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New Year's Resolutions

 

My how time flies!

It’s already the middle of January in 2017.  The V word is right around the corner, Valentine’s Day, the ‘Super Bowl ‘of dating.

For those who made New Year’s resolutions, if they included joining a gym, losing weight, dating again or finding love, here’s some wise dating advice to add to your list that we know you can really keep.

1. I will create a NEW online dating profile.

If you’ve tried dating sites without success, guess what? You’ve got a lousy profile. Whether you decide to hire a dating coach to hold your hand or take on the task on your own, it’s time to say out with the old, in with the new. Your stale profile needs a digital facelift to attract your dream date.

2. I will log on EVERY morning before work and EVERY night before going to sleep.

If you can find an hour a day to call your BFFs to talk about your day, or your empty date card, you have time to log on twice so your profile shows you are active and for you to write to and respond to potential dates.

3. I will ACCEPT three dates a week and will stop looking for perfection.

Going on a date doesn’t mean you’ll be walking down the aisle with your date or merging bank accounts. It’s just a date; a meet-and-greet. The more you date, the better dater you will become. So if someone has 50% of what you’re looking for, agree to go on a date. Who knows? He or she just might become a new friend or might have someone else for you if there’s no romantic connection. Fill your date card (less than 50% of the week) by scheduling three dates. Coffee, lunch, drinks, you name it.

RELATED: Moving From Best Friends to In a Relationship

4. I will go out on TWO dates with each person.

Say goodbye to one-and-done dating and hello to meeting new and exciting people. We believe that everyone deserve a second chance. First dates can make many nervous. In fact some people change locations in the same night (dinner somewhere and dessert elsewhere) just to say they’ve gone on two dates. The goal of your first date should be to keep it light and simple and SCHEDULE a second date on the calendar.

5. I will search and write to TEN people a day. Before you shoot the messenger, you should know that by writing to ten people, you might only get one reply. Remember, not everyone is logging on at the same time, some go on vacation, and others are dating multiple people. It’s not unusual for someone to thank you for your email, but to tell you they’ve met one person and want to see where it goes. The only way to be successful is to be PROACTIVE. That means ladies can write to men, so toss out the old rules. Men will be flattered to hear from you, because they are writing to a lot of women and many don’t write back.

Related: Dating Netiquette: Why Grammar Matters

Think of dating and finding the perfect match for you like looking for a job. You won’t stop searching for a job when you’re out of work, even after three bad interviews or no replies. The same goes with dating. If you’re looking for love, you need to put in the effort to win the digital love lottery.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. xo

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Our Irresistible Profiles Coaching programs come in a variety of levels, from Going Steady, a profile critique to Totally in Love, with a brand new profile and 30 days of unlimited text/email support, to our VIP Digital Matchmaker plan for the most serious of singles, which includes a new profile and 10 private coaching sessions.

So get out of fear mode, stop ghosting, stop swiping without meeting IRL, and come to the digital party with all the tools you need for a happy and loving 2017.

If you need some help in getting started with your online dating profile, contact us and we’ll help you create that IRRESISTIBLE Profile to help you stand out among the millions of online daters.

Julie Spira is a dating coach and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She’s a finalist for Best Dating Coach in the 2017 iDate Awards. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com and sign up for the FREE Weekly Flirt newsletter, where you’ll also be able to download for free the 7 Secrets to Finding Love Online.

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#DatingSunday – Jan. 8th is the Busiest Day for Online Dating

Dating Sunday
The world’s largest digital love fest is about to happen. Make sure your iphones, computers, and tablets are fully charged, as the biggest surge for online dating sites is around the corner.

Get ready to swipe on your SmartPhones because Dating Sunday, the busiest day for most dating sites and newly singles will be on Sunday, January 8th. This is where millions of singles will be swiping and logging in for love all around the same time.

Traditionally, around the first of the year, many New Year’s resolutions include finding love or at least trying to meet someone to hang out with.  For this reason, or the fact that many singles had a lackluster holiday, the number of people be joining online dating sites and mobile dating apps hits record numbers in January.

In fact, our friends at Match have an EXACT time on Dating Sunday that their usage will peak, BIG TIME. The world’s largest dating site expects 8:49pm/eastern time to be the busiest minute of the entire year.

Are you ready for the world’s largest digital dating party?

Match tells us that they expect to see a 42% spike in new singles coming to the site to meet someone on #DatingSunday.  During their peak dating season (Christmas to Valentine’s Day), they estimate that more than 50 million messages will be sent, 5 million new photos will be uploaded, and one million dates will take place.

