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Cyber Dating Tip – Going from Online to Offline

This week’s Cyber Dating tip for successful online dating is quite simply, take your relationship from online to offline as soon as possible.

How soon you may ask? After sending a few emails, it’s best to move the relationship to the telephone. Find out if you have that same offline chemistry and you have online. Too often, I see singles falling in love from behind their computer screens. Sometimes, it’s with someone they believe is single and is available for a relationship, when in fact the complete opposite can be true. If during your phone conversation, you don’t feel comfortable, don’t feel obligated to set up a date on the calendar.

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Dr. Romance on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, where my guest Tina B. Tessina, known as Dr. Romance and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again, provided her dating advice and relationship tips for those who are newly single.

You’ll hear some of our best tips including:

♥ When and how to introduce your children to your date

♥ How to spot a player and why he’s so tempting

♥ How to find happily ever after, safely on your favorite online site.

We talked about our favorite dating tips to help you find love on the Internet. Listen to the program to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

Author, Julie Spira Appeared at the New York Public Library

As part of the first-annual New York Book Week, Julie Spira, bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, was selected as the first of ten authors to be featured in the Library’s?Meet the Author Series.

Spira talked about why she wrote her book on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 and read excerpts from two chapters. Following her presentation, she answered questions from the audience about the Internet dating industry as well as provided dating advice and tips for singles looking for love online.

“It was an honor to be selected by the New York Public Library at their “Meet the Author Series” during New York Book Week and to engage with the readers,” said Spira.

Spira donated a copy of her book to the New Amsterdam branch. She also signed copies of her book at Book Expo America on May 26, 2010.

New York Book Week was created by Book Expo America (BEA) to coincide with the publishing industry’s largest conference in North America.

New York Book Week included public “main stage” author programs at venues such as Times Talks, the 92nd Street Y, and the main branches of the New York Public Library and Brooklyn Public Library, as well as smaller events at other libraries in the NYPL system and chain and independent bookstores throughout New York City and its boroughs.

New York Book Week embraces all literary and book activity, and expands the awareness of authors, books and publishing.

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Peril of the Week – The Bad Date

What makes a date a bad date?

If you ask my friend and neighbor, ?Jennifer Kelton, she’ll point you to her terrific site?Bad Online Dates. On her site, you can post those dates you had hoped would go well, that ended in the category of a dating disaster. At Cyber-Dating Expert, we feature the Peril of the Week. This time, I thought I’d add in a personal story of my own, along with some dating advice to prevent you from ending up with a date gone bad.

Peril of the Week - Bad DateForgive my bad manners, but during my last bad online date, I sent a text message to Jen saying, ?Help! I?m on a bad date, but don?t tell anyone.? I received an immediate supportive response from Jen, which said, ?I just laughed so hard out loud right now! Are you ok? Other than the fact that you?re on a ?bad date.???She offered to help me with the ?family emergency? call and she let me know that she was there for me.??There?s nothing more powerful than your girlfriend network while you are going on a blind date.

Jen coined the phrase bad dates. She produces and directs Bad Date TV. I have a history of writing about my dates, both the good and the bad.
So what exactly defines a bad date and how do you prevent one from happening?

Let?s look at some ways to prevent yourself from a dating disaster so you don’t end up as the Peril of the Week.

1. Trust Your Intuition.?Don?t accept a date when the phone conversation doesn?t feel right. If you don?t have any phone chemistry at all or find yourself in an argument with your date before you even meet them, don?t schedule a date. You don?t need a free meal. If you put a date on the calendar, don?t feel badly about canceling. Why waste each other?s time?

My first conversation with my date was awful. We had two weeks of fantastic instant messaging chemistry.??On the phone, he kept interrupting me, arguing with me, and kept telling me how to run my business life, disagreeing with everything I was doing. He was right. I was wrong about everything, so it appeared. I couldn?t get off the phone fast enough. I should have canceled our upcoming date, but felt I was a woman of my word and should follow through. I needed to give him the benefit of the doubt. A woman?s intuition is very powerful. You should trust it. I ended up going for sushi with a man who attacked every statement I made. From arguing with me because I didn’t like to eat eel, to ridiculing me because I ordered hot sake. He insisted that cold sake was better. When I said I liked living near the beach, he complained about the fog layer. It went downhill fast. I wondered, ? Why did I subject myself to this??

