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Pucker Up – It’s National Kissing Day

5 Ways to Create a Great Date Night - Cyber Dating ExpertPucker up! It’s National Kissing Day, so if you’re still on a high from Fourth of July fireworks, there’s no need to let the flame sizzle.

Every year on July 6th, singles and couples will have a good excuse to become more romantic and flirty for this annual holiday. It’s time to get creative, both on the lips and in the desired location of that memorable kiss.

In honor of International Kissing Day, our friends at online dating site Match have partnered up with Colour Pop with a “Kiss + Tell” Survey, which showed that 84% of singles really enjoy kissing, with most experiencing their first kiss between the age of 13 – 16.

Other kissing survey results include:

Ideal Kiss

The TOP 3 spots to be kissed?

  • At sunset (48%)
  • Moonlight stroll (46%)
  • The beach (37%)

How long is the perfect kiss?

  • 20 % of singles agreed that 10 seconds is the amount of time for the ideal kiss.
  • 70% of singles say BAD BREATH has definitely ruined a kiss.
  • 70% of singles say a bad first kiss is NOT a deal breaker.
  • 75% of single women and 53% of single men say they CLOSE their eyes during a kiss.
  • The second most romantic place to be kissed is on the neck.

Lipstick Rules!

  • Nearly 1/3 (30%) of single women say they’ve actually had more success landing a first kiss while wearing lipstick!
  • Nearly 1/3 (30%) of single men say a great make out is when they have a woman’s lipstick on their face.

Celebrity Kisses

  • Kanye vs. Drake: DRAKE (86%)
  • President Trump vs. Former President Obama: OBAMA (82%)
  • Prince William vs. Prince Harry: HARRY (64%)
  • Chris Hemsworth vs. Liam Hemsworth: LIAM (58%)
  • Dev Patel vs. Aziz Ansari: DEV (58%)
  • Ryan Reynolds vs. Ryan Gosling: REYNOLDS (52%)
  • Brad Pitt vs. George Clooney: BRAD (51%)


  • Taylor Swift vs. Miley Cyrus: TAYLOR (82%)
  • Gigi Hadid vs. Bella Hadid: GIGI (60%)
  • Jessica Alba vs. Jessica Biel: ALBA (60%)
  • Kim Kardashian vs. Khloe Kardashian: KHLOE (55%)
  • Beyonce vs. Rihanna: RIHANNA (55%)
  • Emma Watson vs. Emma Stone: STONE (51%)

Top 3 TV show hosts singles would want to kiss:


  1. Jimmy Fallon (28%)
  2.  Ryan Seacrest (22%)
  3. Trevor Noah (18%)


  1. Megyn Kelly (35%)
  2. Kelly Ripa (28%)
  3. Savannah Guthrie (11%)

National Kissing DayIn honor of National Kissing Day, Match and Colour Pop created limited edition lipstick, Mwah, a raspberry red ultra-matte lipstick, plus $1 of each lipstick purchased will be donated to GLAM4GOOD Foundation, for only $6.

Check out these special lipsticks here:

If you’re away from your sweetheart, remember to send a few digital hugs and kisses XOXO’s via text on your mobile phone to celebrate International Kissing Day. Remember that a goodbye kiss can be more important than the hello kiss and leave a wonderful memory to the end of your date.

What’s your kissing style? Do you have your own kissing dos and don’ts? A dream spot for that first kiss?

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter


Best and Worst Cities for Online Dating

Best cities for online dating

When you’re single and really want to meet someone, you’ll say that the city you live in is the worst city for dating.

While you might feel that way, this report and findings from WalletHub of the 150 most populated cities in the United States will show you exactly which cites are the best based on “Dating Economics” and “Romance & Fun.”

Whether it’s the cost of the movie ticket (California was the worst), or the price of going to a beauty salon or to a bar for drinks, find out what challenges you might have in the city you reside in.

Better yet, I always recommend casting a wider net and changing your zip code to another city. Why not move for love? Why not go on a date when you’re traveling in another city?

So here’s the news in a digital nutshell.

The best cities for online dating:

  • Gilbert, AZ
  • Irvine, TX
  • Plano, TX
  • Fremont, CA
  • Overland Park, KS

The worst cities for online dating:

  1. Detroit, MI
  2. Brownsville, TX
  3. Laredo, TX
  4. Memphis, TN
  5. Cleveland, OH


Best Online Dating Cities

The highest movie ticket costs and highest beauty salon costs were all in California. So yes, dating in California is expensive.

Thinking of moving to another city to find love? Check out how they rank here.

Highest percentage of single persons:

  1. Detroit, MI
  2. Washington, DC
  3. Cleveland, OH
  4. Rochester, NY
  5. Atlanta, GA

Lowest percentage of single persons:

  1. Fremont, CA
  2. Gilbert, AZ
  3. Plano, TX
  4. Overland Park, KS
  5. Chesapeake, VA

Are you interested in their other findings? Here’s the full list, so you can decide where to go searching for dates before opening your wallet.

