Get Your Cyber-Dating Expert iPhone App
May 6, 2010
We’ve been counting the days and hours at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters for the approval and release of our iPhone appfrom Apple. Today, we received the good news from Mobile Roadie. Our app was added today for iPhone users around the world to enjoy.
With our iPhone and Android apps, users can now share their online dating stories, listen to live streaming of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show and even get the chance to read sample chapters from the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Download the app now for dating advice in a Web 2.0 World.
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Experiencing – Love, Dating and Romance in the Real Time Web
April 21, 2010
It was an honor to be on the stage at the 92nd Street Y in New York City with my co-panelist, Tom Miller from Your Tango. We talked about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World, how the Your Tango community helps singles and couples with their advice and columns, and answered some questions from the audience about online dating sites and profiles. Only a volcano could prevent Scot McKay from joining us on the stage.
After our panel, I signed copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the Schmooze lounge while dishing out some dating advice.
Thank you Jeff Pulver for having us speak at the first-ever dating panel at the 140 Characters Conference and to those who supported us during our presentation. I hope you take the time to view some of the other sessions. It was an incredible gathering of people who took the time to share their stories and passions in an authentic way.
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Countdown to the 140 Characters Conference
April 13, 2010
The 140 Characters Conference in New York is only one week away. We are counting down the days and I’m excited to be participating as a character in the first-ever dating panel: Experiencing Love, Dating, and Romance in the Real-Time Web. Make sure to mark your calendars for April 21, 2010 at 8:45am. I’ll be sharing the stage with Your Tango’s Tom Miller, @TomFooleryTM and dating expert @ScotMckay.
The event will be streamed for those who can’t make it. It is shaping up to be the largest gathering in the world of people interested in the effects of the real-time Internet on both business and “we” the people. I’ll be in New York all week meeting with editors, publishers, and broadcasters and will keep you posted on my media schedule and will be tweeting live from the event.
If you are in the New York City area, tickets are still available for $140 at 140Conf.org
Jeff Pulver has been working night and day to make this a memorable event. Other speakers include Today Show’s Ann Curry, Wine TV’s Gary Vaynerchuk, California Secretary of State Debra Bowen, Donny Deutsch, John Kremer, Ivanka Trump, MC Hammer and more. For a complete list of speakers visit http://nyc2010.140conf.com/speakers-2.
Besides meeting my twitter friends in real life, I’m delighted to announce that I will be signing copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the schmooze lounge on Wednesday, April 21st from 10:00am-10:45am.
It’s going to be an exciting time for those in the social media world. I look forward to seeing you there.
Dating Advice at LA Twestival [with video]
March 27, 2010
Just about everybody who is anyone in the social media space in Los Angeles attended the charity twitter festival, better known as Twestival at the Roxy theatre on Sunset Strip in West Hollywood. The theme was tweet, meet, and give.
This year’s Twestival was held in 175 countries around the world on March 25, 2010 and raised almost $350,000 to date for Concern Worldwide, an organization that helps bring education to the world’s poorest children.
The Twestival festivities included live music by DJ Mike Relm, METRIC and DJ Menelik, and a great photo booth provided by Polite in Public. It was an overall fun evening complete with a red carpet arrival.
Just like a doctor at a party who ends up giving out medical advice, I was in the VIP section answering dating questions for singles looking for love online. One single woman at 27 told me she had never been out on a date. She was wondering if she should even bother. Naturally I suggested that she sign up for at least one online dating site since she was tech-savvy. I’m waiting for the results. Another well-respected attractive attorney has an online dating profile on one site, but finds the men are running away from the “complete package.” A third woman, just out of a 6 year relationship, seems to only attract married men.
Slice it anyway you want, but love is a 365-year topic and online dating is now the hottest topic in the dating world and the second largest industry on the web.