Related: How to Take Down Your Match Profile When You Meet The One

Our friends at Tinder concur that Dating Sunday, the second Sunday in January, will show a 12% spike in users and downloads. Already on Sunday, January 1st, Tinder saw one of the biggest days of usage ever, so singles will be swiping in record numbers on their mobile dating app.  Plus, Tinder says that 80% of their users are now looking for a meaningful relationship. Say goodbye to hookups and hello to love, for many.

Related: These Names Will Get You More Right Swipes on Tinder

Over at PlentyofFish, singles are looking for their perfect catch. POF reports that they received over 18 million first time signups during 2016 and expect approximately 103,910 in new signups on Dating Sunday.  That’s about a 48% increase above their average daily rate from 2016. Plus, they expect 2.5 million sign ups in January alone.

Remember, Sunday nights are always peak times for online dating activity, so take advantage of the surge in active members online and swipe right and reply to those emails and meet IRL.

Related: PlentyofFish Says These 1st Messages Lead to Marriage

At Cyber-Dating Expert, our phone has been ringing and the text messages have been flying. We know that it’s peak season now through Valentine’s Day, so grab your smartphone and download the latest mobile dating apps and get ready to fill your date card!

Yes indeed, everyone will be looking for love in 2017.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. xo

Need a little hand holding? Find out how our Irresistible Profiles dating coaching programs can help you find your dream date.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online and Mobile Dating Expert. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, and as an early adopter of online dating, has been coaching singles for over 20 years on how to find love on the Internet. Julie’s been named a Finalist for the 2017 iDate Awards for Best Dating Coach of the Year.

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Julie Spira to Appear on Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Dates and Mates

It’s the first week of the year, and it’s a busy one for sure.

Many of you are back to work and have New Year’s resolutions which include finding love on your list.

I’m so honored to announce that I’ll be a guest on ‘Dates & Mates’ radio with my good friend and TV Dating Expert, Damona Hoffman on Thursday, January 5th.

Our topic will be Online Dating Week, which is going on right now. In fact, Dating Sunday, or if you’re a hashtag fanatic like I am, #DatingSunday will be the peak time for online dating signups on Sunday, January 8th.

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Dates & Mates Host Damona Hoffman and Julie Spira

Photo Credit: iDate Awards 2016

Damona’s show is dedicated to all things dating, mating, and relating and the best part is YOU can become a part of the live conversation.  No other love show on the web lets you watch what happens via a LIVE STREAM from their Hollywood studio. Plus you can live tweet your questions, chat with other listeners, and download past episodes.

Listen to me live Thursday 1/5 at 11 am PST on ‘Dates & Mates’. Tune into UBNRadio.com channel 1 to hear Damona and I dish about Online Dating Week.

I promise we’ll have you completely armed with a digital strategy to help you find love in 2017.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. xo

Julie

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and was on the Internet before people even knew there was an Internet! Julie’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and her dating advice has been featured in over 1000 media stories.

 

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Get Ready for Dating Sunday

Dating Sunday

It’s time for a digital facelift and makeover on your online dating profile as Dating Sunday will be here in a digital split second.

The world’s largest digital dating party starts on New Year’s Day, Sunday, January 1st and it will be the busiest day of the year for online dating for some dating sites. Are ready for the ride?

Every year, the Sunday after New Year’s is a reflective time for singles. Perhaps you were flying solo on New Year’s or were in a relationship that ran it’s course.

Either way, it’s time for a new beginning and the huge amount of new memberships to online dating sites will happen starting the day after New Year’s.

PlentyofFish Has the Most Signups on January 1st

Our friends over at PlentyOfFish tell us that their busiest day of the year will be on Sunday, January 1st around 2:00pm.  POF expects signups expected to reach an extraordinary 110,546, a 48% increase above the average daily rate in 2016.

POF saw over 18 million first time signups during 2016, with a rising trend.

Yes indeed, everyone will be looking for love in 2017.

Related: Business Insider: Online dating sites are anticipating a huge surge on New Year’s Day

Match Celebrates Dating Sunday on January 8th

In 2017, Dating Sunday will be the busiest day for Match and the second busiest day of the year for POF.

Match expects 24% more signups to occur on December 8th around  8:52pm/ET.  PlentyOfFish expects 103,910 signups on January 8th, almost as many as on New Year’s Day.

Yes indeed, everyone will be looking for love in 2017.

