They say that timing is everything in life. Today, mobile dating app Hinge decided to say goodbye to their 24-hour timed feature.
This was one of my favorite features on Hinge, as it forced people to respond quickly, rather than waiting and having the momentum of the match fizzle away.
Still, we are living very busy lives these days, and if you’re only getting a handful of matches each day, sometimes it’s hard to make sure to log on to view them.
Other apps such as Coffee Meet Bagel and Bumble still have the 24-hour timing feature, which sets them apart from other mobile dating apps.
With over 100 million singles using mobile dating apps, narrowing the search can result in less dates, but more quality dates for some daters.
So as we bid Hinge’s 24-hour clock a adieu, remember, you still only have 14 days to communicate with your match on Hinge, so makes sure to grab his or her digits, before the match sadly expires.
How do you feel about having 14 days instead of 24 hours to connect with a potential match?
Your comments are welcome.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs. For dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt Newsletter.
Did you hear our good news? Our bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online is now available as an audio book. It’s been completely revised for Valentine’s Day and includes a new epilogue with a magical twist, along with a fairy tale ending to help you believe in love.
Valentine’s Day. Love it, or hate it?
We’re about one month away from the most romantic holiday of the year.
Here’s our Valentine’s Survival Guide.
If you’re single, there’s no need to hide under the covers. If you’re dating someone, but he hasn’t asked you to be his Valentine just yet, here are some tips to enjoy the day, regardless of your relationship status. Remember, Valentine’s is on a weekend this year and it’s also during President’s Day weekend, so think big and be optimistic. It’s time to fill your date card.
1. Ramp up Your Online Search
Let’s face it, everyone seems to be online theses days, so if you’re not logging on EVERY day, checking your matches and responding quickly to his or her emails, someone else just might get their attention faster. It’s true what they say that the squeaky wheel gets the deal. If you can carve out time to go to the gym, you should be able to schedule time to log on daily. Make sure you’ve signed up for push notifications of when someone has emailed you or made you their favorite so you can respond quickly. Ditch the old waiting game rules. This is how to stand out in the digital dating world.
2. Keep Swiping Right
If you’re on Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Happn or other mobile dating apps, make sure your notifications are turned on and swipe right several times a day to view your matches. When you get a mutual match, respond quickly and always use their first name when you are saying hello. Remember not to say “hey,” as horses hang out in hay. Got it?
3. Text an Ex
Did you know that 20% of singles do text an ex on or around Valentine’s Day? So if both of you are single, why not get together and go down memory lane. Make sure you’re on the same page and just enjoy the evening. You may not be rekindling, but the familiarity might just make it a fun evening rather than flying solo.
4. Attend Singles Events
The one thing about singles events is, everyone is in the same boat. They’re single and are hoping to connect with someone. Check out Match.com’s Stir events in your city, RSVP to a MeetUp for a subject you’re passionate about, and attend business networking events. The more you’re out there in the public, the more opportunities you have to flirt with a potential date. Remember not to be too coy. Be bold and smile. Dr. Pat Allen, author of “Getting to ‘I Do,'” suggests the five-second stare. It may feel like an eternity, but it may bring you closer to that cute guy across the room. P.S. Remember to wear red! It’s the color of love and romance and research has proven that guys respond more often to women wearing red. .
5. Don’t Go Overboard
From going to an amusement park to ride the Ferris Wheel to taking a cooking class or going ice skating, make Valentine’s Day a no-pressure experience if you’re in a new relationship and aren’t exclusive yet. There’s no need to break the bank.
Being single on Valentine’s isn’t the end of the world. Sure you go into stores and see nothing but boxes of red candy and roses throughout the grocery stores, but a new survey from U.K. online dating site Smooch.com shows that only 10% of the 2000 singles polled actually love Valentine’s Day. Are the other 90% pretending to go along with the program?
Grab your BFF’s, dress in pink or red, and head to the movies or a concert together. Valentine’s Day isn’t always about love. It’s about spending quality time with someone you really like.
Are you a fan or foe of Valentine’s Day?
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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more online dating advice like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
P.S. Our newly revised version of our bestselling book is coming out for Valentine’s Day as an audio book. You won’t want to miss hearing the Epilogue, guaranteed to warm your heart.
This Sunday, January 3rd will be the busiest day of the year for online dating. Are ready for the ride?
Every year, the Sunday after New Year’s is a reflective time for singles. Perhaps you were flying solo on New Year’s or were in a relationship that ran it’s course.
Either way, it’s time for a new beginning and the huge amount of new memberships to online dating sites will happen on the Sunday after New Year’s Eve.
