A new poll of 2046 people conducted by Harris Interactive for People Search site Spokeo shows over 3/4 of singles 18+ want to know more about their date before they even meet in person, early on in a relationship.
What are singles looking for when they’re sneaking a peek online?
The survey’s results showed the following:
- 58% were interested in finding out about their date’s past
- 45% wanted to feel more confident about their date
- 31% wanted to see if they had friends in common
- 26% wondered if they were cheating
With search engines still the most popular way to check out your date (68%), social networks are creeping up to a close second at 64%.
While many confront their date about suspicious activity if they think they’re cheating, some take the digital data at face value and actually end the relationship.
The infographic below highlights the details of this latest poll.
Are you checking our your dates? Does your digital dating include using social media site such as Facebook to find out more or using search engines when you’re a cyber-sleuth?
Your comments are welcome!
72% of Americans Search Before They Date – An infographic by the team at Spokeo People Search
Julie Spira is a top Online Dating Expert and author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more online dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
In a recent interview with CNN’s Karin Caifa, we talked about digital etiquette for Valentine’s Day.
With courtship getting digital, here are some dos and don’ts on posting your date or romantic rendezvous on social media.
Some of the tips include:
- Do put that smart phone down. It sends a bad message to your date that maybe there’s someone more important than the person sitting across the table from you.
- Don’t post all of those early date details on Twitter or Facebook.
- Do share very little about what’s going on with your your new beau in the early stages of the relationship.
- Don’t lose friends and followers by over sharing your relationship details
- Do keep in mind who might be on your sweetheart’s list of Facebook friends. Coworkers, a boss, family members, even parents. Those wall posts that you think are sweet could be embarrassing to your Valentine.
- Don’t post your play-by-play every hour about your romantic rendezvous including arriving at the hotel, seeing the flowers in the room, going to dinner, or sipping champagne.
Remember, in a new relationship, he may still be dating others, you may be dating others, and you’re not ready to become “Facebook Exclusive,” until you’ve had the talk.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and netiquette expert. She’s the author of The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Digital Manners and The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
For more digital dating advice, visit CyberDatingExpert.com, where you can sign up for the Weekly Flirt newsletter, Facebook.com/RulesofNetiquette and Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
It was a last minute decision in between the 140 Conference and Digital Hollywood, but I hopped on a plane to attend BlogWorld in Las Vegas to join my social media friends and experts, and I was sure glad that I did.
Going to Las Vegas is always a whirlwind trip, and my experience at BlogWorld Expo was no exception to the rule.
Over 3000 attended the BlogWorld Expo to learn the latest trends in podcasting, social media marketing, blogging, monetization, and the most up to date information from panelists, bloggers, and social media experts.
There were parties galore at BlogWorld 10. Our friends at KLOUT picked up guests in their VIP Hummer limo, which seated 20 for their BlogWorld Kloutup reception at the Palms Hotel. Afterwards we gathered at the opening party hosted by Techset at the new Liquid Pool Lounge at the Aria Hotel.
It was a time to see old friends and meet new ones to move our online friendships to offline. I was most excited to meet Joel Williams, Blog Tech Guy, who has been part of the Cyber-Dating Expert and Social Media and More teams for almost two years.
I graciously and regretfully passed on Brian Solis’s midnight after party at the Wynn Hotel to rest up for a full day of sessions on Day 2. I stopped to say hello to the folks at BlogTalk Radio, Audio Acrobat, signed the Ford Focus Rally car along with many others, and engaged in meaningful conversations in the Sony New Media Lounge. I very much enjoyed watching a few of the Techmunch sessions in the exhibit hall curated by Babette from Bake Space.
My friend Marsha Collier hosted one of the Techmunch panels and was at the Wiley booth signing copies of her new book, Facebook and Twitter For Seniors For Dummies (For Dummies (Computer/Tech))
In the evening, we were treated to the BlogWorld Bistro Tasting, hosted by Omaha Steaks in the private Foundation Room at House of Blues. Chef Karl Marsh was on hand serving up amazing appetizers including Filet Mignon Spring Rolls, Bull Wings, Coconut Shrimp, and Jumbo Cooked Shrimp. Our friends at Mashable hosted the Mashbash party at Haze at the Aria hotel.
Afterwards, my friend Stephanie Michaels, @Adventuregirl hosted The Love Party at the Beatles Revolution Lounge with a portion of the proceeds to benefit Operation Smile.