At Cyber-Dating Expert, our phone has been ringing and the text messages have been flying. We know that it’s peak season now through Valentine’s Day, so grab your smartphone and download the latest mobile dating apps and get ready to fill your date card!

Here are 5 reasons why January 1st and 8th are the busiest days of the year for digital dating.

Sunday is the most active day.

All year round at the end of the weekend on Sunday nights, it’s the busiest time for singles logging into dating sites. If your weekend date was so-so (or you were dateless), logging on to chat, flirt, and browse means opportunities to fill up your date card and start the week anew are plentiful. Multiply this big time with the start of a New Year, and you’ll see the activity soar.

A disappointing holiday can make you feel blue.

Emotions around Christmastime and New Year’s are at an all-time high if you’re single. Watching your friends post lovey-dovey shots on Facebook and Instagram or change their status to “In a Relationship” or “Engaged” can hit a nerve, big-time. It’s enough to make you scream, “Bah, humbug” and turn off both your computer and phone to unplug, but just temporarily.

Holiday breakups are high.

Some people stay in dead-end relationships so they won’t be alone through the holidays. It’s a dreadful feeling to know that you’re with someone you can’t see yourself going the distance with long-term. Thoughts of another New Year’s Eve with that feeling isn’t something you’ll want to repeat. Often, couples will break up right after the New Year, or even before Christmas, in order to not to go through another holiday with the wrong person. It’s normal for relationships to run their course, but when it happens at the holidays, it brings a whole new group of fabulous singles to the dating party at the first of the year. There’s a reason they say, “Out with the old, in with the new” at New Year’s.

If you find yourself in the middle of a break up, read my article on The Huffington Post, How to Break Up Gracefully.

New Year’s resolutions include finding love.

New Year’s Day is on a Sunday this year. Most people also have Monday off due to the holiday. It’s the perfect time to reflect about the past year and come up with a list of goals for 2017. After watching football games and going to New Year’s Day parties solo, singles often think about new beginnings. From joining a gym to going on a diet, the list often includes finding someone to have a meaningful relationship with.

The squeaky wheel gets the digital love deal.

During peak dating season, Match reports that about 50 million messages are sent and 1 million dates are taking place. Think about it. Wouldn’t you be happy to receive at least 10 of those emails from someone you could have chemistry with? Rather than sitting back and waiting for your inbox to fill up, remember that the more engaged you are, the greater chance you’ll have to fill up your date card. That means logging on several times a day so your profile stays active, viewing your daily matches every day and liking and messaging other members to start a convo, right now.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

Find out how Irresistible Profiles can help you find your dream date.

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New Year’s Dating Resolutions for 2017

Happy New Year in love

We’re getting ready for 2017 and many of you are so done with 2016. It was a bumpy road for relationships, life, love, politics, loss of musical geniuses, and more.

For those who have the tradition of making New Year’s resolutions, here’s some wise dating advice to add to your list.

Before you say, “bah humbug,” if your holiday was filled with Aunt Sally asking about your relationship status, or your friends changing theirs to the point that you slammed your computer shut and deleted all mobile dating apps, now’s the time, before New Year’s for singles who dreaded the holiday and are ready for a new beginning. So along with the new diet and gym membership, joining a dating site and hiring a dating coach has become a BIG priority. In fact, the phone is ringing off the hook and we are getting booked solid the first week of the new year for new Internet dating profiles, so get ready for the ride!

Match Predicts Dating Sunday on January 8th

Our friends at Match have told us that they predict Dating Sunday to be held on Sunday, January 8th, where it’s expected to be the BUSIEST day of the year for new online dating signups at 8:49pm/ET.

During this time, Match reports they plan to see a 42% spike in new singles coming to the site to meet someone.  Dating Sunday falls within Match’s Peak Season, which is going on RIGHT NOW and spans from December 26th to February 14th, where they expect to see these enormous numbers:

  • More than 50 million messages sent
  • 5 million new photos being uploaded
  • 1 million dates taking place

PlentyofFish Predict Dating Sunday to be on January 1st

Our friends over at PlentyOfFish tell us that their busiest day of the year will be a week earlier on Sunday, January 1st. POF expects signups expected to reach an extraordinary 110,546, a 48% increase above the average daily rate in 2016.

Yes indeed, everyone will be looking for love in 2017.

POF’s stats illustrate a changing dating landscape, with more singles than ever trying online dating for the first time. 2016 saw 18,176,325 first-time PlentyOfFish signups, and over half a billion conversations between members (600,325,016, to be exact).