Match reports that 24% more signups will occur on #DatingSunday with 8:52pm/ET being the most active time of the day. They see a 60% spike in new singles searching for love during peak season. With one million new dates happening during this period, those are numbers worth bragging about.
PlentyofFish expects 81,000 signups on Sunday and are expecting 2 million signups in the month of January. Singles who join during the first week of January, will find their partner an average of two weeks faster than those who sign up later, taking an average of just 10 weeks compared to an average of 12 weeks throughout the year.
At Cyber-Dating Expert, our phone has been ringing and the text messages have been flying. We know that it’s peak season now through Valentine’s Day, so grab your smartphone and download the latest mobile dating apps and get ready to fill your date card!
On the Match blog, I wrote about the peak dating period between Christmas and Valentine’s Day.
Here are some of the reasons why January 3rd is the busiest day of the year for digital dating.
Sunday is the most active day.
All year round at the end of the weekend on Sunday nights, it’s the busiest time for singles logging into dating sites. If your weekend date was so-so (or you were dateless), logging on to chat, flirt, and browse means opportunities to fill up your date card and start the week anew are plentiful. Multiply this big time with the start of a New Year, and you’ll see the activity soar.
A disappointing holiday can make you feel blue.
Emotions around Christmastime and New Year’s are at an all-time high if you’re single. Watching your friends post lovey-dovey shots on Facebook and Instagram or change their status to “In a Relationship” or “Engaged” can hit a nerve, big-time. It’s enough to make you scream, “Bah, humbug” and turn off both your computer and phone to unplug, but just temporarily.
Holiday breakups are high.
Some people stay in dead-end relationships so they won’t be alone through the holidays. It’s a dreadful feeling to know that you’re with someone you can’t see yourself going the distance with long-term. Thoughts of another New Year’s Eve with that feeling isn’t something you’ll want to repeat. Often, couples will break up right after the New Year, or even before Christmas, in order to not to go through another holiday with the wrong person. It’s normal for relationships to run their course, but when it happens at the holidays, it brings a whole new group of fabulous singles to the dating party at the first of the year. There’s a reason they say, “Out with the old, in with the new” at New Year’s.
If you find yourself in the middle of a break up, read my article on The Huffington Post, How to Break Up Gracefully.
New Year’s resolutions include finding love.
New Year’s Day is on a Friday this year. It’s the beginning of a quiet weekend and a time to reflect about the past year and come up with a list of goals for 2016. After watching football games and going to New Year’s Day parties solo, singles often think about new beginnings. From joining a gym to going on a diet, the list often includes finding someone to have a meaningful relationship with.
The squeaky wheel gets the digital love deal.
During peak dating season, Match reports that about 50 million messages are sent. Think about it. Wouldn’t you be happy to receive at least 10 of those emails from someone you could have chemistry with? Rather than sitting back and waiting for your inbox to fill up, remember that the more engaged you are, the greater chance you’ll have to fill up your date card. That means logging on several times a day so your profile stays active, viewing your daily matches every day and liking and messaging other members to start a convo, right now.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo
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In this episode, I critique Karley’s Tinder profile and as her mobile dating coach, help her get ready to swipe right for a great date night.
The entire segment will feature an interview with Sean Rad, founder of Tinder and will highlight several mobile apps including Happn and Her. It’s estimated that 70% of singles will meet online and about half of that number are already using mobile dating apps.
From Los Angeles to London, Paris to New York, watch how Karley navigates the world of mobile love with the help of her cell phone.
Watch as I help her swipe to success!
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Recently at the iDate Conference, I presented Tinder with the award of Best Mobile Dating App of 2015.
This award was well-deserved, considering two years ago, Tinder wasn’t a household word like Match and eHarmony has been for years for online daters.
In an interview with The New York Times, I told reporter Molly Wood that the increase in smartphone usage directly relates to the increase in dating app usage.
“People are dating on the fly, they’re dating in real time, they’re hooking up or meeting for dates, they’re doing both. Same day, same hour.”
So how did a perceived hook-up app become the hottest trend for singles looking for love online?
1. They penetrated the college marketplace.
These early adopters paved the way for others to jump on the bandwagon. In time, the demographics started to rise and millions of users were playing the Tinder game.
2. They made it easy to create a profile.
With no long questions to answer and no profile approval process, all one has to is download the app, connect to Facebook where it pulls your age and photos on Facebook, and add a short bio if you desire, however many ignore filling out the profile.
