Out of Work? Zoosk Says Try Your Luck at Dating

August 19, 2010

My friends over at social dating community Zoosk surveyed their members this month to learn more about the relationship between money and dating during the present economic climate. The good news for men is, if you’re unemployed, more women will want to date you than a year ago.

According to the study, 60% of women said they’d date someone unemployed. Compared to 52% in 2009, women are now adjusting their expectations in the available dating pool.

The study also revealed that 90% of men said they’d date someone unemployed. Is it still only about looks for men?

So how are these online daters spending their money? The Zoosk study says that 90% of men say they usually pick up the tab on a date. It also appears men are spending more money on the average date than they did a year ago.The women on the other hand, are spending less than they did a year ago.

More singles are taking advantage of free activities than a year ago.

Should you tell your date you are unemployed? According to Zooskers, the answer is yes. 83% of men and 93% of women agree that if you’re out of work, you should reveal it right away.

Has the economy affected the ways that you date? Are you attending more free events? Let us know your thoughts. Comments are always appreciated.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and dating coach. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

iDate 2010 Update – The Internet Dating Conference

June 27, 2010

Julie Spira at iDate

Ravit Abelman, Omnidate and Julie Spira, Cyber-Dating Expert at iDate

Twice a year the online dating industry gathers in the U.S. to discuss the latest trends in Internet dating. The conference, called iDate, was held last week in Beverly Hills at the SLS Hotel concurrently with the Social Networking Conference. The event started with a 3 hour presentation by Google followed by the evening party at the Stone Rose Lounge hosted by Elitemate.

This year I was a speaker and presenter on Web 2.0 Dating: Using Social Media to Create Brand Loyalty.

I spoke about Twitter marriage proposals and celebrity breakups and how Facebook has become the third largest country in the world. Social media is successfully keeping users engaged and informed with meaningful updates, dating advice, and well-deserved bragging rights of their success stories.

One of the examples of dating 2.0 I spoke about was, social dating site Zoosk. Zoosk has done an excellent job in creating brand loyalty through social media. When they reached their 1 millionth “fan” on Facebook, they celebrated by creating a video called What is a Milion to thank those who now like their page. They posted it on the Zoosk blog, on their Facebook page where over 200 fans commented and over 600 said they liked it.  They posted their video on their YouTube channel for Zoosk TV, where they have over 4500 views for this one celebratory video.

Other examples I presented included online dating newcomer, Brainiac Dating. Their Facebook page features profiles and photos of singles looking for love online. Several online dating sites use social media to engage their fans. eHarmony‘s Facebook page gives advice to daters. A sample update of theirs is, “Picnics make great casual dates, especially in the summer. What are some good picnic ideas?” Lavalife has a contest on their page where you can vote for the Top 10 singles. Match.com congratulates their success couple of the week, and JDate include their success stories on their pages.

I provided a list of online dating sites on Twitter. Sample tweets from online dating sites included eHarmony_Jack: “Are you in love or are you infatuated?”  Match “How do you break up with someone you met online? 25% of Happen readers said on the telephone.” OkCupid: “Speaking of faced and attractiveness..has the recession made you more beautiful?”

iDate 2010 - The Final Debate at the Internet Dating Conference

I participated in the conference highlight, The Final Debate, along with Elitemate’s CEO Victor Daniel, Mark Brooks from Online Personals Watch, Karinna Kittles-Karsten from Sacred Love, Tai Lopez from Niche Enterprises, Violet Lim from Lunch Actually, and Frederick Vallaeys from Google adwords.

Mobile dating was clearly a hot topic at the conference. Thank you to Marc Lesnick, head of the Internet Dating Conference and Mark Brooks from Courtland Brooks for the opportunity to speak at this well-respected event about Dating 2.0 and Social Media.

The next two Internet Dating Conference events will be held in Paris, France on September 15-17, 2010 and in Miami, Florida on January 19-21, 2011. If you missed my presentation and would like to hear more, contact me at CyberDatingExpert.com/contact or Social Media and More.

IRRESISTIBLE Coaching

June 10, 2010

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Welcome to IRRESISTIBLE Coaching by Julie Spira, where we help you fall in love in a Web 2.0 World.

Why select IRRESISTIBLE Coaching?

