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#140LA13 – Romance, Speaking and Hearing from the Heart

140 ConferenceWe all know that social media plays a huge part of communicating online.

From checking out his or her Facebook profile, to following your digital crush on Twitter, the conversation is expanding.

So how do social media and love connect online to help you with your love life offline?

These questions and issues will be discussed during Social Media Week in a very special event, the #140LA13 Mini-Conference on Monday September 23, 2013, which I’m honored to be a speaker at.

Both Jeff Pulver, the 140 Conference creator and my friend Debra Eckerling from Write on Online will be hosting the #140LA13 Mini-Conference: “The Rise of Listening in the Era of Social Media” on Monday, September 23, 2013 from 6:30pm – 9:30pm at Cross Campus at 820 Broadway in Santa Monica, CA.

I’ll be joined on our panel, Romance, Speaking and Hearing from the Heart with Kerianne Mellott, eHarmony’s Social Media Manager and Marni Battista, founder of Dating With Dignity. Together, the three of us will be answering your questions on how we engage with singles using social media and what social media channels we?re finding the most effective.

We’ll address emotional issues such as how much should we reveal on social media about our personal lives, how do we handle those whose hearts are healing and encourage others to be positive during an emotional time.

We do hope you join us at this very special event.

Other sessions in the 140LA 13 mini conference include:

Hosts: Jeff Pulver and Debra Eckerling
Panels:

  • Love, Passion & Chocolate, Ashley Walsh
  • Romance, Speaking & Hearing from the Heart, Kerianne Mellott, Julie Spira, Marni Battista
  • Engaging Your Community, David Bloom speaking with Catherine Geanuracos about Eric Garcetti’s social campaign strategy
  • Transforming Entertainment through Social Media, Steven Swimmer, Jon Cody, Peter Hyoguchi, Mike Rotman
  • Paying it Forward, Brian Mac Mahon

The #140conf events provide a platform for individuals and entrepreneurs to listen, connect, share, and engage with each other, while collectively exploring the effects of the emerging real-time internet on business.

California Monster Salads and Kuma Snow Cream will be graciously providing food for us to enjoy that evening.

Limited tickets can be purchased for $15 at 140confla13-estw.eventbrite.com

 

Dating Advice at the 140 Characters Conference

140 Conference

It was an honor to once again take the stage at the 140 Characters Conference to talk about dating, love, and romance in the real time web. Along with some of my favorite social media friends, we united as we shared our hearts and souls, ?with not just the attendees in Hollywood, but with the rest of the world as the event was streamed live for others to enjoy.

On day one of the tw0-day event, 140 founder and curator,?Jeff Pulver welcomed everyone to the Music Box Theatre on Hollywood Boulevard. We learned about social media and education, heard from singer Michele Branch, became immersed in real-time news gathering trends where Twitter is 30-minutes ahead of the Associated Press, and enjoyed a live performance from Andy Grammer.

On day two, I attended the Book Author’s Panel led by Imal Wagner and the Writers Panel with Debra Eckerling from Write On Online. Catching up with Chamillionaire was once again a treat.

Julie Spira and Jason Pollock

Jason Pollock and Julie Spira at 140 Conference

My presentation was held in the afternoon. ?I was introduced by Jason Pollock,?who shared some of his online dating experiences from many years ago on JDate prior to going on stage. I?spoke to the crowd about the importance of authenticity in your online dating profile.

“Everyone wants to love and be loved,” I said. ?I added, “Love never goes out of style and yet technology changes on a daily basis. It’s my goal to marry love and technology to help singles find love online.”

I shared my personal story about going from a popular rock-and-roll DJ to an Internet executive, while in the middle I sadly had my heart broken. I created my first online dating profile over 16 years ago to heal my wounds during the days of the slow dial up connection, where I’d receive a hefty $300 monthly bill while looking for love online. ?There were no role models, no dating coaches, and Match.com and eHarmony didn’t exist. Most of the hands were raised in the room when I asked, just how many of you in the room have tried online dating? The majority ruled. From dial-up to mobile dating, I shared as much as I could with the audience and poured out my heart and soul.

The other dating advice I shared included:

*Tell your own age – Think about it. Would you really want your date to lie to you? It’s time we feel comfortable with our age, weight and who we are in the world.

*There is nothing more powerful than the Facebook status relationship change – I’ve said it before, but when you see the little red heart on your friends Facebook updates, just how curious are you about who their new beau is or why it’s complicated? We just feel the need to know. Personally, I don’t want to watch someone’s relationship status change from “Single” to “In a Relationship” to “It’s Complicated” to back to “Single.” Unless you’re planning a wedding, we don’t really want to share your drama.

* Be specific. If you want to get married, say so. Don’t worry about chasing those away who aren’t interested in a commitment.

