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The Perils of Cyber-Dating Audio Book

Oct 7th

Perils of Cyber-Dating Audio BookWe’re jumping for joy at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters as October is our Anniversary month. of the launch of It’s been 7 amazing years of providing online dating advice for singles looking for love online and on their mobile on phones on our site.

As a special surprise, I’ve been in Hollywood in the studio for weeks recording the audio book version of my bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. The exciting part is we’ve added a surprise Epilogue to the book that will warm your heart. Beware, some who have seen and heard a sneak preview have gotten teary-eyed with this new ending.  Take a look at the behind the scenes photos below.

Plus! We’ve added some fun and new BONUS audio dating tips on how to date on Tinder and other mobile apps, as well as other flirty dating tips to help speed up your search. These are not included in the print edition, so keep an eye our for our release date!

Perils of Cyber-Dating Audio BookI’m grateful for my amazing producer Jeff Davis who is still in post-production on the project and all I can say is WOW! Thank you from the bottom of my digital heart. Turning lemons into digital lemonade has been an amazing journey and touching the lives of singles worldwide has been a complete joy. Reading the book again was a very emotional experience. I had to stop a few times and reflect on my romantic journey, while sipping tea and honey to keep my voice going for 15 hours!

Many thanks to my friends on Facebook, who after crowdsourcing a handful of book covers designed by the lovely Megan Johnson, it was almost a unanimous vote for the book cover in this post with the gold seal. While some authors don’t like to read their own books, I felt strongly about having my voice heard in this memoir, plus I spent years in radio on-the-air and as a voice-over announcer, so I’ve been trained in radio. I hope you’ll like the final audio book as much as I do and that it will help you on your journey to finding your true love.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo.

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Huff Post Live – Will You LIKE Tinder Super Like?

Oct 6th

Tinder - Huff Post Live

Now there’s a new option besides swiping right and swiping left on Tinder.

On Huff Post Live, host Caitlyn Becker held a lively discussion on the new Super Like feature, which allows members to swipe up to highlight one potential match a day.

Are singles on Tinder looking for more serious relationships? Will this change the perception of Tinder from initially a hookup app to an app to find love on? Will you be flattered when you receive a Super Like notification, or will you continue to swipe left if you’re not interested.

READ: Tinder Adds Super Like Button to Nudge Your Digital Crush

All these questions and more on this episode of Huff Post Live.


For more on how to find love on Tinder, check out

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online and Mobile Dating Expert. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles coaching programs. For more dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

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Tinder Adds Super Like Button to Nudge Your Digital Crush

Oct 5th

Tinder LikeTinder users now have a better way to get noticed by someone who’s been busy swiping right and left.

The new Tinder “Super Like” option appears as a turquoise star on the lower right hand side of your screen. Before you get in a swiping frenzy on a profile, think long and hard. Tinder users get only one “Super Like” a day. Tinder Plus users, their paid premium service allows you to have five “Super Like” matches a day.

Read: Swipe Regret on Tinder?

According to the Tinder blog, users are three times more likely to match with someone they Super Like and conversations initiated by a Super Like last 70% longer.

How it works is, when you see a potential match, click on the Super Like icon and if you haven’t been matched yet, the blue star will hopefully get your potential date to think about it and to swipe right. If it’s a mutual match, your match will know that you more than like them.

READ: Cyber Love Story: They Met on Tinder

Tinder Plus members will notice that the Passport icon has disappeared. No need to fret. You can still search in other cities, by viewing the Discovery option.

Check out their cool video on how Tinder Plus works.

Happy Swiping!

For more on how you can find your dream date on Tinder, check our

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and helps singles shorten their search while looking for love online and from their mobile phones.

Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

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Hello October!

Oct 2nd

Hello October -Cyber Dating ExpertHello October!

I’m so happy you’re here.

It seems like this summer sped by like lightning in a thunderstorm.

It’s time to welcome one of my favorite months of the year, October. According to a Gallup Poll reported by the Today Show, May and October rank as the top two months of the year.

I love October, as the weather is still warm in Los Angeles and the leaves are turning colors in other cities around the country. It’s time for adventure, weekend getaways and thinking about love. After all, who wouldn’t want to fall in love this fall?

October is a time where we start to think about the holidays, change our wardrobes, and start to fill our calendars with regular activities that took a break in the summer. It’s also one of the flirtiest months of the year as we celebrate Halloween. We have some fun costume ideas to bring out your inner flirt.


Also in October, we start to think about Thanksgiving and what we’re grateful for all the good we have happening in our lives.

Here are Cyber-Dating Expert headquarters, we love to share our success stories and we have two couples we’ve worked with who are getting married in October in fairy-tale weddings and another couple who are moving in together. Does online dating work? You bet! It’s been fun going to bridal showers in September for these October brides!

So as we reflect on the summer romances we might have had and think about what is in store for us this fall, I encourage you to fill your date cards, think about the possibilities of attracting a great love in your life, and if you’re dating someone special, take a plunge and put all ten toes in. Have a profile deleting party just for the two of you and toast to your new relationship status.

If you’ve taken a break from online dating, it’s time to reactivate your profile. Try a new mobile dating app to speed up your search and let us help you with your quest.

On our end, October is always a big month for us. It’s our Anniversary month of the launch of and we’ll be celebrating our 7th anniversary with some special offers and the announcement of the audio book version of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. After spending two full days in a Hollywood studio recording the audio book, we’re now in post-production. All I can say is, wait until you read the never-been-released Epilogue! It will also include an audio bonus with the newest dating advice to help you while looking for love online and on your mobile phones.

Regardless of your relationship status, embrace the month of October. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

As always, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

Julie and the Cyber-Dating Expert team.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of the Internet and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Do you need some hand-holding? Learn more about how our Irresistible Profiles can help you find your dream date and how Swiping Right can speed up your search on mobile apps such as Tinder and Hinge.

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OkCupid – How to Search for a User

Sep 24th

OkCupid User NameOur friends at OkCupid had a bit of a digital facelift recently.  Among the changes to help you find love online more quickly, you might notice that you no longer can search for someone by their username anymore.

A recent study showed that LOVE is the number one most popular search term for single searching on OkCupid. But what if you suddenly can’t find his or her profile anymore?

While they’ve refined the site to help you browse for matches more easily,  taking a peek at that cute hunk or hottie that you have a digital crush on might be a little bit more difficult.

If you’re wondering how to find his or her Internet dating profile, the good news is you can still browse and search for a user, but getting there is a bit more complicated.

Here’s how to find a profile on OkCupid based on the username:

1. Log onto OkCupid on your desktop.

2.  Click on your profile thumbnail on the top right hand side of the screen.


3. A drop down box will appear, where you can select “Find a User.”


4.  Type in the user’s name in the box where it says search by username.

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5.  If their profile is active, it will appear and you can now click on their profile.

To make it simpler, type in this URL below in your browser while logged on to OkCupid.  It will take you directly to the “Find a User” page. Remember, unless you’re an “A List” where you can browse anonymously, or are using the new Incognito premium feature, which hides your profile from being viewed by users who you haven’t liked or messaged, users will see that you recently visited their online dating profile.

Are you using OkCupid? What do you think of the recent changes to their site?

To find out more about how to create an Irresistible Profile to find your dream date, visit

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For more online and mobile dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.






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