VIDEO – Is Texting Preventing You From Dating In Real Life?
January 29, 2012
You’ve met that someone special and have great online chemistry. Watch our video to learn the right time to take your relationship from online to offline.
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The Love Issue – Online Dating Dos and Dont’s
January 17, 2012
Fashion magazine is celebrating with a very special February issue devoted to love. With Valentine’s Day just a few weeks away, I was asked to contribute to their article, Love Among the Laptops.
In this in-depth article, we looked at Facebook, Twitter, BlackBerry Messenger, Google searches, and the high-digital pressure act of friending and unfriending someone you’re dating.
Read how to deal with the new challenges posed by dating in the online age. An excerpt from the article is below.
With appreciation, many thanks to Siofan Davies for quoting me in the story, along with Sherrie Schneider, co-author of the famous relationship book, The Rules and follow-up, The Rules for Online Dating.
Julie Spira, the L.A.-based author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online says the urge to research a prospective date is natural. “Do a Google search, make sure they work where they say they work and that there’ nothing bad about them,” she begins. This is sensible advice my mother would appreciate. “We also want to make sure their Facebook photos match their online dating photos, and find out if we have any friends in common. The next thing would be, well, let’s friend each other.” Her reasoning. Well no, don’t friend each other. ” Her reasoning: Just as you will be mining his profile for useful or petty information, he will undoubtedly be mining yours. “You still want someone to get to know you,” says Spira. “If everything they get to know about you is because they saw it on Facebook, what’s left to talk about?”
For the full article, pick up a copy of Fashion magazine, Canada’s number 1 beauty and fashion magazine, where you’ll find the story on pages 81-86. If you aren’t in Canada, I’ve attached the .pdf of the article here: Fashion Magazine – Love Among the Laptops. As always, comments are welcome.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert, bestselling author, and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. For more dating advice follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and like her at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert
Weekly Flirt – New Year’s Dating Resolutions; Sealing the Deal Book Launch
January 11, 2012
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October 6, 2011
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I’m Taking Over the Your Tango Facebook Page
August 2, 2011
I do hope you’ll join me on Thursday, August 4, 2011 as I take over YourTango’s Facebook page. I’ll be answering your questions about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World as well as talking about my most recent article, Is Flirting on Twitter and Facebook Considered Cheating?
You can RSVP here to the invitation on Facebook. The online chat will be taking place from 2pm – 3pm Eastern Time.
Send us your questions in advance and get ready for an hour of FREE dating and relationship advice, as well as learning the dos and don’ts for online dating success. Now’s the time to ask the cyber dating expert anything! See you there!
5 Ways to Botox Your Online Dating Profile
June 8, 2011
If you’ve suddenly become single or have an online dating profile that’s over a year old, guess what? Chances are your profile is as outdated as your resume from 10-years ago, which is still sitting in a drawer. If this sounds familiar, it’s time for your dating profile to be reviewed and get a digital facelift.
My friend Lisa Johnson-Mandel, author of Career Comeback talks about ‘How to Botox your resume.’ I was a recent guest on her television show, “This Week in Careers,” where I realized that her strategies for resume revisions would also apply to Internet dating. Hence, I decided it’s time for me to share some tips on how to “botox” your online dating profile. I promise it will be painless and won’t break the bank.
This doesn’t mean that you need to make an appointment with your cosmetic dermatologist for expensive injections, but it does mean that some of your wording, especially keeping an outdated screen name, may send a message to your perspective dates that you’ve been on the site too long. He or she may quickly move onto a fresher and more appealing profile. Lisa provides tips that I highly recommend on how to look younger in a job interview. I’ll take it a step further for matters of the heart.
It’s a competitive digital landscape and you must appear as the fresh new face to get noticed. Here are some tips to Botox and refresh your online dating profile.
- Screen name revision. If your screen name included your age such as Ken53 and your date of birth on your profile indicates that you’re 56, it will appear that you hadn’t been successful in finding love online for three years. Even if your two-year relationship just ended and you’re back again as a new profile, take the age off completely, especially if it’s inaccurate.
- Discard the glamour shots. We all know that nothing is more important than your profile photos. If you invested in glamour shots years ago, it’s time to toss them away, along with the “big hair” look. Replace them with more natural activity photos that are represented on your Facebook or social networking sites. If your online dating profile photos don’t look anything like your current Facebook photos, your perspective date will find out quickly and will be turned off, or possibly even walk out on the date.
