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Match Poll Shows Men and Women Agree on Wearing Red on a Date

Red Hot

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I’ve always said single women should wear red on a date and on their online dating profile primary photos.

It’s not just because red is my favorite color, but research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology at the University of Rochester also proved that women who wore red on their online dating profiles received more emails from men, went on more dates, and the men actually spent more money on women wearing red.

We know that red is the color of love, passion, and the stop sign. But red is that winning color both in the boardroom and the bedroom.

To add to that theory, our  friends at Match partnered with Finery and polled 2500 singles to determine the best date outfits and the worst date outfits.

BEST DATE OUTFITS AS SELECTED BY MEN

The winner by both was clearly a simple sophisticated and casual mid-length red dress, paired with a classic clutch, heels, and fun earrings. The look was called “Red Hot,” and I have to agree on the choice. So for those who think you should wear a mini-dress, or plunging cleavage, think again. 

The second pick by the guys was called “Sweet and Flirty,” which is a good summer look. Off the shoulder tops are all the rage now, and wearing hot pink is as close to wearing red as you can find.

Sweet and Flirty

Sweet and Flirty date outfit

When it comes to first date outfits, or any date for that matter, where what makes you feel comfortable, flirty, and happy. Dressing in grunge, sweats, or uggs, are good for hanging out at home, but they’re a turn-off for a guy. Dressing for women who will notice the brands will just bleed  your wallet. A guy wants to see you wearing something feminine and form fitting.

WORST DATE OUTFITS AS SELECTED BY MEN

As far as the worst date outfits, the men gave a thumbs down to outfits with minimal effort, ones that were too trendy, mis-matched, Woodstock glam, and striped with a pop of color.

Here were the top 2 losers according to the Match and Finery poll

Minimal Effort

men's worst date outfits

Trend Overload

Men's Worst Dating Outfits

Former E! News Correspondent, blogger and stylist, Alicia Quarles, commented on the fashion survey and said,

“Our poll results don’t exactly prove that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, we actually found that both genders agreed on the best date look, and that men don’t care about the latest trends or high fashion.” Quarles continues to say, “They want to see a woman’s figure—and less women dressing for other women on a first date (i.e., in very fashionable outfits which are on trend, but that don’t necessarily show off everything). Through this, we’ve realized that men just want to determine all lines of attraction on a first date, including physical attraction, so outfits that don’t show a woman’s shape can potentially complicate things.”

So does it matter what you wear on a date? Absolutely. You have that split second to make a first impression and I think the choices selected by men and women are feminine and memorable, both online and IRL.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over 23 years. Find out how our Irresistible Profiles will help you find your dream date.

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Where’s Julie? Breeders’ Cup 2013 Highlights

Julie Spira and Richie SamboraThe week in Los Angeles ended on a fun note as I enjoyed the Breeders’ Cup festivities at Santa Anita Racetrack.

With the theme of “The Best is Yet to Come,” I spent the afternoon in the Trophy Lounge, along with Celebrity Ambassadors Bo Derek, The Hunger Games’ Elizabeth Banks, and John Ortiz, who played the horseracing fanatic ?Turo Escalante? in the HBO series Luck.

Women were dressed in a variety of hats and fascinators, many of which were designed by Christine A. Moore, the Official Milliner Of The 2013 Breeders’ Cup. Christine was kind enough to personally select a fascinator to go with my Armani dress, which even received a thumbs up from Elizabeth Banks.

Musical performers Kristin Chenoweth and Richie Sambora were on hand. Kristin laughed as we spoke on the Purple Carpet, as she admitted she was a “Runaway Bride,” not once, but twice. Kristin, with her new pixie haircut, appropriately selected the “Game on Dude” sign for her photo in the Twitter booth. Richie and I talked about growing up in New Jersey and shared which exits we both lived at. He was thrilled to have been selected to do the first guitar version of the “Call to Arms” as part of the ceremony.

From purple outfits to extravagant hats and an even more extravagant $25 million purse, Los Angeles was proud to host the Breeders’ Cup this year. Next year, the Breeders’ Cup will also take place at Santa Anita Racetrak, starting on Halloween. Will there be more orange outfits next year? Perhaps we’ll be able to say, “Orange is the new Purple.

