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Dating Advice – What’s Love Got to Do With It?

Julie Spira and Lucia

Julie Spira and Cougar Dating Expert, Lucia

It was a very special Second Sunday at An Empowered Woman where we celebrated the annual Valentine’s luncheon at Mountaingate Country Club in Bel Air.

Desiree Doubrox created a fun day with a Love Panel. ?The theme was “What’s Love Got to Do With It?” and I was invited to speak along with Dr. Pat Allen, ?who talked about her relationship theories from her two books, Getting to “I Do” and The Truth About Men Will Piss You Off and Cougar Dating Expert, Lucia who told us about the benefits of older women dating younger men. After receiving expert dating advice, we were all treated to the “Male Panel” where guys told the women EXACTLY what love meant to them and what made a woman sexy. The empowered male panel included the Jazz Balladeer Caesar, Sonny Dominguez who has been dating cougar women for 8 years, and hypnotherapist, Gerry Grossman.

Some of the descriptions from the men included confident, charming, and a warm welcoming smile.

Those who were in attendance had the opportunity to interact with the speakers in a lively discussion and do a little last-minute Valentine’s shopping before the big night. I was signing copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and enjoyed sharing my stories with the group. With the rising popularity of online dating, it was no surprise that over 60% of the women in the audience had visited an online dating site.

Cyberdating is no longer for those dating-challenged. The room was filled with successful entrepreneurial women who are busy executives looking for love online.

Cougar dating expert, Lucia will be a guest on an upcoming edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show on February 27, 2010. I will be joining her on her show,?The Art of Love on March 7, 2010.

Now that Valentine’s Day is over, are you ready for spring fever? It’s just around the corner.

Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert?. She is the author of The Perils of CyberDating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com.

The Beverly Hills Women’s Club Valentine’s Lunch

Julie Spira and Dr. Pat Allen

Julie Spira and Dr. Pat Allen

Although this was the busiest week of the year for me with numerous Valentine’s interviews, I took a break from my schedule to attend the annual Beverly Hills Women’s Club Valentine’s Lunch.

This year, our featured speaker was Dr. Pat Allen, author of Getting to “I Do” and The Truth About Love Will Set You Free. The 75-year old relationship expert says she now has a handful of men, although she admits she’s not a regular cougar–well almost. She did mention a 49-year old chap in passing. ?The relationship expert pointed out to the members, that “A disco is not a waltz.” She added, “Ginger did everything Fred did, but backwards, in high-heels, and in a long dress.”

Members of the BHWC were inspired by Dr.Pat Allen, but together we celebrated the Beverly Hills Women’s Club historic cookbook, Fashions in Food originally published in 1929. The celebrity cookbook is filled with recipes from Old Hollywood stars including Joan Crawford, Carol Lombard, Fannie Brice, and Will Rogers. One of the dishes we were treated to at the luncheon was Mary Pickford’s Chicken Marco Polo recipe. The Food Network was on site taping the event which will air in April 2010.

If you missed the event, Dr. Pat Allen and I will be featured on The Love Panel on Valentine’s Day at An Empowered Woman’s Second Sunday Series.

To reserve tickets, click here>>>

Happy Valentine’s everyone!

Julie Spira is known world-wide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of the Internet dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

Julie Spira to Appear on Love Panel on Valentine’s Day

An Empowered Woman Love PanelPlease join me on Valentine’s Day for an exciting panel for singles and couples hosted by An Empowered Woman in Los Angeles.

The event, “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” will be held at Mountaingate Country Club in Bel Air, CA.

Joining me on the panel will be relationship ship expert Dr. Pat Allen, author of Getting to ‘I Do’ and Cougar dating expert, Lucia.

I will be discussing my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and will provide expert dating advice on how to spot the red flags and find Mr./Ms. Right on your favorite Internet dating site.

One of the highlights at the event will be the male panel, consisting of a confirmed bachelor, serial husband, single and looking, to just plain confused.

The event includes lunch, boutique for shopping, and a book signing.

What: Second Sunday Series, An Empowered Woman
When: Sunday, February 14, 2010, 11am – 3pm

Where: Mountaingate Country Club, Bel Air, CA

To purchase tickets, visit An Empowered Woman

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Dr. Pat Allen on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Julie Spira & Dr. Pat Allen

Julie Spira & Dr. Pat Allen

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, where my guest, Dr. Pat Allen spoke about her books, Getting to “I Do” and The Truth About Men Will Set You Free and provided valuable dating advice.

  • What are Dr. Pat Allen’s views on text messaging?
  • How do you tell a man you want to spend more time together?
  • Why is it hard for a man to say “I love you?”
  • Do long distance relationships work?
  • Is your guy a man or a boy?
  • Why monogamy isn’t always 1:1
  • How to successfully master the art of flirting

You’ll hear these topics and more from the woman Oprah Winfrey calls the “Comic Mother Superior!”

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Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira for a very special edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show, where we will kick off the fall season with our featured guest, Dr. Pat Allen.

Dr.Pat Allen is the author of the best-seller, Getting To “I Do,” and is the go-to person when it comes to relationships and communication.

