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10 Songs to Rock Your Halloween

Cyber-Dating Expert HalloweenAre you getting your costume ready for Halloween?

Are you getting ready for Halloween?

It’s time to put the digital DJ hat back on as we present our Top 10 Favorite Halloween Songs for you to enjoy from now through Halloween.

From Spooky to Thriller, with Witchy Woman in between, I hope you enjoy these seasonal favorites and share some of yours as well.


1.Spooky – Classics IV – This song is one of my favorites, because it’s about love and romance.

2. Witchy Woman – The Eagles – The mystery of the woman in this song made it a hit for the Eagles.

3. Monster Mash – Bobby “Boris” Pickett – You might not know who the artist is, but you’ll certainly recognize the song. No Halloween party would be complete without this seasonal favorite.

4. Witch Queen of New Orleans – Redbone – Another personal favorite that I enjoyed playing on the radio. You’ll be humming Marie, Marie, da voodoo veau, she’ll put a spell on you.

5. Ghostbusters – Ray Parker Jr. – The title theme from the soundtrack film will fill you with laughter on Halloween!

6.Black Magic Woman – Santana – This song by Carlos Santana will always will be an incredibly sexy and classic tune that will never go out of style.

7. I put a Spell on You – Credence Clearwater Revival (CCR) – This bluesy song is one of my favorites.

8. Frankenstein – The Edgar Winter Group – No vocals, but the title alone merits its inclusion on the list this Halloween.

9. Werewolves of London – Warren Zevon – Although he is resting in peace, the Werewolves will always be around to help us howl during Halloween and Warren continues to make us laugh from his live performance at the Capitol Theatre in New Jersey.

10.Thriller – Michael Jackson – No Halloween would be complete without the excitement of this thrilling b bestselling song from the late King of Pop.

Honorable mention: Time Warp from Rocky Horror Picture Show.

Do you have any other favorites to add to this list? Best wishes for a happy, spooky, fun and flirty Halloween from your friends at CyberDatingExpert.com

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Top Halloween Costumes for Singles

Wonder WomanGet ready for one of the flirtiest holidays of the year, Halloween! While picking out your costume this year, go ahead and be bold. Edit your online dating profile to let viewers see who you’ll be dressed up as. You never know. You just might get a Halloween date out of it!

Part of the fun of Halloween is selecting your costume and our friends at PlentyofFish have told us that Batman and Wonder Woman are at the top of the list for singles.

The online dating site polled over 500 single users in the United States over the age of 21, uncovers their attitudes towards Halloween this year with most dressing up, as well as costumes that are considered most attractive by the opposite sex.

The POF Halloween survey asked these questions:

Halloween Harley Quinn1. Will you be dressing up this year for Halloween?

Almost 37% (the majority said yes!)

2. Will you be going out to celebrate Halloween this year?

Almost 38% (the majority said yes!)

3. What best describes the reason you go out on Halloween?

The majority 61.3% said to hang out with friends.

4. From the guys: If you were to dress up as a pop culture character/personality, who would you be most likely to dress up as?Halloween Batman

Almost 28% of the men said they’d dress as the Joker. While this is fun, the women didn’t find the Joker so appealing, as almost twice a many women selected Batman over the Joker.

Women will double take on these male costumes:

Batman – 26%
Netflix and Chill – 16%
John Snow  – 14%

5. From the girls: If you were to dress up as a pop culture character/personality, who would you be most likely to dress up as?

Halloween CostumesThe majority, over 38% of women selected Wonder Woman as their favorite Halloween costume this year. It’s a good thing, because the majority of the guys said they’d be attracted to Wonder Woman first, followed by Harley Quinn as a close second.

Men will be spellbound by these top female costumes:

Wonder Woman – 34%
Harley Quinn – 30%
Netflix and Chill – 11%

6. What type of costume do you feel the best in on Halloween?

The majority of singles chose sexy and funny, so grab a fun costume and go out and flirt and laugh this Halloween. Remember to post photos!

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How to Take Down Your Match Profile When you Meet The One

Deleting ProfileAt Cyber-Dating Expert, we have a large amount of dating coaching clients who are members of Match, , so naturally when they find success with online dating, they often want to know how to delete their Internet dating or mobile dating profile so they can give the relationship a chance.