2.?Take your date from online to offline as soon as possible. In my case, I had great ?instant message? chemistry with the date in question.??Since I had communicated with him mostly online, ?I broke several of my own rules of netiquette for online daters. I had a good excuse. I had laryngitis.

My date made several attempts to call and get together. I was unable to, but as he was supportive of my voiceless condition, including suggesting a Dr. who could help me, I began to feel more comfortable with this man whom I never met.

If you spend too much time online sending instant messages, ?text messages, and emails to someone, you can end up with a false illusion that you are in a relationship. You start to get attached. You are not in a relationship. You are talking to a computer with a photo, that?s all.

3. Never ever text message others while on a date (unless you want your date to end.) I always say, keep the BlackBerry and iPhone off the table. It?s not an accessory. It?s rude and sends a message that you are more interested in someone else other than your date. In this case, I didn?t care that I sent Jen a text. She needed to know. I knew I?d get sympathy from a friend who understood. I believe you should always check in with a friend when you are meeting a date for the first time. I call it the buddy system. If I was really that into him, I wouldn?t notice my cell phone, even if it rang.

4. Always meet your date in a public place and don?t drive together. When my date suggested picking me up at my home and driving for 45 minutes together on what he called a ?real date,? I knew enough to say no. I sent him a text that said I always meet someone on a first date and take my own car. If I had been stuck in a car with a controlling argumentative guy, it could have been a problem. I might have ended up on a street corner alone, looking for a cab back home. Better safe, than sorry.

5. Do your homework and study for the quiz. Online dating is a numbers game. However, the more organized you are, the more successful your date will be. In this case, my date thought I had never been married, forgot that I was from the east coast, didn?t remember what I did for a living, and didn?t really seem to care.??If you are on a date, make it personal and keep it light. Take the time to remember something your date wrote in their profile. Think of it like preparing for a job interview for your dream job. Would know the name of the parent company you are interviewing with? Would you know the name of the CEO or city of their headquarters? Did you find out how man years they were in business? Recognize their logo?

Add it all up, and it was a recipe for disaster, before I even arrived at the sushi bar to meet a 50-year old man who was wearing a dangling earring. ?It was destined to be a bad date.

So before you go on your next date, make sure you are looking forward to it, be on good behavior, do your homework, ask questions about the other person, take time to listen, and perhaps you?ll make a new friend, even if you don?t end up meeting ?the one.?

Julie Spira is a dating advice columnist and online dating expert. She is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at

Dr. Diana Kirschner Talks to Julie Spira on the Valentine’s Edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show where Dr. Diana Kirschner, author of Love in 90 Days talked about some Valentine’s dating tips as well as her expert dating advice from the new chapter in her book, Dating Games Men Play.

Dr. Diana provided suggestions for your maximizing your online dating profile, including refreshing your profile page daily and staying logged on all day.

Listen to the show where Dr. Diana listed the some of the DUD’s (Definitely Unworkable Dudes) and some of the STUD’s (Seriously, Terrific, Utterly Devoted Dudes).

Find out how you can improve your love life by listening to the Valentine’s edition of Ask the Cyber Dating Expert Radio Show.

Late Night Conversations with Allan Holender


Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira on Thursday night, December 17, 2009 as she is the featured guest on “Late Night Conversations” with author, futurist, and radio personality Allan Holender on BlogTalkRadio.

The conversation will be filled with online dating tips and relationship advice to help singles during the holidays. We’ll be featuring Julie’s bestselling online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Call in at 8:10pm/PST, 10:10pm/CST, 11:10pm/EST at 1-646-716-4604 or listen in on the web.

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Julie Spira to be Featured on Dr. Carole’s Couch Radio Show

Dr. Carole Lieberman, Beverly Hills Psychiatrist and host of Dr. Carole’s Couch on VoiceAmerica Talk Radio Network will feature Cyber-Dating Expert and author Julie Spira as her guest on Tuesday, December 15, 2009.

Spira will be provide dating advice for singles who want to find a a honey for the holidays and will share her expert tips to help you get a date via the net.

Spira is the author of the bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Her online dating tell-all memoir is a witty and realistic inside look of her romantic journey in cyberspace which spanned over 15 years. Spira is quoted world-wide as an expert in online dating and helps singles look for love on the web. Visit her at

The segment, From Mistletoe to Match on Dr. Carole’s Couch will air from 1pm-2pm, PST. Call in at 866-472-5788 with your questions or listen online at VoiceAmerica.

