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Julie Spira on Finding Love Online for the Jewish New Year

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In my world, every day is like Valentine’s Day.

Summer love isn’t on it’s way out. The last day of summer is on September 22nd.

For Jewish singles, we’re As we head into the Jewish holidays of Rosh HaShana, the Jewish New Year on September 9th, leading into and Yom Kippur on September 19th, it coincidentally occurs around the same time as ‘Cuffing Season,’ where couples tend to find a partner to make a commitment to in the fall.

RELATED: YOUR GUIDE TO CUFFING SEASON – GET READY TO COUPLE UP

Singles really want to connect and the Jewish New Year is really the start of the overall holiday season.

In conversation with the Jewish Journal, I spoke with writer Debra Eckerling on how Jewish singles can find love online, which was featured in the print edition of the newspaper, in the “Just Asking” column on page 62.

The online version can be found online here.

“We love our work, but we should also have love in our lives,” Spira told the Journal, “and love our partner, if we have time to find one.”

For Jewish singles looking for love, I recommend joining a site or mobile dating app such as JDate, JSwipe, or JCrush, and making sure your profiles on Match, eHarmony, Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, or Zoosk, and indicate that you’re Jewish, if faith is important to you.

“When it comes to matters of the heart, you need to leave the boardroom out of the bedroom. Being only in work mode leaves no room for someone to feel romantic. Women need to be able to shift, talk about different things over dinner. If you only talk about your career, you will be in the friend zone forever.”

Sometimes a summer romance will lead to marriage, as evidenced in a recent survey from Plenty of Fish, and we’ve got a few weeks left of summer.

Know that many summer romances don’t last, and when a door closes, another opens, especially with the thoughts of a sweet, New Year.  If that’s the case, here’s  how to end it gracefully.

RELATED: WHAT HAPPENS TO RELATIONSHIPS WHEN SUMMER ENDS

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam.

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Facebook for Dating? Julie Spira Weighs in on HLN

Facebook Dating - Julie Spira on HLN

This week, Facebook announced they’d like to play Cupid by starting an online dating service on the social media giant.

While the reaction in the media was as if an earthquake had hit, I wasn’t shocked at all.

As a social network with over 200 million singles listing their relationship status as “single,” it’s a potentially large market for Facebook, who could have been the world’s largest dating site if they wanted to be.

On HLN-TV, I discussed the news with Michaela Pereira, as well as the timing of their announcement.

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With the Facebook data breach, DATA has become a four-letter word. Singles and sites are concerned.

So will Facebook replace your favorite dating app or site? Absolutely not.

I believe this announcement gives credibility to the online dating and mobile dating apps industry. Plus it would be good for dating sites and Facebook to find a way to collaborate.

Dating sites have mastered the algorithms to give you the best dates possible.

RELATED: Match Singles in America Study Reveals if Singles Click “Add Friend” Before a Date

Sites such as Match, eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, and apps such as Tinder, Grindr, Happn, Hinge, and Bumble are doing a great job of connecting singles.

Keep in mind; most singles are joining more than one site, typically three.

There are the niche sites such as Farmer’s Only, Our Time, and JDate that focus on lifestyle, age, and religion, that many singles are finding love on.

This proposed service allows those who “opt-in” to agree to be a part of the new Facebook dating platform when it launches, giving you the opportunity to say yes, or no.

Facebook reports they are working on the essential issues of safety and security, which is vital for everyone looking for love online.

Five years ago, I created Facebook Love Stories, as a site to share stories of couples who found love through some of the features of Facebook. Finding a long-lost-love, or connecting through a friend-of-a-friend has been going on since the beginning of Facebook.

Dating on social media, or social dating is real. You can find love on Twitter and Instagram, and many have.

RELATED: Rules of Netiquette: Dating in a Facebook World

Would you use Facebook as a dating platform option?

Your comments are welcome.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, and was an early adopter of Internet dating, helping singles find love online for over 20 years.

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Jewish Mobile Dating Apps for Hanukkah

Chanukah HatJewish singles have quite a few options while looking for love online.

They can select their religious beliefs and those who they seek to meet in the check off box on traditional online dating sites and apps such as OkCupid or Match, or sign up for the long-time favorite JDate, where you can select just what branch of Judaism you practice, if any at all. These days, it’s easier to find a Jewish mate with some of these mobile dating apps to help fill your calendar for the eight days of Hanukkah and beyond.

