you might have a crush on.
So without further digital adieu, here are five of the 11 Dos and Don’ts for finding love on OkCupid.
Full article on Huffington Post
1. Don’t Answer all of the Questions
Some questions are best left unanswered. Be careful with those that seem too political or intimate in nature because this data is all over the Internet: You need to think every time you push the send button. For public answers, you should only pick the questions you would tell your mother [the answer to].
2. Don’t Exaggerate
There is a huge difference between fibbing about your height vs. your martial status. Single is single, and divorced is divorced. There is no status for Single–Divorce Pending.
3. Don’t Use Old Profile Pictures
If you’re thinking of putting up a profile pic from 2004 — reconsider. They are going to look you up on Google; they are going to look you up on Facebook. You’re thanked a lot for being recognizable and having truth in the advertising. So skip out on that glamour shot from the ’90s. And men — most of us agree that the muscle shot in front of the bathroom mirror is an automatic “skip.”
4. Don’t Be a Rude Rejector
Just like in real life, there are right and wrong ways to reject someone in the virtual world. I don’t believe in burning digital bridges. Why should you have to email someone and say, “Hey you’re not my type.” Dont say you’re not my type — you haven’t met yet! But if you really aren’t attracted, just move on. Don’t message them back, or simply thank them for the communication and wish them luck in their search.
5. Don’t Check Your Profile Obsessively
OkCupid’s popular free edition of its dating service comes with a few catches, one of which includes people knowing when you check into the site. While possible soulmates won’t know how long you’ve been online, they can view the time you last logged on. It can be very obsessive and dangerous to your emotional health. For example, what if you go on a great date only to realize that 30 minutes after you parted ways, your date accessed the site two more times that night? Take a deep breath and don’t jump to a digital conclusion.
Many thanks to Huffington Post for being included in this terrific article. Click here to read all 11 tips and feel free to chime in with your thoughts.
Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert. Julie was an early adopter of online dating and posted her first profile in 1994. Today, Julie creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
You might have your favorite online dating site, but did you know the Internet dating industry actually has their own awards ceremony, similar to the Academy Awards?
iDate Conference organizer Marc Lesnick emceed the 3rd Annual iDate Awards ceremony along with Mark Brooks from Online Personals Watch. It was an honor and privilege to also be a presenter at the event held in Miami Beach on January 24, 2012.
The Internet Dating Executive Alliance and dating site members and users had the opportunity to vote.for their favorites in 12 categories.
OkCupid walked away with 3 iDate awards, received by Sam Yagan, CEO and co-founder of the site. Gary Kremen, known for creating online dating back in 1993 by being the original creator of Match.com received a well-deserved special Lifetime Achievement Award. Gary was a Keynote speaker earlier in the day,
The complete list of winners are….
Best Dating Site – OkCupid
Best Dating Site Design – OkCupid
Best Dating Software Provider – White Label Dating
Best Mobile Dating App – Grindr
Best Dating Coach – Evan Marc Katz
Most Innovative Company – OkCupid
Best New Technology – Grindr
Best Up-And-Coming Dating Site – How About We
Best Marketing Campaign – Match.com
Best Affiliate Program – FriendFinder
Best Payment System – Paymentwall.com
Best Matchmaker – Julie Ferman, Cupids Coach/eLove
We’ll be posting video highlights from the conference with the latest in online dating safety, mobile dating, and letting you know about some of the new niche sites that might help while looking for love online.
Our friends at OkCupid have announced OkCupid Locals, a mobile dating app on iOS and Android to help you meet compatible singles more quickly than ever.
With OkCupid locals, you’ll find a blend of a Twitter-like broadcast feature, FourSquare location based feature, and data from the online dating site’s 8-million members.
From connecting at a sports bar to meeting up at a happy hour, simply broadcast your dating intentions and the digital genie will grant your wish with a list of compatible matches closeby.
A service like this will help avoid the weeks and weeks of emailing back-and-forth that many online dating site members feel frustrated with.
There’s no reason to stay dateless in your city anymore.
Are using mobile dating applications or location-based services to meet other singles? Comments and thoughts are always welcome and if you get a moment, follow me @JulieSpira on Twitter and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and to learn how to create an irresistible online dating profile.
One of the biggest pluses for OkCupid by their members has been the fact that they are a free online dating site. Singles have enjoyed their features and have been able to save more to actually spend on their dates.
