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Make Your Online Profile Irresistible at Silicon Beach Fest


Are you headed to Silicon Beach Fest in Marina del Rey, CA this week?

If so, it will be a fun and informative few days filled with speakers on technology, social media, funding, and more on June 24 – 27th at the Marina del Rey Hotel.

On Thursday, June 25, 2015, Cyber-Dating Expert founder Julie Spira and Three Day Rule Founder Talia Goldstein will be hosting a workshop called, Make Your Online Profile Irresistible.

You’ll learn all the latest tips and dos and don’ts for your business profiles as well as other social media profiles and online dating profiles.

Plus: We’ll have GlamSquad and a photographer on hand to snap a new photo for you for your profile.

The panel will be held in the workshop room from 3pm – 4:15pm.

Details here

Learn how to make your online profile to be more irresistible on both dating services and work-related sites (because people check both!) at this hands-on workshop with dating expert Julie Spira, CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and Talia Golstein, founder of Three Day Rule.  Learn what photos to use, what to say in your description, and what kind of things you should be posting about to increase your dating attractability while still being professional, on services including Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, Match, Tinder, Grindr, and more. Bring your phone and get ready to edit your description and change your profile pic.


– Julie Spira, Cyber-Dating Expert, CEO

– Talia Goldstein, Three Day Rule, Founder and CEO

Speaker bios:

Julie Spira is the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert where she’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years.  She is the go-to person in the media for online dating advice and has appeared in/on over 600 news stories including ABC, CBS, CNN, FOX, NBC, Los Angeles Times, Men’s Health, Women’s Heath and New York Times. She is quoted in the June issue of Women’s Health with her online dating advice

Talia Goldstein is the CEO and Founder of Three Day Rule, a personalized Matchmaking company backed by An expert matchmaker with hundreds of success stories, Talia has created 3 matching algorithms, and has been featured on CNN, USA Today, Time, CBS, PBS, Newsweek, Huffington Post, NPR, People, Pando Daily, Maxim, GQ, TMZ, Cosmopolitan & more. She was named to Story Exchange’s Power List of Female Entrepreneurs in 2015, and was in DigitalLA’s Top 50 Digital Women in 2015.

Add Some Fireworks to Your Relationship This 4th of July

So your relationship status is listed as a “dud.” Does that mean you should accept your ho-hum love life or are you ready to ignite some fireworks to kick-off the summer holiday?

At Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters, we’ve decided to help you ramp up your search with a wonderful 20% HOLIDAY Savings! But we’re only limiting this offer to TEN lucky people.

SAVE over $150 on your package now from July 1 – 6, 2011 and sign up for our Signature IRRESISTIBLE Online Dating Profile Makeover package.

As you know, I’m passionate ?about helping singles find love both online and offline. I also happen to love holiday weekends. It’s the time to ramp up your flirting techniques and mingle with singles all weekend long.

While fireworks will be in the sky throughout America, what about the fireworks and passion in your love life? Don’t you deserve to have a spark ignited?

That’s right. No gimmicks, no long term commitment. One very special PRIVATE coaching session that will change the direction of your love life.?Let the next holiday fireworks be your very own in the arms of someone very special.

  • 20-minute Phone or Skype Consultation
  • Personalized Dating Assessment
  • Customized Online Dating Profile from Scratch or Makeover
  • Includes a NEW Catchy Screen Name
  • New Bio With the Perfect Word Count
  • One Personalized Matching Search
  • 30-Days Unlimited eMail Support to help you before, during, and after your dates.

*Don’t wait as this offer is valid for the FIRST 10 People who sign up and will sadly expire on July 6th at midnight when the price will revert back to the regular rate.

Sign up now and let the next Cyber Love Story of the Week be your own.

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The Cyber Dating Expert Looking for Love Online Summer Contest

Cyber Dating Expert Summer Love Promotion

Looking for love online this summer? We?re thrilled to announce the Cyber-Dating Expert Summer Love promotion where we’ve teamed up with Match to provide one lucky winner with a signature Irresistible Dating Profile from online dating expert Julie Spira, along with a 3-month free membership to

To participate in the contest, participants are requested to LIKE the Cyber-Dating Expert facebook page at and post their funniest or worst dating story ever on the facebook wall.

