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Happy National Girlfriends Day

Aug 1st

Hello Tweethearts and welcome to August.

My the summer is flying by fast.

Today is National Girlfriends Day. While everyday should be a day to honor friendships, our quote of the day from Gwyneth Paltrow is a great way to start the week. If you know someone who is hurting, reach out and reconnect. Friendship is like a boomerang, it keeps coming back to you.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

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Why Does My Boyfriend Still Chat Online

Aug 1st

Ask the Cyberdating Expert Radio ShowDear Julie,

I’m frustrated with something happening in my relationship and hope you can help.

Can you please help me understand what my boyfriend means when he says, “He misses chatting to girls, because he enjoys their conversations more than male conversations.”

He added that he also misses the fact that he can talk to them without people jumping to conclusions.

Do you think he misses being single and having the excitement of taking to new girls? We’ve been dating for almost a year and we’re very similar and haven’t been in a fight as yet, because we usually talk through things before it becomes a problem.

Many thanks,

Anneline

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My Dear Anneline,

As a dating expert, I can tell you that your boyfriend clearly needs the validation that other girls still like him, even if he is hopelessly devoted to you. I don’t know if the two of you met online or out-and-about, but it’s clear to me that he’s keeping his options open. Perhaps he’s insecure or just got addicted to online dating and can’t take his profile down.

I don’t know if he’s chatting on social media sites such as snapchat, Facebook, WhatsApp or actually has a profile on Tinder or Bumble and is chatting that way. Either way, I look at chatting and flirting with other women when you’re in a relationship as a bit of emotional cheating and a larger case of insecurity.

I’ll let you in on a little secret. Many years ago, I had a boyfriend who I met online. When it was time to take out profiles down, we did it together and agreed to be exclusive. Everything seemed fine, except one day later, he admitted that he was having a digital withdrawal of women no longer looking at him online. He wasn’t writing back to them, nor was he scheduling dates. He had been online for so long that disconnecting became painful to him. He loved having the digital ego boost of a woman writing to him or viewing his profile. He got over it, but it caused him stress.

If your boyfriend is on a dating app and chatting, it’s grounds for breaking up. He can chat to “friends” on facebook without telling the world he’s on a dating site and available.

The reason that men don’t even like to change their relationship status, is because until they’ve committed totally, they don’t want to feel that they will never sleep with another woman ever again. I know it sounds dramatic, but it’s fairly accurate.

Let your boyfriend know you don’t mind him having female platonic friends and that you have male platonic friends as well. But be clear, you’re not interested in being with anyone who wants to keep his options open, so unless the people he’s chatting with know about you or you’re mutual friends, you have a right to tell him flat out that it’s disrespectful to you. Ask him how he’d feel if you were flirting with other guys pretending you didn’t have a boyfriend. I doubt he’d like that either.

I’m not saying you should break up, but let him know that you’re a woman who deserves to be respected and he should refocus his flirting behavior and chats and direct them at you.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

Julie

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How to Get Engaged at Any Age

Jul 26th

Engaged at Any Age

It’s with great enthusiasm to tell you about this F.R.E.E. Global Video event, hosted by my friend Jaki Sabourin including special interviews with John Gray, from the Venus and Mars series and 30 other dating and relationship experts, including myself!

I have a feeling you’re going to like it as well and it’s filled with free gifts!