  • Signups on PlentyOfFish will peak at 2pm PST on Sunday, January 1, 2017

  • Sunday, January 8th, will be the second busiest for PlentyOfFish, with an expected 103,910 signups

  • Projected PlentyOfFish signups for January 2017 are expected to exceed 2.5 million

So how do you jump on the digital love bandwagon?

Our Irresistible Profiles Coaching programs come in a variety of levels, from Going Steady, a profile critique to Totally in Love, with a brand new profile and 30 days of unlimited text/email support, to our VIP Digital Matchmaker plan for the most serious of singles, which includes a new profile and 10 private coaching sessions.

So get out of fear mode, stop ghosting, stop swiping without meeting IRL, and come to the digital party with all the tools you need for a happy and loving 2017.

Make it your New Year’s resolution to live your life with authenticity –Online, offline, and where ever you may swipe or roam.

If you need some help in getting started with your online dating profile, contact us and we’ll help you create that IRRESISTIBLE Profile to help you stand out among the millions of online daters.

Julie Spira is a dating coach and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com and sign up for the FREE Weekly Flirt newsletter, where you’ll also be able to download for free the 7 Secrets to Finding Love Online.

Wishing you much love and joy in 2017.

Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and Instagram for Dating Advice

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OkCupid’s Flirting Year in Review

OkCupid Flirting 2016

As the year nears it’s tumbling end, it’s natural to think about your love lives in 2016, how they’ve changed, whether you’ve met someone new or were on a merry-go-round of serial dates.

From emjoi’s to politics, sports to our friends at OkCupid reported in their blog, what singles were flirting and chatting more about this year.

OkCupid reports that term with the greatest spike this year was “Pokémon Go,” which is refreshing that it topped politics in our election year.

So if you’re not into “Netflix and Chill,” make sure you’re watching “HBO Go,” as it’s listed as a highlight for many single daters.

Read full report here:

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam.

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These Names Will Get you More Right Swipes on Tinder

Is your first name holding you back from getting matches and swipes on Tinder?

The mobile dating app just released their Top 10 list of the most popular female and male names that are getting the most right swipes in the United States.

Tinder Female Names

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For those named Hannah, Emma, Lauren, Julia, Emily, Rachel, Samantha, Katie, Anna, or Sarah, congratulations! You’ve made the 2016 top swiped list of female names on Tinder.

You should have more matches than most, and I challenge you to start chatting, filling your dating card, and meeting IRL.

Related: Tinder Tales on the Tomorrow Show

For the guys, if you’re lucky enough to be named Lucas, Ryan, Matthew, Nick, Josh, Brandon, Justin, Ben, Adam, and Andrew, the ladies will be swiping right on your profile more than most.

Tinder Male Names

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Does this mean you need to change your name? That would sure be confusing if your name is Larry and your profile says “Lucas” to try to attract more swipes.

Related: This Tinder Feature Will Help You Stand Out

I believe in authenticity, so don’t confuse yourself or your potential date, but if your name is on the list, log on and swipe more often to see if your match numbers increase.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam .xo

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of the Internet and is the creator of Mobile Dating BootCamp. As a celebrity dating coach, Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene.

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Dating in a Snow Storm

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Baby it’s cold outside!

Many of you have already been snowbound this season. I know it’s snowing in the midwest and other areas.   If you’re going to be snowbound at all this winter,  here are some ways to have fun with your date or still feel attached until it’s safe to go out and play again.

1. Go on a Skype or FaceTime Date

Still have electricity or a full battery on your computer? Get dressed up with what you’d wear on a date, remember to put on your lipstick ladies, and both of you grab a glass of wine or bubbly for the occasion. Log on and have a virtual date rather than canceling.

2. Answer these 36 Love Questions

A Modern Love column on the New York Times reads, To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This. These questions from Psychologist Dr. Aron suggest they can help you fall in love with anybody. Some questions include: Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life and Tell your partner something that you like about them. This exercise should help you get to know each other better and has been known to be responsible for some marriages.

Not sure if that’s realistic or not? Why not give it a try.

3. Binge Watch on Netflix

Snuggled up with your date? Why not spend the day or evening binge watching some romance on Netflix if you can’t be at work. From House of Cards to Scandal and New Girl to Madmen, you’ll be bonding with your sweetie and won’t be able turn off the TV.

4. Build a Snowman

If you can make it to his or her home, bundle up and go outside to build a snowman or make a snow angel. It’s playful and will bring you back to your youth. In between, indulge with a snowball fight or two.