* Try a niche online dating site. Several recommended sites I mentioned were Brainiac Dating for those with a high I.Q., Meetcha for the baby boomers, and Online Booty Call for the causal daters looking to hook up.

* Mobile Dating. I recently published a list of some of the Top mobile dating apps for you to enjoy.

I shared some of the Cyber Love Story of the Week success stories with the group and encouraged them to join in on the conversation at CyberDatingExpert.com. There is someone for everyone and I encourage you with enthusiasm on your cyberdating journey.

Thank you to Jeff Pulver for another incredible 140 Conference in Los Angeles and for my friends and supporters who cheered me on. I am grateful, honored, and appreciative of the support from my friends and colleagues on Twitter, Facebook, and in real life. I truly hope that I can make a difference in yours.

Welcome to New York – Dating Advice in a Web 2.0 World

I’m filled with excitement as I prepare for the first-ever dating panel at the 140 Characters Conference in New York, which will be held at the 92nd Street Y. Conference organizer and creator Jeff Pulver has been working around the clock to make this the best social media event ever. There will be over 180 people speaking in 76 sessions on one stage.

On the flight from Los Angeles to New York, I had the chance to read part of Andrea Syrtash’s new book, He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s A Good Thing) (Rodale) due out next week. Andrea will be a panelist in Wednesday, April 20th at 11:30am and will be signing copies of her book in the Schmooze Lounge from 12:00pm – 1:00pm in advance of it’s release, so don’t miss it. She’ll also be the featured guest on Saturday on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show at 1:00pm/Eastern Time.

I’m looking forward to seeing my co-panelist Tom Miller, General Manager of Your Tango. Our panel: Experiencing: Love, Dating and Romance in the Real-Time web is scheduled for 8:45am on Wednesday, April 21, 2010. I promise you it will be worth getting up early for. I’ll be talking about the changes in online dating since I created my first Internet dating profile 16 years ago and the effects of the real-time web in how we date and relate. I’ll toss in some dating advice, success couples, and where I believe we are heading with mobile dating and more.

After our panel, I will be signing copies of my book The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the Schmooze Lounge from 10:00am-10:45am. I hope to see you there!

Other authors who will be signing copies of their books include: John Kremer, Hank Wasiak, Melinda Emerson, Jonathan Maberry, Michael Tasner.

For a complete schedule of times visit the 140 Conference site.

If you can’t make it to the event, it will be streamed live on UStream at https://www.ustream.tv/nyc140conf. The hashtag for the event is #140conf.

The excitement will continue past the 140 Conference. On Thursday, I will be a guest on WPIX TV, channel 11 in New York in a segment with Tamsen Fadal. I will be talking about Cyber Dating Safety at 6:45am. I hope you tune in to watch.

On Thursday, several of the 140 Conference speakers will be attending the Broadway performance of Kelsey Grammer, now starring as Georges in the revival of?La Cage aux Folles and we’ll be going back stage afterwards.

If this isn’t enough excitement, I’ll be back in New York again in May for Book Expo America where I will be speaking at the New York Public Library on May 25, 2010 and signing books at BEA -10 on May 26, 2010.

If you haven’t signed up yet for the 140 Conference, visit their site for tickets. Two-day passes are SOLD OUT, but you can still attend on Tuesday. For media inquiries visit CyberDatingExpert.com/contact

Countdown to the 140 Characters Conference

The 140 Characters Conference in New York is only one week away. We are counting down the days and I’m excited to be participating as a character in the first-ever dating panel: Experiencing Love, Dating, and Romance in the Real-Time Web. Make sure to mark your calendars for April 21, 2010 at 8:45am. I’ll be sharing the stage with Your Tango’s Tom Miller, @TomFooleryTM and dating expert @ScotMckay.

The event will be streamed for those who can’t make it. It is shaping up to be the largest gathering in the world of people interested in the effects of the real-time Internet on both business and “we” the people.?I’ll be in New York all week meeting with editors, publishers, and broadcasters and will keep you posted on my media schedule and will be tweeting live from the event.

If you are in the New York City area, tickets are still available for $140 at 140Conf.org

Jeff Pulver has been working night and day to make this a memorable event. Other speakers include Today Show’s Ann Curry, Wine TV’s Gary Vaynerchuk, California Secretary of State Debra Bowen, Donny Deutsch, John Kremer, Ivanka Trump, MC Hammer and more. For a complete list of speakers visit https://nyc2010.140conf.com/speakers-2.

Besides meeting my twitter friends in real life, I’m delighted to announce that I will be signing copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the schmooze lounge on Wednesday, April 21st from 10:00am-10:45am.

It’s going to be an exciting time for those in the social media world. I look forward to seeing you there.