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Cyber Dating Tips for Meeting Pretty Women

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Now that summer is over, singles are flocking to online dating sites.??With the holidays only a few months away, the desire to couple-up has increased. If you took a summer break from dating, now is the best time to sign up for an online dating service.

prettywomanIn a recent coaching call, an attractive female asked me why men weren’t responding to her online dating profile. Men would look at her photos, add her to their favorites, and then didn’t follow through by sending her an email. ?She was very frustrated and found herself sitting at home quite often on the weekends.

The problem here lies in the fact that most men assume the prettiest women are all taken. This goes back to the days when the cheerleaders all had football player boyfriends in high school. But quite often, this is not the case. Let’s take a look at the following scenario.

  • You are female, single, attractive, and are a member of several online dating sites.
  • You have your profile photos professionally taken, and your friends think you?re a beauty.
  • Your friends and family have read your online dating profile and think it deserves 5 stars.
  • Hundreds, if not thousands of men view your photos. Many of them send you a ?wink? but you never receive an email introduction.
  • You attend social events and never get approached by men, who may find you attractive.
  • Your mother reminds you to put on your lipstick before you go out the door. After all, you might be meeting ?the one? in the supermarket.

Yet, you are alone on Saturday nights.?

Does this sound familiar? Why are some of the prettiest women still single?

I recently had a conversation with a man who told me that he would never have asked out the prom queen, for fear of rejection. Another male that I interviewed, told me that he finds pretty women intimidating. He claims he would rather approach a less-attractive woman who might accept his advances.

I wonder, how can a woman who takes the time to stay in good shape, and who was born with good genes be discriminated against in the singles scene?

Why would one want to dress-down, dumb-it-down, and not look their best?

The answer really lies with the men, who are traditionally the pursuers. ?As women, we must remain approachable, ?go out with smiles on our faces, and do our part to encourage a man?s advances. When men think they will get rejected by the pretty women, they just won’t initiate.

So here?s my dating advice for single men.??If you have a secret crush on a woman, let her know. Don?t let your feelings remain a secret for fear of rejection. Don’t assume that because you find a woman beautiful on the outside, that her Inbox and dating card are full. You?d be surprised how many pretty women stay at home on Saturday nights, while their coupled-up friends are out socializing.

If you are online dating, don?t just select a pretty face and file her as a favorite. Go through the list of women on your “hot list” or “favorites” and send them an email. Take that first step and write to the girl you do admire on your computer screen. You might be pleasantly surprised at the results.

Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at


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