Five additional winners will be selected and will receive an autographed copy of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Think about your funniest Internet date and share it with us on Facebook for your chance to win.

*Contestants must be 18 years of age or older and reside in the United States. No profanity will be accepted and inappropriate wall posts will be removed with the contestant disqualified. The contest starts on June 20, 2011 and ends on July 3, 2011. Winners will be selected by Cyber-Dating Expert, LLC. and announced on July 5, 2011 on Facebook and Twitter.

For Lovers and Lovers in Waiting Live Chat

I’m super-excited to have been selected by GenConnect to host their live Valentine’s chat this week, “For Lovers and Lovers in Waiting.”

Click on the link below on Thursday, February 3rd at 3:30pm, EST/ 12:30pm/PST for a live Q & A, where I’ll answer all of your relationship questions leading up to Valentine’s Day. I know how stressful Valentine’s can be. I see all the red candy hearts in the grocery store. Regardless of your relationship stage, take a moment and join our live chat. The best part is, one person will win an Irresistible online dating profile, valued at $495.

Our hashtag on twitter is #gCLove so you can follow the conversation.

Live Chat With Cyber Dating Expert Julie Spira

New Year, New Online Dating Profile


It’s the New Year’s resolution for many singles. You make a commitment to making finding love a priority. Perhaps you had a lonely New Year’s or the thought of Valentine’s Day will result in singles taking action with their love lives.

As good as the intentions are, like many resolutions, after a few weeks it moves down on the list of daily activities. I’m here to let you know that now is the time for you to revisit online dating and more specifically, create a new irresistible online dating profile.

Why should this stay on the top of your list? Forget the holiday pressures and red candy hearts. The period from New Year’s through Valentine’s Day is when singles will either join an online dating site for the first time, or renew their membership. Just like refreshing your Facebook profile with new photos and new updates, you need to keep your online dating profile fresh instead of the stagnant profile you once had.

Here are some easy-to-follow and keep New Year’s resolutions for singles looking for love online:

1. Narrow down your search. Do your friends complain that you are too picky? Have they stopped fixing you up? There?s nothing wrong with knowing exactly what you want in a relationship. Remember, no one really gets it all. We are an imperfect society. Make a list of what is most important to you. Number it from 1-10. Now, focus on the first 3 items on your list. Is it Religion? Bicycling? Hiking? Strolling through museums? Put those key words in your search. You might be delighted to see who pops up.

2. ?Reach out and reconnect. Did you get too busy during the year and miss out on meeting someone you started to communicate with online? Take a look in your Inbox and see if they still have an active online dating profile. ? Reach out and send an email with a simple, ?Happy New Year.? If their profile is still online, assume they haven?t met ?the one? yet. It may be a time for a new beginning for both of you.

3. ?Refresh your profile. If you are satisfied with the online dating profile you currently have, change the order of your sentences or add something new and exciting that you’re looking forward to doing. Perhaps it’s an upcoming vacation or seeing one of your favorite bands in concert. As a result, ?your profile will become refreshed and chances are will show up higher in a search.

If you need some extra handholding, I will work with you privately to create an irresistible online dating profile complete with a catchy screen name to stand out in the crowded digital playing field. Visit for more details or contact me at

Let’s make this year the one you really find the love you are looking for.

Can I Lie About My Age on my Online Dating Profile?

Cyber Dating ExpertYou hear the complaints too often from singles looking for love online, ? “No one tells the truth anymore.” ?I disagree. There are plenty of honest singles out there in the cyberdating world.

A newly single man came to me for dating advice before posting his new online dating profile. He’s tall, successful, and ready to date. But he’d really like to lie about his age to attract younger women.

Read my reply to Mitch.

Dear Julie,

I’m getting ready to sign up for an online dating site for the first time in 9 years. Although I’m now in my 50s instead of my 40s, can I lie about my age and say I’m 48? I look great for my age and want to fit into a search. Women lie all the time. If I tell someone on the first or second date, is that fine? Please let me know what to do.


