Now that it’s February, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. I’ve always said that Valentine’s Day for a woman is like the Super Bowl for men, so pick up some red candy hearts, grab your lipstick, and read our 10 tips to prepare for the Super Bowl of Love, Valentine’s Day.
1. Do discuss Valentine’s Day with the person you are dating. If one of you loves the holiday and the other can’t bear it, come up with a compromise. Valentine’s is on a Tuesday this year. Pick a night for a romantic dinner in between the Super Bowl and Valentine’s and avoid the high-priced dining reservations.
2. Don’t wait until the week before to ask her to spend the Valentine’s with you. If you are dating someone special and you know for sure you’d like her to be your Valentine, ask her out at least two weeks in advance.
3. Do make a dinner reservation for February 14th, even if you’re dateless on February 1st. Go ahead and reserve a table and be open to the possibilities. You can always cancel the reservation when it gets closer to Valentine’s Day, if you haven’t already developed a new crush during crunch time.
4. Don’t ask her out for Valentine’s Day in an email or a text message. This is the time for you to either pick up the phone and call or better yet, ask her in person if your relationship is going well.
5. Do try in-room dining this year. Light some candles, cook up a simple meal in the kitchen together and look forward to a steamy dessert.
6. Don’t go overboard with flowers. It’s the thought that counts. Stop by your local grocery story and pick up one long stemmed rose. It has the same impact as the full dozen and is 1/12th the price.
7. Do accept invitations for Valentine’s dances and parties the weekend before February 14th if you’re single. You won’t feel alone with so many other singles in a fun and flirty setting. Wear pink or red for the occasion and say yes if someone asks you to be his or her Valentine. You may not fall in love with your Valentine, but you might just find a new loyal friend.
8. Don’t make gift giving too much pressure. You may still be paying off your credit card bill from the holidays. A card, a hug, and some lingerie and massage oils will make a memorable evening and won’t break the bank.
10. Do wake up in the morning and wish your loved one a Happy Valentine’s Day in a voicemail, email, or text message to let them know that you’re looking forward to spending the evening together. If you’re friends on Facebook and have posted your status as “In a Relationship,” take it a step further and wish them a Happy Valentine’s Day on their wall.
9. Don’t be blue if you can’t be with your sweetheart on Valentine’s Day. Schedule a SKYPE date, wear red, put on your lipstick, and flirt the night away with your long distance love.
Do you look forward to or dread Valentine’s Day? We’d like to hear your comments.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt and Like us at Facebook. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira
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The two met on an online dating site and moved in together about a month ago. A few weeks ago, Ella took a peek at his laptop and under his web “history” she saw that he had revisited the online dating site which they met on. When she confronted him, her boyfriend said he had logged on to delete his profile, which could be true. He reassured her that she had nothing to worry about.
This week, she viewed his web browser’s history again from a few months ago. While cyber snooping, a pop up of a girl came on the screen with an option of rating her.
She’s perplexed as her boyfriend was the one who suggested taking down their profiles. She wants to know whether to confront him about the pop up ad, or leave it alone.
She asks, “Is there a problem? Or is the history and ads the issue? What should I do?
My answer to Ella is as follows:
Seek and you shall find. What are you doing cyber snooping on his computer anyway? If you trust him and the history is not recent, let it go and focus on the relationship. Even if he notices other women, he’s a guy. It’s normal. It doesn’t mean he wants to break up. It doesn’t mean he wants to have sex with other women.
He asked you for a commitment and offered to retire his online dating profile. If he thinks you’re going to question him and interrogate him on his past digital history, he might decide you aren’t the woman for him. Take a break from snooping and focus on your relationship. A man loves a confident and secure woman. Not one who raises suspicions on a regular basis and who he can’t trust leaving his computer in the same room with.
Enjoy your time together and focus on your romance.
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