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The Upward Trend of Older Women Dating Younger Men – Today Show

Sep 27th

It was an honor and joy to be back on the Today Show with Maria Shriver, where we talked about the upward trend of older women dating younger men. The segment featured three couples where the women were between six and 20 years older than their partners.

While each couple’s journey was different, all three couples are thriving in committed long-term relationships where the men made the first move.

Women in Hollywood With Younger Men 

Since Hollywood couples have been making the headlines for decades, now the boy or girl next door is finding love across the generations.

Celebrities are leading the way with Kris Jenner, 25 years older than Corey Gamble; Madonna at 63, whose boyfriend is a Millennial at 37 years younger; and Heidi Klum, who married Tom Kaulitz with a 16-year difference. 

I told Maria that women are dating like men now. Women are dating what men have done since the beginning of time, without batting an eyelash. Women are successful in careers both as executives and entrepreneurs, so they weren’t necessarily looking for someone with an equal bank statement balance. 

Watch the full segment on Today.com

I explained that age is no longer a barrier to love. I also noticed from my female coaching clients that they preferred to date younger guys given a choice. These women expressed they felt they’d like to meet someone who could keep up with them actively or didn’t want to take care of an older man.

On our site Dating in the Age of COVID-19, our ongoing survey shows that 83% of singles are looking for a meaningful relationship,, and during the lockdown, age and zip codes are tossed out the window. Everyone was dating virtually, and in a sense, in a long-distance relationship. 

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Since the segment aired, I’ve heard from so many couples who shared their loving age-gap difference stories, and I’m touched by all of them.

Do you think the age stigma has dissipated? How much younger or older in age are you willing to date? 

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She’s an award-winning dating coach who’s been helping singles find love for over 25 years.

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Google Trends Reports Searches for Dating Reach 5-Year High as Dating Apps Spike This Summer

Jul 20th

Google Trends Reports Dating App Search Surge

For many years, the most popular search term on Google was, “What is love?”

Singles who desire to fall in love and understand the complicated relationship stages are still actively searching for answers online. As reported by NPR,  during the summer of love, Google Trends has seen a spike in dating related searches.

Google Trends Reports Dating Apps Surge

 

On the Google Trends Twitter feed, the social media giant posted their findings, including a 3,400% spike in usage for “top dating apps” in the past month. Baby boomers are joining in, with searches as “dating apps for older people” also rose by 3,500%. 

Google Trends Dating Apps

In Washington, DC, the top search overall on Google was “How to Date” during the second week of July of 2021.

Dating Apps Feel the Love

Dating apps served as an essential tool for singles to connect during COVID-19 lockdowns. Now that it’s safe for singles who are vaccinated to make up for lost time at home, they’re flocking to dating apps with the hope of meeting someone special.

Dana Balch, a Tinder spokesperson, told NPR, their location-based dating app has seen some of its most extensive days of swiping this year.

“I think this is really coming from a place where people want to connect with others during a time when they’ve felt isolated,” she told NPR.

Vaccinations are the New Sexy

Dating apps are providing ways to include your vaccination status on your profiles. Whether you decide to put it front and center and post that you’ve been double-vaccinated, add a vaccinated badge on your OkCupid profile, or decide to list your Covid-Dating Preferences on Bumble, the vaccination conversation is a hot topic and helps singles feel safe.

Google Trends - Bumble Covid Preferences

RELATED POST: Dating Apps Partner With White House to Get More Singles Vaccinated

Between the summer heat, covid-vaccinated singles, and outdoor concerts and events, singles are ramping up their dating skills and are ready for love. Singles looking for love are also enlisting the help of dating coaches to make sure they make a great first impression.

If you need some help getting back out there this summer, find out how our Irresistible Profiles coaching program will help you find your dream date. 

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and an award-winning dating coach. She’s the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over 25 years. Follow @JulieSpira on Instagram and Twitter for dating advice.

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OkCupid and Match Apps Partner with White House to Help Singles Get More Matches if Vaccinated

May 21st

If you’re looking for love advice post-COVID-19, look no further than the White House.