Kristin Kristin Chenoweth - Breeders' Cup

Kristin Kristin Chenoweth – Breeders’ Cup

John Ortiz and Julie Spira

John Ortiz and Julie Spira

Christine A. Moore - Breeders Cup

Christine A. Moore, Breeders’ Cup Milliner

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Fashion Pick – The PurseCase: A Must for Online Daters

Purse CaseBusy online daters can’t be without their Smartphones, for fear that the next text or email might be from that hunky guy you’ve been flirting with online.

Here’s a sneak peek of one of our favorite items that will be in this year’s Cyber-Dating Expert Holiday Gift Guide.

To add some spice to your iPhone’s look, we’re delighted to introduce the PurseCase. It looks like a purse on one side, and snuggly will fit your iPhone 4 or 5.? We love this accessory because you’ll look fun and flirty with your favorite color PurseCase, priced at only $29.99.

On one side, it opens up to reveal a mirror to check your lipstick and hair, with a pocket to store your drivers license, a credit card, a few calling cards and some cash. The other side will show your mobile phone safely protected in a rubber coating casing with your favorite color.

While speaking at Digital Hollywood recently, I spotted a friend sporting a pretty pink PurseCase and immediately ordered one of my own in pink. Ok, I’m hooked and my friends will be receiving one this holiday season.

Extra bonus: Our friends at PurseCase are offering Cyber-Dating Expert readers a sweet discount. Enter the promo code of cyberdating at check out to receive 20% off the full retail price of your purchase. This will make a terrific stocking stuffer, or you just might one in every color.

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The Best Ways to Wear Jeans on a Date

Jeans on a dateCasual or dressy? What do you wear on a date? Sometimes I believe a dress shows your femininity. Other times, jeans can show a carefree happy look on a date.

My friend Jennifer, who just launched Dress for the Date has some great suggestions on how to wear jeans on your next date.

I have two girlfriends who, at different points in my adult life, said they ?would never wear jeans on a date?. Honestly, I never really understood that thinking, but figured they had their own fashion-faithful reasons.

Last year I was a cocktail party where one of these women, who happened to be with a handsome jean-clad date, was now wearing jeans. But, they were definitely not a date-appropriate pair.

The jeans were way too acid washed, over-the-top too tight, and had more manufactured holes than a wheel of Swiss cheese. That being said, let’s get down and dirty, and go over the best ways for men and women to wear jeans on a date.

At Dress for the Date think it’s always safe to go with a pair of dark blue or black denim jeans. Darker denim is continuously flattering, regardless of your size. Pair the jeans with a simple white or black shirt, which, depending on the date, is easy to dress up or down with accessories.

Ladies – Dressier Night Out

For a dressier night out, channel your inner J-Lo by glamming up your jeans outfit with some tasteful sparkly bangles and a great pair of sparkly hoops. Don’t forget to rock a pair of smoking hot black heels and a great hand clutch purse.

Jeans on a dateLadies – Casual Date

Let’s say you’re hitting happy hour at the local dive bar with a man you’ve just met on Match.com. You’ll want to keep your outfit street-stylish and rock n roll chic to balance a flirty look with some edge. Black jeans tucked into some well-worn boots and a scoop neck tank (another fashion staple) with a motorcycle jacket will get your date?s engine revving.

For men, we here at Dress for the Date say step, not, RUN — far, far away from any embellished denim. Ed Hardy sword and skull, or Dragon Vs. Mermaid embroidered jeans will send your date fleeing for higher ground.

We do suggest that you stick with the basics. Jeans by Ernest Sewn or the good ole? Levis 501’s will never fail you. Stick with darker washes and no manmade holes.

Men – Dressier Night Out

Jeans on a Date - MenFor cocktail parties, the darker the jeans, the better. Pair them a solid basic-fit dress shirt, a loose tie, and a vest. Don’t forget the shoes! Us gals always notice a great pair of shoes. We suggest trying a pair of leather lace-up oxfords.

Men – Casual Date

Much to your surprise, the person you’ve been eyeing at the local Starbucks has asked you out for a coffee date over the weekend! Keep your outfit low-key for this type of date. Think Levi’s 501’s and a black V-neck T-shirt ala Simon Cowell. Match it with a great stainless steel watch and a pair of stylish high top sneakers. Your date will be glad that they made the first move.

