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Peril of the Week – A Sneeze Isn’t Just a Sneeze

Peril of the WeekA woman wrote in to tell her story of how she met her online date at an upscale lounge in Midtown Manhattan.

It was a cold winter evening in the city, the kind that makes your nose run. The two met outside and walked into a very nice establishment, where they sat down and got all settled in.

After some small talk, suddenly her date reached for some napkins and began to blow his nose at the table. When he was done blowing his nose he took his used tissues and just threw them on the floor.

He then turned to his date, as if what he had just done was totally normal and asked, “Would you like anything to drink?”

All she could think was…CHECK PLEASE!!!! Needless to say she never saw him again.

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Peril of the Week – Must Love Bears

Peril of the Week - Must Love BearsContributed by Nancy Brook

After breaking up with my latest boyfriend four years ago, I decided the best way to stop moping about him was to start dating new men. Internet dating provided the perfect opportunity to start finding someone new.

I had dated online before, and I always had plenty of winks and emails. The problem was I didn’t want to date many of these men. I longed for the whole package, someone near my age, smart, accomplished, handsome, athletic and fun.

When I met Dirk, he seemed perfect. He was cute, smart, funny, easy to talk to and very interested in me. The night before I met Dirk, I had a date with a handsome chiropractor, but I couldn?t keep my attention on him. (Maybe it was the dark glasses he wore throughout our dinner.)

I cut the evening short with the doctor and rose at the crack of dawn the next day to meet Dirk at West Yellowstone, which was a four-hour drive for me. We talked on our cell phones the whole way over. I couldn’t wait to meet him in person! But when I saw him, I was very surprised. He was short, barrel-chested, thick-necked and much less attractive than he appeared on his online photo. I tried to get over the shallow stuff as I did like him on the phone.

“Hi!” he said enthusiastically, and gave me a big hug with his stubby arms. I smiled and hugged him back. We stopped by the grocery store for a picnic lunch of sandwiches and wine and then drove into the park where we ate by a creek, lying on a picnic blanket. After our lunch, he reached over and kissed me.

It was the most horrible kiss I could have imagined. It was a kiss that didn’t end… kind of like a vacuum hose sucking my lips. I wanted to run as far away from Dirk as possible, but I knew that would hurt his feelings. Besides, if I took off, I’d have to run miles since Dirk had driven us into the park and my car was back at the grocery store. Instead, I suggested we see the sites around Yellowstone.

Dirk talked about our future. I could move in with him and help him with his bear hunting business. (Never mind that I despise sport hunting.) There was no need for me to work. He made enough money for both of us. I heard pop Christian music playing in the background as a big grin spread across his face as he fanaticized about our life together.

“I’m ready to go back,? I said.

“Already?” he said.

“Yeah. It’s going to be a long drive back to Billings, and I want to get started.”

A scowl creased his forehead, his mouth turned down around the corner and he didn?t say a word. I stayed on my side of the truck, avoiding any additional contact with him.

When we arrived back at West Yellowstone, I wanted to leap out of his truck and spring to my car. I kept my cool. I opened the door, grabbed my camera bag and smiled at Dirk.

“It was nice to meet you,” I said.

“I get the feeling that I?m never going to see you again,” he said.

“Well, one never knows what the future has in store,” I answered.

I gave him a quick hug and power walked to my vehicle. I got into the car, started it and peeled out, waving as I left. I was free at last.

Lesson learned: It’s better to mope at home about an old boyfriend than be trapped in a pickup with a new crazy bear man.

The Peril of the Week was contributed by Nancy Brook, author of the upcoming book, Cycling, Wine, and Men: A Midlife Tour de France.

From the Cyber-Dating Expert: It?s not a good idea to go anywhere with a man in his car or truck on a first date. It’s a recipe for a dating disaster.

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Peril of the Week – Diaper Dan

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While on a “Meet & Greet” i.e. dating ‘interview’ with a man she met online, a woman was asked the following question, “How open-minded are you?”

She responded by telling him that he should feel comfortable telling her anything. However, she wasn’t prepared at all for his response. He then shared with her that he was wearing a diaper.

The woman asked if it was for medical reasons, but he said, “No.”

As they were taking a walk at the beach and he was the one who was driving, she really couldn’t get out of the date at the time. He was a good looking man and a top executive at his company. Although he was genuinely a nice guy, she simply couldn’t get over this particular quirk of his, so the relationship actually ended before it even started. It was another dating disaster.

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Peril of the Week – Must Like Art

Peril of the Week - Must Love ArtA single woman with a hefty appetite was looking forward to her dinner date with a man she was meeting for the first time.

She was prompt and enthusiastic about her online date. He, unfortunately was running late and didn’t call the restaurant. After waiting for 30-minutes, he finally arrived with no apology for his tardiness.

