Photo: Left to right: Jennifer Kelton, Kelly Steckelberg, Talia Goldstein, Julie Spira
Dating and looking for love? In case you missed it Silicon Beach Fest, it was an honor and joy to put together the first-ever Female Dating CEO panel for a lively discussion on the dating industry, relationships, and tips for online dating profiles and safe dating.
The panelists included some of the busiest women running dating and matchmaking companies, who took the time to collaborate on an informative panel and answered questions from the audience.
Collectively our businesses represented 30 years of dating industry, matchmaking, mobile apps, and coaching experience. We talked about the big elephant in the room, Tinder, and how it has affected our businesses as well as your dating experience.
Here are some of the advice we dished at SBF16.
Kelly Steckelberg, CEO of Zoosk and Lively Mobile App
Jennifer Kelton, CEO of Bad Online Dates and BOD Dating App
Talia Goldstein, CEO of Three Day Rule, a Matchmaking Company
Julie Spira, CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and Online Dating Expert
Kelly’s Top 5 Tips from Zoosk:
- Use a full body shot as your primary photo, as you’re 200% more likely to get responses to your messages.
- You will get 50% fewer responses if the primary photo is a group photo. (Guys will wonder, which one are you?)
- No pets in your primary photo.
- Talk about yourself and what’s interesting about you, not about what you’re looking for in that person.
- Use Spellcheck. The Zoosk study about grammar and spelling showed it had a huge effect on success rate.
Jennifer’s Top 5 Tips from BOD Dating App:
- Grammar, grammar, grammar! No matter how good looking they are, grammar matters.
- Be authentic in who you are. You’ve gotta keep it real. You don’t need to have your profile be a dissertation, but don’t put something out there that’s not genuine.
- Don’t post bathroom selfies or a photo of a party scene. I realize that I’m probably not going to have a lot in common with that person.
- You’ve got to think about safety first. Don’t ever meet somebody not in public, even after a few dates.
- Don’t post selfies in the steamy bathroom mirror. Find a friend to take your photos.
Talia’s Top 5 Tips from Three Day Rule
- Women need to be proactive and reach out to men.
- Don’t post “distractor” photos where you are looking at almost everything in the photo, but the person (maybe they’re hiding behind a leaf).
- Don’t post a mysterious other man or woman. The person viewing the profile will wonder, is this your husband or brother?
- Do be chivalrous and open a door.
- The League’s recent study said women wearing white dresses do well in the app, as well as men wearing suits.
Julie’s Top 5 Tips from Cyber-Dating Expert
- Ditch the little black dress and wear red in your profile. It’s the color of love, romance, and men view and write to women more often wearing red.
- Don’t post goofy photos wearing a gorilla suit. Leave that for Comic Con.
- Don’t get hung up on someone’s weight, height or distance.
- Check out your potential date’s photos in Google.com/images to see if they match who they are.
- Use social media to verify if your date looks the same and see if you have friends in common. Ask your friends if they will give the thumbs up or down on your date.
There are plenty of mobile dating apps these days, but have you ever dreaded going out on a date with someone new who you met online, wondering if you’d recognize them? Have you ever gone on a date and found the other person’s grammar or hygiene habits so repulsive you want to run out the door?
We know that not all dates are disastrous, but every once in a while you need to be saved from a date that’s gone south in a digital heartbeat.
Cyber-Dating Expert friend Jennifer Kelton from Bad Online Dates has come up with a solution to help yo find your Knight in white armor and to say goodbye to the dud IRL.
Jennifer told me that she created the bod App because she feels that “there is a problem in the dating space and more people are having bad dates than having good dates.”
Sure we know that dating is a numbers game.
With the newly launched location-based bod app, you can open it up and see on a map another potential dater who might want to meet you and save the day. Jennifer calls it the Plan B to bad dates.
Jen feels that the dating industry has a responsibility to help singles make the best use of their time, money, and energy, (not to say the cost of the blow-out, new outfit, manicure, pedicure, flowers, etc.)
Here’s a Peek on How the bod Dating App Works
- Go to the App Store or Google Play (iPhone or Android), download, and log in through your email or Facebook account
- Set up your profile and turn on Date Mode to start looking for people around you to connect with in real time
- When Date Mode is on, users become discoverable and visible to other local app users, even those not currently on a bad date.
- Message matches to meet (and leave your date!)
Once a mutual interest is established, users receive a notification and now have an escape plan to get out of their date and start a new (and hopefully good) date.
