Julie Spira on The Mark and Brian Show
March 9, 2010
Listen to the Mark and Brian Radio Show on 955 KLOS where hosts Mark and Brian asked Cyberdating Expert Julie Spira about the Top 10 Rules of Netiquette for online daters.
Find out which of the Top 10 Rules from the book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating were their favorites as well as tips for your Internet dating profile on The Mark and Brian Radio Program.
The Art of Love Radio Show
March 5, 2010
On Sunday, March 7, 2010, Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira will be a featured guest on The Art of Love radio show hosted by relationship expert, Lucia.
Listen to the program on LA Talk Radio at 3:00pm, PST for dating advice and to hear more about finding love on your favorite online dating site.
You’ll hear more about the top ten rules of netiquette for online daters from the book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Love Hurts, or Does It? A Night of Dating Advice
March 3, 2010
Lori Gottlieb, Greg Behrendt, and Sascha Rothchild
There’s no shortage of dating advice these days. This week Angelenos were treated to a night to laughter, dating advice, and charity as 826LA, a non-profit writing and tutoring center for children ages 6-12 presented, “Love Hurts: Ask the Experts.”
The event was moderated by Time magazine’s funny man Joel Stein. Featured authors included Greg Behrendt, from He’s Just Not That Into You fame along with Lori Gottlieb, author of the bestseller, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
was released earlier this year.
It was interesting to note that both of the men on stage were married and both women were not.
Gottlieb’s book has received a lot of attention and criticism from feminists as well as those who never actually read the book who jumped to conclusion that “settling” was a bad decision before picking up their copy.
Views on Marriage
When the group was asked about their views of marriage, Rothchild said she would like to get married again, but won’t get divorced if she can help it. She added that many get married to wear a beautiful dress and get wedding gifts.
Behrendt told the group that he is not a relationship expert. He wrote two books about how to get out of relationships so he thought he wouldn’t be the one to know how to get in them. He suggested that singles go to Las Vegas to make their relationship legal and have a party in front of your friends. When asked why he got married, he replied with, “I got married because my wife wanted to get married. I didn’t want to lose her.” He says that marriage works for him.
Gottlieb said she went directly to experts to find out what really matters for love, long term happiness and got some answers. . She said she felt like a dating guinea pig and tried out their advice to try to get to the altar. Her findings are written in her well-researched book.
“Settling for Mr. Good Enough does not mean that you are settling with someone who you are not attracted to,” said Gottlieb. She added, ”We rule out too many people. Good enough is everybody’s Mr./Ms. Good enough.” The bestselling author says that bow-ties are hot. So are men named Sheldon. She admits that she didn’t use to feel that way.
Rothchild says if you are going into a marriage thinking it will make you happy, you will be disappointed. She hates the line, “You will complete me.” She added, “If two half-people meet up they will be miserable. You can’t expect someone to make you happy.”
Views on Online Dating
According to Rothchild, online dating works for some people. She likes to get a sense of someone in person and isn’t a huge fan of the system. “You get an immediate vibe about a person when you meet him,” said Rothchild. She added, “You can feel if he is he crazy or not. With online dating, you don’t get that.” Rothchild said she likes to meet people out playing poker. She met her current boyfriend at a poker game. Her dating advice to singles, “If you like surfing, go surf. Meet other people who like what you like. Go up to a guy and say hi! If he’s available he’ll say hi back, its that easy.”
Gottlieb says he has to do online dating as she never leaves the house. She learned that women often rule people out real quickly. She made the analogy of shopping online at Banana Republic where after you buy a blouse online, you are sent to a page to show you other blouses you can purchase. She referred to the online dating site Match.com in her comparison. On Match, you write an email to someone you carefully select and suddenly you receive a thank you with five other men you should consider after selecting your favorite guy.
What the group all agreed on is dating has changed. According to Behrendt, “As a society, we don’t date as a ritual anymore. There’s hook-ups and casual dates. Years ago we went on dates because we didn’t [have sex] so we ate, danced, and had big band music.”
After the panel, I had the opportunity to personally interview Lori Gottlieb about why she felt so misunderstood by some of her critics of her book. You can read the article: Marry Him: A Conversation With Lori Gottlieb on Huffington Post.
Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com.
The Price of Finding Love Online
February 8, 2010
Finding love online. It’s helped millions get married and has become a big business. According to SmartMoney.com, where I was quoted in an article by Kelli Grant, I suggest looking for special coupons such as free weekends and other promotions.
Some things to note from the article:
- The Freebie Strategy
- Check Site Traffic
- Read Site Reviews
- Buy a Package
- Wait for Coupons and Sales
- Avoid Sweetheart Scams
Click here to read The Dating-Site Game: What You Need to Know on SmartMoney.com
Click here for special offers in the Dating Community
Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com
Julie Spira to Appear on Love Panel on Valentine’s Day
February 3, 2010
Please join me on Valentine’s Day for an exciting panel for singles and couples hosted by An Empowered Woman in Los Angeles.
The event, “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” will be held at Mountaingate Country Club in Bel Air, CA.
Joining me on the panel will be relationship ship expert Dr. Pat Allen, author of Getting to ‘I Do’ and Cougar dating expert, Lucia.