3. Set your preferences for distance and age parameters
Since Tinder is location-based, once you log on, it searches for potential matches close by. If you travel out of town, you’ll receive a whole new set of matches to make sure you’re not lonely at night.
4. Let the swiping and matching begin
Quite simply, you swipe right if you’re attracted to someone and swipe left if you’re not. If both of you swipe right, then you’re notified that you’re a match and can start communicating in their private chat feature.
Online dating and mobile dating are a numbers game. The more often you swipe, the more often you’ll have the opportunity to be matched.
5. State Your Intentions
We are living in a world of swiping left and right and the habit has become the norm for other popular mobile dating apps. In order to be successful on Tinder, you must start swiping and become proactive about communicating with your matches. If you’re looking to find a relationship instead of a casual fling, you must fill out the information bio page and clearly state your dating intentions. Women find it refreshing when a man says, “Not looking for FWB or a hookup.”
At the iDate conference, it was pointed out by Mark Brooks from Courtland Brooks that only 8% of women were swiping right while viewing profiles of men. Men on the other hand were swiping right as often as possible, with the hopes that they can be matched.
Tinder reports over 1 billion swipes a day and matches over 12 million people a day. But are they actually meeting IRL?
An interesting trend that we are noticing is that a lot of men are posting their age on Tinder as 100 years old. The trend of not honestly stating your age in online dating has been around for years, but to become a centurion on Tinder means you’ll have to change your age on your Facebook profile. There’s no way to change your age on Tinder. Facebook makes it difficult to change your age and discourages this process by limiting the amount of times you can do so. Still, I encourage truth-in-advertising.
As I told The New York Times, people who are using Tinder are also using other dating sites, sometimes paying for memberships. Having easy access to lots of different dates actually increases your odds of eventually finding a match. It’s making dates happen a lot more quickly and the more dates you go on, the better daters you become. Let mobile dating apps become your new best friend.
Are you swiping right on multiple mobile dating apps?
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and mobile dating. Julie’s the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com, where they create Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene and host of #DateChat on Twitter on Thursdays at 5pm/PT. Follow @JulieSpira for dating advice and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
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According to Comscore, over 14 million people worldwide are now using mobile dating apps. Since last year, time spent on mobile dating sites has surpassed web dating.? Mobile analytics firm Flurry released a report in August, 2011 showing mobile usage surpassing web usage. Their study showed that mobile usage rose from an average of 3.7 minutes in June of 2010 to 8.4 minutes in June or 2011.
Since last year, a handful of new mobile apps, updates, and sites have been launched, so without further digital adieu, here’s our list of the best mobile dating apps for 2011.
The 2011 List
1. eHarmony – iPhone, BlackBerry, Android, and iPad
eHarmony mobile app downloads have now surpassed the one-million mark. Their iPhone app was launched in August, 2010 and has grown rapidly in popularity. Their members are using their mobile apps over 10,000 times a day. eHarmony reports that more than 30% of their user registrations are currently taking place in the mobile environment.
To make things sweeter, they just launched eHarmony HD, an iPad app on September 19, 2011. This new user-friendly and freshly designed interface is customized for the iPad user, which makes you feel at home as you reminisce with handwritten notes and Polaroid pictures. It’s currently the leading iPad dating app in the Apple store and worth downloading. Features include Facebook connect, full-size high definition photos, and a power photo slide show experience.
2. Match Mobile – iPhone, BlackBerry, Android, and iPad
Match.com’s mobile apps are available on the most widely used mobile platforms including the three above as well as on Windows phone and Palm. Match reports that they’re seeing 2.5 times more activity on their mobile apps than on the web. According to Match.com, nearly 32% of their active subscribers are mobile daters, with 56% of singles aged 25-54 going mobile. Features include the ease of deleting or changing your photos and staying in sync with their web version. Their mobile apps make it easy to wink and flirt on the go.
3. Are You Interested? – iPhone, Blackberry, and Android
With over 49 million installs, Are You Interested offers a fully-integrated Facebook, iPhone and web application.? Are You Interested ranks as a Top 10 Grossing application for U.S. Social Networking in the App store, and launched their web version on September 20, 2011 to help widen your search. As of July, 2011, their iPhone app had 750,000 users and the latest version includes real-time push notifications, premium spotlight, and a front-facing camera to send photos while using their live chat feature.
4. Skout – iPhone and Android
One of the earliest mobile dating apps, Skout was created in 2007 as a mobile dating app without a web element. To date, they have over 8 million downloads. Skout members are sending 150 million messages every month an their membership base is growing by 30-40% month over month, with over 25,000 new members joining every day. Skout’s premium app, Skout+ costs $3.99 and does not include advertising.
