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CyberDating Tips for Spring Fever

Spring Fever

It?s the first week of Spring and if love isn?t in the air yet, I?ll give you a cyber-nudge with some dating advice to help along.

Whether you are interested in a spring fling or finding a serious relationship, be open to all of the possibilities. With the change of seasons comes a new attitude, both online and offline.? Outdoor cafes are filled with patrons again. Convertible tops are down, and it?s time to tune up your flirting techniques and jump back on the cyber-dating saddle.

With this in mind, here are a few Cyber-Dating Tips for those with Spring Fever and those who might benefit from the contagious effect the season brings.

Cyber-Dating Tip #1 ? Dress for Success. Appearance counts online and offline. After all, isn?t it your goal to turn that online romance into an offline relationship? Spend an afternoon spring-cleaning session in your very own closet. Recycle a dress or pant suit in your closet and make it your first date outfit.

Cyber-Dating Tip #2 ? Sensual Scent. Try a fresh new perfume or cologne to wear on your first online date. Hopefully your date won?t be allergic and will find your sexy scent appealing enough to graduate to a second date.

Cyber-Dating Tip #3 ? Turn on your webcam. Many online dating sites now offer webcam or video chat as part of their features. Go ahead and put on your lipstick and comb your hair. Remember to smile. It?s show time. By using video chat, your potential honey will know it?s the real you and not your younger sister. This will prevent that disappointing look one receives when the photos of their cyber-dates don?t match up in real life.

Cyber-Dating Tip #4 ? Renew and Refresh. If you?ve let your online dating account expire, go ahead and renew your membership. Refresh your profile with new photos and a new catchy screen name. Need a little help? Check out IRRESISTIBLE profiles, and we?ll help you in your quest to find love online.

Cyber-Dating Tip #5 ??It?s a numbers game. We know that online dating can be a lot of work and is time consuming. So is finding your dream job and working out at the gym. Allocate an hour a day every day to your online dating site. Respond to, or write to at least 5 online profiles every day for one week and see what happens. Check out who?s viewed your profile or added you to their favorites or hot lists and send them an email. Initiate the conversation and you may find someone who will be so flattered to hear from you.

If you are lucky in love and meet the one online, let us know. We may feature you in the Cyber Love Story of the Week.

Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at

Cyberdating Tip – Find the Time

In the weeks leading up to the holidays, I will be providing some of my favorite dating tips to help you find love online.


Quite often, someone will sign up for an online dating service when they really don’t have the time to either initiate or respond to email introductions. It’s important to carve out the time and make it a priority, especially if you are interested in finding someone by the holidays. Halloween is already this weekend and Thanksgiving will be here before you know it.

You schedule time to go to the gym, meet up with your friends for drinks, or watch your favorite television show. If you are too busy to find the time to write back to those who are pursuing you, or you don?t have time to select potential mates, you won?t get the result you want. It also isn?t fair to those who write to you who are sincere in their intentions.

My dating advice this week is for you to schedule three nights a week, one hour per night to view online dating profiles. Write to those who pique your curiosity, and respond to those you may be interested in. Make the time and have an overflowing Inbox.

Good luck with your search, and if you meet that someone special online, please do let us know.

Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

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Cyber Dating Tips for Meeting Pretty Women

Now that summer is over, singles are flocking to online dating sites.??With the holidays only a few months away, the desire to couple-up has increased. If you took a summer break from dating, now is the best time to sign up for an online dating service.

prettywomanIn a recent coaching call, an attractive female asked me why men weren’t responding to her online dating profile. Men would look at her photos, add her to their favorites, and then didn’t follow through by sending her an email. ?She was very frustrated and found herself sitting at home quite often on the weekends.

The problem here lies in the fact that most men assume the prettiest women are all taken. This goes back to the days when the cheerleaders all had football player boyfriends in high school. But quite often, this is not the case. Let’s take a look at the following scenario.

  • You are female, single, attractive, and are a member of several online dating sites.
  • You have your profile photos professionally taken, and your friends think you?re a beauty.
  • Your friends and family have read your online dating profile and think it deserves 5 stars.
  • Hundreds, if not thousands of men view your photos. Many of them send you a ?wink? but you never receive an email introduction.
  • You attend social events and never get approached by men, who may find you attractive.
  • Your mother reminds you to put on your lipstick before you go out the door. After all, you might be meeting ?the one? in the supermarket.

