On Sunday, October 2, 2011 from 10am – 6pm, join me at the West Hollywood Book Fair, where I’ll be autographing copies of my bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

The event will be held at West Hollywood Park and at the new West Hollywood Library at 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. in West Hollywood.

Among the festivities and featured authors, you’ll have the chance to see Jane Fonda, Dyan Canon, Meredith Baxter, Jackie Collins, Marcia Clark, Julie Newmar, Hal Needham, Tatum O’Neal and more.

The event is free and will include 300 featured authors, 12 stages, and 25,000 guests.

I’ll be at the Womens National Book Association Booth # B8-B9. If you can’t find me, just sent a tweet to @JulieSpira.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert, social media strategist, and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com, Rulesof Netiquette.com, and SocialMediaMore.com.

As part of our Irresistible Valentine’s Celebration and in anticipation of Dr. Gian Gonzaga’s appearance on Ask the Cyber Dating Expert Show, 10 lucky readers and listeners will win a signed copy of the eHarmony Guide to Dating the Second Time Around.

If you’re looking for a love that lasts, you’ll want to participate in this fun contest. All you need to do is Like our page on Facebook, and comment on the wall about your most romantic Valentine’s Date ever. Winners will be selected daily from now until Valentine’s Day.

Don’t forget to tune in to Ask the Cyber Dating Expert Show on Saturday, February 12, 2011 at 2pm/EST, 11am/PST at blogtalkradio.com/cyberdatingexpert.
Join in on the fun, share your online dating stories and win a rare autographed copy of Dr. Gian Gonzaga’s book during our Irresistible Online Dating Celebration.

*Winners will be notified privately and must be in the continental U.S.

It’s with great pleasure to add the eHarmony Guide to Dating the Second Time Around to the Cyber Dating Expert Reading Room.

The book, edited by Dr. Gian Gonzaga, Ph.D, director of research and development at eHarmony Labs gives proven methods to finding a love that lasts. Many people are finding themselves single after a long term relationship or marriage. Whether through divorce, death, or a painful breakup, this book will give you some exercises and tools as you jump back into the dating scene. Like the online dating site eHarmony, the book is focused on serious minded singles who want a long term committed relationship or marriage.

For those of you starting over again, it’s a terrific guidebook to evaluate what you want in your relationship at this stage of your life. You’ll reflect on past relationships on what worked, what you didn’t like, and will take inventory of your personal life.

In addition, I’m delighted that Dr. Gonzaga will be my featured guest on the Valentine’s edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, scheduled for Saturday, February 13, 2011 at 11am/PST. He’ll be talking about the book in more detail, so I hope you do listen in.

Read the latest book review from Cupid’s Pulse along with my personal interview about The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

More than 40 million singles are dating online.  With around 2,500 online dating sites to choose from, how can you navigate your way safely and find love on the Internet?  Julie Spira’s tell-all memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, can help.  You’ll follow her on her 15-year journey – which included 250 online dates – as she navigated the web in hopes to find an Internet mate to replace someone she thought was the love of her life.  Through her romances, heartbreaks, and personal rules of “netiquette,” Spira shares invaluable first-hand knowledge on the best ways to date online.

Cupid’s Take:

Online dating has it’s own set of rules.  Remember to be safe and savvy when on the web.  Cupid caught up with the Spira via e-mail this week.  Here’s what the author had to say:

Cupid: You were one of the first people to delve into the world of online dating. Were you scared? What were other people’s reactions?

Julie Spira: At the time I created my first online dating profile in 1994, I wasn’t scared at all.  I fully embraced the Internet both personally and professionally.  But, since online dating was not mainstream at that point, I told very few people that I was meeting my dates from online dating sites.  I told some close friends who I thought could benefit from online dating and helped them with their online dating profiles.

Cupid: What’s different about cyberdating (as compared to traditional dating), and how can people adapt to it?

JS: The main difference between cyberdating and traditional dating is that you are meeting someone that you haven’t met before in real life and you are getting to know them from behind their computer screen.  Online dating, Internet dating, and cyberdating are all terms used for those using online dating sites, chat rooms, video dating, and social dating sites.  This also includes social networking sites such as Facebook and MySpace.  In order to completely embrace online dating, one needs to be comfortable using their computer.  It’s also important to be very organized as you may receive hundreds of emails in the first day or two.  I[n] order to be successful, if you create a system that helps keep all of the replies and emails sent, you’ll be able to communicate with your dates with their background information.  If you are already using Facebook to communicate with friends, it’s the next logical step.

Cupid: What have you seen change about the online dating world since you started?

JS: When I first started dating online, Match.com hadn’t been launched yet.  There were very few sites to pick from.  It was a much simpler process without all the Web 2.0 bells and whistles.  You weren’t seeing video dating and text messaging wasn’t an option in the U.S.

Cupid: What is your relationship to online dating now?

