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There’s Always Room to Fill the Heart with Love

Quote heartbreakWhen the phone rings and someone calls to say they’re heartbroken and can’t imagine their life without the person who is gone, it’s my job to give them hope and to explain how the heart does heal in time.

Today’s quote was inspired by a coaching call with a woman who said her heart was completely broken. It had been shattered and she couldn’t imagine how she could go on with such an empty heart.

I explained to her that the heart fills up and depletes on a daily basis. You see the heart can’t be completely empty, or you wouldn’t have the ability to love your children, family, and friends at all if this was the case. You wouldn’t even be able to breathe, but you still can.

The heart fills up and depletes on a daily basis

The heart can be overflowing with love and joy when you first meet someone and you’re in the honeymoon phase. It’s so exciting you feel like it’s about to burst. Although it feels that way, it will not be bursting. You will be in a state of euphoria and often it’s temporary, for even those we love with all of our hearts, we go through phases of questioning the relationship, phases of disappointment or resentment when our needs aren’t being met, and then bounce back when we are in a state of joy again. It’s like a wave. There’s an ebb and flow to the wave as it comes crashing into the shore, each time reaching a different point on the sand or rocks.

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When it comes to matters of the heart, all forms of logic are tossed out the window. The stage of first love, early love and the pitter-patter of the heart feelings are real and when they are experienced, there’s nothing better.

So if you find that your relationship isn’t as fulfilling and that your heart is questioning it, it’s natural. Every day doesn’t have an overflowing heart, but it should have an appreciative heart. One that allows you to grow with an individual and to grow on your own.

You see, people are falling in love over and over again with their partner. There are different types of love, whether it’s lust, friendship, companionship, romantic love, or a deep passion. All of these types of feelings do exist with the same person. If a relationship can’t move past the three week or three month mark, then you were really existing in the lust phase only.

The heart is meant to last and move.

You see the heart is meant to last and move. It beats. You breathe in and you breathe out. Sometimes you can’t imagine anyone else in your life but the person you love or loved so deeply. Other times you wonder how any one person can decide on how full your heart should be. That’s more realistic.

The point here is when you’re unsure of your relationship or if your heart is hurting, know that it is temporary. The universe is like a vacuum. In time, the heart will fill up again. For some slowly, for others it can be rather quickly.

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To achieve the ultimate feeling of love, let the heart fill with your own personal joy to the point that anyone who joins you in this game of life is joining your already fully loved heart. Keep smiling as that will attract new people to you.  Know that you are always loved, even when you’re not sure you’re feeling it.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

P.S. If you need some hand holding, find out how Irresistible Coaching can help you get back on the dating saddle.

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over two decades. For dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.

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Christmas in Los Angeles – The Mark and Brian Christmas Show

Christmas in L.A.

Christmas in L.A.

As a former east coast girl who enjoyed watching the tree-lighting ceremony at Rockefeller Center, ice-skaing at the same locale, seeing the Follies at Radio City Music Hall and the Nutcracker at Lincoln Center, you would think I’d be melancholy around the holidays in Los Angeles with nothing to do.

This year, I put on my elf hat, thought about all of the new friends I have made (both online and in real life), and have been nothing but grateful to those who have cheered me on in this pivotal year of my life.

When the Nokia Theatre opened at LA Live in downtown Los Angeles just two years ago, I was there for the opening night celebration. The Eagles and Dixie Chicks performed at the new 7100-seat venue, while the rest of the neighborhood was still under construction. There was only a temporary tent set up for the Wolfgang Puck Cafe and it was standing-room only.

Julie at the KLOS Mark and Brian Christmas Show

Julie at the KLOS Mark and Brian Christmas Show

Last week, I attended the Mark and Brian Christmas concert presented by KLOS at LA Live. The famous morning show duo had taken a four-year break from hosting this exciting event. LA Live was more than just alive. Now filled with famous eateries such as Flemings Prime Steakhouse and Wine Bar, ?Katsuya, Lawry’s Carvery, ROCK’N FISH, ?Rosas Mexicano, and numerous others, it was difficult to decide where to dine before the concert began. I chose Katsuya and enjoyed their Happy Hour menu.

Other anchor tenants at LA Live include The Grammy Museum, Lucky Strike Lanes, the Conga Room, and of course next door, The Staples Center, home of the Los Angeles Kings hockey team and the Lakers basketball team.

Ice Skating at L.A. Live

Ice Skating at L.A. Live

Outside LA Live was stunningly beautiful. The holiday lights, ice-skaters, and Christmas tree –not bad for a city where it doesn’t snow.

Inside, the concert was a rock and roll night to remember. The evening, featured performances from Matt Nathanson, who sang his hit “Come Get Higher” and performed his rendition of Bruce Springsteen’s “Born to Run.”

Luke Perry

Luke Perry

Beverly Hills 90210 star Luke Perry came on stage to drop the yuletide log and after a year of anticipation from KLOS fans, they finally selected their new Music Director, live and on stage. I enjoyed the rocking sounds of Fee Waybil, lead singer from The Tubes singing “Talk to Ya Later” followed by his rendition of Led Zeppelin’s “Black Dog.” Let’s not forget an appearance by Slash and Steve Lukather from Toto. Have I forgotten anyone?

Richie Sambora clearly stole the show and I enjoyed his version of “With a Little Help from my Friends.”? That was, until Foreigner took the stage with their string of hits from 30 years ago including, ?”Double Vision”, “Head Games”, ?”Cold as Ice”,?”Feels Like the First Time”, “Urgent”, “Jukebox Hero”, “Long, Long Way from Home”?and another Led Zeppelin song, “Whole Lotta Love.” Their lead singer, Kelly Hansen ?has certainly revitalized the group with his on-stage energy. The night ended with a performance from Heart. It was a long evening, but memories of my life back east came to the surface as I had played those songs on the radio when I, ?too was a rock and roll D.J. back in New York.

Congratulations to my friend, Bob Buchmann – Program Director for KLOS and to Mark and Brian for bringing the Christmas show back to Los Angeles. It was a wonderful way to start the holidays.

It’s nice to look back on these memories and create new ones, decades later with a little help from MY friends.

Happy holidays to you and yours and all the best for 2010.