5. Create an Indoor Scavenger Hunt

If the geography and transportation allow you to keep your scheduled date, a great way to make it fun and flirty is to create a treasure or scavenger hunt in your home. To do this, place romantic clues in envelopes around your house and number them. At each location, there will be a love note with suggestions for a kiss, a back rub, a foot massage, or whatever your imagination will allow.

6. Write a Traditional Love Note.

If your electricity is out and the battery life has expired on your mobile phone, light a candle and grab and pen and paper. It’s time to get traditional and draft a hand-written love note. When you get together for your rescheduled date, hand him or her an envelope to open. You’ll be surprised how it will be received.

Will you be canceling your dates or be taking a digital approach to stay in touch?

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of the Internet and is the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. Julie and her team create Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene.  For more relationship advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt Newsletter and join the conversation on #DateChat on Twitter on Thursdays at 8pm/ET.

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2016 Holiday Dating Survival Guide

Holiday Dating survival guide

Baby it’s cold outside! It’s that time of year when holiday invites are pouring in and your single status might make you want to hide under the covers.

It’s safe to say that emotions are flying high during the holidays for singles, new couples not sure how to define themselves, those who have had a recent breakup, and those who are tired of hearing from their relatives about their relationship status.

The holiday period from Thanksgiving to New Year’s brings up a lot of emotions. In the words of Fleetwood Mac’s Stevie Nicks from the song Dreams, it’s natural to think of memories of what you had and what you lost. The band also sings about how “You make loving fun” so don’t turn down the volume just yet. Listening to music this time of year can give you both strength and send you down memory lane.

One thing I know for sure, is my phone is ringing with singles wanting to connect and meet someone new to share the holidays with, so there are plenty of singles looking for love online now.

Still, I know how tough it is at the holidays being single. I’ve been there. I’ve been watching the abundance of posts on Facebook of couples who are changing their relationship status to “In a Relationship.” If your status isn’t that in that category, it can be a digital stab to your heart.

As a dating coach and online dating expert, I’m here to tell you that this is actually the best time of year to meet someone wonderful to date. Filling your date card with quality people is quite possible, so take away that frown and look at my tips in our holiday survival guide.

The Cyber-Dating Expert Survival Guide to Help you Through the Holidays, Online and IRL.

1. Don’t rely on Social Media to go down memory lane

Sure I know it’s natural to take a peek to see what your ex is up to, but if they’re jetting off to Paris, heading for sunshine in Hawaii and kissing under the mistletoe, you’re hurting yourself big time. Instead, try to create your own new memories. Walk down a festively decorated street and snap a few photos of trees, store windows, and cheerful pictures and post them on your Facebook wall. So what if you’re alone or with your BFF. You’re out of the house and not living in the past. Digital snooping is also on the rise, especially during the holidays. It brings out the worst in many. At PlentyofFish, they surveyed over 9000 of their users between the ages of 20 -40 to find out what their holiday dating habits were. POF found that 82% of the women were actually checking the Facebook statuses of guys they were dating to see what they were doing when they weren’t around. Wouldn’t you be better off out, than attached to your phone?

2. Fill that date card and stay organized

Anxiety can be at an all time high, but joining a few dating sites and using mobile dating apps will be a great ego boost. It will also give you the chance to meet a lot of people. However, don’t embarrass yourself by calling Don, Doug or introduce yourself as Jackie from PlentyOfFish if you met him on eHarmony. The easiest way to do this is by creating an excel spreadsheet and logging your conversations. You would do this for a job, right? Well this is a job with a possibility of a lifetime of love. It’s worth the effort.

3. Block your ex’s profile

If you’ve recently ended a relationship with someone you met online and it wasn’t on good terms, chances are you’ve both rejoined the site to meet others. Make sure you block his or her profile so they don’t appear in a search and to avoid the obsessiveness that results when you check to see when they last logged on or if they’ve deactivated their profile. Don’t assume if their profile is gone that they’ve ridden off into the sunset with someone else. Sometimes people just take a break or they may have blocked you.

4. Don’t jump into a rebound relationship

They say the easiest way to get over someone is by replacing them in a New York minute with someone new, but is it right? Sure the initial infatuation stage is a lot of fun and it’s nice to have a warm body around, but finding someone new when you aren’t ready to date isn’t always the answer. Spend time with friends, hang out with an ex that you’re still on good terms with and can be yourself with, and spend time alone reading, writing, or taking a cooking class or French lesson.