JS: As an online dating coach, I help singles create their irresistible online dating profiles and work with them to search the best possible matches.  I also help them decide which sites to join and teach them how to craft and email introduction and response that will grab the attention of those profiles they select.

Cupid: What are your top 5 netiquette rules for cyberdating?

JS: My Rules of Netiquette from my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, include:

1. The Google Rule – If you Google your date before you meet them, don’t let them know on the first date.  You’d be surprised how some people actually print out the Google results and start questioning their date about specific entries.  It’s not appropriate first date material and no one wants to feel like they are on a job interview or under the microscope.
2. The Food and Beverage Rule – If you ask a date out for coffee, be prepared to order a beverage for her and yourself.  I have heard stories many times where either someone arrives with their own water, or simply does not order a coffee or tea for their date.  You should assume that a coffee date includes a drink, and a dinner date includes some form of food.
3. The Ex Rule – Don’t talk about your ex-wife or husband, ex girlfriend or boyfriend, or spend time talking about the past.  You’d be surprised that some talk about their spousal support, or a relationship that didn’t work out on the first date.  Keep it light and leave the baggage at home.
4. The Send Button Rule – My mother always says, “If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone, don’t say anything at all.”  Too often someone gets mad and drafts an email and pushes the send button.  When in doubt, send it to yourself.  You might feel differently in the morning.  Once you push the send button, you can’t take it back.
5. The Break Up Rule – Never break up with a significant other in an email or a text message.  It’s just common courtesy to have a conversation and preferably in person.  Do you really want to go down in history as the one who frequently dumps their dates in an email or text?  Sure, celebrities are ending relationships in text messages and on Twitter these days.  But is it right?

Most importantly, be authentic.  Authenticity is really in style now.  With over 400 million members on Facebook, it’s easy for someone to see if your photo on your online dating profile does not match the recent birthday or vacation pictures on Facebook.  We know that many singles lie about their age in their online dating profiles to fit into a search, but the truth will come out when you meet in real life.  You start out on a bad foot if you are lying about your age, weight, and height.  Enjoy the process and look at cyberdating as a way to increase your social and business networks in the event it doesn’t turn into a romantic relationship.

Cupid thanks Spira for her time!  For more information and dating advice, visit her site, CyberDatingExpert.com.

Join bestselling author and CyberDating Expert Julie Spira at the West Hollywood Book Fair on Sunday, September 26, 2010.

Spira will present and sign copies of her book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online from 10:00am – 12:00pm at Booth E63 and E64.

In addition, she will be providing online dating profile critiques and dating advice for singles on the dating scene.

EVENT DETAILS

Who: Author, Julie Spira
Where: West Hollywood Book Fair, 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. West Hollywood, CA
When: Sunday, September 26, 2010
Time: 10AM to 12PM (Booth E 63 and 64)
Cost: *Free*

ABOUT THE PERILS OF CYBER-DATING

“The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” is a romantic tell-all memoir spanning over 250 online dates in almost 15 years. The book is filled with heartfelt, witty, and hilarious stories. Julie Spira, a pioneer in the Internet industry, became the first on her block to post an online dating profile. You’ll follow her journey as she skillfully navigates the web, hoping to replace what she once thought was the love of her life with a new Internet mate. Combining her fairytale romances and disappointing heartbreaks with her personal “rules of netiquette,” Spira provides priceless knowledge about the most effective ways to date online.

Full Press Release>>>

This week, Single Edition interviewed me about my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Read about one of the funniest dates I had experienced in the 1990s, how to find the right dating site for you, and how I differentiate myself from other dating coaches. I discuss the changes in the Internet dating landscape in the past 15 years as well as social media marketing tools that helped define my brand of Cyber-Dating Expert.

Click here to read full article>>>

As part of the first-annual New York Book Week, Julie Spira, bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, was selected as the first of ten authors to be featured in the Library’s Meet the Author Series.

Spira talked about why she wrote her book on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 and read excerpts from two chapters. Following her presentation, she answered questions from the audience about the Internet dating industry as well as provided dating advice and tips for singles looking for love online.

“It was an honor to be selected by the New York Public Library at their “Meet the Author Series” during New York Book Week and to engage with the readers,” said Spira.

Spira donated a copy of her book to the New Amsterdam branch. She also signed copies of her book at Book Expo America on May 26, 2010.

New York Book Week was created by Book Expo America (BEA) to coincide with the publishing industry’s largest conference in North America.

New York Book Week included public “main stage” author programs at venues such as Times Talks, the 92nd Street Y, and the main branches of the New York Public Library and Brooklyn Public Library, as well as smaller events at other libraries in the NYPL system and chain and independent bookstores throughout New York City and its boroughs.

New York Book Week embraces all literary and book activity, and expands the awareness of authors, books and publishing.