In a White House Covid-19 Response briefing on May 21, viewers heard the importance of getting a Covid vaccine if they’re looking for love online.

White House COVID-19 advisor Andy Slavitt said, “According to one of the sites, OkCupid, people who display their vaccine status are 14% more likely to get a match. We have finally found the one thing that makes us more attractive — a vaccination.”

Starting on Monday, May 24, 2021, OkCupid will launch their “I’m Vaccinated” profile badge and will be able to search for other vaccinated singles within OkCupid’s stacks. OkCupid reports the phrase “I’m Vaccinated” was mentioned in daters’ profiles 1,400% more in May of 2021, as compared to January when the vaccine first started rolling out.

In a press release, Match group’s CEO, Shar Dubey, said, “We are honored to work with the White House on increasing Vaccinations across America, which will allow people to once again meet in person and engage in meaningful ways. This will make dating safer for everyone, everywhere.”

Along with various vaccination profile badges, other Match Group apps, including Tinder, will provide users with “I’m Vaccinated” or “Vaccines Save Lives” stickers to add to their profile. The Match app will add a “Vaccinated” badge, Hinge will give users a free “Rose,” Plenty of Fish will release an “I Got My Shot” badge, along with free Live” credits to live stream with an online date, BLK will add a “Vaxified” badge, and Chispa will add a “Vacunado” profile badge.

Tinder, Match, Plenty of Fish, Hinge, BLK, Chispa will also be rewarding singles who are vaccinated with free Super Likes and Boosts to help them appear more frequently in searches.

The vaccinated campaigns will run through the Fourth of July.

Other apps, including Bumble and Badoo, will be offering vaccination badges to help create COVID vaccine awareness.

It’s time to kick COVID to the curb as we welcome the summer of love and dating safely for those who are ready to date IRL again.

Take our Poll on Dating in the Age of COVID-19

Julie Spira is America’s Online Dating Expert and the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She’s an award-winning dating coach who’s been helping singles on finding love online for over 25 years.

FOLLOW @JulieSpira on Instagram and Twitter for dating advice.  

 

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Dating Sunday 2021 – The Best Day of the Year to Find Love Online

Jan 3rd

Dating Sunday

 

The year 2020 will go down as one of the most challenging and gut-wrenchingly painful years in history with COVID-19 at heightened levels on New Year’s Eve, but it turned out to be one of the most active years for singles looking for love online.

The New York Times reports singles who are quarantining are proposing, and engagement ring sales are up, and OkCupid predicts more than 15 million new conversations around Dating Sunday this year, with 25 million new matches expected in January alone. 

Virtual dating took center stage as we zoomed and FaceTimed our way to navigate love.

Today, on Dating Sunday, 2021, the activity level for singles on dating apps is expected to hit record numbers, and you won’t want to miss this worldwide digital party.

What is Dating Sunday?

Every year, the first Sunday after the New Year is the day where singles who decided to put finding love at the top of their resolutions list, log on looking for love. For those who rang in the New Year solo, had a recent breakup, or have Valentine’s Day on their minds, Dating Sunday is the day where your digital dreams can come true. 

Due to the pandemic, I’ve found the perspective on finding a meaningful relationship is magnified.  Many of us are still stuck at home with travel and fine dining on the back burner, so today’s the day to revise your dating profile, add a few photos of your socially-distanced walks, post one with your favorite mask, and get ready to start chatting.

Our ongoing poll on DatingintheAgeofCovid19.com shows that 82% of singles want a long-term relationship more than ever. 

Dating in the Age of COVID-19

Tonight, you might even want to dress up from the waist up, with the likelihood of your conversation moving to an impromptu video date. (Hint: Keep lipstick handy). 

The most active time to be online is approximately 9pm, local time. 

With this in mind, here’s how to master Dating Sunday.

  • Update Your Profile  – Last year’s story shouldn’t follow you into 2021. By showing that you’re active now, it sends the message that you’re taking finding love seriously. If you’re listing vacations or group events, it’s time to update your profile to show you’re dating responsibly and have high hopes for the New Year.

