7 Online Dating Tips to Get Lucky for Valentine’s
January 29, 2010
It’s almost two weeks until Valentine’s Day. There’s no need to hide or ban wearing red until February 15th. Read my dating advice on JDate’s advice site, JMag for singles who would like to get lucky in love by Valentine’s Day.
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Cyberdating Tips for the New Year
December 31, 2009
Happy New Year
As we count down the minutes and hours until 2010, it’s time to ring in the New Year with some cyberdating tips for the new decade.
If you found yourself alone again this holiday, it’s time to take a personal inventory of what you truly want in a relationship. Here’s my dating advice for those looking for love online.
1. Cyber-Dating Tip #1 – Narrow down your search. Do your friends complain that you are too picky? Have they stopped fixing you up? There’s nothing wrong with knowing exactly what you want in a relationship. Remember, no one really gets it all. We are an imperfect society. Make a list of what is most important to you. Number it from 1-10. Now, focus on the first 3 items on your list. Is it Religion? Bicycling? Hiking? Strolling through museums? Put those key words in your search. You might be delighted to see what pops up.
2. Cyber-Dating Tip #2 – Reach out and reconnect. Did you get too busy during the year and miss out on meeting someone you started to communicate with online? Take a look in your Inbox and find those you found interesting but didn’t have the time to meet. Reach out and send an email with a simple, “Happy New Year.” If their profile is still online, assume they haven’t met “the one” yet. It may be a time for a new beginning for both of you.
3. Cyber-Dating Tip #3 – Refresh your profile. If you are satisfied with the online dating profile you currently have, edit a few words here and there. Your profile will become refreshed and chances are will show up higher in a search.
If you are looking for some online dating sites to choose from, visit our Dating Community for some that I recommend. If you are ready for a new look, check out IRRESISTIBLE Profiles to help you stand out in the crowded playing field.
Happy New Year and all the best for 2010.
Julie Spira is a dating coach and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com
Book Review – SHE KNOWS
October 3, 2009
Book Review: The Perils of Cyber-Dating
SHEKNOWS Love Sexy Single Column
by Margeaux Baulch Klein
Author Julie Spira encounters every breed of man in her new tell-all memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Online since 1994, Spira is a self-proclaimed internet dating pioneer, having gone on over 250 blind dates, receiving several marriage proposals and then marrying (and later divorcing) someone she met online. Spira has turned her dating horror stories and romantic journeys – both the good, bad, and, quite literally, ugly – into a witty memoir that every woman whose ever dipped her toe into the online dating pool will appreciate.
For starters, Spira compares a woman’s online dating profile to a real estate listing:
“In real estate, the first week that your house in on the market is important because if it’s priced correctly, professionally staged, and marketed well, it generates a lot of leads. Hopefully a qualified buyer will show.”
She also offers a “Top Ten Rules of Cyber Dating Netiquette” in Chapter 9 that is one of the best parts of the book. Here are a few tips she endorses:
ONLINE DATING TIP #1:
Don’t knock-off more than 5-10 pounds off of your weight or 5-10 years off of your age on your dating profile. ”It’s always best to be authentic and tell the truth,” she says, “but anything more than that is just too noticeable. You will find yourself meeting someone who won’t be so happy to see you.” In her list of common profile definitions, she also notes that if a man lists his age as 40-something, it means that he’s a 50-something who wants a 30-year-old female.
ONLINE DATING TIP #2:
Don’t Google a potential date before having the opportunity to see if there is a connection. Partly due to her own embarrassment over a New York Times wedding announcement that she wishes didn’t come up when people searched for her, Spira believes that it’s too easy to misconstrue or jump to an incorrect conclusion about a piece of informationwithout knowing its context.
ONLINE DATING TIP #3:
“A man should not suggest sharing an appetizer on the first date, nor should he meet his date for coffee without the intention of ordering a beverage.” Spira hates cheap men.
ONLINE DATING TIP #4:
Don’t discuss ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands, or anything to do with body parts, extramarital affairs, and long lost loves on a first date. Spira declares that information should be rationed over the course of getting to know someone.
ONLINE DATING TIP #5:
Don’t cyber-fight. Although it’s tempting to hit ’send’ and launch an angry missive into cyberspace, Spira recommends sleeping on any upset or hurt feelings. “When in doubt, pick up the phone to get that real connection,” she says.