She will be taking your calls and providing online dating advice as well as discussing her new book, The Truth About Men Will Set You Free.

This is a rare opportunity to spend time with Dr. Pat Allen. She is responsible for thousands of marriages and has impacted my life in a positive way.

Call in at 646-929-0012 on Saturday, September 25, 2009 at 2pm, eastern time, 11am, pacific time.
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The Truth About Men Will Set You Free


It was with great anticipation that I waited for the arrival of Dr. Pat Allen’s latest book, The Truth About Men Will Set You Free: …but first it’ll p*ss you off!?I am a huge fan of her best-selling book,?Getting to ‘I Do’?and have attended her workshops.?

The subject of science in mating and relationships is a huge topic right now. Many online dating sites have personality profiling, there is gene testing, and yet we are still so confused about how to mate successfully.?

In her book, which is co-authored by Don Schmincke, Pat Allen defines the rule of mating. She stated that guys use “things” to prove love and girls use “love” to prove things. She goes further by stating that “love is what females give sex for and sex is what guys give love for.” Does it sound confusing? Not if you read this book. According to Dr. Pat Allen, this is why guys can program the VCR better than women. Dr. Pat Allen has been studying this for over 30 years. She should know.

She encourages women to let their estrogen roll and to capitalize on body language with these tips:

  • Eyes: Paint them.
  • Lips: Make them red.
  • Clothing: Stress the female shape.
  • High Heels: Use’em.
  • Breasts: Expose them.
  • Exercise and Diet: You know this.

Pat tells women, ?”You might let your guy know that he could have a better chance of whispering “sweet nothings” to you in your left ear versus your right. Then again, you might not want to.”

Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

Dr. Pat Allen Welcomes Back Justin Sterling

Last month Dr. Pat Allen featured Justin Sterling at her Monday night event at the Odyssey Playhouse, and it was SOLD OUT! Many disappointed Dr. Pat Allen fans were turned away.

Now you have the chance once again to see the rematch, as Justin has graciously agreed to make a return appearance. They have moved the event to Santa Monica to accommodate a larger crowd and you won’t want to miss this evening.

Join Dr. Pat Allen on Monday, July 20th with Justin Sterling on the stage together for a promising and exciting evening, as Justin pits his renowned teachings of how Men can Regain Their Manhood against Pat’s views on how Male and Female energies interact in any relationship.

This Special Event will be held at the?Sheraton Defina, 530 Pico Blvd., Santa Monica from 7 to 9pm. Admission to this Powerhouse Meeting of two Relationship Champions will be $20 in advance, $25 at the door, and will include a mixer to follow their presentation. Doors open at 6:30 but come early because their last meeting was a sell-out!

For information and to buy tickets, go to www.drpatallenworkshop.com

A Pat Allen Girl



Julie Spira & Dr. Pat Allen

Julie Spira & Dr. Pat Allen


I often refer to myself as a “Dr. Pat Allen” girl. Those who fall into that category know exactly what I mean as well as the best-selling author of Getting to ‘I Do’
herself who is a family and relationship therapist.

For over fifteen years, Dr. Pat Allen has been leading a Monday evening group in Los Angeles and now also has a weekly Wednesday evening group in Newport Beach, CA. I have attended these sessions and brought my girlfriends when they were in a relationship crisis, so they could go on stage and have a quick dose of the famed Dr. Pat Allen.

Does her theory on relationships work? You bet. I have a close girlfriend who has been happily married for fifteen years and still credits her success to attending Dr. Pat Allen’s Monday night lectures. Another friend who was involved with a married man who kept hoping he would become available went on stage at a Dr. Pat Allen lecture, and shortly there after was able to dump the unavailable man. She recently celebrated her ten year wedding anniversary and now has two beautiful children.

Besides the weekly lectures, Dr. Pat Allen has a monthly lecture called “The Art of Loving” in Century City. There are four different topics, and yes, I have attended them all.

The highlight for me in being a true “Dr. Pat Allen Girl” was when I attended her Weekend Retreat last year at Aldersgate in Pacific Palisades, CA. I checked into this weekend intensive with the goal of expediting the “oxytocin detox” process I was going through from a previous relationship which had ended. With a one-on-one intensive that went into the wee hours of the morning, I went home enriched, and no longer longed for the beau who had disappeared.

The good news for singles and couples, is that Dr. Pat Allen will be doing this annual Weekend Retreat again on October 2-4, 2009. The retreat is intended for all singles and couples who are open to learning and she will cover the physical and emotional aspects of being a spiritual person. In this retreat, You will learn how to ask for what you want and how to say “no” to what you don’t want as well as learning about how to analyze your dreams.

I believe in personal growth so we can be the best we can to attract the best love we can. Reverend Michael Beckwith from The Secret calls Pat??”A?rare gift for our society.” Both Marianne Williamson and John Grey have been influenced by Pat Allen.?Those who are fortunate enough to attend her retreat will be forever enriched.

For more information, go to www.DrPatAllen.com or call 310-390-4767.