In this article, we will show you step-by-step how to take down your Match profile, even if it’s just temporarily.

How to Delete Your Match Profile

1. Sign on to Match. On the upper right hand corner, click on the gear and you’ll see a drop down menu. Click on Settings.


Match Profile

2. Scroll to Change/Cancel Membership. Click on the link.

Delete Match Prrofile


3. Type in your Match password. Click Continue Cancellation

Delete match profile

4. Click on Cancel Membership and Remove ProfileDelete match profile

5.  A pop-up will appear saying your membership has been canceled with a cancellation number.

delete match profile

6. Remember you will not be visible for the remainder of your subscription period. If at any time you’ve decided it’s time to start dating again, you can easily log in with your email address and password to reactivate your profile.


Delete match profile

7. You’ll receive an email to confirm your cancellation.

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At the end of the digital day, online dating is a numbers game. We encourage singles to take down their profiles if they are only interested in dating one person, so that person doesn’t get the wrong impression that you aren’t serious.

If you want to renew, just log on again. Make sure you go into your settings and activate push notifications and email notifications to receive your daily matches or invites to match events if you’re ready to start dating again.

If you need some hand holding, contact us to find out how Irresistible Coaching can help you find your dream date.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and has been coaching singles on finding love on the Internet, and now on their mobile phones, for over 2 decades.

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Quote of the Day #DesertTrip

Close to 150,000 people over the course of two weekends saw some of the greatest rock and roll in history.

The Desert Trip in Coachella Valley featured the music of Nobel Prize Winner Bob Dylan, the Rolling Stones, Neil Young, Paul McCartney, The Who, and Roger Waters.

Set lists were filled with both political and love songs.

Today we are featuring a quote from Paul McCartney, who sang a song in honor of his current wife Nancy, and one for Linda, “Maybe I’m Amazed.”


Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

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It’s Cuffing Season. What Does That Mean for Singles?

Cuffing SeasonCuffing Season is Here

Bundle up! The leaves are turning colors, fall is officially here, it’s getting chilly outside, and singles and couples alike are starting to think about curling up with someone special for the holidays.

This is what happens in the fall. It becomes ‘Cuffing Season,’ when the desire to couple up for the holidays is at an all time high.

What is Cuffing Season?

Cuffing season starts in the fall when the weather starts to change, kids go back to school, and summer romances fizzle out. Suddenly you’ll notice friends of yours who claim to be forever single appearing at a party with a significant other or new boyfriend or girlfriend. Others will flock to online dating sites to hope to connect with someone for the holidays. To be honest here, it’s a busy time for singles looking for love online as they imagine kissing under the mistletoe with someone special or toasting a glass of bubbly on New Year’s.

In thinking back to my past, I can honestly say that I’ve witnessed several relationships fail in the fall and new ones become solidified by November.  Did they know it was ‘Cuffing Season?’ Probably not.

So my friends and tweethearts, as a dating and relationship expert and coach, I encourage you to take the covers off your head, go out with a big smile on your face and be approachable, as it really can be an exciting time for love. Sipping hot toddies or hot chocolate by the fireplace is a visual you just might want to be a participant in. Party invites from business networking events are starting to pile in, so RSVP and fill up your date card.


It’s time to embrace the month we are to be the most thankful for with Thanksgiving around the corner. Time is speeding fast and there are plenty of singles that will be excited to have you in their life.

If you’re in a toxic relationship or one that makes you anxious or are walking on eggshells, it’s time to get out. Staying in a bad relationship for the holidays just prevents you from finding someone more compatible to create new memories with. The possibilities are endless!

If you need any hand holding, check out our Irresistible Profiles packages to help speed up your search.

Happy Cuffing Season.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo
~Julie and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She has been helping singles find love on the Internet for over 20 years. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and instagram for dating advice and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.


This New Tinder Feature Will Help You Stand Out

Tinder Boost

Are you tired of swiping right on Tinder and waiting for a match to appear? Do you feel like you’re in a numbers game and it’s no longer fun to play anymore?

If you feel this way, you’re not alone.