Naturally a first date can be awkward, so they talked about the subject of dating in general, while he was simultaneously was staring around the room to check out other women. He told his date that he found it difficult to date in Los Angeles, and added that he hadn’t met anyone he was remotely interested in. Of course, that included her.

When the conversation moved to discussions of the nearby neighborhoods, he looked down upon the area that she resided in. He said it wasn’t his element. He thought it was too artsy. She was an artist. He already knew that. To make light of the conversation she asked him, “Don’t you like artsy people?” in which he replied, “No.” She added, “You’re probably not going to like me then,” in which he replied with, “No, I’m not. We’re not a match.”

Although he had ordered two main courses for their dinner, she asked him if he’d prefer that they cut the dinner short and end the date early. He agreed to stay, but kept flirting with the waitress while staring at the other women throughout the course of their date. At the end of the meal, the check came. He told his date he’d like to split the bill 50/50, but he’d pay for the tip.

In the course of her dating life, she found him to be rude. He didn’t like art, he didn’t like her, and he didn’t want to treat her to dinner, even though he had asked her out.

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Peril of the Week – The Superficial Guy

We all know that men are visual and either they like what they see or they don’t. One can only hope that they’ll take the time to enjoy the conversation with you and get past the superficiality.

However, in the case of the Peril of the Week, the conversation led to a dating disaster.

The gentleman, who although was in good shape, showed natural signs of aging with a receding hairline. He started the conversation off with how difficult it was for him to meet quality women, as the ones he was attracted to were in their late 30s and early 40s and wanted to have children. He wasn’t interested in starting an additional family. That all made sense. However, he then told his date about how although he was 55, he had the body of a 40-year old, and the stamina of a 35-year old. This was his opinion only, but certainly not suitable first-date conversation.

He complained that women he met online couldn’t keep up with him while hiking and that hiking was important to him. He was completely turned off to a woman who would be short-of-breath on a hike or whose bodies weren’t a perfect 10. She suggested that he get a hiking buddy. He then complained that he hasn’t met a woman yet that he was physically attracted to. Considering he was sitting across the table from a woman he was on a date with, this didn’t thrill her at all. Finally, he talked about how much money he might have to pay his wife and that his divorce wasn’t final. He fit into the category of “Separated, Divorce Pending.”

As she was a lady, she didn’t respond with the fact that she preferred to date men with a full head of hair, and 35 was certainly stretching the truth about himself. She didn’t need to go on a hike to realize it just wasn’t a match. She politely exited and wished him the best of luck with his search.

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Peril of the Week – No Photo, No Class

Peril of the WeekThe online dating profile of a sophisticated woman simply stated, contact me if my profile piques your curiosity. The response rate was high from men curious to know more about this mysterious woman who was a bestselling author. On the list of her favorite items was the name of a well-respected magazine, Vanity Fair, ?which she reads ?from cover-to-cover every month to enrich her life.

Sharing hobbies and interests is an important part of your online dating profile. Favorite movies, books, travel spots, they all give an indication of what you like to do in your spare time.

You can’t imagine how stunned she was one day when she received an email from a man without a profile photo. This man decided to make it a point to insult a woman he never met.

His email simply stated ?the following:

Photo: None

Subject matter: ?He typed the word, “None.”

A bit confused by the introduction, the body of the email was quite insulting. It simply stated:

“Your intelligence can be determined by what you read, and it certainly can be stimulated by penetrating reading.”

“Vanity Fair is definitely not an example of profound literature, but it’s the only reading that apparently you’ve done recently and that you’re proud to share with others. I can’t imagine that your book has any depth if what you’ve been feeding your brain is essentially tabloid trivia.”

On a personal note, the woman who was the recipient of this email was none other than myself. One has to ask, what is the purpose of deliberately insulting someone they have never met? And why hide behind a profile without a photo? My mother always said, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all.” My mother’s dating advice is smart. She’s a wise woman.

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Peril of the Week – The Donny Downer

Peril of the Week - CyberDatingExpert.comYou may have heard the stories of the “Debbie Downer” on a date. She’s the girl that talks about all of her problems and turns guys away faster than the speed of lightning. This week, you’ll meet her counterpart, the “Donny Downer.” Our online dating story this week is about the tale of the gentleman who came completely unprepared for his date. He didn’t rehearse his conversation on the long drive to lunch.

When they sat down at the restaurant, he first complained about the calorie count of the entrees. She smiled and changed the subject. Then he complained about his bad back and asked her if she had any back problems. He went on to talk about his father’s dementia and his mother’s hospital stay. She didn’t believe in bringing her medical history to the table.

The conversation then switched to the financial and gambling problems his adult son had. She wondered why he thought she needed to know. In between the appetizer and entree, he managed to talk about his two ex-wives.

Finally, he asked her what she thought of Obama as the President of the United States and talked about how awful he was in doing his job as the leader of our country. She preferred not to talk about politics.