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5 Ways to Look and Feel Red Hot on Valentine’s Day

Red Hot Dressing for Valentine'sWondering if you should wear red or pink this Valentine?s Day? I?m a firm believer that red the perfect color to wear year-round for your online dating profile, as well as on a first date. But don?t take my word for it. I reached out to Image Consultant Kimberly Seltzer, who agreed, it?s best to be the Lady in Red this Valentine?s Day. Kimberly compares Valentine?s outfits to Halloween for a little bit of fun.

?Both holidays give you a chance to dress up and perhaps wear something a little risqu? that you perhaps wouldn?t normally wear,? says Kimberly.? ?No matter if you are celebrating with your man, going out with your girlfriends to attract a new one or just pampering yourself on Valentine?s Day, put on something that makes you feel special, alive and sexy.? Seltzer encourages singles and women in a relationship to put on their little black dress, throw on a pair of high heels and pile on the vanilla-flavored lip-gloss.

Here are Kimberly?s 5 easy red-hot tips that will surely shoot an arrow right into any man?s heart.

1.???? Feel Sexy?What men find sexy in a woman is when she herself feels sexy.?? Men notice your sexual confidence in the way you dress, walk, move your body and smile.? Wear something that makes you feel sexy and sensual.? ?So put on a dress that you feel confident and a little daring in.? This doesn?t mean you have to show your mid-drift or fall out of your dress. Guys would much rather undress you with their eyes and leave things to the imagination than display it all right there.? Part of being sexy is leaving them with a sense of intrigue and curiosity.? If you give it all away to them, they may not have the desire to want more.? For example, wear a fitted red dress that shows your curves and just teases the man with a low cut-out back.? Or perhaps you want to go more casual and sport a leather jacket with a lacy cami peeking through.

Use fabrics that are great against your skin and touchable. Cashmere, silky satin, and buttery soft suedes are the real scene-stealers. Touchable fabrics not only invite another’s touch, they have the added bonus of feeling great against your skin so you feel pampered and sexy.? Find fun and unique ways to express your sensuality!

2.???? ?Dress Feminine?Men absolutely love a soft womanly touch.? A dress, skirt and heels can make any man?s heart skip a beat.? Display your feminine sexuality with flowing hair or an attractive hairdo, nice nails, makeup and discreet displays of bare skin, plus colorful clothes and jewelry that are eye-catching signs of femininity.? And ladies, no corporate blazers please!? Your dress should be flirty, flowy and gorgeous.? Perhaps it is romantic and completely easy like a soft silk in a red and off-white combination.? Or maybe it is a tight fitted LBD worn with sleek patent red pumps.? And while you are at it, remember to laugh, smile, create softness and be light and open on your date with your man.? He?ll appreciate your receptive and delicate attitude and style.

3.???? Wear Heels?A man will love the way you move in a pair of high heels.? There are three reasons why men?s jaw drop when you slip on the stilettos.? They love the way the shoes make your legs look, how they make you walk and move your body and how it exudes femininity.? Find the perfect footwear to go with that Valentine?s dress.? Think sexy, strappy, sparkly and high!? Feel a little unsteady in the skyscrapers?? Try a pair of platforms with a thicker heel to give you more support.

4.???? Smell Amazing?Explore a new signature fragrance that captures your man?s attention.? Several studies show that vanilla-flavored perfumes can intoxicate his senses.? But perhaps he prefers something a little fresh and floral with a hint of citrus.? Notice those fragrances that get a reaction and go with it!? You might also want to try a new body lotion to put all over your body in unexpected places.

5.?? Be Daring and Add A Surprise?If you have been with your beau for a while, most likely there is an element of monotony in your relationship and in the way you dress.? Even if you are going out with your girlfriends or you are with a new man, it?s important to infuse a little variety in your life which can help you give off new and exciting energy.? Spice things up by wearing something a little different for you.? Perhaps you secretly wear a new red lacy thong with a matching bra under your Valentine?s dress.? Or nothing attracts attention quite like a hat. First, it takes guts to wear one.? Second, it takes panache to carry it off.? Combine the two qualities and you get major sex appeal.

Whatever you decide to wear, enhancing and focusing on your Valentine attitude and your wardrobe will boost the way you feel about yourself, thus boosting your chances for love on this special day.

Visit Kimberly at www.eliteimagemakeovers.com for a complete dating image consultation.