I will be discussing my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and will provide expert dating advice on how to spot the red flags and find Mr./Ms. Right on your favorite Internet dating site.
One of the highlights at the event will be the male panel, consisting of a confirmed bachelor, serial husband, single and looking, to just plain confused.
The event includes lunch, boutique for shopping, and a book signing.
What: Second Sunday Series, An Empowered Woman
When: Sunday, February 14, 2010, 11am – 3pm
Where: Mountaingate Country Club, Bel Air, CA
To purchase tickets, visit An Empowered Woman
Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed
January 7, 2010
Join me on January 14, 2010 as the Social Media Club of Los Angeles presents, Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed. Get all the tips you need a month before Valentine’s Day.
I will be on a panel with my friends, AV Flox, Evan Marc Katz, Liz H. Kelly, and Linda Sherman. We’ll be talking about social media and dating. It will be a fun evening. Learn how online dating is becoming social dating with some dating advice thrown in. You can RSVP on Facebook.
There will be a book signing at the end of the event, and I’ll be there with copies of my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. One lucky guest will win the Cyber Swag Bag filled with over $400 of romantic gifts including an autographed copy of my book, one free Irresistible online dating profile, 1 private Pilates session at Beyond Physical Therapy, and a free olive butter treatment at Byu-ti salon.
What: Dating and Social Media Panel and Mixer
Where: 12th and Highland, 304 12th Street, Manhattan Beach, CA
When: January 14, 2009
Time: 7:00pm – 10:00 pm
RSVP on Facebook
MatchMatrix Radio Show
November 23, 2009
Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira will be a featured guest on the MatchMatrix Radio Show on Monday, November 23, 2009.
Julie will be a guest with hosts Frank Seifert and Larry Michel and will be talking about her online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. She’ll be discussing the ins, outs, ups, down, and ultimately the steps to success in finding love in an online dating site.
You’ll learn the following:
- Why some profiles get thousands of responses while others do not.
- The dos and don’ts for online dating profile photos
- How to create a catchy screen name
Call in at (646) 595-4511 at 9pm Eastern Time/8pm Central Time/6pm Pacific Time with your questions, or listen online at MatchMatrix on the Law of Attraction Radio Network.
Saint Valentine’s Soiree
February 15, 2009
It was a festive and energetic evening in Los Angeles on Thursday where 1000 techies and social networking folks attended Twiistup 5 at the Barkar Hanger in Santa Monica. I think I was one of the first to buy a ticket the day they went on sale last year, as this event always sells out. Twiistup connects people from technology, media and entertainment and introduces the latest in technology. However this year, I found myself happily double-booked and could not attend Twiistup. Mike and Steph McCadden were gracious enough to allow me to give away my ticket to the sold out event in a contest and I drove to Social Hollywood to attend the Step Up Women’s Network’s Saint Valentine’s Soiree.
As a member of the host committee for Step Up’s first co-ed event, I gathered my single friends to enjoy a night with Cupid, along with a pre-launch book signing event for The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online
Many of my friends came to lend their support for my first book signing as well as Step Up, including authors Donna Sozio, Never Trust A Man In Alligator Loafers
Proceeds from the ticket sales and a portion of my book sales benefitted Step Up Women’s Network. www.suwn.org.
On the Air
February 10, 2009
Wednesday, February 11 - Watch Cyber-Dating Expert, Julie Spira on the KTLA Channel 5 morning show in Los Angeles where she will be a featured guest on Kurt The Cyberguy at 5:50 am and 7:35 am, pacific Time. If you are in the New York metropolitan area, tune into WPIX, Channel 11 at 750 am or 820 am to hear more about The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
Wednesday, February 11 - Listen to Cyber-Dating Expert, Julie Spira on the following radio stations:
KEX – Portland, OR
KOMO – Seattle, WA
WTAM – Cleveland, OH
WZTK – Raleigh, NC
Thursday, February 12 – Listen to Jim Scott on the morning show on WLW – Cincinnati.
Saturday, February 14 – “Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert” radio show on blogtalkradio.com/Cyber-Dating-Expert, 11:00 am, pacific. Call in number 646-929-0012.
Peril of the Week – Two is Not Better than One
December 21, 2008
In the category of oops – I got caught, I recently heard the story of a young woman who was told she had an exclusive relationship by the man she met online. Apparently, he made the same promise to another woman in the same town. What the gentleman courter didn’t realize is that while one girlfriend was a hairdresser at a fancy salon in town, that the other girlfriend was a patron of the same establishment. Now, no one knows more of the intimate details of their patrons than a hair stylist or a manicurist who are not bound by confidentiality. So when the patron told her hair stylist about her new beau, the hair stylist shared her joy and told her she also met someone online and that they agreed to date exclusively as well. With his online profile removed, both felt comfortable their love was sincere. However, while sharing this information both became aware that their new boyfriend had the same first name. When his last name was revealed and it too indeed did match, a cat fight did not take place. The beau simply got caught and was dumped by both of the women. The moral of the story, “two is not better than one.” If you are not ready to commit, make it plain and clear while you are dating, or you may walk away empty-handed.
For consideration for The Peril of the Week, please send your submissions to info@CyberDatingExpert.com.