The Zoosk Singles Survival Guide to Holiday Dating


Zoosk, the world’s largest social dating community, just released their Single’s Survival Guide to Holiday Dating.

The FREE Guide includes tips from myself along with two other relationship experts, gift giving ideas, online dating holiday trends, and more dating tips for the holiday season.

Their study showed that the majority of singles wanted to couple-up during the holidays and were looking for a long-term relationship.

Their survey found:

  • This holiday season, 63% of singles are looking for long-term true love, 33% of singles are just looking for a holiday party date and 4% feel it’s too stressful to date during the holidays.
  • Surprisingly, 19% of men say they would invite a woman to their office holiday party as a first date. Only 10% of women are this daring.
  • The most desired gift is a hug or a kiss.

Holiday Gift Giving
It’s hard enough to shop for gifts for friends and family, much less the perfect gift for someone you’re dating. Zoosk went straight to the source – singles on Zoosk – with a survey and asked what they would appreciate receiving as a gift this holiday. 

Overwhelmingly, singles agreed on the #1 gift they’d most like to receive this holiday: a hug or a kiss. The Guide includes additional gift ideas for new relationships.

Virtual Gift Giving
Earlier this year, Zoosk conducted a survey of its users and found that 76% said they would be more likely to respond to a potential match if they received a virtual gift from that person. A selection of Zoosk’s new holiday gifts are unveiled in the Guide.

The Data on Holiday Dating
Zoosk took a look at holiday dating activity in 2008 to see what trends and tips could be uncovered. A few of the interesting finds included:

  • The week before Christmas marks the year’s busiest week for online dating activity
  • The second most popular week of the year for online dating is the first week of January
  • In general, Mondays are the busiest day of the week for online dating activity

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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio show with Julie Spira and her featured guest, Shira Kallus, Dating Advisor to,, and, their newest site for Latin Dating.

Shira shared her personal story on how she met her husband online.

You’ll learn some online dating tips on how long you should wait to meet your date, relationship advice on finding your soulmate, and how to have realistic expectations while cyberdating.

We talked about cyberdating safety and more. Listen to learn more about DATE.COM, – a site truly geared towards finding serious relationships, and

7 Online Dating Tips to Get Lucky in Love for the Holidays

Romantic evening with champagne

Thanksgiving is around the corner and at this joyous time, it can also be very lonely and filled with anxiety for singles.

If you want to get lucky in love, here are my SEVEN dating tips to help you find love online in time for the holidays so you won’t be flying solo on New Year’s Eve.

1. Create an IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile.

  • This includes a catchy screen name, professional photos, and an alluring essay that will pique his curiosity.
  • If you are online now, change your screen name and reinvent yourself.

2. Let’s Get Organized

  • Create a simple excel spreadsheet to help you sift through the possible dates to narrow down your search.

3. Don’t Wait. Initiate

  • Women are told not to initiate contact with men and to let them do the pursuing. Why limit your possibilities? Come up with creative and ?key opening lines to initiate contact with men who will be flattered to hear from you.

4. It’s All About Color

  • Sure nothing beats the little black dress. But for the holidays, spice up your look up with color. Wear red, gold, blue, or a color that will make you shine.

5. Find the Time

  • Don’t spend all your time on the computer. Start filling up your calendar and transfer your online life to an offline relationship.

6. The Magic of 3

  • Spend 3 hours a week minimum on your online dating site.
  • Sign up for 3 online dating sites or mobile dating apps. Choose one a niche site, one larger mainstream site, and one a free online dating site.
  • Write to 3 men EVERY day.
  • Go on 3 dates a day. Does this sound impossible or frightening to you? Start with coffee in the morning, schedule a casual lunch during the day, and in the afternoon meet someone for coffee or drinks. You may be so pleased with your results that one of these dates could turn into a dinner date.

7. Cast a Wide Net

  • Don’t toss away the date without chemistry. Consider each date as a new friend who may invite you to a holiday party. Expand your social and business network and be open to all of the possibilities.

For more personalized cyberdating tips and relationship advice, contact us for private coaching with Cyber Dating Expert Julie Spira, Let us help you create your IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile in time for the holidays or visit where we provide dating advice for men and women.

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