Tinder has announced on their blog, a new feature rolling out called ‘Tinder Boost’ to help you appear at the top of a match search. This new feature will help you “skip the line,” so they say and will allow you to be viewed as a top profile for 30 minutes to increase your chances of getting a mutual match.

Related: Why You Won’t Delete Tinder When You’ve Found The One

Here’s how Tinder Boost Works

1. Make sure you’re in Tinder Mode (turn off the social feature)

2. A pop-up will appear asking if you want to skip the line.

3. Sign up for Boost and you’ve got 10 minutes to be in premium mode.

4. Watch the countdown clock and make sure you make the most of your 10 minutes.

5. Start matching, chatting, and meeting IRL.

Related: Bumble Makes Men Reply or the Match Disappears

P.S. Tinder Plus members get one free boost a week, so we suggest you use it on a Sunday or Monday night, where singles have either had a weekend of bad dates or were dateless and want to change that before the upcoming weekend.

Tinder’s sisters dating sites/apps Match and OkCupid are already charging singles to appear during peak hours and the Bumble dating app also has a boost premium feature.  The Tinder mega mobile dating app is now testing their boost service in Australia and will hopefully be in the U.S. soon.

Will you pay more on a mobile app to appear higher in a search?

Your comments are welcome.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over two decades.

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Single Daters Decide Which Candidate They’d Like to Hang Out With

As the Presidential candidates continue to debate, our friends at Happn, one of our recommended mobile dating apps,  have shared with us which candidate their single members would rather hang out with, either Donald Trump (R) or Hillary Clinton (D).

Happn polled 965 of its users about what activities they would prefer to do with Trump or Hillary. The six options are based Happn’s latest “See You There” feature, which gets users to meet IRL for fun activities.

Are you ready to jog with Hillary or go on a night on the town with the Donald? See a movie with the Clinton’s or grab a drink with Donald? Before you turn on the television to watch the debate, read the results of this poll.

Get ready for the digital drum roll!

Presidential Debaate Happn


1.     Go out on the town: Trump slightly beat Clinton with 52% of the votes. The Donald also wins over swing state voters in this category with 65% over Clinton’s 35%. Fifty-five percent of millennials (20-29 year old respondents), 52% of both Gen Xers (40-49 year olds) and baby boomers (50-59 year olds) all want to party it up with Trump. But 66% of women choose Hillary along with 30-39 year olds, while 59% of men choose The Donald.

2.     Go for a run: Happn users are clear about who they want to hit the pavement with. Hillary ran past Donald with 64% of the votes opting for her as their “running mate.” Trump gets the vote from 18-19 year olds (65%), while Hillary leads with women (82%) and just barely takes the swing state vote (51%).

RELATED: Happn How Helps Users Meet Up With Matches Faster

3.     Get a drink: Do single daters prefer sipping martinis with Hillary or a (non-alcoholic) daiquiri with Donald? This vote was split 50-50. Women favor Hillary (72%), while men (59%) are down for a drink with Donald. But in the battleground states, Happn voters raise their glasses to Donald at 58%.

4.     Catch a movie: And the Oscar goes to… Hillary. She is the overall fan favorite (65%) and also takes home the award among women (84%) and in the swing states (55%). But Trump steals the show in a supporting role: 59% of 18-19 year olds would rather see a film with him.

5.     Grab a bite to eat: Happn users want to break bread with Clinton (61%) in addition to 20-29 year olds (60%), 30-39 year olds (64%), 40-49 year olds (57%), 50-59 year olds (64%), men (54%) and women (78%). But Trump won’t end up dining alone with 18-19 year olds (53%) willing to grab a snack with the Republican candidate.

RELATED: 6 Mobile Dating Apps You Should Be Using in 2016

6.     Go for a walk: When it comes time to slow it down and take a stroll, most Happn users choose Hillary as their “sole” mate. Nationally, 68% of users are interested in taking a walk with Hillary, as are 20-29 year olds (68%), 30-39 year olds (71%), 40-49 year olds (66%), 50-59 year olds (67%), women (83%), men (62%) and in the swing states (60%). But once again, 18-19 year olds are rallying behind Trump with 53% of the vote.

What about the Swing States?

Happn reports that the six swing states backing Trump include: Arizona, Florida, Iowa, Michigan, Nevada, and Virginia.