Yet, you are alone on Saturday nights.?

Does this sound familiar? Why are some of the prettiest women still single?

I recently had a conversation with a man who told me that he would never have asked out the prom queen, for fear of rejection. Another male that I interviewed, told me that he finds pretty women intimidating. He claims he would rather approach a less-attractive woman who might accept his advances.

I wonder, how can a woman who takes the time to stay in good shape, and who was born with good genes be discriminated against in the singles scene?

Why would one want to dress-down, dumb-it-down, and not look their best?

The answer really lies with the men, who are traditionally the pursuers. ?As women, we must remain approachable, ?go out with smiles on our faces, and do our part to encourage a man?s advances. When men think they will get rejected by the pretty women, they just won’t initiate.

So here?s my dating advice for single men.??If you have a secret crush on a woman, let her know. Don?t let your feelings remain a secret for fear of rejection. Don’t assume that because you find a woman beautiful on the outside, that her Inbox and dating card are full. You?d be surprised how many pretty women stay at home on Saturday nights, while their coupled-up friends are out socializing.

If you are online dating, don?t just select a pretty face and file her as a favorite. Go through the list of women on your “hot list” or “favorites” and send them an email. Take that first step and write to the girl you do admire on your computer screen. You might be pleasantly surprised at the results.

Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at

Cyber-Dating Tips to avoid June Gloom


Always the bridesmaid and never the bride?

There’s still time to find the perfect date for that June wedding invitation sitting on your desk.

Here are a few of my cyber-dating tips for friends of the bride to avoid June gloom and doom. You may be dateless– but not for long.

Cyber-Dating Tip #1. Sign up for 3-5 online dating sites and get organized for the huge amounts of replies you will be receiving. Check out the list of sites in our Dating Community. It will start raining men!
Cyber-Dating Tip #2.
Don’t have a date? Initiate. Although I usually tell women to wait for the men to write, the clock is ticking and you still have the opportunity to bring a terrific date to the wedding. Narrow your search to those who are geographically desirable and choose men to write to. They will be so flattered to be hearing from you, that you will be juggling your calendar with a smile.
Cyber-Dating Tip #3.
Make sure you have an irresistible profile. How do you accomplish this? Keep the essays short and go ahead and advertise for a good dancing partner or someone who enjoys the same activities. ?Make sure you have at least three photos online, and if you have five terrific shots, upload them. Show yourself enjoying an event.
Cyber-Dating Tip #4.
Go on three dates a day. Does this sound impossible of frightening to you? Start with coffee in the morning, meet for a casual lunch during the day, and in the afternoon, try coffee or drinks. You may be so pleased with the results that one of these dates could turn into a dinner date.
Cyber-Dating Tip #5.
Even if the date goes well, don’t mention the wedding invitation on the first date. Remember, you are the bridesmaid, not the soon-to-be bride.

Best of luck in your search, and if you meet someone special online, be sure to let us know at

Cyber-Dating Tips for Mother’s Day – 5 Ways to Celebrate Motherhood


It?s May, and time to honor and toast to all the Single Mothers in the Cyber-Dating World.

You are a super mom. You love your kids. You would like to meet someone who acknowledges the fact that your children are a priority. Whether they are school-aged or fully grown up, blending a family can be tricky. When the kids go to sleep, you are alone and may wonder, how can I meet someone that can enhance my life, rather than being alone?

If this sounds familiar, check out my five helpful Cyber-Dating Tips for Mother’s Day.

Cyber-Dating Tip #1?Join an online dating site that caters to single parents.
Check out both or

Cyber-Dating Tip #2 Join
This site is a safe place to communicate with other singe mom’s about all issues including dating.

Cyber-Dating Tip #3 ?Keep the profile photos of you, alone.
Keep your children out of ?your photo gallery online. While you may be proud of your beautiful kids, save the family photos for when the time is right and you have met in person.

Cyber-Dating Tip #4 Don’t hide the kids!
Be proud of the fact that you are a mom. Make sure you convey in your profile that you are a single parent and let the other party know right away how many children you have. You don’t have to share names or birthdays yet, but don’t spring the news on a date after you have met.

Cyber-Dating Tip #5 Meet my kids??
It’s hard enough to coordinate a time to meet an online date with your busy schedule juggling work, children, and dating. ?I know it may seem like commonsense, but please don’t introduce your children early on in the dating process, until you know the relationship will stick. ?It’s hard on the kids to have a revolving door of different dates every week.

