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Dating Profile Photos to Rock His World

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Turn to the left and smile? Sunglasses on, or off? Cleavage or cover up?

What are the best photos for your Irresistible online dating profile to capture his digital eye?

Finding the right photos for your online dating profile can be tough. Ladies, if you’ve ever wondered which photos are the best ones to put on your online dating profile, the guys have spoken up to state their faves.

In a recent online dating experiment by DatingFound, 3,570 single men were asked to rate the attractiveness of women’s Internet dating profiles, by rating their profile photos on a scale of 1 to 10.

Here’s how the photos ranked in popularity.

Showing Skin

Almost half of the men in the survey (41% ) said they liked to see a woman showing some flesh in her online dating profile. Women showing off cleavage by wearing low-cut tops and dresses in their profile pictures scored high for younger women. For those more mature in age, guys preferred to see a more conservative look, keeping a little mystery alive.

Even though pictures showing more skin result in more messages from digital crushes, you don’t want to look as  though that’s the only thing you have to offer. Remember – no bikini shots!

Happy Girls are a Complete Turn On

This survey found that 39% of men like the look of a woman who smiles in her profile pics.

Smiles can turn strangers into soulmates, so make sure you look happy in your profile photos. Happiness creates trust and approach-oriented behaviors in single men and increases your attractiveness.

Remember to flirt! A smiling profile picture is perfect because it appears as if you’re smiling at the viewer and men will respond enthusiastically.

Don’t Just Use Your Head Shots

Professional head shots look great in an online dating profile, but 11% of men like when a woman shows something they love. Appeal to men by putting your personality on display and show your fun side.

Take pictures that show your lifestyle. A shot of you reading a book, playing a guitar, cooking, golfing, yoga, or doing an activity you do regularly appeals to men.

Related: Creating an Irresistible Online Dating Profile Tips

Show Off Your Best (Left) Side

It’s been proven that we show more emotion from the left side of our face, and showing our left side in photos can create deeper resonance in those who view them.

Nine percent of men liked it  when a woman showed her left side in photos. Left-side photos are also more pleasing to the eye as they change up the viewing angle from a straight-on view.

P.S. This goes both ways, as women also liked viewing photos of men with their left side.

Which Photo Should You Show First?

You should have one of each of these photos on your profile to get the most possible messages from your matches.

  1. Start with a photo of you showing off a little skin to capture attention.
  2. Can you say cheese? Post smiling happy photos (both close up and full body).
  3. Fun photos with activities that you’re passionate about.
  4. Left side poses.

Which Photos Should You Never Use?

  1. Avoid sunglasses as it could appear that you’re hiding something. Let him see your sparkling eyes.
  2. Avoid group photos with your friends. Don’t confuse a guy by making him wonder who he will be meeting on the date.
  3. Ditch the selfies. Need we say more? You just don’t look your best and it sends the message that it’s all about you.
  4. Keep your pets out of your primary photo shot. Most of us love puppies and pets, but posting your first photo with your four-legged friend sends the message that your puppy sleeps in bed with you. Where’s the room for your new beau?

Related: Puppy Love: Dating Sites Match Pet Lovers

The full DatingFound infographic can be found here.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. For more dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter, sign up for our Weekly Flirt and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

Find out how our Irresistible Profiles will help you find your dream date.

JUST RELEASED: Our 2nd edition of The Perils of Cyber-Dating is now available on Kindle and as an audio book, narrated by the author.

Listen to our book trailer here.

Julie Spira Talks to FOX News About Finding Love Again

Julie Spira on FOX 11On FOX 11 LA’s show, 2230, Julie Spira talks about how her book,”The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” helped bring her long lost love back, after 16 years apart.

Julie explained how writing this book helped heal her heart and those of millions of others.

After over a decade and a half apart, Julie’s long lost love purchased her book, read about their romantic love story, and connected with her on Facebook for Act 3 of their love story.