  • Your friends are no longer setting you up
  • You spend Saturday nights home alone
  • You need a date for a special event
  • You want to get married
  • You keep attracting unavailable men
  • You want to meet MORE quality dates
  • You see and hear about success stories from other online daters and wonder why it hasn’t happened to you
  • You’ve tried online dating, but it hasn’t worked for you yet.
  • You’ve been on too many FIRST DATES
  • You want to expand your social network

With IRRESISTIBLE Coaching, you’ll get the following:

  • An online dating profile so IRRESISTIBLE, you’ll end up with an overflowing Inbox
  • Work with a dating coach and expert who has over 15 years of experience on multiple sites
  • Increased self-esteem to attract MORE QUALITY available singles into your world
  • Become a MAN MAGNET and find your dream date
  • Learn how to EXACTLY find the man of your dreams
  • Master the art of FLIRTING to keep a man captivated
  • Know what to wear, say, and do on a first date
  • Customized dating analysis, just for you
  • Know EXACTLY how to create an initial email to get more quality responses

Sign up now for IRRESISTIBLE Coaching


Here’s what they are saying about IRRESISTIBLE Coaching with Julie Spira

  • “Julie’s dating advice has changed my life and led to dozens and dozens of dates!” ~Robin-48
  • “My Cosmo Radio girls are always asking how to date online. Julie knows her stuff like no one else. She is truly the pioneer of online dating.” ~Diana Falzone, Host-Cosmolicious, CosmoRadio
  • “ I worked with Julie Spira to rewrite my online dating profile. With her help and coaching, I was able to find more quality women to write to online.” ~Dean-35
  • “I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t attracting quality men online. Julie Spira looked at my profile and with her suggested changes, the type of guys that have reached out to me have greatly improved.”~Brady-25
  • ” Julie helped me create a new Internet dating profile that described me in a better way to attract more quality men. It didn’t take long before I started to receive more emails from men that I was interested in.” ~Janice -56

Zoosk TV Interview with Online Dating Expert Julie Spira – Part Two

May 24, 2010

In Part Two of my Interview series by Social Dating site Zoosk, I share my tips for creating your irresistible online dating profile and talk about the future of mobile dating.

Click here for Zoosk Interview, Part One>>>

Social Dating Site Zoosk launches ZooskTV [Video]

April 23, 2010

Writing about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World is a passion of mine. Giving hope to singles with an email address that they can successful find love online has become my mission and calling. Experiencing the real time web through social networking, mobile apps, facebook apps, and reconnecting with high school sweethearts and long lost friends while meeting new ones IRL has changed the world we live in, mostly for the good.

When my friends at  Zoosk asked me to be their first dating expert to be featured in ZooskTV’s new interview series, I was more than flattered. The Zoosk team came to my home, and I had the opportunity to meet my virtual friends and talk about one of my favorite subjects, how to use the real time web to find love and friendship online.

ZOOSK now has over 1 million fans on their Facebook Page and their social dating app is used by over 50 million people around the world.

View the video for dating and relationship advice and some personal thoughts of my own. Comments are always welcome. Thank you Zoosk for helping me spread my message to your vast universe of members.

ZooskTV Interviews Online Dating Expert Julie Spira

Visit the Zoosk blog for more>>>

Countdown to the 140 Characters Conference

April 13, 2010

The 140 Characters Conference in New York is only one week away. We are counting down the days and I’m excited to be participating as a character in the first-ever dating panel: Experiencing Love, Dating, and Romance in the Real-Time Web. Make sure to mark your calendars for April 21, 2010 at 8:45am. I’ll be sharing the stage with Your Tango’s Tom Miller, @TomFooleryTM and dating expert @ScotMckay.

The event will be streamed for those who can’t make it. It is shaping up to be the largest gathering in the world of people interested in the effects of the real-time Internet on both business and “we” the people. I’ll be in New York all week meeting with editors, publishers, and broadcasters and will keep you posted on my media schedule and will be tweeting live from the event.

If you are in the New York City area, tickets are still available for $140 at 140Conf.org

Jeff Pulver has been working night and day to make this a memorable event. Other speakers include Today Show’s Ann Curry, Wine TV’s Gary Vaynerchuk, California Secretary of State Debra Bowen, Donny Deutsch, John Kremer, Ivanka Trump, MC Hammer and more. For a complete list of speakers visit http://nyc2010.140conf.com/speakers-2.

Besides meeting my twitter friends in real life, I’m delighted to announce that I will be signing copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the schmooze lounge on Wednesday, April 21st from 10:00am-10:45am.

