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LA Times – Finding the Right Online Dating Service

Online dating has become a very HOT topic.

The Los Angeles Times featured a story on how to find the right online dating service which appeared in the IMAGE section.

In the article, Mark Brooks from Online Personals Watch called the Internet the world’s largest bar. I have to agree here.

Read my expert dating advice in the cover story of the Valentine’s edition of ?Los Angeles Times.

“EHarmony has [about 250] questions in their questionnaire,” says Julie Spira of and author of “The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.” “Anyone who signs up with eHarmony is truly serious about having a relationship with someone.”

Industry experts Brooks and Spira also praise GPS-based mobile applications like Skout and Foursquare that let users find out what people are doing and where they are so they can join the party at the bar or restaurant and meet new people.

For those who want to approximate a real in-person date before spending time and money on what might very well be an awkward first date,’s Spira says to look to webcams.

“People are so conditioned on the first date to be disappointed that you don’t look like your photo,” she explains. She lists or, both meet-via-webcam sites with younger clienteles, as success stories because their users tend to be less inhibited and quick learners of the software platform. “With video, what you see is what you get. But the older people in their 40s and 50s aren’t taking the time to do videos. You’re just getting them to join online dating for the first time so it’s like baby steps.”

Virtual sites, such as Second Life, and, or even gaming sites, such as World of Warcraft (where romances have sometimes sparked between members of the gamers’ playing guilds), are perfect for those who are “gadget oriented” but also add another layer of anonymity, Spira says ? something that can be a pro or a con. She says that virtual daters should get real pictures of their suitors before getting too serious.

Spira says it’s also common for online daters to be on several dating sites at once, at least one of which is free. But there might be a lot of abandoned profiles on free sites because “if you are paying $50 a month for an online dating site, you’re going to pay more attention to those e-mails. It’s economics.”

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The Life of The Cyber Dating Expert

Having a career as a writer and dating advice columnist allows me to meet interesting people.? I hear about their quests to find love online. I share their success stories in the Cyber Love Story of the Week. I write about their dating disasters in the Peril of the Week. I interview interesting people in the world of online dating. I love my life.

Often, I am asked about my personal life. Many wonder who am I currently dating. They ask me if I have met someone online. I have met hundreds. ?They want to know what online dating sites I recommend. I answer with, ?There?s something for everyone.? I hear, ?What was your best date?? and ?What was your worst date?? Sharing personal information with the popularity of Facebook and other social networking sites has not only become the norm, but it has become expected. Years ago it would have been considered exploitation. Now it is fondly known as status updates and tweets, filled with friends, connections, and followers.

As I sit here on the one-year anniversary of my first published book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, I reflect on why I felt the need to share my personal stories and why I became so passionate about helping others find love on the web.

It was 16 years ago when I posted my first online dating profile. I was a charter member of Love@AOL. It was before the days of and high-speed Internet. I learned then, as I know now, the vast opportunities that can be found on the Internet. I was a former radio broadcaster, turned Internet executive. Along the way, I became a super-successful cyberdater.

I reinvented my former radio career and every Saturday enjoy interviewing online dating CEOs and bestselling relationship authors on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show where I educate singles on all the options on finding love online.

Although I made the conscious decision to reveal very personal stories– some which were extremely painful, others hilarious, and some heartfelt, I have also made the decision to keep my present personal life private, for a while at least.

For now, I will continue writing about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World. I am appreciative for the many online dating sites that feature my articles. I have a whole new group of friends who are authors and dating experts. I enjoy educating and entertaining my audience. I am often told that I have made a difference in the lives of singles who can relate to my stories. I help people fall in love online. My personal experience and advice has touched many. This brings me joy.

On this very important one-year anniversary of my book release and radio show launch, I am very grateful. As I read ?the two?Los Angeles Times articles today written by Whitney Friedlander called, Make it personal, keep it real and Finding the Right Online Dating Service, where I provided dating advice on Valentine?s Day, I know that I made the right decision in publishing my tell-all memoir. In the manner that I normally end my radio show, I will end this article as well with, “I look forward to seeing you in cyberspace.”

Julie Spira is known worldwide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at

LA Times Festival of Books Highlights

img_0633It was a perfect sunny weekend at UCLA for the LA Times Festival of Books. The event attracts over 100,000 attendees and over 100 authors presented their books at the two day festival on the college campus.

It was my first year at the event as a published author, and I was grateful for the opportunity to sign copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating at the Authors’ Coop, near the LA Times Stage.

On Saturday, I had the opportunity to hear Tori Spelling promote her new best-selling book,?Mommywood. In addition, Alyssa Milano presented her book Safe at Home: Confessions of a Baseball Fanatic, and Kristin Chenoweth talked about her book,?A Little Bit Wicked: Life, Love, and Faith in Stages?and delighted the audience by singing “Somewhere Over the Rainbow.”

The afternoon ended with a presentation by Bob Barker, but unfortunately I was unable to “come on down” to hear him talk about his new book, Priceless Memories?as it coincided with my book signing of my tell-all romantic memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

I stopped by to say hello to The Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger, another Jersey girl, whose book?Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate?is still on the best-seller list.

img_0623On Sunday, I arrived in time to see Marlee Matlin, who wrote I’ll Scream Later?as well as three children’s books. She shared her exciting news that she will be receiving her star on Hollywood Boulevard on May 6th. Author and attorney, David Baldacci,img_0628?presented his book,??First Family?at the LA Times Stage and described a writer as someone who is willing to work for years in total obscurity with the possibility of never being read and having to endure repeated rejections. He shared his story with the audience which included a rejection letter that simply said, “I’m sorry. We only represent talent.”

img_0610I met many other authors who shared their stories on what they have learned about the book publishing process and made a few friends along the way.

I am grateful for Christiane Alexians and Carolyn Howard-Johnson who invited me to join them at the Authors’ Coop Booth. I look forward to my next book signing event on Sunday, May 3rd at Book Soup in West Hollywood where I will be raffling off the “Cyber Love Basket” filled with over $1000 of romantic goodies guaranteed to spice up your love life.