- Update your wardrobe. Any photos showing clothing with padded shoulders or last year’s trendy styles should be deleted from your profile. Get rid of the little black dress and add some new photos with bright colors that will help your profile photo stand out from the thousands of thumbnails in his or her search. Confidence is in. Sexy is out. Photos of men with bare chests or women with too much cleavage may result in getting more views of your profile, but it doesn’t mean you’ll find the man or woman of your dreams. Leave the lingerie shots for the bedroom, not for mass advertising on your Internet dating profile.
- Toss out confusing photos. If you are seen with a mustache and beard in one photo and are clean-shaven in others, it will confuse the person viewing your profile. Toss out the outdated photos for your current look to avoid disappointment. This applies to hair color as well. If you were brunette in the fall, auburn in the spring, and blonde in the summer, make sure you only post photos with one hair color–your present one.
- Delete any reference to your children’s ages. If your kids were 8, 10, and 12 when you wrote your first profile and they’re now driving age, you and your profile will appear outdated. Mention your three terrific kids in your profile, but don’t provide details of their dates, weddings, or graduations. You can always talk about that on the phone, in an email, or in person.
Other tips to keep your profile on the top of a search include changing the order of your photos and add new ones, periodically update your screen name and your bio description, and log on daily to show that you’re active and are serious about meeting someone.
For more help in creating your irresistible online dating profile, contact us at CyberDatingExpert.com and we’ll work with you to personalize your experience and help you while looking for love online.
Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Like her at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and follow her at Twitter.com/JulieSpira
Online Dating is More than Just Socially Acceptable
April 11, 2011
There’s seems to be no shortage of ways to find love. Last night, I was reading an article on Inc.com written by Tim Donnelly. Tim listed online dating and matchmaking as one of the best industries in 2011 for starting a business. Apparently everyone is joining in on the digital dating bandwagon.
According to the numbers from IBISWorld, there are 14,427 online dating and matchmaking sites in the United States. Cyber-Dating Expert, formed in 2008 is proud to one of them, helping singles create irresistible profile and find dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.
Back in the early days of online dating, 15-20 years ago, you didn’t brag about. It’s only been in the past few years that the surge of online dating for the masses has become socially acceptable. Sites are popping up daily, and if you’re single and are on facebook, there’s a great likelihood that you’ve also signed up for one of the thousands of Internet dating sites.
Not a day goes by that I don’t hear another success couple which I enjoy featuring in the Cyber Love Story of the Week. But dating is a numbers game. You have to play to win. You also may need to widen your search to consider dating someone older or younger, and even change the radius of your search to meet someone in another city or country. I encourage you to change your zip code while traveling for vacation or business and to be open to the possibilities. There are over 96 million singles in the United States and over 116 million singles visiting online dating sites worldwide. There’s no excuse anymore. There are great singles out there finding love online. It’s time to dip your toe in and sign up for an online dating site.
Julie Spira is bestselling author an online dating expert. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com. Like her at facebook.com/cyberdatingexpert
5 Post-Valentine’s Tips for Online Dating
February 17, 2011
Whew! You made it through Valentine’s Day, or did you?
If you’re single, you might have stayed home and pulled the sheets over your head until the clock struck midnight. Other singles that I heard from gathered together for the evening and sipped a few cocktails together and then went home alone. It was agonizing. It was painful. I know, you don’t want to have another Valentine’s Day alone, which is why you’re visiting this site right now.
So, as the bearer of good news, we’re heading into March Madness and Spring Fever will be around the corner. What does this mean for singles? It means the holiday season from Thanksgiving through Valentine’s is thankfully over. The men who disappeared in the weeks leading to Valentine’s Day are resurfacing right now since the holiday pressure has subsided.
So toss away your favorite red dress for a moment and let’s talk about some online dating tips to get your profile noticed and rise to the top.
1. Start from Scratch. If you still like your current site, you don’t need a makeover of your present profile. What you need is a brand new profile originating from a new and unique email address. If you’ve taken a break from online dating and are ready to jump back in, don’t refresh your existing profile. Retire it permanently and start from scratch. This way you’ll show up in a search as “brand new” and you’ll be the fresh new face in the digital playing field.