So grab your latkes, light some candles and get ready to start swiping.

JSwipeJSwipe – Now a favorite among Jewish millennials, JSwipe has users in 70 countries. JSwipe is free to join and has been called the “Tinder” for Jews. You can select which sect of Judaism you practice and just how Kosher you are. Once you’re matched with someone, there’s an 18 day countdown before your match expires, so you’re encouraged to start communicating. Eighteen, is the number for good luck in Judaism. The bonus is if you swipe left by mistake, your match still appears at the bottom of the screen. Just tap on him or her and he will return for you to review the profile again, without a charge.

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JfiixJfiix – Created by JDate’s original founder, Joe Shapira, Jfiix initially launched in Israel and caught on quickly. They launched over the Jewish New Year in the U.S. and we have high hopes for this app. Singles can sign up for free and either “like” or “skip” on a potential match that is sent to them. The matches revolve on a carousel type (360) feature so you’re presented with a bouquet of potential dates to view without having to swipe left or right. You can start also chatting without becoming a mutual match. Jfiix has about 25,000 users in the U.S. and is growing by about 400 a day. The app boasts about 250,000 chat conversations every day. The biggest benefit is, it’s completely free.

Download on Google Play

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RELATED: Cyber Love Story – Dana and Matan

 

JCrush MobileJCrush – To join JCrush, you can sign in with Facebook. When you see a match, you can click on the “Star” icon or swipe right as a “Crush” if you’re interested or the tap the X icon or swipe left for an “Oy Vey” for a digital thumbs down. Once you have a mutual crush, you can start communicating. There’s a “Maybe” option if you want to think about it before sending your potential match into the permanent delete file. Just maybe, your date wasn’t so great last night and you might want to revisit that standby.

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J Date MobileJDate Mobile – With the tagline of “Find Love Anywhere You Go,” JDate’s mobile app mirrors their website and makes it easy to find love on your mobile phone. The app lets you find members of the Tribe nearby and lets you chat instantly. They’ll send you your top matches, as well as let you conduct your own search. It’s the best of both worlds. If you’re already a JDate member, your mobile profile will grab the information from the desktop version. You can then edit your profile if you like on the app. Under Activity, you can see who has viewed your profile, so I recommend using this feature to reach out to someone who has viewed you to improve your chances of connecting. If you want to send a message, you must subscribe to be a premium member.

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Related: Cyber Love Story – Todd and Rozie

Wishing you a Happy Hanukkah in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. Xo

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Mobile Dating Expert. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles coaching programs. Follow @JulieSpira on Instagram and Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Online Daters Write to Many; Only Date One at a Time

Our friends at JDate and ChristianMingle just released their second annual State of Dating in America report, where they surveyed over 2,600 U.S. singles between the ages of 18 and 59 to find out how they felt about dating in the digital age.

With Valentine’s Day around the corner, it’s not a surprise that the stigma of online dating is continuing to dissipate. The report showed that 85% now believe Internet dating is socially acceptable. The survey looked at the behaviors of the online dating cycle from first contact to moving in together and even marriage.

Let’s start with getting to the first online date. Are all online daters serial daters? While many have said that online dating comes complete with a ‘shopping cart’ mentality, and the large bouquet of singles on dating sites, one would think Internet daters’ date cards would be filled with a different date every day of the week.

According to the survey, while singles are writing to several people at once, in reality, they prefer to date one person at a time. Does this mean online daters are really serial monogamists instead of serial daters?

The question asked in the survey said:

Do you generally contact one person, communicate with them and go on a date OR are you communicating with multiple people during the same time frame?

State of Dating

More than half of the respondents admit they go out with one dater at time, with 63% of women and 53% of men saying they communicate with multiple people, but only go out with one person at a time.

By comparison, only 38% of men and 24% of women contact one person at a time, and the lowest response came from 9% of men and 14% of women who date multiple people at the same time.

Frankly, I’m surprised at these numbers, as it takes time to get to know someone. Going on a few dates with a few people simultaneously should help the process and help you become a better dater, right? Should one put all of their eggs into one digital basket?

