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Jan 30th

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Voting is Sexy. OkCupid Says “I Voted” is the New “I Love You.”

Sep 1st

OkCupid Voting Report

With the combustive election cycle heading into high gear, you have to be living under a rock to avoid the topic of politics.

In fact, not having an opinion can hurt your chances of finding a date or a romantic partner, according to a new report from OkCupid.

The site reports that politics continues to be the top deal-breaker in dating, with 76% of singles saying how their date leans is vital to them.

According to the OkCupid Voter 2020 report, 500,000 people responded they could not date someone who didn’t vote, with 85% of registered voters more likely to receive a message from a potential date, and 63% of registered voters more likely to get matched.

OkCupid Registered Voters

“Now more than ever, daters want to connect with people who share their values,” says Ariel Charytan, OkCupid’s CEO. “We have always empowered people to match on what matters to them, and our millions of daters across the United States overwhelmingly prioritize civic engagement when it comes to finding someone they are compatible with.”

RELATED: Love at the Polls: Close to 90% Won’t Date Someone Who Didn’t Vote

To help single daters during this gut-wrenching and unprecedented time, OkCupid has created a new voter badge that will automatically be added to members’ profiles if they answer the question, “Are you registered to vote in the 2020 election?”

OkCupid voter badge

This voter badge shows you care about this divisive country we’re living in. By including this badge, along with a previously released badge for Black Lives Matter displayed on your profile, is, in my opinion, a magnet for love.

Singles who say they aren’t registered to vote will soon be redirected to a page on OkCupid in partnership with “When We All Vote,” to register to vote in real-time. The WWAV initiative was launched by Michelle Obama, Tom Hanks, Lin Manuel-Miranda, and Janelle Monae, among others, to help singles register to vote in the 2020 election.

Love is at stake, and now is the time to show your values to connect with someone during this critical and historic election.

If the pandemic and civil unrest haven’t widely opened your eyes, perhaps OkCupid’s state-by-state interactive map will show how singles feel about serious issues of families separated at the border, prison reform, climate change, and stricter gun control. At least they’ll give you topics of conversation to discuss when you match with your date.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you swipe and roam leading to election day.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She’s the author and creator of Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships, and has been helping singles navigate love for over 25 years.

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Dating During the Pandemic – Julie Spira on NBC Today in LA

Aug 29th

 

On NBC Today in LA, I was a guest with Daniella Guzman and Jonathan Gonzalez to talk about quarantine love and Dating in the Age of COVID-19: How to Find Love in a Pandemic.

I explained why dating is a hot topic in a pandemic, and where singles originally pushed the pause button; Not anymore.

Here’s an excerpt from our interview.

Daniella: The pandemic has put a hold on a lot of things, including dating, in person. Singles are heading to dating apps and websites to meet new people.

Jonathan: Dating is hard enough as it is. Have you seen more people turning to dating apps during this time?

Julie: I have. As a matter of fact, the numbers have really skyrocketed! I have an ongoing poll on my site, DatingintheAgeofCOVID19.com, with the question, how has COVID-19 changed your dating life?

The majority, 83% said they were looking for a meaningful relationship more than ever, with less than 3% looking to hook up.

Daniella: So how does this work? You start with a Zoom meeting, and what’s your suggestion on how this works to date during the pandemic?

Julie: We do go in stages, and I’m a big fan of virtual dating. I created something called the Dress Rehearsal, where I actually go on “mock date” with people to get them ready for their date.

I check their lighting and what they’re wearing. As you can see I’m wearing red, and red pops on a video video date. 

We start slowly, with the first date being just a virtual drink. So I suggest bringing something bubbly, and putting on something that you’d wear if you were going to meet for happy hour, and do come with a happy face.

Daniella How can people stay safe if they do choose to finally make that next step and meet in person?

Julie: Right now, I’m not recommending meeting in person. I believe you’re better off safe at home, having virtual dates and doing fun thing for each other; sending deliveries.

I know some people send Venmo payments so they can pick up the tab from for their date’s dinner from their favorite restaurant.

Do things that are actually fun. Take a painting class together.

Start thinking about things you might want to do when the coast is clear to meet up in person.

Daniella:  It can get really lonely. This is a really good way, if not anything, to make a new friend as well. But, there are risks involved, always.

How can users make sure the person they’re talking to is the same person as their profile pictures. Does it make it more difficult when you don’t see that person?

Julie: This, Daniella, is the reason I believe in virtual dates. Whether you’re using Skype or Zoom or FaceTime, here’s an opportunity to make sure that someone’s not a “catfish.’ If their profile photos look a certain way, and then you get on a date or hop on a call, and they’re not recognizable, well, they’re probably hiding a lot more than just old photos.

Jonathan: Thank you Julie Spira for joining us today. You can find Julie on Instagram @JulieSpira and on her website at CyberDatingExpert.com.

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Have You Heard about Free.Date? Here’s How it Works

May 22nd

This is a sponsored post by FreeDate. 

With dating app usage on the rise during the coronavirus, and stay-at-home orders continuing to extend, it’s time to look at adding a new site to your arsenal.

Free.Date, describes themselves as a completely free dating site. They’ve got over 300,000 registered users, and there’s no freemium to premium model for members on their website.

Their founder explains that their site was created for the user experience, and they believe their service is unique in the world of free dating sites.