Here are some questions you might be asking yourself.
  • Do you ever feel like you are waiting around for the right man to walk through the door or show up in your inbox?
  • And maybe sometimes you start to wonder if love is even in the cards for you?
I can assure you of one thing, if you want true love, you’ll have it.
Love isn’t something you find, it’s something you deliberately choose and attract.
We’re going to teach you how to do this. No more hoping. No more waiting.
Because the truth is, if you want to find your soulmate, you have to take intentional action!
My colleague, Love and Dating expert, Jaki Sabourin is back with her most popular online event, Engaged at any Age®. Would you like to find out here the REAL way to attract love into your life?’
I’ll be doing a full session on how to create an Irresistible Dating Profile that you won’t want to miss1
This time around, world-renowned author John Gray (Men Are From Mars, Women are From Venus) is going to open this event with Jaki in a live call “How to Train Your Man” followed by 30 other leading experts that have come on board to share their wisdom and insights for finding lasting love.
Let me tell you how this is different.
You likely get a lot of emails from dating experts who are teaching women how to change themselves in order to attract a man. That’s the OLD way! This is the new way.
Engaged at any Age® is about training MEN to do what you want them to do.
Preparing MEN to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Empowering yourself to be open, confident and sexy and DELIBERATE in your actions.
This training series is a like getting a Master’s Degree in ATTRACTION!
We are going to show you how to:
  • Train a man to respect you, your needs and your deepest desires
  • Set healthy boundaries so that you are never sacrificing your true self
  • Master sexual confidence so that you are irresistible
  • Send powerful messages to men so that only the ones you want approach you!
  • Train men to communicate easily and openly. No more guessing games!
  • Foster a sense of intimacy (with you in the lead!)
And you will continue to receive free gifts every single day of the event!
You are in charge of your love life and that is exactly how it should be!
Finding the relationship of your dreams is not about how you look, what you say or where you go.
It’s about instinct.
It’s about understanding the powerful principles of attraction that have tied men to women for centuries and using them TODAY to deliberately create the love of your life.

Sure. We can tell you how to get a date.

And we will Here.

But are you just looking for a dinner out? Or are you ready for a lifelong SOULMATE? Do you just want to be approached? Or do you want to be adored?
We are going to take you step by step through the practices you need to master to draw in your ideal love.
I’m so excited to be a part of this. Jaki’s approach is modern and multi-dimensional and she has brought together a power-house panel with a goal of teaching you the most effective, most empowering strategies for manifesting love in your life.
Is a deep and happy relationship on your wish list? You can choose one. You can create one.
You can start right here!
Here’s to getting off the roller-coaster and settling in with love,

Wishing you much love and joy.

Julie

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Today’s Quote

Jul 26th

 

Quote of the Day: “A smile is the best makeup any girl can wear.” ~ Marilyn Monroe

Quote of the Day

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PokéDates Launched to Help Pokémon Go Fans. Here’s How it Works

Jul 20th

Pokemon Go PokeDatesIt was inevitable. Pokémon Go fans now have a dating site to meet other fans. Created by Project Fix Up, PokéDates will help you connect outside to others with similar interests.

Here’s how it works and what to do get started with this dating site.

  1. Select Pickup Preferences. This is where you state your sex, age, preference on who to date, height, college, religion, and just how picky you are or aren’t.
  2. Fix up:  Weaknesses. List the things that make you swoon. From cooking, to romantic, to muscular arms. You get the idea.
  3. Fix up: Deal Breakers. Hate a smoker, list it. Mean to restaurant staff, say so. Is in a relationship and looking for a hookup, take a pass.
  4. Select Themes. Let people know what kind of fix ups you’d like to go on from a list of photos. Selections include: coffee, whiskey, craft beer, craft cocktails, dive bars, desserts, wine, and of course PokeDates.
  5. Make it Social. To keep the social in PokeDates, you can agree to going out in a group instead of just a one-on-one date.
  6. About You. This is where you check off your hobbies and passions. From stating you’re a smoker or non-smoker to your political belief, check off as many as you can to get the best match.
  7. Upload a minimum 3 Photos. You’ll be allowed to post more than three, but they (and we) recommend at least three photos.

Once your profile is completed, they’ll ask you to reconfirm your email and verify you via text and you’re set to go. They’ll review your profile (we like that) to keep the site safe.

PokéDate is free to join, but once they create a fix up for you, you’re charged at $20 for your date. If you use the promo code of Project Fixup is offering first dates for free with the promo code of “POKEDATES2016,” you’ll get your first date free.

So get ready to share your score and level on Pokémon go with someone with similar passions.

Happy Poké Dating.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert. She’s a bestselling author internationally known dating coach who has been helping singles find love online for over two decades.

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