And finally, Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there. Enjoy this special day!

Julie Spira is an author, entrepreneur, radio show host, and Cyber-Dating Expert. Visit her at

Cyber-Dating Tips for Spring Fever


It’s the first week of Spring and Love is in the Air. Whether you are interested in a spring fling or finding that serious relationship in an online dating site, be open to all the possibilities. With the change of seasons comes a new attitude, both online and offline. With the stock market jumping up 500 points, and outdoor cafes filled with patrons again, it’s time to refresh that profile and jump back on the cyber-dating saddle.

With this in mind, here are a few Cyber-Dating Tips for those with Spring Fever and those who might benefit from the contagious effect.

1. Cyber-Dating Tip #1. Appearance counts online and offline. After all isn’t it your goal to turn that online romance into an offline relationship? Dress accordingly and “Spring For a New Dress” at 40% off the spring styles at With prices this low, you can look fashionable and fun with a new first date attire.

2. Cyber-Dating Tip #2. For the men, try a new cologne to wear on your first online date. A woman may be drawn to that sexy scent of one of my favorites,?Acqua Di Gio By Giorgio Armani For Men. Eau De Toilette Spray 3.4 Ounces?and accept that second date.

3. Cyber-Dating Tip #3. Turn on your webcam. Many computers come equipped with a built in webcam, or you can purchase one easily for $71.97 such as this one from?Logitech QuickCam Pro 9000 (Black). Online dating sites such as and are fun and flirty and allow you to communicate with someone where you can at least verify their physical authenticity in real time. This will prevent that disappointing look one received when the photos of their cyber-date don’t match up in person.

4. Cyber-Dating Tip #4. On a budget? Sign up for your *Free* 7 day trial memberships to and now available at? Select a date or two and suggest meeting at a museum on the free admission day and have a casual picnic in the garden. Look through the calendar section of your local paper and ask your online date if they would like to go to a concert. There are many free concert performances that are just as enjoyable as those with the high priced ticket charge.?

5. Cyber-Dating Tip #5.?Respond to or write to 5 online personal ads a day for one week and see what happens. Check out who’s been checking you out or hotlisted you and email them and initiate the conversation. There may be a shy one out there who will be so flattered to see that the one they like might feel the same way as well.?

And if you are lucky in love and meet the one online, please write to us at and share your Internet dating story.

Julie Spira is a Radio Show Host, Cyber-Dating Expert? and author of the best-seller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. If you like this story, you have permission to reprint it in its entirety with the byline intact.

Cyber-Dating Tips for March Madness


Is it really here? February raced by like the short month that it was and it’s now time for March madness.

How does the change of season affect cyber-daters? Well to start off with, any anxiety or build up during February for Valentine’s Day is now past and spring is around the corner. ?In addition, some couples who chose to stay together until Valentine’s was over are suddenly finding themselves single and are joining the many online dating sites that are available.

Every week a new online dating site is formed, many sites are niche and narrowly focused and some are free as well.

So my advice for those who are single and would like to become a couple, is of course to put up a brand new profile.

Here’s a few of my cyber-dating tips for March Madness and the season to Spring Ahead.

Cyber-Dating Tip #1. Try a different online dating site. For Internet dating with a new twist, go to, where you can have the benefits of online dating from your house along with the fun of speed dating.

Cyber-Dating Tip #2. Along with cleaning out your closet, why not go back into your files, spreadsheet, or online dating Inbox, and see if there is someone that you passed over last month that you should reply to. It’s a new month and you may have passed over Mr./Ms. Right, last month.

Cyber-Dating Tip #3. Attend a dance or a mixer from one of the many online dating sites. JDate, NoWaitingDating, and have several, so sign up and perhaps you will notice a familiar face at one of these events that you just never got around to writing to.

Cyber-Dating Tip #4. Go see a fun movie, such as “He’s Just Not that Into You” and compare notes with your real life experiences. ?Perhaps you will hear a familiar line or two, or spot a character type that is familiar. ?You can the practice your new learned skills with your next online date.

Cyber-Dating Tip #5. Since March madness is best known for the NCAA basketball tournament, some men may be fixated on their TV screens or at a local sports pub on St. Patrick’s Day. ?Stop on by and root for your favorite team, and during the commercial breaks you can compare your Internet dating stories with another fan. Who knows what it could lead to.