There was speculation when they were acquired by IAC/Match earlier this year that they wouldn’t stay free for long. Their members were promised they would always be free. Well, almost.
If you haven’t logged in lately, you’ll see a big pop-up ad inviting you to become an A-List Member. Regularly priced at $9.95/month, they’re offering a special discount of $4.95/month.
So what will your benefits be if you decide to pay-to-play? Members are being promised that they’ll love OkCupid even more with so many extras.
The new features include:
- Browse anonymously and see visitors
- Ability to change your screen name
- Use the site ad-free
- Attach photos to emails
- Public and private photo albums
- Give unlimited awards
- Store up to 5000 messages
- Send messages to users whose inboxes are full
In addition, you’ll have digital bragging rights that you’re an A-List member, as you’ll be able to show off your swanky elite badge. At the end of the day, with 50% off, signing up for one year will cost less than one typical dinner date. My advice is it might be worth the splurge to stand out in the crowded digital playing field for less than $60/year.
For more information on their features, click here.
Julie Spira is a bestselling author and online dating expert. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and to learn how to create an irresistible online dating profile. Follow her on Twitter @JulieSpira and like her at facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert
“After being burned big time by my last relationship in 2007, I had officially given up dating,” said Valerie. She added, “My friends had been imploring me for years to try online dating, but I just couldn’t get past the stigma of it and was extremely concerned about the safety factor.”
Valerie thought the idea of a ton of strangers perusing her pictures and personal details would freak her out. Finally she joined OkCupid, and as an attractive female was immediately inundated by e-mails. She wasn’t interested in any of them until she received her first e-mail from Adam.
Adam had been home on a Saturday evening looking at some of the newest profiles on OkCupid, a weekly ritual for him. He believed in emailing a woman right away before she became swamped with emails and possibly gave up on online dating.
“Then I spotted this beautiful brunette with the handle ‘fleursetbonbons’. Ah, flowers and candy… so traditional for a woman, isn’t it?” thought Adam. Then when he read Valerie’s profile, he knew she was the type of person he was looking for. “Her profile said a lot about her personality and style and wasn’t just another, I love sushi and long walks on the beach type of diatribe,” Adam added. He didn’t expect Valerie to write back.
Valerie loved the fact that Adam was the first guy she’d seen on the site with the long haired, rock & roll, chiseled features look that she really went for. When she clicked on his pictures, she saw he also had an incredible smile, and was 6’4” tall, which she loved.
“I honestly wasn’t too impressed by his profile…he seemed a little too interested in beer and sports for my taste…but I decided to take a chance anyway based on the cuteness of his pics,” said Valerie. Valerie liked Adam because he was all about being real and there were no games involved.
Adam recalled, “I decided to email her and tell her as much, figuring all along I’ll never hear back.” To his surprise she did respond and they started communicating a lot. On their first date, they went to brunch and he brought her a dozen roses.
Adam and Valerie shared that they have a magnetic attraction to each other that grows every single day. “He’s caring, attentive, and kind to me. I miss him when we’re apart no matter how long we’ve spent together, and I love being in love with him, said Valerie”
“I would never have expected to meet someone that I could fall in love with online, so I encourage anyone who’s hesitant to take the chance…you really just can’t know unless you try,” Valerie added.
Even though the two currently live approximately 30 miles apart, they regularly see each other about 3-4 days per week and are already considering moving in together.
Congratulations to Valerie and Adam, our Cyber Love Story of the Week who wouldn’t let distance get in the way of love.
Do you have an online dating story to share?
There seems to be no shortage of studies on the subject of online dating and race.
Who contacts who, who gets more emails, and why singles are more comfortable contacting those with similar values and race has been researched by the University of California Berkeley as well as online dating site OkCupid.
The Berkeley study looked at 1 million online daters in the United States who were members of an online dating site in 2009-2010. Their findings included that over 80 percent of white singles prefer to date other white singles. Their study determined that that younger singles, males, and blacks would date outside their race. White singles, mostly females, and those skewing older preferred dating within their race. Feedback from University students was posted on YouTube and is posted below.
What does this all mean to online daters? It means that your inbox will be more full with potential suitors if you’re white. Plain and simple, Whites and Non-Whites like writing to White singles according to both studies.
I’d like to think that race shouldn’t matter in 2011, but apparently the Berkeley study shows that online daters are naturally drawn to photos of those within the same race.