Dear Mitch,

Yes, singles lie all the time online about their age and offline as well, but that doesn’t mean it’s right. Big birthdays are emotional for both me and women. My suggestion is to always be honest and authentic about who you are representing. Would you like to meet a 35-year old woman only to find out that she’s 42? Probably not. While I can’t force singles to be honest about the big age issue, it’s better to start off with honesty in your relationship. It’s just too simple these days to find out through a Google search or Alumni website the true age of most singles who are online dating. If you’re worried that the women won’t find you, take the initiative and search for women you are attracted to. Just like men, women are now visual and profile photos have great value in selecting who they will write back to.

Best of luck with your search in looking for love online.

Do you have a question for Cyber Dating Expert Julie Spira? Send your questions to

Need some hand holding? Learn how working with a dating coach can help you create an Irresistible Online Dating profile.

Irresistible Online Dating Profiles

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Welcome to our Irresistible Dating Coaching Programs.

You’re one step close to finding a date or a mate and having your very own Irresistible Online Dating profile.

We’re here to help you find your dream date while looking for love online. Irresistible Coaching plans are for both busy women and men who would like to be in a relationship. Select from one of our three popular plans and you’ll be one step closer to finding the man or woman of your dreams. Contact us for your free dating assessment.


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Complete brand new online dating profile, including a personal dating analysis, catchy screen name, a new bio/headline, and a profile guaranteed ramp up your dating life. Includes a private and personalized online dating search and tips on how to write an introduction email and reply. Click here to get started.


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Need help taking your love life from online to offline? Not sure how to reply to email? Overwhelmed with the amount of matches, but not sure who to select? The Digital Matchmaker is our most comprehensive and personalized package for busy singles. You’ll have private coaching with online dating expert Julie Spira in her famous Online Dating BootCamp. Through emails, texts, and Skype interviews, we’ll select the best dates for you. Consider this your personal Wing Girl for your love life. Price available with private consultation.

Here’s what they’re saying about Julie Spira’s IRRESISTIBLE Coaching.

“Julie Spira’s dating advice has changed my life and led to dozens and dozens of dates!” ~Robin-48

“With Julie Spira’s help and coaching, I was able to find more quality women to write to online.” ~Dean-35

“I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t attracting quality men online. With Julie’s suggested changes, the type of guys that have reached out to me have greatly improved.”~Brady-25

“Julie Spira helped me create a new Internet dating profile that described me in a better way to attract more quality men.” ~Janice -56

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Personal Branding Interview with Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira

Dan Schawbel recently interviewed me on the subject of personal branding for Cyber-Dating Expert on his personal branding blog.

Among the questions asked, were what do online dating and personal branding have in common?

Do I think the majority of dating will occur online in the next twenty years?

Is there such a thing as a blind date with the Internet?

My key point that I shared in the interview, is that authenticity is back in style and you can toss the stigma of online dating out the window, with a special thank you to facebook. I gave some recommendations on how to create an irresistible online dating profile, including the catchy screen name, online profile photo tips, and suggestions for being specific in what you are looking for in your essay.

Click here to read the interview and for dating advice>>>

How to Create an IRRESISTIBLE Online Dating Profile


So your online dating profile is ho-hum. You haven’t met “the one” and would like a fresh start in the New Year. You hear about all of these online dating success stories and wonder why it doesn’t happen to you. You think that cyberdating just isn’t for you.

If any of this sounds familiar, perhaps it’s time for you to create your IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile.? I’ll provide some tips for you to get your started, but if you need your hand held, check out IRRESISTIBLE Profiles. We are having a New Year’s Special at 20% off.? Why? Well, I know that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Wouldn’t it be great to be excited about your date for the evening?

In a recent article on eHow, I described several key elements to the IRRESISTIBLE Profile.

These include:

  1. Get Professional Photos Taken
  2. Create a Catchy Screen Name
  3. Be Specific
  4. Be Original
  5. Leave the Novel at Home
  6. Leave the Baggage Behind
  7. Be Authentic
  8. Be Organized

Click here to read the complete article

Click here to take advantage of the New Year’s Special for IRRESISTIBLE Profiles