To purchase a copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating, click here>>>

For media appearances and interviews, visit CyberDatingExpert.com/contact

***MEDIA ALERT***

Julie Spira—Cyber-Dating Expert Now booking Media Appearances in New York City from April 19-24, 2010 and May 24-27, 2010

Best-Selling Author to be Featured-Speaker at The 140 Characters Conference

Los Angeles, CA, March 23, 2010 – Julie Spira, best-selling author and online dating expert will share her expertise on dating in a Web 2.0 world along with other distinguished guests on the panel “Experiencing: Love, Dating and Romance in the Real-Time Web” at the Twitter 140 Characters Conference on April 21, 2010.

A worldwide authority on online dating, Spira will share with an international audience of social-media enthusiasts, Twitterholics, tech-heads, and cyber-singles her tips for finding love online.

Spira, recently named one of the “Top 10 Dating Advice Columnists to Follow on Twitter” by YourTango.com, is honored to participate on this first-time panel to discuss online dating in real time. The cyber-dating expert has been a frequent media guest and has been quoted/featured in/on The New York Times, CBS News, ABC.com, FOX News, the Los Angeles Times, Glamour.com, and Men’s Health. She was a recent guest on The Mark and Brian Radio Show on KLOS-Los Angeles and was featured in the Woman’s Day Guide to Online Dating.

Online dating is HOT TOPIC and a multi-billion dollar industry.

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Julie Spira will share her secrets with your audience including:

How to create an IRRESISTIBLE Online Dating Profile
How to become the woman EVERY man wants
The 5 Secrets to Finding Love Online
The Top 10 Rules of Netiquette for Online Daters
How to Attract More Quality Dates and Become a Man-Magnet
How to spot the RED FLAGS in an Online Dating Profile

An early proponent of online dating and social networking, Spira is a source of expert advice, authoritative information, and inspiration to millions of singles searching for meaningful love-connections through online dating sites and social networking.

Spira is the author of the best-selling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She is the host of the radio show “Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert.” Her dating advice appears on eHarmony Advice, The Huffington Post, Your Tango, Date Daily, LA Dating Advice – Examiner.com, and on ZOOSK – the largest social dating site on the Web.

Spira will be appearing at Book Expo America in May, 2010 where she will be signing copies of her book.

To book an interview, contact Julie@CyberDatingExpert.com or call (310) 433-7786.

Visit: CyberDatingExpert.com/press-room

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As we celebrate both Valentine’s Weekend and the anniversary of my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, we have put together a very-special Cyber Love Basket filled with romantic goodies to spice up your love life. The new, sexy, and romantic Cyber Love Basket will be raffled off on Valentine’s Day at the Love Panel at An Empowered Woman in Bel Air, CA.

What’s in the Cyber Love Basket and how can you be eligible to win?

Attend the Second Sunday Love Panel on February 14, 2010. Receive dating advice and relationship tips from experts Dr. Pat Allen, Julie Spira, and Lucia. Stop by the CyberDating Expert table and purchase an autographed copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. The first 30 who purchase a copy of the book will immediately receive a VIP Cyber Swag bag worth over $125 (including a one-hour private massage and olive butter steam hair treatment). Everyone who purchases the book  will be entered into the drawing  for The Cyber Love Basket, now worth over $1800!

Here’s what’s inside the Cyber Love Basket:

• One bottle of Champagne
• One private coaching session or IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile from Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira
• Five one-hour private massage sessions from Beyond Physical Therapy
• Hair and Beauty makeover from Steven Crithfield of Claudio d’ Italia in Brentwood
• Chocolate Aphrodisiac hearts and love birds from Diana Phillips Chocolatier
• Five private one-hour Pilates sessions from Beyond Physical Therapy
• One 1-hour Tantra Session from Embody Tantra
• Two tickets to Lock and Key Events
• One beautiful painting, “The Power of Love” from artist Sandra Cooper aka R. Vega
• One 3-CD Music collection, “Straight from the Heart” from SHOUT Factory
• One DVD movie, “Yoga- An American Journey”
• Diva High Maintenance Drama Candle Collection

To purchase tickets to the Second Sunday Love Panel, click here>>>

Thank You to our Sponsors and Supporters

Arthur Klein, Sandra Cooper, Beyond Physical Therapy, Byu-ti Salon, Steven Crithfield,

Diana Phillips Artisan Chocolatier, Embody Tantra, Lock and Key Events, Klean Bath and Beauty, Shout Factory

It’s an honor to be listed as one of the 5 must-read books for women this season by Sherri Langburt of Single Edition.

Ladies, step away from the Kindle. Leave your Nook on the night table. It’s time you pick up a real paperback novel. With this in mind, the Single Edition editors rounded up some of our favorite reads from the past year, from the women we love to love! From break-up recovery plans to single gal self-empowerment and relationship tactics, there is something for everyone on this must-read list.

The Perils of Cyber Dating: For the millions of singles searching for love online, author Julie Spira imparts cyber-dating savoir faire, interspersed with her outrageously hilarious virtual experiences. With more than 250 dates under her belt in less than 15 years, Ms. Spira is a matchmaking maven who offers the right tips and pointers to help you get lucky in love online.

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