OkCupid’s blogpost on OkTrends confirmed separately that White singles are the most popular on their site. 89% of the 82 million email messages researched in their post were sent to white singles according to What If There Weren’t So Many White People? I think it’s important to note that 74% of their members are white.
At the end of the day, online dating offers you the opportunity to cast a wide net and meet a variety of singles from different races that you might not meet in your neighborhood, should you choose to do so. Compatibility is personal and the choices are vast.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com. Like her at Facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert
It’s a happy day for free online dating site OkCupid, who was acquired today by Match.com for $50 million in cash, just in time for Valentine’s Day.
OkCupid, led by Sam Yagan has become the darling for online daters due to the ease of use and no cost entry fee.
How will this affect you as a member of both sites? Probably not at all. According to a press release, Greg Blatt, CEO of IAC, who owns Match.com, Chemistry.com, Singlesnet, People Media, and Yahoo! Personals, “OkCupid has been a real innovator in our space, and the dating environment they’ve created struck a chord with a younger demographic.” Blatt believes OkCupid is the best site in its competitive set.
OkCupid was the recipient of four awards at the Internet Dating Conference in January, including Best Dating Site, Best Dating Site Design, Most Innovative Company, and Best Up and Coming Dating Site.
Sam Yagan from OkCupid was featured guest on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show’s season premiere last year. To listen to the program, click here
My personal opinion? I recommend both sites regularly to my coaching clients. I think they’re in good company.
Are you a member of both OkCupid and Match? Comments are welcome and please do like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert
To remember 2010, we are pleased to share the best and highest rated show segments on Ask the Cyberdating Expert Radio Show during the calendar year.
All I can say is WOW! It’s been an amazing year filled with dating advice to help you while looking for love online. Over 37,000 loyal fans listened to the program, where we talked about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
Here’s our Top 10 list for the year for your listening pleasure.
1. The Frisky - Amelia McDonnell-Parry, editor-in-chief
2. Cupid’s Coach – Julie Ferman, founder
3. Liar Liar List – Beth Greenfield, founder
4. David Wygant - Dating Expert
5. Your Tango – Tom Miller, General Manager and columnist, Tomfoolery
6. OkCupid – Sam Yagan, CEO
7. Match.com – Whitney Casey, Relationship Insider
8. Senior People Meet – Dr. Terri L. Ohrbuch, The Love Doctor
9. People Media – Josh Meyers
10. Weopia – Dave Wilkie
The 2010 year also included well respected relationship authors and dating experts Andrea Syrtash, Lori Gottlieb, Dr. Carole Lieberman, Alix Strauss, Marie Forleo, Tina Tessina, Debra Berndt, Kristen McGuinness, Paige Parker, Dr. Diana Kirschner, Deb and Liv from Flirtexting, Cougar Expert Lucia, Carrie Seim, and Don’t Date Him Girl’s Tasha Cuningham.
We featured online dating sites and dating advice sites including Cosmopolitan – Ky Henderson, eLove – Paul Falzone, eHarmony – Dr. Gian Gonzaga, The Wing Girls – Jet and Star, Brainiac Dating – Lawrence Chernin, Cupidtino – Mel Sampat, Perfect Match – Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Speed Date – Dan Abelon, Single Edition – Sherri Langburt, True – Herb Vest, Scientific Match – Eric Holzle, Opposites Connect – Larry Wilson, Meetcha – Jeff Taylor, and SKOUT Mobile Dating – Christian Wiklund.
A special mention goes to this year’s launch of the new digital dating cards with Lori Cheek from Cheekd and Rachel DeAlto from FlipMe Dating. It was an honor to feature Harvard Professor Michael I. Norton on the subject of virtual dating.
All of the programs can be heard at blogtalkradio.com/cyberdatingexpert
We’ll resume again in 2011 and look forward to hearing more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
1. The Frisky
2. Cupid’s Coach
3. Liar Liar List
4. David Wygant
8. Senior People Meet
9. People Media
Our friends and OkCupid have analyzed 526,000 profiles of their members to see the differences between men and women, as well as compare their white members to their Asian and African American membership base.
What did they find? It appears that both women and men of all races love sushi.
White women like getting dressed up, romantic movies, dirty dancing, country music, and Eat Pray Love.
What White Women Like
On the other hand, white men like Harley Davidson, hockey, and the big lebowski.