Watch part of the interview here.

Julie re-released her bestseller “The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” in 2016 with a new epilogue, complete with a magical fairy tale ending to help singles believe in love again, after the man who was the love of her life read the book and relived the memories he had not forgotten.

Pick up your copy on Amazon Kindle and Audible.

Watch the Full Interview Here

Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and on Facebook for online dating advice.

Julie Spira Releases New Epilogue After Reuniting with Long Lost Love

For Immediate Release

The Perils of Cyber-Dating BookFacebook plays Cupid for America’s Top Online Dating Expert, Julie Spira.

Seven years ago, author Julie Spira released her best-selling memoir and online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, which chronicled her romantic journey while looking for love online.

Spira, CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, was an early adopter of online dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years.

New developments in Spira’s love life have sparked fans’ interests and have ignited demands to know how the story ends.

Today, Spira is proud to announce the re-release of The Perils of Cyber-Dating, completely revised and updated, with new dating advice and a magical epilogue that will help readers believe in love.

“One always wonders about the one that got away,” said Spira. “After seven years together with the man I referred to as the “Love of my Life,” we went our separate ways and married others just days apart. I thought I’d never hear from him again.”

Julie initially went online in the early 1990s where she hoped to replace the former love of her life with an Internet mate. The author wrote about her breakup with her former long-time love in her book, along with the subsequent relationships that followed.

Little did she know, the love of her life also never stopped thinking about her. After his divorce, he read her book for the first time and read about their romance, including how they fell in love at first sight 24 years earlier. He reached out to her on Facebook after Valentine’s Day last year.  The two reunited for the first time after 16 years apart.

Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and chief science officer at match.com believes a rekindled romance is very powerful. “We are built to love and never forget the person you were deeply in love with,” says Fisher. “If the timing is right and they come back, the brain circuitry can be awakened almost instantly. That person you were deeply in love with before, fits within your love map.” Fisher, the author of Anatomy of Love (WW Norton: 2nd edition Feb 1, 2016) says the brain remembers the good times. The brain is built to try again.”

“The love of my life returned to me for Act Three and another chance at love. It will be a Happy Valentine’s Day indeed.”

Spira is speaking at Digital LA’s Mobile Dating Apps panel in Los Angeles on February 3, 2016.

The new edition of the book is available on Amazon, Audible, and iTunes. The author is available to speak on how to make rekindled romances work, how to find love online for Valentine’s Day, best mobile dating apps, online dating safety, and online dating profile dos and don’ts.

Listen to our Book Trailer

About Julie Spira

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. Julie is the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been featured over 650 times in the media with her online dating and mobile dating advice. Social media influence site Klout ranks Spira as the most influential person in “dating” and “online dating.” Visit CyberDatingExpert.com.

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Just Released! The Perils of Cyber-Dating Audio Book

Perils of Cyber-Dating Audio BookIt’s the New Year and that means singles are signing up in record numbers to online dating sites and mobile dating apps with the hope to snag a date by Valentine’s.

At Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters, we’re excited to announce our new audio book for The Perils of Cyber-Dating was just released, in time for Valentine’s Day.

Seven years after our bestseller came out, we went into the studio and spent four months in post-production with The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love OnlineIt’s available on Amazon, Audible, and iTunes.

You’ll follow my journey as I attempt to replace the “Love of My Life” with an Internet mate.

The book is complete with online dating advice, fairy tale stories, a few heartbreaks, a lot of laughter, and a surprise NEW Epilogue to warm your heart and help you believe in love and happily ever after.