And as always, if you meet that special one online, ?or get struck by the luck of the Irish, I invite you to share your stories with me at

Julie Spira is a Radio Show Host, Cyber-Dating Expert? and author of the best-seller,?The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.?If you like this story, you have permission to reprint it in its entirety with the byline intact.

Cyber-Dating Tips for Valentine’s Day


It’s official. February is finally here. The shortest month of the year has arrived, yet it can be the most exciting month for those in love as well as a lonely time for singles alone on Valentine’s Day. To cheer up your spirits if you are single, I have come up with a list of ten tips for successful cyber-dating and for making February a month to remember for lovers and those in waiting.

Cyber-Dating Tip #1. If you are single, sign up for an online dating site. If you are already online, why not add a second or third site to your list. It is very common these days for singles to be active on 1-3 Internet dating sites at a time.

Cyber-Dating TIp #2. Find a singles party in your area. Many of the dating sites have dances and mixers scheduled all month long. has a Broken Arrow event on February 12th which is held in many cities nationwide and you can win a free trip to NY. has several events including the “Be My Valentine” dance/mixer in Studio City, CA where I will be personally signing my new book, launching on Valentine’s week. Also in Los Angeles, Renee at will be hosting a fabulous party on February 12th.

Cyber-Dating TIp #3. When in doubt, eat chocolate.?Stop by and visit my favorite chocolatier, Madame Chocolat in Beverly Hills. ?On February 7th you can meet the Madame yourself. If you are not in Los Angeles, go to their site at where you can order a Valentine’s gift for yourself or your sweetheart.

Cyber-Dating Tip #4. ?Stop by Step Up Women’s Network’s co-ed Saint Valentine’s Soiree on February 12th in Hollywood where you can celebrate or find cupid or at least a cocktail for a cause. The event is for those married, dating, single and/or ready to mingle. DJ Shy will be spinning the tunes and I will be on-site signing my book at this fun event. For more information go to

Cyber-Dating Tip #5. ?Be proactive in the month of May and initiate contact with potential mates online. If you are a woman who doesn’t usually contact men, jump out of your comfort zone and just send five emails to men who pique your interest. You will be surprised to see how flattered they will be to receive your introductory note. If you are a man and normally send five emails a week, double it up to ten. Women will be more open to receiving your email as February can be a lonely month.

Cyber-Dating Tip #6. Dress in red or pink on every cyber-date for the month of February. Even if it isn’t your color, it will be noticed by your Internet date and show that you could be in the mood for love.

Cyber-Dating Tip #7. Are you a pet person? Try signing up for where every doggy has their date. Even if you aren’t attached on Valentine’s Day, why should your puppy have to suffer? Take it a step further and stop by Sky Bark,?a bar/lounge in downtown Los Angeles designed for dog owners who want to enjoy the city’s nightlife without leaving their puppies at home.

Cyber-Dating Tip #8. If you are female, buy yourself some sexy lingerie in pink or red for the month. Even if you are going solo, you will feel better about yourself at night time napping in your new nightie instead of your old winter flannels. If you are officially dating someone you met online, surprise her with something sexy to wear that you both can enjoy.

Cyber-Dating Tip #9. Check out one of the many meet up events scheduled on February 14th and expand your social network. Perhaps an afternoon event can lead into an evening date. Check out their calendar at

Cyber-Dating Tip #10. Support Step Up Women’s Network and buy my new book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online as a gift for a friend for Valentine’s Day. A portion of the proceeds from all book sales will benefit this wonderful non-profit organization. Curl up by the fire and learn more about being successful as an online dater so perhaps next year you won’t be solo on February 14th.

Fill your calendar with fun this month. And as always, if you are successful in meeting “the one” online, please do share you story with us at

Julie Spira is a Radio Show Host, Cyber-Dating Expert? and author of the best-seller,?The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.?If you like this story, you have permission to reprint it in its entirety with the byline intact.

Cyber-Dating Safety Tips

safetytipsAlong with the joys of cyber-dating, it is important for singles to use caution and be aware of keeping your identity safe.?Paul Falzone, CEO of The Right One/Together Dating Service offers terrific advice for practicing safe surfing while Looking for Love Online.?

According to Falzone, there are many whose desire for romance will lead them to pick up the equivalent of hitchhikers online.?Instant messaging, chat rooms and online personal ads have become an unavoidable part of the online experience, but who knows who might be on the other side of the keyboard?