Where does your city rank on this list?

Source: WalletHub

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Brunettes Have More First Dates [infographic]

Match WellaIs it true that blondes have more fun?

Our friends at Match teamed up with Wella for a #LoveisintheHair survey to of online daters on Match to find out what the guys and gals had to say about women and their hair color and styles.

Check out this fun Infographic and maybe try a new hairstyle for your next date to mix it up.

Some of the key findings are:

  • Blondes have more long-term relationships.
  • Brunettes have more first dates.
  • Almost half of the women think that sleek and straight hair makes them feel more confident.
  • Almost half of the single men found women with curly hair to be more irresistible
  • 1/4 of single men find women with straight-sleek hair to be more wife-worthy
  • 1/4 of single men find women with hair in braids to be more sporty

Does this mean you need to run to the hair salon and change your color and style? I say no. The number one attraction to a man will always be confidence, so ladies…smile be confident, be happy both on the Internet and offline and he’ll be enjoying his date with you.

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Men Prefer Online Daters Wearing Makeup; Celebs Natural

Ladies: Are you wondering how to shine online to attract more men? Are you spending time at the makeup counter before going on a date? Do you want to look like a celebrity on the Red Carpet or go with the natural look on a date?

Before you grab that lip plumper, know that online and offline attraction does vary according to the men.

In a recent survey by online dating site Zoosk, 1850 male daters were asked to compare photos of Kim Kardashian, Beyonce, Jessica Simpson, and Jennifer Lawrence, with and without makeup. Then they were asked how they felt about the women they date, with or without the glam. The results and disconnect between their online and offline behaviors will surprise you.


Kim Kardashian and Jessica Alba

Surprisingly so, the majority of the guys stated that they preferred Jessica Alba, makeup free (77%) as compared to giving the thumbs up for Kim Kardashian, all glammed up. (23%).

Jennifer Lawrence

Jennifer Lawrence

While viewing photos of Jennifer Lawrence made up in “American Hustle” as compared to a natural look, Zooskers voted in favor of the natural look (54%) as compared to the American Hustle photo with bright red lipstick (46%).

Jessica Simpson

Jessica Simpson

When asked if Jessica Simpson looked better with or without makeup on, 57% of the men preferred her natural look.

So how does this relate to real life dating and mens thoughts on hair and makeup?

The survey shows that men prefer a natural look with the women they are dating. Fifty-seven percent of men gave the thumbs down to red lipstick and 67% weren’t fond of dark eye shadow.

When it comes to hairstyle, 81% voted for a relaxed and natural look, with only 9% preferring pin-straight hair. Does this mean it’s time to toss out the flat iron?

Now let’s take a digital look at how men select women while viewing thousands of online dating profiles.

Zoosk’s data shows the complete opposite viewpoint to hair and makeup, where men were dramatically selecting women wearing more makeup, more eye shadow, and more lipstick in their photos.

Here are some numbers worth blinking a digital eye to:

  • Women who wear eye makeup receive 139% more first messages than women who don’t.
  • Men are 65% more likely to want to meet a woman if she wears eye makeup in her profile picture.
  • Women who wear lipstick in their profile photo get 119% more first messages than those who don’t.
  • Men are 38% more likely to want to meet a woman if she’s wearing lipstick in her profile photo.
  • Woman wearing blush receive 24% more first messages than those who don’t.
  • Men are 19% more likely to want to meet a woman if she’s wearing blush than if she’s not.

All in all, women who wore some form of makeup received more than three times as many messages as those who didn’t.

It may not be time to dig out your prom or glamour shots, but taking the extra time to look your best in your photos instead of posting the ‘selfie’ from last night’s party might be a wise idea.

After all, you’re auditioning for the job of a lifetime; possible girlfriend or wife.

Ladies, do you prefer a more natural look sans makeup? Do you need help to look your best on a date? I’m here to help you. Find out more here.

Your thoughts and comments are welcome.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and coaches singles on the dating scene to help them find love online and IRL. For more dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt Newsletter.

Beauty – Red Velvet Facial Mask

Red velvet Facial MaskJust in time for Valentine’s Day, facialist-extraordinnaire Gia, from Gia Skin Care, shares her Red Velvet Mask. It looks and smells so good, you may find yourself nibbling on it while applying it to your face.

How do you enjoy this do-it-yourself process at home?

All you’ll need is a food processor or blender and the following ingredients:

1/4 Cup of Fresh Organic Raspberries
1 Tablespoon Manuka or Raw Local Honey
1 Teaspoon of powdered Cocoa
1-2 Tablespoons Organic Almond Milk

Blend all the ingredients until it becomes a smooth velvety consistency.

Apply your mask from a bowl with either an applicator or facial brush making sure you avoid the eye area.

Leave on 10 minutes and simply Breathe and Relax.

With the amazing power of antioxidants from the raspberries and the medicinal antibacterial healing qualities from the honey, this is the ideal indulging mask without any calories!

It’s a nice way to pamper yourself, while getting ready for your next cyber-date.

