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Happy International Happiness Day

Mar 20th

1456934358635While we strive for happiness every day of the year, on March 20th we celebrate both International Happiness Day and it’s also the first day of spring!

It’s on a Monday this year, so find some time to add joy and happiness to your life, with a little help with these quotes and gifs to last you all week long.

 

Happiness Day

1. “The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.” – Audrey Hepburn

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2. “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi

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3. “Being happy never goes out of style.” – Lily Pulitzer

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4. “The U.S. Constitution doesn’t guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself.” – Benjamin Franklin

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5. “Happiness is not a goal; it is a byproduct.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

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6. “The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are, and not who people think you are.” – Goldie Hawn

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7. “If you can do what you do best and be happy, you’re further along in life than most people.” – Leonardo DiCaprio

 To get involved, head over to the official International Day of Happiness website and take the pledge to help create a happier world.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the CEO and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over 20 years. Julie’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, newly released with a magical epilogue and a fairy tale ending.

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How to Flirt BIG TIME on St. Patrick’s Day

Mar 16th

Cyber Dating ExpertSt. Patrick’s Day is here, and it’s time to get into the spirit of this flirty holiday.

Years ago, I would wear a button that said “Kiss Me, I’m Irish,” even though there was not a speck of Irish blood in me.

To help you flirt, big time and to ramp up your digital flirting skills, here’s the online dating expert’s guide to flirting on St. Patrick’s Day.

 

1. Send a flirty text. Texting the the person you have a crush on to say “Happy St. Patrick’s Day” will brighten their day. Add a four-leaf clover emoji. Even if they aren’t Irish, chances are they’ll reply to you.

2. Wear green. Find the tackiest flashing buttons, goofiest, hats, and make sure to wear something green to celebrate. It’s the easiest way to strike up a conversation with someone on St. Patrick’s Day.

3. Change your dating profile. It’s time to mix it up online. Post a photo wearing something green, ask if someone wants to get lucky in love, post quotes about the luck of the Irish and St. Patrick’s Day on your profiles and on social media. Get bolder and post “Kiss me if you’re Irish.” Start swiping right in the morning on Tinder, Bumble, or other mobile dating apps to find a date by the afternoon.

4. Send a GIF. Open your mobile dating app and send a GIF to your digital crush. These days, apps such as Tinder, Bumble, or even Twitter are using Giphy. Send a fun animated GIF to someone you’ve been chatting with to spice up the convo.

5. Send an animated e-card. We’re big fans of JibJab!, where you send a customized a video or e-card starring you. It will come complete with background music and is guaranteed to give a smile or two.

6. Smile everywhere you go. A smile is contagious and everyone wants to be around someone who appears to be happy. Practice the 5-second stare while smiling at someone you would like to meet. It’s the cue for them to come over and wish you a “Happy St. Patrick’s Day.” Who knows where the conversation will lead?

7. Compliment everyone. You might normally run away from the guy with the tacky green tee shirt, but stop and say hello. Take it one step further and pose in a ‘selfie’ together. He won’t be able to help himself and will put his arm around you for the photo. If the sparks start to fly, it’s your invitation to continue the conversation. Be even bolder and post it, with permission of course, on Facebook or Instagram.

8. Find a parade. Go to a St. Patrick’s Day parade in your city. Everyone loves a parade and it will give you an excuse to start a conversation with those you end up bundled up with.

 

9. Go to the dog park. There’s a reason it’s called puppy love. Put a green bandana on your dog’s collar and take a walk to the local dog park. Your dog will do the flirting for you and it will be a great conversation starter.

10. Make a Shamrock Shake. We have a healthy recipe for a Shamrock Shake that you’ll absolutely love and it can be a fun date idea. If you aren’t into buying the ingredients, and are flying solo, head to Starbucks for a coffee date and order a green tea Frappuccino, or go to a sushi bar and order green tea and green tea ice cream.

 

Wishing you much love, luck, and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira is America’s Top online dating expert and mobile dating expert. She’s the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com and has been coaching singles on finding love online with her Irresistible Profiles for over 20 years.

Julie’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

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7 Quotes To Feel Lucky on St. Patrick’s Day

Mar 15th

It’s that time of year again to put on your most stylish green shirt or dress, don a “Kiss Me, I’m Irish” pin, dance a jig, and order a green beer, or at least green tea if you fancy a healthier choice.

Here are 7 Quotes to Help You Feel Lucky on St. Patrick’s Day

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“Luck is believing you’re lucky.” – Tennessee Williams

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“Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it.” – Robert Mitchum

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“The best luck of all is the luck you make for yourself.” – Douglas MacArthur

 

Related: 10 Ways to Flirt on St. Patrick’s Day

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“In the long run, you make your own luck – good, bad, indifferent.” – Loretta Lynn

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“Good luck needs no explanation.” – Shirley Temple

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“Luck affects everything. Let your hook always be cast; in the stream where you least expect it, there will be a fish.” – Ovid

Related: Love Potions Shamrock Shake

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“Luck is a matter of preparation meeting opportunity.”  – Seneca

Whether you’re Irish and are holding a four-leaf clover, or are feeling lucky in love on this March day, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

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Become a Magnet for Love

Mar 1st

Magnet for Love Summit

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How would it feel if six months from now, you finally met your ideal guy?