Meanwhile, Clinton gets the backing of the following six swing states: Colorado, Georgia, New Hampshire, North Carolina, Ohio, and Utah. Pennsylvania can’t decide who they’re putting in the White House – half want Hillary, half want Donald. (sigh).

Democrats or Republicans?

Forty-two percent of Happn respondents identified themselves as Democrats, with 16% saying they were Republicans. Forty-two percent have either no political affiliation or selected “Other” (i.e. Libertarian, Green, Constitution).

*This article published by Cyber-Dating Expert, LLC and it’s affiliates do not endorse any political candidate

Will you be watching the debate?

P.S. If you haven’t registered to vote, we urge you to do now right here.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She’s the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been coaching singles for over two decades on how to find love on the Internet and on mobile dating apps.

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Quote of the Day

Ghosted Quote

Quote of the Day: “When you get ghosted, be happy they’re on a one-way ticket with no return address.”

Many of you have been victims of ghosting. As the ghosted expert, I can tell you I’ve spent hundreds of hours helping singles whose boyfriend or girlfriend disappeared with no explanation. There is no closure and you might find yourself wondering what you’ve done wrong.

Read: Is Your New Boyfriend Ghosting?

I’m here to tell you that ghosting is an epidemic and over 80% of millennials have admitted they have either ghosted or been ghosted by someone they had been seeing. This doesn’t make it right.

Read: Most Millennials Have Been Ghosted

If you are one who has been ghosted recently, be glad they’ve taken a one-way ticket out. Ghosters typically do reappear again. Hopefully you’ll have moved on by then and won’t even remember their name.
If you need closure on your ghosting experience, reach out to us to share your story and we’ll hold your hand and bring back the confidence to get back on that dating saddle.

Read: Ghosted for the First Time

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

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Read: Confused, Is he Ghosting?


#MusicMonday Quote of the Day

Happy Music Monday. As we start a new week, it’s time to put the digital DJ hat on and share a musical quote from the bankd UB40 about love to warm your heart.

Music Monday

“Love is a thing, well, it’s kid of like quicksand: The more you are in it, the deeper you sink. And when it hits you, you’ve just got to fall.”

Don’t be afraid of falling into quicksand. Open your heart. It isn’t a lifetime sentence, but could be a lifetime of happiness coming your way.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of the Internet and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over 20 years. Find out how our Irresistible Profiles programs will help you find your dream date and read our many client testimonials.

Top Online Dating Profile Words in U.S.

Online Dating Profile WordsWhat do you learn from joining 21 online dating sites? This in-depth study of a list of the top online dating profile words used by single daters in major cities in the U.S.  was a huge project to take on.

In Business Insider, writer Dana Varinsky details the research from artist, composer, professor of digital media and now a well-versed online dater R. Luke Dubois to highlight the top dating profile words in ten cities. Varinsky downloaded 19 million dating profiles, so we know he didn’t go on a dating frenzy, but the results of his research are a digital eye-opener.

So if you’re planning on changing your zip code, check this article out.

Varinsky downloaded dating profiles and created graphs of the following cities:

  • Los Angeles, CA – Lingerie, Booty, Spanking, Screenwriter
  • Washington, DC – Paraguay, Estonia, Kashmiri, Political, Journalist, Socially
  • Boston, MA – People, Drinks, Laugh, Sox
  • New York, NY – Now, Taxi, Photography, Brunch, Hipsters, Urbane, DJ,
  • Houston, TX – Rich
  • San Francisco, CA – Bisexual, Homosexual, Lesbian, Queer, Robot, Digitized
  • Detroit, MI – Automotive, Machine, GM, Graduating, Companionship, Dope
  • Anchorage, AK – Outdoorsy, Nippy, Berries, Corsair
  • Jackson, MS – Conservative, Cornbread, Baptist
  • Chicago, IL – Companionate, Gravitated

According to Business Insider, Dubois used 10 computers and took three months to compile his data in a project called, “A More Perfect Union.”  In essence, he created his own online dating version of singles based using keywords from profiles instead of the cities in the U.S. Census report.

While some of these might not surprise you, others might just make you want to change your zip code.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been coaching singles on finding love online for two decades. Julie’s the author of the bestseller The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene.

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