 

  • Reach Out and Connect – Don’t play the waiting game. Initiate contact first, respond quickly, and even reconnect with someone where the conversation faded in 2020. It’s still a good time to wish someone you previously chatted with a “Happy New Year,” because we could all use some joy and happiness right now.

 

  • Use Spell-Check and Grammar Check Sloppy messages that say, “Hey,” won’t cut it. You’re home, and you have time to craft the perfect five-sentence message. Remember to ask a question so that you can create a dialog and develop a flirty rapport.

 

  • Create a Fun Virtual Background – Dating should be fun, and both you, and your surroundings need to look your best. Find a virtual background that matches your personality, and if you prefer a virtual date on the fly, make sure your surroundings are free of clutter. Bumble reports in-app video calls increased by 70% since March, so you can easily chat within their platform.

 

  • Know Your Intentions – A new year is the time to take inventory on the type of relationship you truly desire.  If someone’s profile states they’re looking for something casual, swipe left if your goal is to find a serious relationship or marriage.  It’s time to toss the crumbs in the trash, because wasting your time with someone who doesn’t have the same relationship goals will prevent you from having the amazing love you deserve. 

Put a smile on your face, and think about some of the positive activities you experienced in 2020 to share with someone new. From binge-watching Schitt’s Creek to taking a painting class or bike riding, it’s time to push the restart button with the help of your mobile phone. 

The Match Group saw a 40% increase in usage on Dating Sunday last year and Coffee Meets Bagel saw a 60% spike in new sign ups on Dating Sunday in 2020. Tonight is show time. It’s the “Super Bowl” of dating, leading up to Valentine’s Day.

If you need some hand-holding, find out how our Irresistible Profiles and VIP Digital Matchmaker programs can help you find love online in the new year. 

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. 

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She’s been coaching singles on finding love online for over 25 years. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and Instagram. Sign up for the FREE Digital Flirt Newsletter. 

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Voting is Sexy. OkCupid Says “I Voted” is the New “I Love You.”

Sep 1st

OkCupid Voting Report

With the combustive election cycle heading into high gear, you have to be living under a rock to avoid the topic of politics.

In fact, not having an opinion can hurt your chances of finding a date or a romantic partner, according to a new report from OkCupid.

The site reports that politics continues to be the top deal-breaker in dating, with 76% of singles saying how their date leans is vital to them.

According to the OkCupid Voter 2020 report, 500,000 people responded they could not date someone who didn’t vote, with 85% of registered voters more likely to receive a message from a potential date, and 63% of registered voters more likely to get matched.

OkCupid Registered Voters

“Now more than ever, daters want to connect with people who share their values,” says Ariel Charytan, OkCupid’s CEO. “We have always empowered people to match on what matters to them, and our millions of daters across the United States overwhelmingly prioritize civic engagement when it comes to finding someone they are compatible with.”

RELATED: Love at the Polls: Close to 90% Won’t Date Someone Who Didn’t Vote

To help single daters during this gut-wrenching and unprecedented time, OkCupid has created a new voter badge that will automatically be added to members’ profiles if they answer the question, “Are you registered to vote in the 2020 election?”

OkCupid voter badge

This voter badge shows you care about this divisive country we’re living in. By including this badge, along with a previously released badge for Black Lives Matter displayed on your profile, is, in my opinion, a magnet for love.

Singles who say they aren’t registered to vote will soon be redirected to a page on OkCupid in partnership with “When We All Vote,” to register to vote in real-time. The WWAV initiative was launched by Michelle Obama, Tom Hanks, Lin Manuel-Miranda, and Janelle Monae, among others, to help singles register to vote in the 2020 election.

Love is at stake, and now is the time to show your values to connect with someone during this critical and historic election.

If the pandemic and civil unrest haven’t widely opened your eyes, perhaps OkCupid’s state-by-state interactive map will show how singles feel about serious issues of families separated at the border, prison reform, climate change, and stricter gun control. At least they’ll give you topics of conversation to discuss when you match with your date.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you swipe and roam leading to election day.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She’s the author and creator of Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships, and has been helping singles navigate love for over 25 years.

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