On Day 3, I hosted Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show live from BlogWorld with my guest Dan Abelon, co-founder of SpeedDate. Dan called in to talk about the latest trends in mobile dating as well as their focus on matching based primarily on chemistry over compatibility. SpeedDate now has over 10 million members looking for love online.
And they did save the best for last with final Keynote Address.
We were promised a closing session full of laughter by former radio executive Rob Barnett, who started My Damn Channel four years ago. We were not disappointed. Shira Lazar introduced the session with guests including Penn Jillette of the famous Vegas duo of Penn and Teller, Adam Carolla, Cali Lewis, Mark Malkoff, and Jeffrey Hayzlett.
Penn, who has over 1.6 million followers on Twitter and writes his own tweets, says he types what’s in his heart. He told the group that Social media helps us tell the truth as we see it. Penn multitasks his career with Penn Point on Revision 3 and about 8 others at once.
Adam Carolla talked about getting fired from his job and his extraordinary comeback as a super-successful podcasters. The Adam Carolla show now has 200,000 downloads a day.
Mark Malkoff, the comedian who is best known as the guy who filmed himself at 171 Starbucks locations in Manhattan as well as the guy who lived in IKEA told us that he stayed in his bathroom for 5 days to detox from Internet addiction. His funny stories get picked up by the major news outlets including CNN. You can find him on MyDamnChannel.com/MarkMalkoff.
Cali Lewis from GeekBeat TV shared her passion for social media saying it takes 16 hour a day 7 day a week to keep up with her personal brand. She added that she’s enthusiastic about taking over the world.
It’s always a treat to see former Kodak CMO turned bestselling author Jeffrey Hayzlett speak about social media marketing. Hayzlett talked about the 118 from his book The Mirror Test: Is Your Business Really Breathing?
He claims it takes 110 seconds for the average elevator ride in New York City and 8 seconds to hook someone in. Hence, the elevator speech about what you do must be honed down to 118 seconds. He added that “Scale is the “New Black.” In other words, you’ll need to add several 000s to prove your concept.
All in all it was a gathering of sharing information, meeting some of the kindest people in social media, and an educational forum to build our businesses all created by our passions in our niches.
Congratulations to Rick Calvert and Dave Cynkin, co-founders of BlogWorld on a very successful and wonderful experience for social media enthusiasts. I look forward to seeing everyone again at BlogWorld 11.
We’re celebrating at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters the entire month of October, as it’s another anniversary for our online dating advice site, CyberDatingExpert.com.
Now through October 31, 2010, we’ll be giving away a signed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating every day. Also our friends at Speed Date, who will be featured on Saturday, October 16th on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show will be giving one of our fans a 6-month premium membership to their site. Also, Cupidtino is offering three 6-month premium memberships in honor of their radio show appearance on October 23rd. To enter, just “Like” us on Facebook.*
Also, now through the end of the month, you can enjoy a HUGE 25% discount off of all of our coaching programs. Sure, we’ve had specials before, but never at 25% off. That’s a savings of almost $200!
Why are we offering such a discount and handing out signed copies of my bestselling book?
- It’s been another exciting year for us.
- October is one of the most important months for singles.
- The holidays are around the corner and singles are joining online dating sites in record numbers.
- CyberDatingExpert.com consistently ranks as one of the Top online dating advice sites in the world!
We know there’s a lot of pressure for singles for finding love before the holidays and we want to help you achieve your dating and relationship goals.
We have a lot of exciting announcements all month long that I can’t wait to share with you.
Did you know that we’re featured in the October issue of Wired-UK in the article, Finding Online Dating Success?
If that isn’t exciting enough, during the first week of October, I was a featured guest on the Love Panel for Rapid Dating’s Fall Matchmaking party and my featured article went live on day 3 of Your Tango’s 31 Days to a Better Sex Life Challenge.
I also had the privilege and honor of speaking at the 140 Characters Conference about Dating, Love and Romance in the Real-Time Web, and received the very prestigious WOW Award at the Beverly Hills Hotel. WOW is right. But we couldn’t have done any of this without the constant support from the online dating community.
IN THE NEWS!