Other findings included the Top 3 deal-breakers, with hygiene being at the top of the list for both men (35%) and women (35%). Hint: Take that extra shower and keep a toothbrush and breath mints in your car.

The good news is that the stigma about online dating is continuing to diminish. Two out of three singles in the survey knew people who met as a result of online dating, and an overwhelming 94% of singles believe that online dating expands their dating pool with 86% saying it speeds up their search as compared to being set up by friends.

Think about it. Online dating is available 24 hours a day, so the convenience factor is there. Still, finding love online can be like finding a needle in a digital haystack. You need to become the “1 in 40 million.” At the end of the digital day, it?s a numbers game worth playing.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert. She creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Win tickets to JDate?s Schmooz-a-Palooza in Los Angeles

JDate - Schmooz-a-paloozaIt’s the party of all parties for Jewish singles in Los Angeles. Every year on Christmas Eve, JDate hosts a party that every single dater must attend.

Our friends at JDate are giving us two free tickets to give away for their annual Gala.

Celebrating its 20th year, the SCHMOOZ-A-PALOOZA will be held at Red O Restaurant in Beverly Hills featuring cuisine by world-renowned chef Rick Bayless. This trendy-spot features bold, dramatic decor and a sultry ambiance bound to ignite a hot party. Guests will enjoy delicious tapas, tequila tasting, all-night drink specials and amazing raffle prizes. When attendees are not busy schmoozing, eating or drinking, they can hit the dance floor and show off their moves.

To enter to win two free tickets, like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and post your comment that you?d like to win tickets to JDate’s SCHMOOZ-A-PALOOZA.

Advanced tickets are $35 each or $50 for two. Grab your BFF and your favorite party dress or digs and enjoy this fun and festive holiday soiree.
What: JDate’s SCHMOOZ-A-PALOOZA

Where: Red O Restaurant, Beverly Hills, CA
When: December 24, 2013 9pm-2am
Why: Because your single and need to mingle.

Added bonus: Our friends at Uber will be offering new clients a free ride valued at $50.

Visit us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and let us know why you want to win tickets to SCHMOOZ-A-PALOOZA.

The winner will be announced on Facebook on December 2nd.

To buy tickets, visit https://www.jdate.com/schmooz

Eric and Nina – JDate Top Proposal Winner

Cyber Love Story - Eric and NinaIt was an honor and joy to be a Judge in JDate’s Top Proposal Video Contest.

Over the years, I’ve seen many marriage proposals for couples who have met online. Watching all of the top nominees in the Top Proposal contest brought tears to my eyes. I’m truly happy for all of the couples who have found love on JDate.

I selected Eric’s music video proposal of “I Do Love You” to Nina for several reasons. It was the most creative, truly fun to watch, and featured many highlights of their beautiful courtship. I found myself smiling and humming the whole way through, especially when she said, “Yes!”

Featuring a song and dance by Groom-to-Be Eric LaBarre, the heartwarming video tells the story of how the two met on JDate and the development of their relationship leading up to the special moment. When LaBarre knew he wanted to propose to Nina Sturtz, he recruited her best friend to help create the video and included family and friends in its production. The proposal was inspired by Sturtz’s love of musical theatre, and she calls the video “the most perfect Nina proposal ever!”

The couple has won a 7-day vacation to the Bahamas.

It’s a joy to feature Eric and Nina in our Cyber Love Story of the Week. Congratulations to both of you from your friends at CyberDatingExpert.com.

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Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and was an early adopter of Internet dating. She’s been helping singles find love online for 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter, like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert and sign up for our free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Julie Spira Selected as Judge in JDate Next Top Proposal Contest

JDate Proposal ContestIt’s a great honor and joy to announce that I’ve been selected as one of the Judge’s in JDate’s Top Proposal Contest.

As an early adopter of Internet dating and as an Online Dating Expert with almost 20 years of writing dating profiles, I’ve helped many Jewish singles find love on JDate. Some fond memories include one couple who gave birth to the first JDate baby, and another who found love by expanding their zip code to include dating in Europe. Many couples who I’ve coached have taken my online dating advice are now happily married or are in long-term exclusive relationships.

I know that cyber dating can be challenging, but there are so many Internet dating success stories that are worth sharing and I look forward to watching all of your marriage proposal videos.

