I’m so happy you’re here.
It seems like this summer sped by like lightning in a thunderstorm.
It’s time to welcome one of my favorite months of the year, October. According to a Gallup Poll reported by the Today Show, May and October rank as the top two months of the year.
I love October, as the weather is still warm in Los Angeles and the leaves are turning colors in other cities around the country. It’s time for adventure, weekend getaways and thinking about love. After all, who wouldn’t want to fall in love this fall?
October is a time where we start to think about the holidays, change our wardrobes, and start to fill our calendars with regular activities that took a break in the summer. It’s also one of the flirtiest months of the year as we celebrate Halloween. We have some fun costume ideas to bring out your inner flirt.
Also in October, we start to think about Thanksgiving and what we’re grateful for all the good we have happening in our lives.
Here are Cyber-Dating Expert headquarters, we love to share our success stories and we have two couples we’ve worked with who are getting married in October in fairy-tale weddings and another couple who are moving in together. Does online dating work? You bet! It’s been fun going to bridal showers in September for these October brides!
So as we reflect on the summer romances we might have had and think about what is in store for us this fall, I encourage you to fill your date cards, think about the possibilities of attracting a great love in your life, and if you’re dating someone special, take a plunge and put all ten toes in. Have a profile deleting party just for the two of you and toast to your new relationship status.
If you’ve taken a break from online dating, it’s time to reactivate your profile. Try a new mobile dating app to speed up your search and let us help you with your quest.
On our end, October is always a big month for us. It’s our Anniversary month of the launch of CyberDatingExpert.com and we’ll be celebrating our 7th anniversary with some special offers and the announcement of the audio book version of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. After spending two full days in a Hollywood studio recording the audio book, we’re now in post-production. All I can say is, wait until you read the never-been-released Epilogue! It will also include an audio bonus with the newest dating advice to help you while looking for love online and on your mobile phones.
Regardless of your relationship status, embrace the month of October. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.
As always, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo
Julie and the Cyber-Dating Expert team.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of the Internet and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
Our friends at OkCupid had a bit of a digital facelift recently. Among the changes to help you find love online more quickly, you might notice that you no longer can search for someone by their username anymore.
A recent study showed that LOVE is the number one most popular search term for single searching on OkCupid. But what if you suddenly can’t find his or her profile anymore?
While they’ve refined the site to help you browse for matches more easily, taking a peek at that cute hunk or hottie that you have a digital crush on might be a little bit more difficult.
If you’re wondering how to find his or her Internet dating profile, the good news is you can still browse and search for a user, but getting there is a bit more complicated.
Here’s how to find a profile on OkCupid based on the username:
1. Log onto OkCupid on your desktop.
2. Click on your profile thumbnail on the top right hand side of the screen.
4. Type in the user’s name in the box where it says search by username.
5. If their profile is active, it will appear and you can now click on their profile.
To make it simpler, type in this URL below in your browser while logged on to OkCupid. It will take you directly to the “Find a User” page. Remember, unless you’re an “A List” where you can browse anonymously, or are using the new Incognito premium feature, which hides your profile from being viewed by users who you haven’t liked or messaged, users will see that you recently visited their online dating profile.
Are you using OkCupid? What do you think of the recent changes to their site?
To find out more about how to create an Irresistible Profile to find your dream date, visit IrresistibleProfiles.com.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For more online and mobile dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
To help you with your search, Match.com will be saying goodbye to your old screen name and you can now officially use your first name on your profile. As we can see from mobile dating apps such as Tinder and other sites, singels actually like to see your real name on a profile.
In thinking back to my first user names, I wanted to have a bit of anonymity and used “Pianobaby” as I played a baby grand piano and “HarleyQT” as I loved riding on the back of bikes. I felt they were a good representation of my personality with the hopes of finding someone else who was passionate about music and motorcycles.
Starting today, you can change your screen name to your first name. According to the Match blog, If you’re first name is Sarah, Michelle or Lisa, chances are you’ll get more emails from men. For the guys, if your first name is Mike, Steve, or Dan, you’ll have a greater chance of receiving an email from the ladies.
How to Change Your User Name on Match
If you’re ready to retire your screen name now, log on to your Match account and go to Account Settings to change your Match username to your actual name. You can also also change it using the Match app on your iPhone.
To celebrate this right of passage, Match would like to hear your horrible usernames– because let’s face it, everyone has had one. Tweet @Match using #RIPMatchUsername and they’ll pick their favorites to win a free 6-month membership.
Are you ready to change your screen name?
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles coaching programs. For more dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
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In this fun-filled hour on the radio, we talked about the early days on Internet dating, how I became an online dating expert, tips on what makes a great online dating profile photo, why singles swipe right and left on Tinder and other mobile dating apps, niche dating sites such as ChristianMingle and JDate and ‘catfishing’ and more.
When asked why online dating works so well, with one out of three relationships starting online, I explained that Internet dating is efficient. It’s available 24-hours a day. You can be sitting at work one moment, get a push notification on your mobile phone and be on a coffee date within minutes.
Tony wondered why people sign up for dating sites when they can date on Facebook for free, and I chimed in that Facebook could be the world’s largest dating site, if they wanted to be.
Listen to this replay of our live broadcast for everything you need to know to be successful with online dating.
For more online dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of the Internet and online dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For help with your online dating profile check out IrreistibleProfiles.com and SwipingRight to help find your dream date.
With the story that’s hitting the news worldwide and households in fear, we tackled the subject of the Ashley Madison hack on channel 11, My FOX LA, Studio 11 LA.
In a television interview with hosts Lauren Sivan and Bob DeCastro, the question came up, do you reveal that your email was one of 25+ million revealed on Ashley Madison or do you keep it to yourself?
In a story where the World Wide Web has become the Wild, Wild, West, the issues of privacy and infidelity are now at hand for millions of members of their site. Do you kiss-and-tell or do you call a divorce attorney?
Millions of women around the world will be heartbroken. Most of the site’s members reside in the United States, with Los Angeles and New York being the top cities for members.
Trust takes time to build and a split second to lose. How do you rebuild the trust? Can you?
A site called Trustify has a page where you can search for someone’s email to see if they’ve signed up, but this doesn’t guarantee they actually paid or met someone. The ratio of men to women is about 5:1.
I’m not a fan, nor an endorser of Ashley Madison or sites like these and believe in investing your time and energy into your relationship.
Would you tell your significant other you’ve joined Ashley Madison?
Watch as we discuss this difficult subject on FOX Los Angeles.
For dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles dating coaching programs. Visit CyberDatingExpert.com.