In the past year, we’ve been featured in the news on:
ABC, CBS, CNET, FOX, Smart Money, KTLA, WPIX, KLOS, BBC, WLW, Momento Magazine, WIRED, Men’s Health, Woman’s Day, iVillage, PC World, Betty Confidential, Your Tango, Genconnect TV, Match, eHarmony, JDate, Zoosk, Date Daily, Examiner, Huffington Post, Jewish Journal, Mercury News, New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Los Angeles Business Journal, Sympatico, We Magazine, Florida Times Union, Denver Post, Ventura County Reporter, The Buffalo News, Philadelphia Inquirer, Chicago Now, E! Entertainment, John Tesh, Single Edition, and the list goes on. Valentine’s Day news coverage for online dating almost always included Cyber-Dating Expert.
ON THE RADIO!
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, the only weekly radio show focusing on Internet dating, featured the who’s who in online dating this past year including:
Online dating sites: OkCupid, Match, JDate, eHarmony, Chemistry, Zoosk, Matchmaker, Date, Online Booty Call, Plenty of Fish, ChristanCafe, True, SKOUT Mobile Dating, Perfect Match, Scientific Match, and Gelato.
Dating Advice Sites: Cosmopolitan, Your Tango, and The Frisky, and Don’t Date Him Girl.
Authors and dating experts: David Wygant, Lori Gottlieb, Marie Forleo, Dr. Diana Kirschner, Dr. Pat Allen, Alan Roger Currie, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Tina Tessina, Dr. Helen Fisher, Julie Ferman, Deb and Liv from Flirtexting, and Lucia.
IN REAL LIFE!
I personally met many of you at the Internet Dating Conference, New York Public Library, Hurry Date, 140 Characters Conference, An Empowered Woman, Social Media Week, Romance and Reality, Book Soup, Social Media Club of Los Angeles, Book Expo America, Rapid Dating, West Hollywood Book Fair, Independent Writers of Southern California, and LA Singles Society where I spoke about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World and the impact of social media on our lives.
Also this year, we launched our popular Dating Expert iPhone and Android App that thousands of singles are downloading every month. Through the end of October, our Dating Expert mobile app will remain free. But hurry and downlod it now, as there will be a fee starting November 1, 2010.
STILL A BESTSELLER!
The Perils of Cyber-Dating book remains an Amazøn bestseller in Computers & Internet Humor and has been a bestseller since it’s launch date, including bestseller status in dating, mate seeking, interpersonal relations, parenting & family humor, and love & romance. We’re giving away a book every day now through the end of the month to lucky winers who like our facebook page and will soon be releasing our new book, The Secrets to Finding Love Online.
We’re thrilled to be the GO-TO source for online daters and appreciate each and every one of you in the Cyber-Dating Expert family.
So what are we offering Cyber Dating Expert readers and fans? Absolutely ALL of our popular dating coaching programs created to help you find success while looking for love online are discounted this month only by 25%! We want you to be the next featured couple in the Cyber Love Story of the Week and celebrate with us all month long. These savings are so good, you might just be tempted to use your savings for a new favorite first date outfit.
Our delicious menu of services includes:
The Flirt - Already online? Get an online dating profile critique that will help you become a man magnet and attract more quality dates. Sign up here>>>
Going Steady – Complete brand new online dating profile, including a personal dating analysis, catchy screen name, a new bio/headline, and a profile guaranteed ramp up your dating life. Includes a private and personalized online dating search and tips on how to write an introduction email and reply. Sign up here>>>
Totally In Love - The most comprehensive package for busy singles. Includes all of the above, plus ongoing email support for 30-days, plus an autographed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. This has become our most popular service. After all, everyone needs a little extra hand holding. Nervous about your upcoming date? Not sure what to wear? Need a list of first-date conversation starters? Sign up here>>>
I encourage you to sign up for which ever level fits your dating needs. Know that if you are interested in upgrading at the time of your initial service, you’ll have the freedom to do so. Get ready to fall in love this fall from your friends at CyberDatingExpert.com.
*To be eligible for our Irresistible Anniversary giveaways, you must be 18 or older to participate. Book winners outside the continental U.S. will receive an electronic version of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
Julie Spira is a worldwide authority in online dating. She created her first online dating profile in 1994 and helps singles find love online by creating their irresistible online dating profiles. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and where you can share your online dating stories.
This week, Single Edition interviewed me about my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Read about one of the funniest dates I had experienced in the 1990s, how to find the right dating site for you, and how I differentiate myself from other dating coaches. I discuss the changes in the Internet dating landscape in the past 15 years as well as social media marketing tools that helped define my brand of Cyber-Dating Expert.