Here’s our book trailer with some highlights. P.S. Listen all the way to the end.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter

Listen to the full Book Trailer with more excerpts

Available on Amazon | Audible | iTunes

Book Review – The Perils of Cyber-Dating

Cupid's Pulse Book Review - The Perils of Cyber-Dating

Read the latest book review from Cupid’s Pulse along with my personal interview about The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

Perils of Cyber-Dating

 

More than 40 million singles are dating online. With around 2,500 online dating sites to choose from, how can you navigate your way safely and find love on the Internet? Julie Spira?s tell-all memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, can help. You’ll follow her on her 15-year journey, which included 250 online dates as she navigates the web in hopes to find an Internet mate to replace someone she thought was the love of her life. Through her romances, heartbreaks, and personal rules of ‘netiquette,’ Spira shares invaluable first-hand knowledge on the best ways to date online.

Cupid’s Take:

Online dating has it’s own set of rules. Remember to be safe and savvy when on the web. Cupid caught up with the Spira via e-mail this week. Here’s what the author had to say:

Cupid: You were one of the first people to delve into the world of online dating. Were you scared? What were other people’s reactions?

Julie Spira: At the time I created my first online dating profile in 1994, I wasn’t scared at all. I fully embraced the Internet both personally and professionally. But, since online dating was not mainstream at that point, I told very few people that I was meeting my dates from online dating sites. I told some close friends who I thought could benefit from online dating and helped them with their online dating profiles and then started coaching singles professionally.

Cupid: What’s different about cyberdating (as compared to traditional dating), and how can people adapt to it?

JS: The main difference between cyberdating and traditional dating is that you are meeting someone that you haven?t met before in real life and you are getting to know them from behind their computer screen. Online dating, Internet dating, and cyberdating are all terms used for those using online dating sites, chat rooms, video dating, and social dating sites. This also includes social networking sites such as Facebook and MySpace. In order to completely embrace online dating, one needs to be comfortable using their computer. It’s also important to be very organized as you may receive hundreds of emails in the first day or two. In order to be successful, if you create a system that helps keep all of the replies and emails sent, you’ll be able to communicate with your dates with their background information. If you are already using Facebook to communicate with friends, it’s the next logical step.

Cupid: What have you seen change about the online dating world since you started?

JS: When I first started dating online, Match.com hadn’t been launched yet. There were very few sites to pick from. It was a much simpler process without all the Web 2.0 bells and whistles. You weren’t seeing video dating and text messaging wasn’t an option in the U.S.

Cupid: What is your relationship to online dating now?

JS: As an online dating coach, I help singles create their irresistible online dating profiles and work with them to search the best possible matches. I also help them decide which sites to join and teach them how to craft and email introduction and response that will grab the attention of those profiles they select.

Cupid: What are your top 5 netiquette rules for cyberdating?

JS: My Rules of Netiquette from my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, include:

1. The Google Rule.  If you Google your date before you meet them, don’t let them know on the first date. You’d be surprised how some people actually print out the Google results and start questioning their date about specific entries. It’s not appropriate first date material and no one wants to feel like they are on a job interview or under the microscope.
2. The Food and Beverage Rule. If you ask a date out for coffee, be prepared to order a beverage for her and yourself. I have heard stories many times where either someone arrives with their own water, or simply does not order a coffee or tea for their date. You should assume that a coffee date includes a drink, and a dinner date includes some form of food.
3. The Ex Rule.  Don’t talk about your ex-wife or husband, ex girlfriend or boyfriend, or spend time talking about the past. You’d be surprised that some talk about their spousal support, or a relationship that didn’t work out on the first date. Keep it light and leave the baggage at home.
4. The Send Button Rule.  My mother always says, “If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone, don’t say anything at all.” Too often someone gets mad and drafts an email and pushes the send button. When in doubt, send it to yourself. You might feel differently in the morning. Once you push the send button, you can’t take it back.
5. The Break Up Rule.  Never break up with a significant other in an email or a text message. It’s just common courtesy to have a conversation and preferably in person. Do you really want to go down in history as the one who frequently dumps their dates in an email or text?  Sure, celebrities are ending relationships in text messages and on Twitter these days. But is it right?