For more beauty ideas, visit and

Julie Spira is leading online dating expert and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. For online dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at

Julie Spira Teams up with Bloomingdales for Beauty 101: Meet Your Match

Bloomingdales - Meet Your Match - Julie Spira

It?s with great enthusiasm to announce that I?m teaming up with Bloomingdales for an exciting event called, Beauty 101: Meet Your Match. The event will be held in their Los Angeles ? Century City store on Saturday, October 20th from 1pm ? 2pm and 4pm ? 5pm.

We all know that getting ready for a date requires a bit of effort. With so many beauty lines to choose from, how do you know which is best for you? Should you lean in for the important first kiss wearing pink lipstick or red?

If you?ve heard of speed dating, the concept is similar. How it works is 30 participants will be seated at individual tables for each session. Every five minutes, you’ll switch tables and meet experts from Bloomingdales? prestigious cosmetics lines who will show you the best products for you. I?ll be on hand providing dating and relationship advice for each participant, so get your questions ready.

Your $25 ticket will be redeemable for purchases in the Cosmetics department. We?ll have light refreshments, free samples, and the chance to win one of the many luxurious Cosmetics baskets. You?ll leave looking perfect for your date night.

Tickets are limited and are available in advance at any cosmetics counter at the Century City store or by calling 310-772-2144.

Julie Spira is an online dating and relationship expert. She?s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online? and creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more datingadvice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at


Shecky’s Girls Night Out in Los Angeles

Going out with the girls is something I always look forward to. The power of the “girlfriend network” is something that I cherish on a daily basis. Girlfriends help you get ready for a date, plan your wedding, hold your hand during a break up, and tell you the truth if your outfit looks good on your or not.

This week, grab your favorite girlfriends and head over to the annual Shecky’s Girls Night Out at the Santa Monica Civic Auditorium in Santa Monica, CA. You’ll have 5 hours to sip on wonderful cocktails, see the latest in fashion and beauty trends, receive dating advice, and go home with the famous Shecky’s VIP Goody Bag, worth over $100.

Tickets can be purchased for $25 in advance and $35 at the door. As a Shecky’s Socialista, ?I will be coordinating a group of stylish Los Angeles ladies on Thursday, May 20, 2010.

Click here to purchase tickets: Shecky’s Tickets

Choose “Socialista” from the ?We’re very curious! How did you hear about this event?? drop down menu on the checkout page and write in my full name to be part of our group.?It’s guaranteed to be a fun night.

Not in LA? Not to fret. Shecky’s events are held in these cities as well:

Lip Gloss Worth a Kiss or Two

Every one in a while I come across a new lip gloss that’s guaranteed to stay on your lips throughout the day. When I found the double-ended mix-and match lipgloss from tarte, which claimed to be a moisture-rich gloss duo to hydrate the lips, it was worth trying.

Of course, the quote on the box got my attention, which said “Breaking up’s not hard to do when you’ve got a gloss that splits in two!”

Tarte supergloss comes in colors such as Pip & Estella, along with the associated and flirty quote, “Estella always kept her admirer guessing with her patented pout. Exceed expectations, one kiss at a time.”

Other famous duos include Fred & Ginger, Romeo & Juliet, Luke & Laura, Rhett & Scarlet, and Anthony & Cleopatra.

It’s worth the purchase to perk up your spirit along with your lips. Added bonus: You can break apart the duo and mix and match the colors while you’re dreaming about your next kiss.

Try their new beach set, featuring Gidget & Moondoggie (pale pink & shimmery sand)
Frankie & Annette (coral pink & watermelon)
Zack & Kelly (peachy pink & cotton candy)

tarte sunglosses Double-Ended Lipglosses Set 1 set

The Amazing Natural Pumpkin Peel Facial

pumpkinfacialSure it’s springtime, and not exactly the season for pumpkins, but when I heard about the PumpkinPeel Facial over at Great Skin, I couldn’t resist giving it a try.

Solla Pizzuto, their Head Estetician treated me to this service which used the fresh products free of all chemicals. A pumpkin enzyme peel was applied to my skin, and after one hour, my face was glowing.

Included in the Great Skin Facials are stress relief massages of hands, neck, scalp, and foot reflexology. I had no idea that unfiltered whole pumpkins offer over one hundred nutrients. It’s a cornucopia of nutritive wonders perfect for any season.

For more information, contact Solla at Great Skin at or 310-268-2288. Use the Promo Code: Perils and you will receive 10% off your treatment. Gr8T Skin is recommended by

Love those Lashes

Woman eye

Nothing is sexier than long luscious lashes. These days there are so many products and mascara choices to make, however now all of my friends are appearing with extra long lashes, and they are their very own. Why? Because several products have been created lately which are FDA approved to actually help your lashes grow. All you need to do is put a thin liner on your eyelid once a day and within thirty days, your eye lashes will have lengthened. It’s the talk of the town, so go to your local beauty supply shop or your dermatologist’s office and request one of the many brands that are available. You’ll have more fun after being “winked” on your next cyber-date.