Even after two failed marriages and four engagements, Spira believes in remaining a “hopeful romantic.” She is still in search of her happily ever after.
For more info on The Perils of Cyber-Dating, visit CyberDatingExpert.com
Dating Expert Provides Advice for National Singles Week
September 15, 2009
***MEDIA ALERT***
Cyber-Dating Expert Provides Online Dating Advice for National Singles Week
September 20 – 26, 2009
September 15, 2009 Los Angeles, CA Julie Spira, best-selling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online offers her Top 10 Rules of Netiquette for online daters.
Online Dating is a Hot Topic
- National Unmarried and Single Americans Week is September 20 – 26, 2009
- There are Over 90 million Singles in the U.S. (source: US Census Bureau)
- Almost half of the single population in the U.S have tried online dating
- The desire to couple-up increases as we get closer to the holiday season
Dating coach and media personality, Julie Spira is available for your news show during National Singles Week.
Spira helps singles:
- Create an IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile
- See the red flags and spot the bad boys
- Communicate effectively with the opposite sex with her Rules of Netiquette
- Determine the signs of an unavailable man
Julie Spira has appeared on Cyberguy on KTLA, FOX News Strategy Room, FOX-5 in San Diego, and numerous other media outlets including CosmoGirl Radio, Glamour.com, and BBC Radio with her expertise in the field of online dating.
To book an interview, contact julie@CyberDatingExpert.com or 310-433-7786.
Visit her at www.CyberDatingExpert.com
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Marilyn Anderson
July 25, 2009
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert
Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with my guest, comedienne and author Marilyn Anderson.
Marilyn is the author of the funny dating book, Never Kiss a Frog: A Girl’s Guide to Creatures from the Dating Swamp
On the show we learned about her new upcoming webisode series, I Married an Einstein, and were treated to a guest appearance from Benny and Bunny Einstein, who give internet dating advice to singles.
Marilyn provided us with some kissing tips from her book and described her funny frog types including:
- The Croak and Dagger
- Count Frogula
- Full of Bull Frog
- Sir Frog-a-lot
Enjoy her humor in this segment. You will be guaranteed to have a laugh or two, while listening to her online dating advice.
Singles Day at Tikkun Holistic Spa
July 9, 2009
Join me for a very special Single’s Day and book signing event on Sunday, July 26, 2009 at the new Tikkun Holistic Spa in Santa Monica.
Stop by at 12:00 pm where I will be on hand signing copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online
Relax with a *Free* by invitation only Spa Day Pass to this stunning Korean style spa which was recently written up in Daily Candy!
The VIP complimentary Spa Day Pass includes:
- Himalayan Salt Room
- Lava Room
- Clay Room
- Green Tea Jacuzzi
- Steam and Sauna
- Refreshments and hors d’oeuvres
- Free Dating advice
To make the event fun and interactive, each single woman must bring a male friend and each single man must bring a female friend. Think about who you might want to introduce to your best friend and bring them along!
Additional premium services including hot and cold stone massage, Korean body scrub, massages and more will be offered at a 20% discount off the regular rates for today only.
Who: Cyber-Dating Expert, Julie Spira and Tikkun Holistic Spa
What: Single’s Day at Tikkun Holistic Spa
Where: 1460 4th Street, Santa Monica, CA
Why: Meet and mingle with other singles and enjoy the beautiful spa facilities
When: Sunday, July 26, 2009 noon-1pm, book signing and mingling. 1pm-6pm Enjoy the spa!
How: Each single woman needs to bring a male friend & each single man needs to bring a female friend
RSVP to Tikkun Spa at 310-319-1111.
To view their list of services check out www.tikkunspa.com
Love Life Makeovers with Gina Hendrix
November 28, 2008
Are you interested in hearing more about Cyber Dating? Listen to Cyber-Dating Expert, Julie Spira, who was a recent guest on Gina Hendrix’s fun and flirty radio show, Love Life Makeovers. Gina, a professional matchmaker and owner of Selective and Single asked Julie some very personal questions about her love life, her viewpoint on Internet dating, and her personal rules of netiquette from her upcoming book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating:Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Listen to the podcast now and hear some online dating tips from an expert.
Don’t forget to sign up for your free newsletter and free copy of the Top Ten Rules of Netqiuette at cyberdatingexpert.com.