Here’s my dating advice for this situation. ?Please leave the baggage behind. Conversations about the ex, financial, and health problems shouldn’t be on the top of your list on a first date. Keep your first date positive, upbeat and light. ?He was a classic “Donny Downer.” Although he might have been a nice guy, he wasn’t about to get to a second date.

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Peril of the Week – The Movie Date

Peril of the Week - CyberDatingExpert.comI personally believe that chivalry is alive and well. I find it quite sexy and appealing when a man opens a door, pulls out a chair, and takes care of your parking on a date.? Like it or not, it’s also usually customary for a gentleman to treat the woman on a first or second date. It doesn’t need to be extravagant, but the one who does the asking, is usually the same one who picks up the tab.

And so the story goes with the intelligent “shrink to the stars” who invited his online date to go see a movie. The two had their first date the week earlier and the conversation just flowed. It only seemed appropriate when he contacted her the following day to put a second date on the calendar. He suggested a movie and let her make the selection. The theatre was decided upon and they were scheduled to meet at 7:00pm.

As it got closer to their meeting time, the gentleman sent a text message saying that he was running late for their movie date. He requested that she pick up the tickets and she complied. When he arrived, she handed him the tickets and he made a huge mistake. He didn’t offer to pay her back for the tickets. A bit stunned, she wondered why, considering he had asked her to the movies. They met in an adjacent bar prior to showtime. When the menu arrived, he asked what she would like to drink. The woman suggested a mid-priced glass of sparkling wine.

What she didn’t expect to hear when he placed the order was the following. “We’ll have one glass of sparkling wine with two glasses.” Basically, he wanted to split one drink. There was nothing romantic about splitting a drink with someone she recently had met. He didn’t want to splurge on two drinks, nor did he want her to have a complete drink. It was a first for her, and a last date for them.

Understandably, dating can get expensive. But, first impressions mean a lot and chivalry is still alive and well. My dating advice: Gentleman, please don’t request to split a glass of any beverage on a date with someone. You’d be better off ordering water for yourself, and allowing the lady to have her very own beverage. Add that to the unreimbursed movie tickets, and it became a dating disaster.
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Peril of the Week – The Concession Stand Blow Up

Peril of the Week - CyberDating ExpertAfter years of being on and off her favorite online dating site, a young attractive woman finally found a keeper. At least that what she thought. She named her new beau, “Tech Guy.”

The two had been dating for about four months. They enjoyed romantic dinners, wonderful day-outings and Friday movie nights on the couch. ?They were a true couples and things were going well.

Like many couples, they were definitely moving from the honeymoon stage into a real relationship. Tech Guy loved soccer and decided to take his date to one of the season’s big games.

When the two got to the game, they cuddled up under a blanket and cheered Tech Guy’s team on… until halftime. ?At the break, she wanted a snack and some hot chocolate, so she and Tech Guy headed towards the concession stand. The line was long, and her guy was getting antsy. After 15 minutes the line was moving, but very slowly. ?Her beau started to turn red with frustration. Finally a few minutes later, when they were only one person away from ordering. It went something like this…

Guy in line getting out his wallet to pay: “Oh no. We need one more hot chocolate and some nachos.”
Tech Guy: “Seriously? You just ordered and couldn’t remember that? Get the f&!% out of the way.”
Guy in line: “What?”
Tech Guy: “You had 20 minutes to figure out what you wanted to order and are now taking way too much time. Hurry up!”
Guy in line: “Dude, chill out.”

Tech Guy now went INSANE. His date had to step in to avoid a full blown fight and never got her hot chocolate. The two got thrown out of the game. ?As you can imagine, the relationship didn’t work out. It was a good date, gone bad. Concession stands and soccer fans are not high on her list for future online dates.

The Peril of the Week was contributed by My Life on Match?and More

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Peril of the Week – Switch and Bait

Peril of the WeekSandra was looking for love online and after a bad experience, she learned to spend more time on the phone getting to know her date before agreeing to meet in person. The gentleman on the other end of the line sounded good enough. ?He offered to meet her at a fine dining restaurant, which sounded to her better than the usual, “Let’s meet for coffee.”

But when she arrived, he said, “Oh, my goodness. It closes for lunch. But look — there’s a McDonald’s down the street.”
Sandra ordered a burger and French fries. Saying he’d had a late breakfast, he ordered a coke, but then hungrily proceeded to make her fries disappear in a private pool of ketchup. ?Between morsels, he launched into a lecture on how sex was good for the complexion and circulation, and, by the way, there’s a nice motel near here and we could have a terrific afternoon improving our complexions.

She refused him politely and said goodbye forever, thinking as she got behind the wheel of her car that he probably would have used her credit card to pay for the motel.

The Peril of the Week was contributed by Howard Eisenberg and Shirley Friedenthal of

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