You know the kind of guy I am talking about, the guy who “gets you”, makes you feel special, the guy you are actually attracted to and he is so HOT for you.

Someone to go on holidays with this summer, share your life and stories with, right?!

My good friend and dating expert Lorna Poole has something special to help you get all of that and more – and I am incredibly excited and honored to be a part of it!

She’s gathered 20 of The Best Dating Experts in the world to share with you the exact secrets to attracting, finding and keeping the man of your dreams.

  • No more getting fed up with dating.
  • No more believing it’s never going to happen for you.
  • No more thinking you need to be thinner, more successful, have your life together before it all works out for you.
  • No more wondering why others seem to be so much “luckier” in love than you

During our time together you are going to know exactly how to:

  • Attract a quality guy and keep him
  • Understanding why men pull away
  • How to spot the red flags before you get in too deep
  • What it really takes to become a magnet for love
  • How to fall in love with yourself and find your soulmate
  • Understand the differences between the male mind and female mind, so you truly become magnetic to him
  • How to get men to ask you out in REAL LIFE, even if you met them in an online dating site.

Here’s how to be a part of it…

Join me, Lorna and my colleagues on the FREE Magnet For Love Summit starting 13th March, where we share with you everything you need to know about love, men and dating so that you can make love a reality for you this year.

And if you’ve never attended a summit you are in for a real treat. A summit is where top experts from around the world gather together with one goal in mind: to share their absolute best advice with you! The Magnet For Love Summit features experts in the dating and relationship world all in one easy-to-access (and FREE) event over the course of 10 days.

Just check-in daily, listen to interviews, and get advice you can immediately apply in your life!

Sound good?

Then grab your spot here
This eye-opening summit is going to leave you feeling confident, loved and appreciated by men. You are going to know the exact steps to what it really takes to succeed in love.

And the best part, all of this info is delivered to you at NO COST! Because everyone deserves to love and be loved – and I’m honored to be a part of this amazing event that will help you with that.

Can’t wait to share all with you!

Julie

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Why Does He Text Another Woman

Feb 27th

In this week’s Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert column, a female reader is uncomfortable with the text messages her boyfriend is sending and receiving from another woman. What would you do? Read our answer here.

Dear Julie,

My boyfriend of over a year texts a woman who lives in a different state constantly. She has feelings for him. I told him that it makes me feel uncomfortable. But he tells me that I’m insecure and that they work together.

Please help!

Rhonda

Dear Rhonda,

Thanks for your message and I’m so sorry to hear about this painful experience you’re going through with your boyfriend.

That would make any girl uncomfortable. If you’ve been together for over a year, I’m assuming you’re in a committed relationship.

Texting or chatting with a woman on social media when it makes you uncomfortable is a form of emotional cheating. He’s giving you reasons to feel insecure, even though she lives in another state. He may be getting a dopamine boost, or at least an ego boost every time he hears the chirp text message from her. 

If he said, “gee I’m sorry. I’ll stop doing that because I don’t want to hurt you,” I’d be happy to hear that.

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Instead he wants to keep flirting with his digital girlfriend, who perhaps doesn’t even know you exist. I get it that it’s a great ego boost for him and it seems new and shiny to him, unattainable, and a bit of a fantasy relationship since she doesn’t live in town.

Here’s what I think you should do. Explain to him that you believe this texting is a form of emotional cheating and ask him why he feels the need to text her. Start sending him flirty texts so that need is fulfilled by you and perhaps he won’t feel the desire to text her. Then ask him to put the brakes on it and stop texting her out of respect for you. Ask him if he will let her know he’s involved with you and that he wants to focus his energies on your relationship.

Know that every man likes to look at women who are attractive and that’s normal. Creating this emotional bond over texts is crossing the line. He can’t have his girlfriend (you) and this girl on the side on his keyboard and lead her on. She probably doesn’t even know about you! Even if he isn’t interested in her romantically, if she made it clear she has feelings for him, this has potential to grow and could be harmful to your relationship.

RELATED: 20 Flirty Text Messages to Capture His Heart

Instead of demanding to see his phone to see the texts, just ask him if he will stop. If he won’t, ask him why this is important to him and find out what’s missing from your relationship so you can spice it up. Texts can lead to sexts and it’s damaging to a relationship. It can also become addictive.

Have a heart to heart talk with your guy before you call it quits, but if he won’t put your relationship at the top and stop these text exchanges with a woman who claims to have feelings for him, it may be time to call it quits.

We’re here to help you, so if you need dating coaching advice, check out our Irresistible Coaching programs.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. xo

Julie

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