?Keeping yourself and your identity safe when you?re looking for love online is challenging, but, not impossible,??adds?Falzone. And he should know as the head of the largest brick-and-mortar dating service in the world.

?For every good-hearted man or woman looking for love, there is a dangerous line-up of shady characters that includes con men, liars and the most violent of criminals. Give out too much information, or even a little, as you chat and you may find yourself a victim of a cyber stalker, harassment, identity theft or worse,??said Falzone.

In light of some recent tragedies of online dating gone wrong and the significant rise in identity theft, Falzone offers 10 ?key cyber-dating safety tips with terrific advice on how to avoid online harassment and cyber stalking as well as compromised personal information:??

1? ?Do not fill out online profiles for free e-mail accounts that you may use when chatting or instant messaging. Even ? the most seemingly innocuous piece of information, when coupled with the personal information that may slip out in conversation can be used to pry into your personal life.

2???Be aware that an abundance of personal information can be harvested through both free and paid Web sites. Be very leery of any additional information you may post on a personal homepage or social network sites such as MySpace, Facebook and others.

3. ?Avoid using screen names that reveal your identity or location.

4???Be sure to protect your computer and your personal information by installing and keeping computer security software up-to-date to deter online thieves.

5???Don’t respond to, and block, any annoying, threatening or harassing e-mail.

6???When mail or phone contact is necessary, such as when using auction sites, try to use an office phone number and address or a postal box.

7????Be aware of any vague or inconsistent information that a correspondent provides.

8????Be skeptical of any photo they send that look too professional or ?too good to be true.? It may just be an image pulled from the Net.

9????If you become the victim of stalking or harassing behavior, don?t hesitate to report it to the legal authorities just as you would with such treatment offline. You may also be able to report such conduct to the offending parties Internet Service Provider.

10????Be familiar with online resources intended to educate the public about such online issues. These sites include, and

Whether you use an online dating or singles? service or even one of the ?brick and mortar? variety, ask questions to gauge how well they will protect and serve you. Do they conduct background checks? Are their safeguards to ensure that members are not married or have criminal records? Will they offer a guarantee? Are they in good standing with local business associations and the Attorney General?s office?

Falzone continued, ?There is no way to be completely safe or secure when using the Internet as a meeting place. But by being skeptical, and using your head as much as your heart, it is possible to have fun without attracting unnecessary danger.?

Now catering to more than 300,000 members at over 60 locations throughout North America, The Right One and Together Dating are the largest brick and mortar dating services in the industry. The Right One and Together Dating offer a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and added value of flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.

For more information about The Right One and Together Dating, please visit their websites at and

Cyber Dating Tips for the New Year

It’s the New Year and many of us have once again made resolutions that we will attempt to keep.

When it comes to Cyber-Dating, sometimes the resolutions result in ending a dead-end relationship that you know is going nowhere. ?There is some truth to the saying, “Out with the old, in with the new.” If you found yourself single at the end of the year, perhaps it is time to register for an Internet dating service and put up your online profile. ?If you are not already online, now is the perfect time to create a new profile. ?At the beginning of the new year, more than ever, singles are joining Internet dating sites to get a fresh start.2009?There are plenty of sites to pick from and you can select one or several in our?Dating Community.

If you are already online, why not refresh your profile or even try a new site. You can change your profile name and upload current photos and appear as the new fresh face in cyberspace. Cyber-Daters everywhere appreciate authenticity, and photos taken by?Look Better Online??have a huge success rate in the Internet Dating world.

Many online sites have scheduled speed-dating events and there may be one in your area. With speed-dating, pressure is minimized as you only spend a few minutes with each potential date and have several to choose from.?

As far as other common resolutions, which include dieting or joining a gym, go ahead and keep those standards on your list. After all, if you are feeling healthy and fit, you will feel better about yourself. Your new confidence will be noticed by those you are meeting.

Let’s start out 2009 with a fresh look and make this the best year yet for Cyber-Dating. ?It’s a new year, and it’s time to check out all of your online options. ?Go ahead and accept that second date, open your heart, and explore the possibilites. And of course if you meet that special one, please let us know and you can be included in the??Cyber Love Story of the Week?at? us know if you meet ?The One? online so we can spread the good news!

Julie Spira is an author and cyber-dating expert. If you like this article, you have permission to reprint or repost it in its entirety with the bio and link intact.

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