Cyber Swag Bag Winner
I raffled off a copy of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in a VIP Cyber Swag Bag worth over $500. The lucky winner, a single-male in Los Angeles shared his enthusiasm in a tweet that said:
I won a great #giftbag from cyber-dating guru @JulieSpira at #LATwestival. TV/Web host-geek @ShiraLazar pulled my name. Thanks!
I quickly sent a RT that said: Your life may never be the same again RT @stevens1: I won a great #giftbag from cyber-dating expert @JulieSpira at #LATwestival
His follow-up tweet said, @JulieSpira LOL yes, I’m sure I’ll never be the same. So I might find an online date who doesn’t inspire me to check my watch? 
Welcome to dating in a Web 2.0 World. Singles even want their dating advice IRL on twitter. I’ll be discussing this trend in greater detail at Jeff Pulver’s 140 Characters Conference – Exploring the State of Now in New York on April 21, 2010 at 945am.
@JulieSpira and @StaceySoleil
Congratulations the co-hosts Shira Lazar and Oprah Radio’s Derrick Ashong along with the many volunteers and sponsors for the evening including, Women in Technology, Girls in Tech, New Media Vault, Media Leaders, Social Media Club of Los Angeles, Digital Family, Tech Zulu, UStream, Tubefilter, Digital LA, Thrillist LA, and the list goes on. Donations can still be made by visiting Concern Worldwide’s website.
Julie Spira on The Mark and Brian Show
March 9, 2010
Listen to the Mark and Brian Radio Show on 955 KLOS where hosts Mark and Brian asked Cyberdating Expert Julie Spira about the Top 10 Rules of Netiquette for online daters.
Find out which of the Top 10 Rules from the book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating were their favorites as well as tips for your Internet dating profile on The Mark and Brian Radio Program.
The Art of Love Radio Show
March 5, 2010
On Sunday, March 7, 2010, Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira will be a featured guest on The Art of Love radio show hosted by relationship expert, Lucia.
Listen to the program on LA Talk Radio at 3:00pm, PST for dating advice and to hear more about finding love on your favorite online dating site.
You’ll hear more about the top ten rules of netiquette for online daters from the book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Love Hurts, or Does It? A Night of Dating Advice
March 3, 2010
Lori Gottlieb, Greg Behrendt, and Sascha Rothchild
There’s no shortage of dating advice these days. This week Angelenos were treated to a night to laughter, dating advice, and charity as 826LA, a non-profit writing and tutoring center for children ages 6-12 presented, “Love Hurts: Ask the Experts.”
The event was moderated by Time magazine’s funny man Joel Stein. Featured authors included Greg Behrendt, from He’s Just Not That Into You fame along with Lori Gottlieb, author of the bestseller, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
was released earlier this year.
It was interesting to note that both of the men on stage were married and both women were not.
Gottlieb’s book has received a lot of attention and criticism from feminists as well as those who never actually read the book who jumped to conclusion that “settling” was a bad decision before picking up their copy.
Views on Marriage
When the group was asked about their views of marriage, Rothchild said she would like to get married again, but won’t get divorced if she can help it. She added that many get married to wear a beautiful dress and get wedding gifts.
Behrendt told the group that he is not a relationship expert. He wrote two books about how to get out of relationships so he thought he wouldn’t be the one to know how to get in them. He suggested that singles go to Las Vegas to make their relationship legal and have a party in front of your friends. When asked why he got married, he replied with, “I got married because my wife wanted to get married. I didn’t want to lose her.” He says that marriage works for him.
Gottlieb said she went directly to experts to find out what really matters for love, long term happiness and got some answers. . She said she felt like a dating guinea pig and tried out their advice to try to get to the altar. Her findings are written in her well-researched book.
“Settling for Mr. Good Enough does not mean that you are settling with someone who you are not attracted to,” said Gottlieb. She added, ”We rule out too many people. Good enough is everybody’s Mr./Ms. Good enough.” The bestselling author says that bow-ties are hot. So are men named Sheldon. She admits that she didn’t use to feel that way.
Rothchild says if you are going into a marriage thinking it will make you happy, you will be disappointed. She hates the line, “You will complete me.” She added, “If two half-people meet up they will be miserable. You can’t expect someone to make you happy.”