5. Discuss holiday gift giving

Before you run off to Tiffany to get him sterling silver cufflinks engraved with his initials after three weeks of dating, ask yourself how overwhelming it would feel if he showed up with an engagement ring one month in. It could be over the top, right? Come up with a reasonable budget. Perhaps you can get him a cashmere scarf or sweater, tickets to a concert or sporting event, and make home made cookies. You could get her a gift certificate to a spa, gourmet chocolates, a fun accessory for her mobile phone, tickets to a show or a museum exhibition, or a piece of costume jewelry in her favorite color. Avoid giving her just lingerie, unless it’s something she picks out for herself.

READ: THIS IS THE TOP GIFT FOR SINGLES

6. It’s Peak Season for Online Daters

The good news is that more singles are signing up for dating sites between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day. Match reports they see a jump of about 25-30% in new members signing up between Christmas and Valentine’s Day and at Cyber-Dating Expert, it’s the busiest holiday season ever with new singles joining online dating sites and brand new dating profiles being created.

READ: 5 TIPS TO FINDING LOVE ONLINE

7. Swipe Right

I know you’re attached to your mobile phone. Perhaps you’re waiting for a text from that cutie you had a date with last week. Maybe you’re swiping left to every potential match. I say, take a chance and swipe right more than left. Even if he or she won’t be your dream date, they might invite you to a holiday party or introduce you to a friend. It’s time to cast a wide net.

8. Accept ALL holiday invitations

If your inbox is filled with invitations for holiday mixers, fill your calendar and put on your party dress. Remember to smile at everyone. Business networking events are in abundance now, so you won’t have to feel that you’re the only single person there. Walk in with confidence and you’ll be turning heads and filling your date card.

9. Online Love is a year-round event

People meet online and fall in love all year long. I know a couple that met online on Christmas Eve on Facebook who are now engaged. I know of another couple that met online on eHarmony on Valentine’s Day who are now happily married. One couple fell in love at first sight that met on Match. She hadn’t had a serious relationship in over 10 years and now they’re married. Yes online dating is a numbers game. You’ll be juggling dates, canceling dates, rescheduling dates, it’s exhausting, but it can be so very rewarding as it has been for millions of others.

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10. Fall in love with you

At the holidays, please take a deep breath; log on to fill your date card if and when it feels good to you, not because you’re feeling lonely. If you need to take a break from dating, that’s fine. There are no rules, other than to fall in love with yourself first. It’s the best place to be to start any new relationship.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace this holiday season, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of the Internet and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years.  She’s the CEO of CyberDatingExpert.com, author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene and helps them shorten their search to find their one in 50 million.

For online dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and Instagram.

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Julie Spira iDate AwardsOf the many things I was thankful for during Thanksgiving week, one was the announcement of a male client who got engaged, the other was spending time with my family, and lastly, I found out that I’m a FINALIST for best dating coach in the 2017 iDate Awards to be held in Miami in January.

Voting is now open to the general public, so it would mean the world to me if you could cast your vote for Julie Spira – Cyber-Dating Expert for best dating coach.

VOTE HERE FOR BEST DATING COACH

While I was surprised to hear I was nominated, it warms my heart to know the industry realizes how passionate I am about helping singles find love.

In the Beginning

It was over 20 years ago (22 to be exact), that I first embraced online dating during its infancy. It was before Match.com and eHarmony were even launched. After helping myself and mastering the sites and chat rooms, I then started writing profiles for singles, while still keeping my day job as a technology executive. Cosmo named me the “Pioneer of Online Dating” and after my bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online was released, my business expanded and I started writing dating advice for JDate, Match, eHarmony, Huffington Post, DatingAdvice.com, PlentyofFish, YourTango, and the list goes on.

Today

After two decades of helping singles find love online, I created Mobile Dating BootCamp, which was featured in the Washington Post,  appeared in the New York Times on the growth of Tinder in 2015 and 2016, have been responsible for many marriages and engagements, several online babies, have appeared in over 1000 media articles, and have some exciting TV and film projects in the works.

I credit those I met at the iDate conferences for helping me spread the news and have attended 16 iDate shows! The January 2017 iDate Awards will be my 17th time at iDate and the thought of accepting this award brings tears to my eyes and joy to my digital heart.

VOTE HERE FOR JULIE SPIRA FOR BEST DATING COACH

Thank you to those who have nominated me to be a finalist and to those who are voting now that voting is open to the general public.

Being a dating coach brings together two of my biggest passions; my love of technology and my strong belief in love. I couldn’t be happier.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for reading my articles, watching me on TV, reading my books, and for your vote.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam.

xo

VOTE at iDateAwards.com from now through January 6th.

 

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