If you’ve met your fiance or spouse on JDate, I invite you to share a video on their Facebook page about your marriage proposal and enter their Top Proposal Contest.

One lucky couple will be treated to on a 7-Day romantic trip to Breezes in the Bahamas. Isn’t it time for a second honeymoon?

Details can be found on their Facebook Page.

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Cyber Love Story – Todd and Rozie

Cyber Love Story - Todd and RozieTodd and Rozie were both members of JDate where they were looking for love online.

Both the two of them were frustrated with the search process and were about to let their memberships expire.

Rozie decided to give the online dating game one last shot when she sent Todd an email that simply said, “You look cute. I like your profile.”

Rozie didn?t even have an online dating profile photo posted and most of the details in her profile were left blank.

Todd was hesitant to reply, but figured he’d say hello and ask her to send him a picture. He was glad he did so as when he received Rozie’s photo, he thought she was really cute.

After about one month of email exchanges and a few phone calls, they finally met up in person. Their first date was scheduled for drinks after work, but the conversation led to dinner. Dinner turned into afterglow drinks and their first casual drink date lasted for seven hours! The two went home separately at 2am, only because they needed to get to work the next day.

After seven months of dating, Todd proposed marriage to Rozie in a romantic way at the tallest tower in Krakow, Poland. It was the largest square in Europe.

They married a year and a half later and now have two children.

Congratulations to Todd and Rozie who let the conversation flow and fell in love on JDate

Do you have an online dating story to share?

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Julie Spira is America’s Top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. Julie’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating and creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for our Weekly Flirt newsletter and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert

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Cyber Love Story of the Week – Gail and Mark

Cyber Love Story of the Week - Gail and MarkGail had been a member of JDate for only a couple of days when she received a very funny email. It was so funny that her daughter actually scolded her and said, ?Mom, what is so funny? I?m trying to sleep here.?

The email came from Mark, who had been single for 16 years after his divorce, and had his share of dates. Gail looked at Mark?s profile and realized that he was completely different from anyone she had dated or had been married to. Gail was used to being with lawyers and Mark was a writer and humorist, who had also performed stand-up comedy.

Gail liked Mark?s smile, so she responded to his email and they eventually talked on the phone. Mark wanted to meet Gail right away to see if there was any chemistry in person. The two met at Third Street Promenade in Santa Monica, CA for a three-hour dinner date and walked along the promenade watching the street performers.

?His profile picture was no lie,? said Gail. ?He looked about 15 years younger than his stated age. He had boyish good looks and a smile that warmed his soft brown eyes, a backpack thrown over his shoulder, he was neatly dressed and from what I could discern, lean and very nicely built. I was toast.?

The two were attracted to each other right away and quickly learned that their birthdays were only two days apart.

In less than a week Gail and Mark went on their second date, which lasted the entire day. ?I picked Gail up at her house and we went to the Skirball Center, took in the exhibits, had lunch there, and then went to a screening of the movie ?Rock of Ages where we held hands,? said Mark. The date continued with fine dining at Luna Park restaurant. The two took down their dating profiles within the first month of dating. ?We?ve been together over three months and I?m increasingly more nuts about her,? Mark added.

Gail keeps asking Mark, “How is it, exactly, that you have managed to stay single for 16 years???” I guess it will be one of (my) life’s great mysteries and, also, my great fortune.?

Congratulations to Gail and Mark, our Cyber Love Story couple who proves that patience is a virtue and the best things in life are worth waiting for.

Mark’s dating column can be found at JDate.

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Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for our Weekly Flirt newsletter, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and like us at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

JDate is Responsible for More Jewish Marriages [infographic]

Just in time for the Jewish New Year, online dating site JDate has published an infographic showing a milestone of almost 1000 marriages since their inception in 2003.

The Jewish online dating site commissioned ResearchNow to survey married Jewish Internet users. The results showed that JDate is responsible for more Jewish marriages than all of the other major online dating sites combined.

Of the 948 who participated in the survey, 52% who married met on JDate.

It makes sense if religion is important to you to visit an online dating site with singles sharing the same belief. Singles appear to be dating up a storm. Five out of 9 Jews who were surveyed and were married since 2008, used an online dating site in their search for love.

Are you a member of a niche online dating site focusing on religion? Comments are welcome and you can sign up for JDate in our Dating Community.

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