Your Tango 31-Day Challenge
One of my favorite dating advice and lifestyle sites, Your Tango is having a challenge that you must sign up for. Their 31-Days to a Better Sex Life will feature some of the top relationship and dating advice experts in the world.
It’s an honor to be included in this list of dating experts along with John Grey from Venus and Mars fame, my friend and author Dr. Diana Kirschner, and Dr. Ava Cadell.
My article, 5 Steps to Being a Sexier New You appeared on day 3 of the 31-day challenge. So while you’re waiting for that perfect online date to appear in your Inbox, check out my article and all of the other awesome advice during the month of October and practice these simples steps. I look forward to hearing your comments and progress.
Are you single and still sleeping in your flannel pajamas while waiting for Mr. Right to sweep you off your feet? Throw away the Cinderella dreams along with your outdated nightie and get ready to learn the art of flirting before you walk out the door for the evening.
Often, when you aren’t in a relationship, you don’t dress as if your dream guy was picking you up for dinner. Let’s face it. It’s easy to get lazy and end up in a rut. You can’t remember your last kiss. You’ve gained a few pounds since your last relationship. You’ve started to wear less makeup. Your favorite dress never made it to the dry cleaner and still has a spot on the side from the night you spilled red wine on it. The last time you got waxed was when someone detailed your car a year ago.
Sound familiar? My advice is very simple. Start creating rituals at home that will prepare you to feel great about yourself. You can create a sexier new you before having a crush on that someone special. You’ll be surprised at how you’ll start attracting men. Won’t it be fun when suddenly you can pick and choose?
Here’s my step-by-step guide to get in the mood for love without even having to leave the house most of the time. Don’t worry, love will find you when the time is right.
Step 1. Toss away a few pieces of old lingerie that’s cluttering your bureau. Do this right away. It’s time to erase the memories of your past passionate affairs. Out with the old, and in with the new.
Step 2. Invest in one new piece of lingerie. Find a great sale at Victoria’s Secret or go online and select one that fits within your budget. Pick out your favorite color. Think of your new purchase as your favorite little black dress. Before you go imagining wearing it with your new dream guy someday, wear it for yourself first. For now, you’ll be wearing this to sleep at night at least once a week. You’re on your way to a sexier new you.
Step 3. Take a look at your makeup drawer. When was the last time you invested in a simple lip-gloss? Toss away the old makeup and head over to your local department store. Walk around the cosmetics department and find a comfy stool to sit on. Get ready for a free makeover. Imagine yourself going on a date night, while your makeup is being professionally applied. The date night is with your number one fan, yourself. Make sure to get a list of the colors and pick up one item. My suggestion is to replace your outdated lip-gloss with a new color for the season. There’s something very sexy about luscious lips and it’s time your lips are made for kissing.
Step 4. Back at the ranch, it’s time to set the scene in your romantic bedroom. Put away the photos of your family and friends in your bedroom. Move your computer to another room in the house. You’ll be creating a romantic atmosphere and will leave the boardroom behind. Light some candles. Put on some relaxing music, and grab some massage oil. There’s no need to purchase Kama Sutra oils if you don’t have them handy. Baby oil will work just fine. Give yourself a well-deserved foot massage and then curl up with a romance novel.
Step 5. On the following week, change the ritual slightly and if you have a bathtub in your home or apartment, take a bubble bath. Light your candles and have the music going in the background. Put on your new sexy signature piece of lingerie afterward and fall asleep in dreamland. You’ll wake up every morning and start to feel sexier just from creating these rituals.
Now, go out in public and smile at everyone you meet. It’s time to practice the art of flirting. I’ve been flirting since my first crush when I was four years old. It never goes out of style. You’ll appear happier, more confident, more approachable, and there is nothing sexier than a confident woman to attract a quality man. You’ll walk into a room and people will wonder, “Who’s that girl?”
Personally, I have practiced these steps and I know they do work. With very little investment, other than one piece of new lingerie and a lip-gloss, you will notice a shift in your attitude. I can’t tell you how many times I have felt better going to sleep just by lighting a few candles and reading an uplifting book or story, and falling asleep wearing my signature piece of lingerie. You’re now on your way to creating a sexier new you!