Would you like to connect with your favorite online dating sites and social dating sites on Twitter?
Here’s a list of some of the most popular Internet dating sites that Tweet.
From special offers to success stories, you’ll find a friend on these social media savvy sites.
Amor Latin Dating @amorcom
Ashley Madison @ashleymadison
AOL Personals @aolpersonals
Are You Interested? @AreUInterested
Black People Meet @BlackPeopleMeet
Brainiac Dating @BrainiacDating
Christian Mingle @christianmingle
eHarmony Jack @eharmony_jack
JDate UK @jdatecouk
Lava Life @lavalife
Online Booty Call @OnlineBootyCall
Plenty of Fish @pofdotcom
Senior People Meet @SrPeopleMeet
Woo Me @WooMe
Julie Spira is known world-wide at the Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com. Follow her on Twitter @JulieSpira
Day one is winding down of the 140 Characters Conference held at the 92nd Street Y in New York city.
It was an exciting day which started with Miss America, Caressa Cameron introducing conference creator Jeff Pulver.
The theme for the twitter conference is the state of now. We heard from Donny Deutsch, Ivanka Trump, and Ann Curry, to name a few
Wine Library TV’s Gary Vaynerchuk said this would be his last live presentation. His last words on the #140conf stage were “I hope to engage with every single one of you before I die.” Gary, please don’t go away. You have been an inspiration to those who tweet and video bloggers around the world.
MC Hammer truly stole the stage today. He talked about how he was an early adopter of the Web 1.0 and Web 2.0 worlds and uses twitter very strategically. He also said he didn’t like “ghost tweeters” and blocks people with negativity online and offline.
After a brief stop to the conference party tonight, I left early to get a good night’s sleep.
On Wednesday, day two will begin with two panels bright and early and then I will be making my appearance on stage along with Your Tango’s Tom Miller (best known as Tomfoolery) at 8:45am. This will be the first-ever dating panel at a 140 Conference. If you can’t join us in New York, the event will be streamed live at http://www.ustream.tv/nyc140conf
I’ll be signing copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the Schmooze Lounge from 10:00 am – 10:45 am and will be reporting back with the highlights of day two.
The 140 Characters Conference in New York is only one week away. We are counting down the days and I’m excited to be participating as a character in the first-ever dating panel: Experiencing Love, Dating, and Romance in the Real-Time Web. Make sure to mark your calendars for April 21, 2010 at 8:45am. I’ll be sharing the stage with Your Tango’s Tom Miller, @TomFooleryTM and dating expert @ScotMckay.
The event will be streamed for those who can’t make it. It is shaping up to be the largest gathering in the world of people interested in the effects of the real-time Internet on both business and “we” the people. I’ll be in New York all week meeting with editors, publishers, and broadcasters and will keep you posted on my media schedule and will be tweeting live from the event.
If you are in the New York City area, tickets are still available for $140 at 140Conf.org
Jeff Pulver has been working night and day to make this a memorable event. Other speakers include Today Show’s Ann Curry, Wine TV’s Gary Vaynerchuk, California Secretary of State Debra Bowen, Donny Deutsch, John Kremer, Ivanka Trump, MC Hammer and more. For a complete list of speakers visit http://nyc2010.140conf.com/speakers-2.
Besides meeting my twitter friends in real life, I’m delighted to announce that I will be signing copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the schmooze lounge on Wednesday, April 21st from 10:00am-10:45am.
It’s going to be an exciting time for those in the social media world. I look forward to seeing you there.
Join me on January 14, 2010 as the Social Media Club of Los Angeles presents, Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed. Get all the tips you need a month before Valentine’s Day.
I will be on a panel with my friends, AV Flox, Evan Marc Katz, Liz H. Kelly, and Linda Sherman. We’ll be talking about social media and dating. It will be a fun evening. Learn how online dating is becoming social dating with some dating advice thrown in. You can RSVP on Facebook.
There will be a book signing at the end of the event, and I’ll be there with copies of my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. One lucky guest will win the Cyber Swag Bag filled with over $400 of romantic gifts including an autographed copy of my book, one free Irresistible online dating profile, 1 private Pilates session at Beyond Physical Therapy, and a free olive butter treatment at Byu-ti salon.
What: Dating and Social Media Panel and Mixer
Where: 12th and Highland, 304 12th Street, Manhattan Beach, CA
When: January 14, 2009
Time: 7:00pm – 10:00 pm
RSVP on Facebook