2. Change Your Catchy Screen Name. Let’s face it. Your current screen name isn’t really that catchy is it? If so, you’d be riding into the sunset with someone right now. Think about a name that doesn’t describe you to your girlfriends. You’re writing to attract a quality man and he doesn’t want to hear about your shopping expeditions. While you may be a fashionista and will look great on a date, he’ll think you’ll be spending all of his money while gallivanting at the mall and won’t be spending time with him. Think about what you’d like to do together as a couple. What activities and interests will you have in common? Imagine spending them with your dream guy. Pick three different catchy screen names and rotate them on your profile headline. Don’t describe yourself as pretty or beautiful as you will seem shallow. Men are visual. They’ll notice how you look in your profile photos. You’ll know soon enough which names get the most attention.
3. Be Realistic. I’m not saying don’t be picky. Wanting a Renaissance man who makes $300,000 a year and will give you back massages and write you love notes all day long is not realistic. Whatever you have on your list, cut your list in half to show the absolutely most critical things you want in a partner. Our goal is to help you find love and a meaningful relationship. I know you can find it online and I’m here to help you do so.
4. Spend One Hour a Day Online. You say you’re too busy to spend one hour searching through profiles and finding quality men to date? If you can find time to go to the gym three times a week, meet your girlfriends for drinks, and attend business networking events, then you must allocate one hour a day to devote to your love life. I know you’re already logging onto Facebook up to an hour every day. While you’re checking the latest status updates and commenting, cut that time down and visit your online dating site.
5. Two is Better Than One. Online dating is a numbers game. Fortunately, there are over 1500 sites to pick from. My suggestion is to sign up for one mainstream popular site that has a lot of active members and select a second niche site to post another profile. If you’re wondering what a niche site is, it’s one that focuses in on your hobbies or religious beliefs. There are sites for book lovers, vegetarians, pet lovers, and those with medical conditions. There truly is someone for everyone. Visit our Dating Community for some sites that I recommend.
Make this spring your time to find the love that you truly are looking for. If you need personalized help with your online dating profile, you’re not alone. Contact us to find out more about coaching programs at CyberDatingExpert.com/Irresistible Coaching. We’ll help you create an irresistible online dating profile to attract your dream date.
Cyber Dating Expert – Best Dating Blog Finalist, Readers’ Choice Awards
February 11, 2011
We’re jumping for joy at Cyber Dating Expert Headquarters!
Our site, Cyber-Dating Expert, the dating advice blog created as a lifestyle site for online daters, has been nominated as a finalist in About.com’s 2011 Readers’ Choice Awards.
It’s such an honor and without you, our readers, this wouldn’t have been possible, so we thank you for your votes. If you’d like to see us win, you’ll have the opportunity to vote daily until March 8th. Click this link to vote for Julie Spira – Cyber Dating Expert for Best Dating Blog.
Here’s a little history about Cyber Dating Expert and why I started this site:
Created in 2008, Cyber-Dating Expert was launched to support the online dating industry and single daters looking for love online. Originally, the stories were all from my personal dating experiences, and there were many. We launched with two very popular features, the Cyber Love Story of the Week and the Peril of the Week, where singles and couples can share their online dating stories. Some are heartwarming, some are heartbreaking, and some are simply hilarious.
As an early adopter of the Internet, I created my first online dating profile in 1994. After personally going on hundreds of dates after a painful heartbreak and then finding love on the web, I memorialized my story in my bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Being a former rock and roll DJ, it was time to dust off the headphones and go back on the air. We launched Ask the Cyber Dating Expert Show on Valentine’s Day in 2009 with Shayan Zadeh, co-founder of social dating site ZOOSK as our first guest. Since that time, we’ve featured hundreds of online dating CEOs and bestselling relationship authors on the program. Offline, I spend a lot of time helping singles find love online through my irresistible coaching programs, including creating irresistible profiles for daters.
In addition to the articles on Cyber Dating Expert, you’ll find my dating and relationship advice on Date Daily, eHarmony, GenConnect, JDate, Match.com, YourTango, and Zoosk. I also write about the marriage of love and technology on Huffington Post and our press room is filled with hundreds of articles and interviews to help you with your cyberdating journey. It’s been an honor and pleasure to have reached millions of singles and I’m personally touched by your support.
Cyber Dating Expert is not only a labor of love, it’s a destination site for singles who have learned to spice up their love lives with our Love Potions recipes, regular dating advice, and recommended books in our Reading Room.
Votes are being accepted from now through midnight EST on March 31st. You can vote for us daily. If you love our content, let us know and help us win!