5. Plenty of Fish – iPhone and BlackBerry
POF is one of the largest free dating sites in the world with over 33 million members. On September 1, 2011, Plenty of Fish released updated versions of their mobile apps promising a faster experience for their users. The new increase in speed makes it easier to edit? online dating profiles and photos from a mobile phone. One of the new features includes a “mobile users” section, which displays the members presently using the mobile app and lists them according to distance from the user. According to POF, over 1-billion pages are viewed month.
6. OkCupid – OkCupid Locals – iPhone and BlackBerry
OkCupid, with 8-million members,? launched OkCupid Locals on August 11, 2011 to help singles meet in-real-life. Their location-based app combines a Twitter-like broadcast feature with a FourSquare type location database. Users can broadcast their intentions, such as meeting at a bar or a sporting event, which will appear on the mobile phones of singles near by with like-minded interests.? You can meet people near by, and receive suggestions from their database. It’s flirting on-the-fly.
7. Zoosk – iPhone and Android
Zoosk is a leader in social dating. At the beginning of the year, they had over 2 million downloads on their iPhone app. By June of 2011, singles had uploaded more than 12 million photos using Zoosk Mobile.? In the past year, singles have sent more than 7 million ?flirts? to other singles via Zoosk Mobile. Zoosk serves 0ver 50 million singles with their web, facebook and mobile services available in over 25 languages in 60 countries around the world.
8. SpeedDate- iPhone and iPad
SpeedDate is the world’s largest online speed dating site, having launched in 2007.?? Their mobile app features includes a location-based search of their 17 million members, to help you find someone to go on a SpeedDate with close by. Downloaded by over 1 million users, 50% of their iPhone app users come back more than three times a day to check in and chat. SpeedDate was one of the first iPad dating apps, having launched in April of 2010.
9. Grindr – iPhone, Android, BlackBerry and iPad
Grindr is the #1 location-based mobile only app for gay, bi and curious guys with over 2.3 million users in 192 countries around the world.? The average time spent on Grindr is 1.5 hours with the typical user logging in 8 times a day. Grindr Xtra is the premium paid version without any banner ads that utilizes push notifications when the app is closed. Users have sent over 454,000 photos and engaged in over 5.4 million chat messages.
10. Jazzed – iPhone and Android
Jazzed is the newest entry to the Top 10 mobile dating apps list. Created by eHarmony, the Jazzed mobile dating app launched in May of 2011 and has already been downloaded by over 250,000 mobile users.? Jazzed is the featured online dating site on the new dating reality show, Excused. Many of the former contestants on the TV show have online dating profiles on Jazzed. The social networking mobile app provides an option to view the participating contestants and is free of charge for a limited time period.
Honorable mentions this year go to location-based check-in site, FourSquare with over 10 million members who might not want to admit they’re spying on their favorite crush and to Blendr, a free location-based social networking app launched by Grindr in September, 2011, where you can meet new friends based on common interests in September, 2011.
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Our friends at OkCupid have announced OkCupid Locals, a mobile dating app on iOS and Android to help you meet compatible singles more quickly than ever.
With OkCupid locals, you?ll find a blend of a Twitter-like broadcast feature, FourSquare location based feature, and data from the online dating site?s 8-million members.
From connecting at a sports bar to meeting up at a happy hour, simply broadcast your dating intentions and the digital genie will grant your wish with a list of compatible matches closeby.
A service like this will help avoid the weeks and weeks of emailing back-and-forth that many online dating site members feel frustrated with.
There?s no reason to stay dateless in your city anymore.
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Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com for dating advice and to learn how to create an irresistible online dating profile.
Mobile and cell phone dating are one of the hottest trends in online dating.
View my recent appearance on KTLA News about this hot topic to look at some options you might want to consider for that instant connection.
Online Dating 2.0: They Met on Twitter
By Leonor Vivanco – Red Eye
Today, daters have an alternative–or supplement–to traditional online dating sites such as? eHarmony or Match.com. They are entering a new frontier of digital dating equipped with a slew of Facebook and iPhone applications coupled with mobile Web sites. But dating experts question whether such technology is a romance killer and whether it can lead to anything more than a hookup.
The mobile dating market–which includes apps, mobile Internet services and text-based services–has skyrocketed.
“Mobile dating may be better for tech-savvy young daters,” said Julie Spira, cyber-dating expert and author of “The Perils of ?Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.” “Those are the ones that don’t want to sign up for online dating sites and fill out very long questionnaires. This is the instant gratification mode,” she said.