Most importantly, be authentic. Authenticity is really in style now. With over 400 million members on Facebook, it’s easy for someone to see if your photo on your online dating profile does not match the recent birthday or vacation pictures on Facebook. We know that many singles lie about their age in their online dating profiles to fit into a search, but the truth will come out when you meet in real life. You start out on a bad foot if you are lying about your age, weight, and height. Enjoy the process and look at cyberdating as a way to increase your social and business networks in the event it doesn’t turn into a romantic relationship.

Cupid thanks Spira for her time!? For more information and dating advice, visit her site, CyberDatingExpert.com.

Meet Author Julie Spira at the West Hollywood Book Fair

Join bestselling author and CyberDating Expert Julie Spira at the West Hollywood Book Fair on Sunday, September 26, 2010.

Spira will present and sign copies of her book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online from 10:00am – 12:00pm at Booth E63 and E64.

In addition, she will be providing online dating profile critiques and dating advice for singles on the dating scene.

EVENT DETAILS

Who: Author, Julie Spira
Where: West Hollywood Book Fair, 647 N. San Vicente Blvd. West Hollywood, CA
When: Sunday, September 26, 2010
Time: 10AM to 12PM (Booth E 63 and 64)
Cost: *Free*

ABOUT THE PERILS OF CYBER-DATING

“The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online” is a romantic tell-all memoir spanning over 250 online dates in almost 15 years. The book is filled with heartfelt, witty, and hilarious stories. Julie Spira, a pioneer in the Internet industry, became the first on her block to post an online dating profile. You’ll follow her journey as she skillfully navigates the web, hoping to replace what she once thought was the love of her life with a new Internet mate. Combining her fairytale romances and disappointing heartbreaks with her personal “rules of netiquette,” Spira provides priceless knowledge about the most effective ways to date online.

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The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Now Available on Kindle

They say the best things in life are worth waiting for.The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online by Julie Spira is now available in the Kindle format on Amazon.

This bestselling online dating book and tell-all memoir features Spira’s 15 year romantic journey in cyberspace. The book is a hilarious, witty, ?and heartfelt look into the trials and tribulations of dating in a Web 2.0 World. Learn from an Internet industry pro who had to start her life all over again.

Read the Kindle Version

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Here’s what they are saying about The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

“Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book.”

~ Joan Rivers
Comedienne and Best Selling Author

“It?s like Sex and The City in a Web 2.0 World.”

~E. Jean Carroll
Columnist, ?Ask E. Jean? Elle Magazine

“Anyone who has ever tried online dating will relate to Julie Spira’s stories and not feel alone. The Perils of Cyber-Dating gives hope to singles everywhere with an email address that they can successfully meet someone online.”

~ Dr. Pat Allen
Author of the best-seller of Getting to ‘I Do’

“Thank goodness there are still hopeful romantics left in this world!”

~ Cheryl Woodcock
Producer and Correspondent, Entertainment Tonight-The Insider

“I’ve seen too many women put in jeopardy by unscrupulous Internet dating contacts. That’s why this book is your must-have navigation guide to help you safely travel through the perilous landscape of cyber-dating. Plus, Spira’s personal stories are a hoot and a half!”

~ Diane Dimond
Journalist and Author

“Online dating memberships should come with a handbook and many doses of humor. Julie Spira provides both. A wonderful companion for singles looking for love online.”

~ Julie Ferman
Founder, Cupid’s Coach

“Julie Spira tells a compelling story, shares intimate moments, and transforms her experience into means of larger good.”

~ Veronica De Laurentiis
Best-selling Author of Rivoglio La Mia Vita

“There are always telltale signs whether or not a man is ‘The One’. Read this book and learn from Julie so you won?t be caught in a ‘Bermuda triangle’ of Internet dating.”

~ Donna Sozio
Yahoo! personals dating expert and author of Never Trust a Man in Alligator Loafers

“This book is a must for this generation of singles, both male and female, who are into cyber-dating. It is possible to find someone if you know the rules.”

smdailypress

~ Dane Robert Swanson
Santa Monica Daily Press


Tamsen Fadal“As a relationship expert, I love to recommend Julie’s advice for online daters. A must-read!”