Color Your World With Not-So-Blue Jeans

Colored Jeans

Photo: Victoria's Secret

It’s springtime and for many, it’s time to rearrange your closet to make room for warm-weather clothes or even splurge for some new additions to your wardrobe.

My recommendation this spring is to indulge in the wonderful palette of colors in denim jeans. Forget whether it’s black or blue, ?you can now wear a different pair of colored jeans every day of the week, and the brighter, the better.

From Victoria’s Secret VS Kiss Capri in red, priced at $39.50 to rose-colored?MF Jeans for $130, there are a variety of styles and colors to choose from. So think back to your favorite color in the Crayola crayon box and you’ll be right in style on date night this season.

Ballet Flats to Slip For

Fashion - CitySlips Ballet Slippers

When I saw the CitySlips ballet flats and tote on Lemondrop, I knew I just had to have a pair. If you’re like me and are running from airport-to-airport or from day-to-night, these are a must-have addition to your wardrobe.

These comfy ballet flats fold up nicely into a pouch, where you can also store your trendy heels before a big night out on the town, or to save your feet for your hot date for the evening.

Available online at CitySlips.com,?and priced at $24.95, it’s worth treating yourself to a pair today. Your feet will love you for it, and your date will never know you preserved your dancing feet just for him.

Summer Swimwear by SATC Stylist Patricia Field

Julie Spira and Patricia Field

Julie Spira and Patricia Field

Although Sex and the City 2 may be a distant memory, it’s now officially swimsuit season. ?SATC stylist Patricia Field launched her new House of Field Swimwear line on the rooftop of 230 Fifth in Manhattan the day after the film’s premiere so grab your tanning butter and select your favorite design.

Patricia Field’s Swimsational Disco Soiree included custom Sex and the City inspired cocktails by SKYY Vodka, and a fashion show attended by thousands of SATC fans and fashion enthusiasts. The cost of the bathing suits run from $90-$200 and portrayed a colorful delight on a desert themed evening. Accessories included eye wear an beach towels.

Are you ready to vote for your favorites?

For more information visit PatricaField.com

Shecky’s Girls Night Out in Los Angeles

Going out with the girls is something I always look forward to. The power of the “girlfriend network” is something that I cherish on a daily basis. Girlfriends help you get ready for a date, plan your wedding, hold your hand during a break up, and tell you the truth if your outfit looks good on your or not.

This week, grab your favorite girlfriends and head over to the annual Shecky’s Girls Night Out at the Santa Monica Civic Auditorium in Santa Monica, CA. You’ll have 5 hours to sip on wonderful cocktails, see the latest in fashion and beauty trends, receive dating advice, and go home with the famous Shecky’s VIP Goody Bag, worth over $100.

Tickets can be purchased for $25 in advance and $35 at the door. As a Shecky’s Socialista, ?I will be coordinating a group of stylish Los Angeles ladies on Thursday, May 20, 2010.

Click here to purchase tickets: Shecky’s Tickets

Choose “Socialista” from the ?We’re very curious! How did you hear about this event?? drop down menu on the checkout page and write in my full name to be part of our group.?It’s guaranteed to be a fun night.

Not in LA? Not to fret. Shecky’s events are held in these cities as well:

The Multi-Million Dollar Sex and the City 2 Wardrobe

Photo by Craig Blankenhorn ? ? MMIX New Line Productions, Inc.

It won’t appear like there’s a recession when fans go to see the long-awaited Sex and the City 2, due out in theatres on May 27, 2010.

According to In Touch Weekly, Carrie Bradshaw’s ?wardrobe included 41 costume changes. Some of the designers included Pucci, Halston, and Alexander McQueen. ?Phillip Block, stylist-to-the-stars, was on the set and he estimated the price of the wardrobe for Sex and the City 2 at $10 million.

In the?InTouch article, Block said, “Some of these pieces cost more than an SUV,” he says. “But they get better mileage!”

Sex and the City Stylist Patricia Field had dressed Carrie in Halston in one of the television episodes where Carrie was dating a politician. In the recently released documentary film, Ultrasuede: A Search for Halston, Field?said, “It was a play on Jackie O.”

Krsitin Davis, Sarah Jessica Parker, Kim Cattrall and Cynthia Nixon will get to keep their new over-the-top wardrobe to memorialize their second feature film. The question to ask yourself is, “What fashion designer will you be wearing to view the Sex and the City 2 film with your girlfriends?”

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