It’s going to be an exciting time for those in the social media world. I look forward to seeing you there.

I’m a Character, You’re a Character – The 140 Conference in New York

February 22, 2010

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It’s with great excitement that I share with you that I’ve been selected as a character in the upcoming 140 Characters Conference – Exploring the State of Now,  to be held in New York City on April 20-21, 2010. The panel will focus on dating and is called, “Experiencing: Love, Dating and Romance in the Real-Time web.”

According to Jeff Pulver, “This event is shaping up to being the largest worldwide gathering of people interested in the effects of the real-time Internet on both business and “we” the people.”

When I attended the 140 Characters Conference in Los Angeles in 2009, I had a conversation with Jeff about the 2010 New York event. I told him the importance of including a first-time dating panel at this conference. I explained the huge growth of online dating and the popularity of dating in real time with people hooking up on Twitter, Twitter marriage proposals, and the huge growth of mobile dating. I promised him it would be a fun panel. I didn’t want to disappoint those in the Twitterverse.

I am pleased to announce that on the panel I will be joined by my friends and colleagues Thomas Miller of Your Tango, known for his column Tomfoolery, and dating coach Scot  McKay. Both Tom and Scot have been guests on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert radio show and I have met both of them in real life.

The 140 Characters Conference will feature some of the most important people in social media and on Twitter. I will be in good company along with Gary Vaynerchuk, MC Hammer, Ann Curry, Shelley Palmer, Ivanka Trump, Alexis Maybank, and Donny Deutsch. Over 140 characters will share the stage at the 92nd Street Y.

If you have a Twitter dating story to share, please let me know.

For a complete list of characters visit http://nyc2010.140conf.com/characters

Tickets are only $100 through March 6, 2010. To purchase your ticket in the presale, visit 140conf.com

I hope to see you there, IRL.

Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show Featuring SKOUT

February 18, 2010

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Join Cyber-Dating Expert, Julie Spira as she welcomes Christian Wiklund, CEO of SKOUT to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

SKOUT is a social dating service which allows you to browse singles, flirt, chat, and meet in real life. Their location based service is growing in popularity as mobile and GPS based services are expanding worldwide.

Find out more about real-time mobile dating on Saturday, February 20, 2010. Call in at 646–929-0012 to find out more about dating, love & romance in a Web 2.0 World.

Listen to Cyber-dating Expert on Blog Talk Radio

ABC News – How to Find Love on Facebook

February 12, 2010

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In a Valentine’s story by ABC News, I was interviewed as to why people are finding love on Facebook with a nice mention of our Cyber Love Story of the Week feature.

“Facebook provides a friendly place for people to engage in conversation, reflect on their past memories and reunite with people they may [have] lost touch with,” said Julie Spira, cyber-dating expert and author of “The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.” “People feel more comfortable in reaching out on Facebook because they don’t run the risk of rejection that they might get on a phone call.

On her Web site, Spira features a “Cyber Love Story of the Week” and said that all kinds of circumstances have helped couples find love on Facebook, Twitter and other social networking sites not dedicated to dating.

One couple started dating, and ultimately tied the knot, after realizing on Facebook that they share a name.

Out of curiosity, Kelly Hildebrandt, a 20-something female from Florida, searched Facebook for her name. When she found Kelly Hildebrandt, a 20-something male from Texas, she sent him a note.

The two started corresponding over Facebook, he flew out to visit her and eight months later, he proposed.

Facebook Helps New Acquaintances Build Relationships

Spira said social networks also provide places for new acquaintances to become better friends.

“Quite often you will meet someone at a party or business networking event, exchange cards, and become Facebook friends,” she said. Status updates, pictures and comments on a member’s profile give people clues about a potential partner’s dating status.

Click here to read full article @ABC NEWS

Article written KI MAE HEUSSNER ABC NEWS

OkCupid on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

January 9, 2010

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Listen to the Season Premiere of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show featuring Sam Yagan, CEO and co-founder of OkCupid.

Find out why they are different from other online dating sites and why Sam thinks his site is like an online singles bar.

Hear about OkCupid Trends, their blog filled with interesting surveys including:

  • How to get a better response to your initial greeting
  • How short or long should your profile be

Find out what the most popular dating tests are including:

  • The Commonly Confused Words Test
  • What Kind of Girl Are You Test

Hear about their iPhone app and what Sam thinks of mobile dating and more on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

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