Their platform is based on an advertising model that runs with Google Ads so that you can leave your credit cards behind.

Here’s a tutorial on how to use Free.Date

Sign Up

Signing up is simple. Visit their website, where your options are to sign up using Google or to log in with your email address.

For using Google, click on the social login button, which will direct you to the registration page.

For Email sign up, you’ll need to include your birthday, gender, a valid email address, pass through the Recaptcha, and then start filling out your profile. You’ll get an email confirmation, and will need to confirm your email address to complete your registration.

Once you complete your registration, then you can start using the site.

Users can update personal details such as username, password, location, age, who you’re interested in, and your about section. You’ll also need to upload a minimum of three profile photos.

Here’s a tour of the site.

Home – The home section after login shows you profiles of users from the city and state where you registered when you signed up.

Edit Profile – Once you’ve created your profile, you can update it to change your location, photos, and About section. There are 30 boxes you can check to describe your profession or astrological sign.

Search – The fun part about the search feature is you can search for registered users in any city or another part of the world.

States – Users can explore American singles across the U.S.A.

Mail – The inBox and Outbox are separated, allowing users to check both sent messages and those they receive.

Pledge – The pledge section encourages users to follow the correct actions while using free.date. They have photo policies to help you feel safe, including messaging, and reporting users if necessary.

Members Online – This feature allows registered users to view the available members currently online.

FAQs – A place for all questions related to the site, including how to join, message, upload pictures, use their features, and report inappropriate users.

Free.Date

Settings – In settings, you can change your username, update your email address, change your password, and email preferences.

Match Me – This advanced feature option is available to all registered users.

Highlights

  • Send Free Messages to other profiles.
  • Unlimited Winks, Add Favorites, and Meet Me.
  • Search Singles from various regions (Australia to United States).
  • Find Profiles who are interested in Female, Male, or Female-to-Female and Male-to-Male matches.

Unregistered or guest users can still explore the site using search functions while looking at profiles from different cities, as listed in their footer.

Conclusion: Is it worth trying?

Free.Date is a genuine free dating site that stays true to its promise. User profiles and transparency is what makes them unique and attracts thousands of users every day.

You can feel safe when accessing their site since it uses a secure SSL connection.

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When Should I Talk About My Ex, or Should I?

May 15th

 
Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert - Ex
 
The question of reaching out to an ex during the pandemic is a popular one at Cyber-Dating Expert, but what do you do if you’ve met someone new, and you keep bringing your ex to the table? 
 
There’s always been an unspoken rule in dating that talking about your ex is an off-limits subject on a first date, or especially during the early days of dating.
 
It’s a huge turn-off to your new partner because it sends the message that you’re possibly not over your ex, or you’re playing the comparison game. No one wants to walk on eggshells with you, so refrain from talking about the ex, so you and your new partner can start with a clean slate, and you don’t end up in a complicated love triangle.
 
It’s not necessary to talk about an ex, but somehow these default questions frequently come up of, “So how long have you been single,” or “How long was your last relationship?” Just because someone asks, it doesn’t mean they genuinely want to know the answer. It falls into the category of asking how many people have you slept with. You know your answer will be judged as having too many, or not enough. I believe the same holds true with constant banter about someone from your past.
 
 
Still, you might run into your ex if you have mutual friends or might even be good friends with a previous partner.
 
If that’s the case, you should let your date know that you’re proud that you’ve been able to keep a healthy friendship with your ex, but there’s no chance of reconciliation. 
 
This conversation should only come up if you know you’re in a promising relationship, where you’ve agreed to be exclusive, and if you travel traveling in the same circles as your ex.
 
If you’re going to attend a birthday party, holiday gathering, or will be on the same virtual happy hour together, it’s best to let your partner know your ex will be at the same event. 
 
You should always avoid bashing your ex, or complaining about your sexual life because your partner will assume you could say the same about them. 
 
The conversation about the ex will come up at some point, and I firmly believe the best approach is to say they’re an ex for a reason, or the relationship ran its course, but you’re still cordial.
 
When you talk about an ex with someone new, it comes across as baggage that you’re still carrying. I believe in taking the high road, not pointing out all of the flaws in your past relationships, and instead praise the things you like about your new relationship. Let your new boo know how grateful you are that you’ve met theme, and are happy they’re at your side. 
 
If you’re directly asked about your past history or an ex early on in your relationship, I believe you should change the subject, or say something flirty such as, “An ex? I thought you were my first.”
 
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She’s been coaching singles on finding love online for over 25 years. Find out how the Dress Rehearsal service will help you get ready for your virtual dates, and FOLLOW @JulieSpira on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram
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Confidence Dating

May 15th

Do you talk to your friends about frustrations with your love life? Do you feel better after you’ve shared your woes with them?

If so, check out Confidence Dating. It’s a new blog created by Iman Llompart, where experiences and lessons are learned to help you feel less alone.

Iman believes when you share your relationship stories, others will feel helpful and it leads to starting a conversation.

Confidence Dating is looking for people who are willing to share their dating rituals and opinions for their blog. They’d also like you to go virtual, and hop on a Zoom call with them to talk about their site, where they say, “Sharing Experiences in Dating. Building Confidence in Love.”

Sound interesting?

Contact ConfidenceDating.net, or follow them on Facebook, and @confidencedati1 on Twitter.

This is a sponsored post by Confidence Dating. 

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