How is bod different from other apps?
Other mobile dating apps, like Happn, Tinder, and Bumble, are designed to help you meet someone and go on a first date. bod App changes the dating app game by helping you get out of that first Tinder date if it goes south and offers you the opportunity to salvage your night (and your outfit) and have a better time.
Icebreakers to get your started
If you’re on the shy side and can’t figure out a good opening line, the bod App has built in icebreakers that you can send to your matches. Basically they act as your own personal digital wingman and take you past “hey.”
Some examples of icebreakers include:
- Talking in public on your phone a do or a don’t?
- How often do you see live music?
- Do you like white or red wine?
- On a plane do you like the window or an aisle seat?
- Were you a boy scout or a girl scout?
Do download the app on iOs or Android visit boddatingapp.com
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We’ve all had bad dates that border on humorous and ridiculous. Many of you have shared your dating stories in our Peril of the Week. Now’s your chance to be on National TV on the ABC Newsmagazine 20/20. They’re working with our good friends at BadOnlineDates.com to find videos of dates gone wrong, the wilder the better!
So the next time you see a dating disaster start to happen and your date heads south, instead of just thinking what you will post in The Peril of the Week on CyberDatingExpert.com or share on BadOnlineDates.com, think of taking out your iPhone or digital camera and start recording.? Make sure it?s obvious why this is an example of a ?Bad Date?…you can narrate if you want….you can ask questions ….you can even shoot yourself too, not just the other person if you like….whatever will make it clear what?s wrong.
It may take some creativity on your part to pull it off; it probably won’t work if you say ?this date is so awful I need video to prove to my friends what happened!?. So by all means have fun…make it playful! But however you can do it, the video should show people what you went through. If I only had my video camera when my date told me the details of his colonoscopy or when another date demanded my pizza crust “to go” on a first date, I’d be submitting my stories as well.
If necessary for television broadcast identities can be kept confidential, but 20/20 wants to see whatever you can shoot. If you?ve ever recorded something in the past, that?s worth sending too. There?s no guarantee that what you submit will be used, but the producers will contact anyone whose story they like.
Please don?t stage anything though, it has to be real. Send your video clips, bad date stories and contact information to Thomas.firstname.lastname@example.org and get ready to set your DVR.
Online dating doesn’t mean just signing up for a dating site when you’re single any more. It’s a multi-billion dollar industry filled with mobile apps, dating coaches, and helps both singles find love and couples stay together with ongoing dating tips.
In a pre-Valentine’s Love Goes Digital panel hosted by Kevin Winston of Digital LA, online dating experts and sites discussed dating advice, the growing trend of mobile dating, and how to keep your love alive after the knot has been tied.
Grant Langston, head of social media at eHarmony and an employee of the site since before it’s launch in 2000 shared his experience on the changes their site has gone through. In my personal opinion, I think they have one of the best iPad apps around. The site will shortly be rolling out a new feature for your eHarmony timeline that’s similar to a? Facebook time-line.
Justin Fredericks, founder of Marriage.com, a video network that curates, produces and promotes videos about wedding, marriage, dating, and relationships talked about the new social networking site Pinterest, as it focuses on women.
I shared with the audience how I created my first online dating profile in 1994 as a charter member of Love@Aol, during the days of the dial-up connection. I penned my stories in my first book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and created CyberDatingExpert.com as a place for singles and couples to share their online dating stories. The use of social media on Twitter and Facebook has made a big impact on my brand. I also told singles not to ‘friend’ someone on Facebook before or after a first date. Personally, I think it’s creepy.
The audience was a mixed group of singles, married couples, dating industry executives, love coaches and those who are still looking for love online. We nibbled on chocolate, sipped One Coconut Water, and discussed what you should say or not say in your online dating profile.
At the end of the digital day, most of the audience felt they’d rather keep their love and dating life off of Facebook.
One thing’s for sure. The audience left fully armed with the dos and don’ts of social and online dating in time for Valentine’s Day.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. Follow her @JulieSpira on Twitter. If you loved this post, Like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert for more dating advice.
Just in time for St. Patrick’s Day, it’s a great pleasure to bring you episode 3 of the new dating game show, Dating in Disguise. We all know that dating can be grueling at times. Whether you’re Irish or not, sometimes it is truly a matter of luck. To celebrate getting lucky in love, We’ve partnered with Bad Online Dates for this episode of this humorous video series. Feel free to comment and enjoy!