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Valentine’s Day Countdown – How to Land a Date by February 14

How to Find a Date for Valentine's

The clock is ticking as we count down the days, hours, and minutes to Valentine’s Day, the Super Bowl of love.

Valentine’s is less than a month away, and whether you’re a fan of this romantic holiday or not, it’s hard to ignore the red candy boxes on display near the checkout stands at the grocery stores.

I know how much pressure Valentine’s Day can be for singles who feel stressed about this high-pressure day. Some of you are probably still recovering from the holidays, where you dodged questions from family members asking if you’re dating anyone special.

If finding a date for Valentine’s is on your list, I have great news. With a little effort and the help of your mobile phone, you can get lucky and find a date by Valentine’s Day or before.

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1. Say YES to Invitations to Social Events & Parties

Why? Because singles are back to socializing IRL.

So: Fill your calendar with invites to networking events, golf or pickleball games, and happy hour. Whether it’s a business mixer or speed dating event, say YES! Be out and about when you can.

Do: Search for events online, in your local paper and on TV, on Facebook, Eventbrite, and MeetUp.

And: Fill your date card with new matches.

Remember to: Dress up, and wear that award-winning smile.

2. Update Your Online & Dating App Profiles

Why? Because it’s time for some digital housekeeping.

And: Just reactivating your dating app profile isn’t going to cut it.

Plus: Your photos need to reflect how you look today.

Remember To: Increase your desired age rang from several years ago, because, hey, you’re older now too!

Don’t Forget To: Expand your search to a greater distance than solely in outside your local neighborhood.

Because: People move for love. Wouldn’t you?

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3. Start Swiping & Matching During Peak Hours

Why: Because It’s peak season, now through Valentine’s Day.

And: Sunday Night is one of the most popular nights for heavy activity on dating apps.

Plus: Swiping activity surges on Monday nights too!

Remember To: Message 5-10 people a day.

Because: The squeaky wheel gets the digital love deal.

Don’t Forget To: Enable push notifications.

Because: You’ll want to know INSTANTLY when your digital rush sends you a message.

Finally: Upgrade to the premium “boost” feature during peak times and rush hour for just a few extra dollars on sites such as OkCupid, Bumble, Tinder, or Match so your profile has more visibility during heavy digital traffic.

4. Check Out Your Single Friends on Social Media

Why? People are still intrigued by the “Relationship Status.”

So: If you now someone’s single, use your digital flirting skills.

Do: Actively slide into DM’s on Instagram, and post TikTok videos about dating activity.

But: Be careful reaching out to strangers when you don’t have friends in common.

Because: You don’t want to appear like a digital stalker.

And: You’re here to flatter someone and strike up a conversation.

Finally: Couples often connect and date on social media, and so can you!

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5. Find a WIFI Hotspot

Because: Why work from home when you can be out and about in public?

Do: Go to a restaurant or coffee shop with WIFI and order a drink or a snack.

Or: Visit a bookstore, museum cafe, or outdoor park, and stroll by as many people as possible with your smile in tow.

Remember To: Look up and gaze into sosmeone’s eyes to get noticed.

Plus: It’s a perfect activity after a run or a yoga class in your casual everyday look.

Finally: You can easily meet a hot date in a digital hotspot

6. Recycle and Reconnect

Why? It’s easier to reach out and connect with someone you had been chatting with last year than to start a convo with a new match.

Do: Open up your dating app, and view the conversations that stopped around the holidays.

Because: Maybe the person you were chatting with got busy with holiday travel or parties.

Or: Their new budding relationship has already fizzled out..

Plus: Don’t assume your former digital crush ghosted you.

Do: Send a Happy [insert day of the week] message..

And: Ask a question and insert a wink emoji. 😉 

So: They’ll know you’re flirting and aren’t upset that the conversation came to a screeching halt.

7. Text an Ex 

Why? Because over 50% of singles have tried to get back together with an ex.

Plus: 20% texting a former love on Valentine’s if they’re flying solo.

Do: Send a quick “Happy Valentine’s Day” message with an emoji to your former flame with a heart and wink emoji.

And: Send it in the morning and not at nighttime, as they might be on a Valentine’s date.

Plus: You don’t want to appear as a late-night booty call.

Finally: It could be a good ego boost to receive a text from a former love interest, to know they still have fond feelings for you.

RELATED: 5 Ways to Have a Low Pressure Valentine’s Day

Research shows that singles are using, on average, three mobile dating apps. I know you’re attached to your mobile phone, and dating apps are so easy to use you can find a date in minutes, not days.

Honorable Mention

Remember, although Valentine’s Day is a big day for couples, the day before, February 13th, is Galentine’s Day, an unofficial holiday celebrating female friendships. The day after Valentine’s is February 15th, Singles Awareness Day. Either way, love yourself first on Valentine’s and every day of the year, and love will come your way.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. xo

Looking for help with dating? Find out how our Irresistible Profiles will help you find your dream date.

Julie Spira is America's Top Online Dating Expert. She's an award-winning dating coach who's been helping singles find love online for 25+ years. Follow @JulieSpira on IG.

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