~ Tamsen Fadal
Author and Relationship Expert


Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed

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Join me on January 14, 2010 as the Social Media Club of Los Angeles presents, Dating and Relationships: The Game Has Changed. Get all the tips you need a month before Valentine’s Day.

I will be on a panel with my friends, AV Flox, Evan Marc Katz, Liz H. Kelly, and Linda Sherman. We’ll be talking about social media and dating. It will be a fun evening. Learn how online dating is becoming social dating with some dating advice thrown in. ?You can RSVP on ?Facebook.

There will be a book signing at the end of the event, and I’ll be there with copies of my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. One lucky guest will win the Cyber Swag Bag filled with over $400 of romantic gifts including an autographed copy of my book, one free Irresistible online dating profile, 1 private Pilates session at Beyond Physical Therapy, and a free olive butter treatment at Byu-ti salon.

What: Dating and Social Media Panel and Mixer
Where: 12th and Highland, 304 12th Street, Manhattan Beach, CA
When: January 14, 2009
Time: 7:00pm – 10:00 pm
RSVP on Facebook

Praise for the Book – The Perils of Cyber-Dating

 

Praise and rave revues for Julie Spira’s online dating book, THE PERILS OF CYBER-DATING: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Click here to purchase your copy.

“Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book.”

~ Joan Rivers
Comedienne and Best Selling Author

“It’s like Sex and The City in a Web 2.0 World.”

~E. Jean Carroll
Columnist, ‘Ask E. Jean’ Elle Magazine

“Anyone who has ever tried online dating will relate to Julie Spira’s stories and not feel alone. The Perils of Cyber-Dating gives hope to singles everywhere with an email address that they can successfully meet someone online.”

~ Dr. Pat Allen
Author of the best-seller of Getting to ‘I Do’

“Thank goodness there are still hopeful romantics left in this world!”

~ Cheryl Woodcock
Producer and Correspondent, Entertainment Tonight-The Insider

 

 

I’ve seen too many women put in jeopardy by unscrupulous Internet dating contacts. That’s why this book is your must-have navigation guide to help you safely travel through the perilous landscape of cyber-dating. Plus, Spira’s personal stories are a hoot and a half!”

~ Diane Dimond
Journalist and Author

“Online dating memberships should come with a handbook and many doses of humor. Julie Spira provides both. A wonderful companion for singles looking for love online.”

~ Julie Ferman
Founder, Cupid’s Coach

 

“Julie Spira tells a compelling story, shares intimate moments, and transforms her experience into means of larger good.”

~ Veronica De Laurentiis
Best-selling Author of Rivoglio La Mia Vita


“This book is a fantastic journey that takes you through the jungle of online dating adventures! It reads like an entertaining and fun novel, and teaches you along the way. Julie dishes like she is your best friend, as she takes you into the heart of her vast dating experiences. Definitely pick it up!”

~ Dr. Diana Kirschner
Best-selling Author of Love in 90 Days

“There are always telltale signs whether or not a man is ‘The One’. Read this book and learn from Julie so you won?t be caught in a ‘Bermuda triangle’ of Internet dating.”

~ Donna Sozio
Yahoo! personals dating expert and author of Never Trust a Man in Alligator Loafers

 

“This book is a must for this generation of singles, both male and female, who are into cyber-dating. It is possible to find someone if you know the rules.”

smdailypress


~ Dane Robert Swanson
Santa Monica Daily Press

 

Tamsen Fadal

“As a relationship expert, I like to recommend Julie’s advice for online daters. A must-read!”

~Tamsen Fadal
Morning anchor, WPIX, New York and Relationship Expert


“Julie Spira’s a Very Glam Gal.”

~ Patrick McMullan
Celebrity Photographer and author of Glamour Girls