Views on Online Dating
According to Rothchild, online dating works for some people. She likes to get a sense of someone in person and isn’t a huge fan of the system. “You get an immediate vibe about a person when you meet him,” said Rothchild. She added, “You can feel if he is he crazy or not. With online dating, you don’t get that.” Rothchild said she likes to meet people out playing poker. She met her current boyfriend at a poker game. Her dating advice to singles, “If you like surfing, go surf. Meet other people who like what you like. Go up to a guy and say hi! If he’s available he’ll say hi back, its that easy.”
Gottlieb says he has to do online dating as she never leaves the house. She learned that women often rule people out real quickly. She made the analogy of shopping online at Banana Republic where after you buy a blouse online, you are sent to a page to show you other blouses you can purchase. She referred to the online dating site Match.com in her comparison. On Match, you write an email to someone you carefully select and suddenly you receive a thank you with five other men you should consider after selecting your favorite guy.
What the group all agreed on is dating has changed. According to Behrendt, “As a society, we don’t date as a ritual anymore. There’s hook-ups and casual dates. Years ago we went on dates because we didn’t [have sex] so we ate, danced, and had big band music.”
After the panel, I had the opportunity to personally interview Lori Gottlieb about why she felt so misunderstood by some of her critics of her book. You can read the article: Marry Him: A Conversation With Lori Gottlieb on Huffington Post.
Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com.
The Price of Finding Love Online
February 8, 2010
Finding love online. It’s helped millions get married and has become a big business. According to SmartMoney.com, where I was quoted in an article by Kelli Grant, I suggest looking for special coupons such as free weekends and other promotions.
Some things to note from the article:
- The Freebie Strategy
- Check Site Traffic
- Read Site Reviews
- Buy a Package
- Wait for Coupons and Sales
- Avoid Sweetheart Scams
Click here to read The Dating-Site Game: What You Need to Know on SmartMoney.com
Click here for special offers in the Dating Community
Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com
Julie Spira to Appear on Love Panel on Valentine’s Day
February 3, 2010
Please join me on Valentine’s Day for an exciting panel for singles and couples hosted by An Empowered Woman in Los Angeles.
The event, “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” will be held at Mountaingate Country Club in Bel Air, CA.
Joining me on the panel will be relationship ship expert Dr. Pat Allen, author of Getting to ‘I Do’ and Cougar dating expert, Lucia.
I will be discussing my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and will provide expert dating advice on how to spot the red flags and find Mr./Ms. Right on your favorite Internet dating site.
One of the highlights at the event will be the male panel, consisting of a confirmed bachelor, serial husband, single and looking, to just plain confused.
The event includes lunch, boutique for shopping, and a book signing.
What: Second Sunday Series, An Empowered Woman
When: Sunday, February 14, 2010, 11am – 3pm
Where: Mountaingate Country Club, Bel Air, CA
To purchase tickets, visit An Empowered Woman
Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed
January 7, 2010
Join me on January 14, 2010 as the Social Media Club of Los Angeles presents, Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed. Get all the tips you need a month before Valentine’s Day.
I will be on a panel with my friends, AV Flox, Evan Marc Katz, Liz H. Kelly, and Linda Sherman. We’ll be talking about social media and dating. It will be a fun evening. Learn how online dating is becoming social dating with some dating advice thrown in. You can RSVP on Facebook.
There will be a book signing at the end of the event, and I’ll be there with copies of my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. One lucky guest will win the Cyber Swag Bag filled with over $400 of romantic gifts including an autographed copy of my book, one free Irresistible online dating profile, 1 private Pilates session at Beyond Physical Therapy, and a free olive butter treatment at Byu-ti salon.
What: Dating and Social Media Panel and Mixer
Where: 12th and Highland, 304 12th Street, Manhattan Beach, CA
When: January 14, 2009
Time: 7:00pm – 10:00 pm
RSVP on Facebook
