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Is Tinder Looking More like LinkedIn?

Tinder UpdateMobile dating app Tinder has a new software update available which they believe will help you find better matches.

In version 4.7.0, users can now add the school they attended as well as where they work, which will both add more authenticity to your profile, as well as give a few ice breakers for those to decide whether to swipe right or left and start a conversation if you match.

While many social networks such as Facebook allow you to list the school you attended to attract other alumni, and the name of your employer, Tinder is following in their digital footsteps to help you find a date.

Still on the shy side? You can use their editing and privacy features to decide whether you want your school and employer to appear on your profile.

These days, more singles want to know you’re for real. Finding out which friends you have in common and seeing a mobile dating profile that mirrors some of your Linkedin profile features, can make a woman feel safer about swiping right.  With their latest algorithm updates, the new ‘Super Like’ feature, and more, Tinder is reaching singles with a variety of dating goals. Say goodbye to hookups only and ‘Tinder Moments’ and say hello to your friends-of-friends, co-workers, and classmates.


Tinder also highlights your new matches at the top of the screen with a circle with their photos and their names. This new interface, instead of just a horizontal list is actually a great look and you can easily see who has ‘Super Liked’ you and who you’ve matched with to start a new convo.

In an interview with Business Insider, Sean Rad, CEO of Tinder says, “This update is part of a wider push by Tinder to give you more relevant information about someone before you decide to swipe left or right.”

To add your school and job to your Tinder profile here are the steps.

  1. Go to the app store and update to the latest version of Tinder
  2. Click on View Profile and Edit Info.
  3. Under your bio, you’ll see Current Work and School. This has been pulled from Facebook. You can freely delete one or the other. Maybe you won’t mind telling what school you attended, but don’t want a Tinder date showing up on your doorstep at work.

RELATED: Tinder Adds Super Like Button to Nudge Your Digital Crush

P.S. You can connect your Instagram profile to Tinder, but if you’ve got a bunch of photos in the arms of another man or woman, you might not want to utilize that feature.

Are you enjoying the new features of Tinder?

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. Julie is the creator of Mobile Dating BootCamp and was recently featured in the Vice Documentary, The Mobile Love Industry, along with Tinder CEO Sean Rad.  For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

How Mobile Dating Apps Have Changed Love

Julie Spira - Mobile Dating AppsEveryone’s swiping right for love, right? It was an honor to be included in this in-depth documentary on mobile love produced by Vice Media and starring Karley Sciortino.

In this episode, I critique Karley’s Tinder profile and as her mobile dating coach, help her get ready to swipe right for a great date night.

The entire segment will feature an interview with Sean Rad, founder of Tinder and will highlight several mobile apps including Happn and Her. It’s estimated that 70% of singles will meet online and about half of that number are already using mobile dating apps.

From Los Angeles to London, Paris to New York, watch how Karley navigates the world of mobile love with the help of her cell phone.

Watch as I help her swipe to success!


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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of the Internet and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs. For more online dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

The Perils of Cyber-Dating Audio Book

Perils of Cyber-Dating Audio BookWe’re jumping for joy at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters as October is our Anniversary month. of the launch of It’s been 7 amazing years of providing online dating advice for singles looking for love online and on their mobile on phones on our site.

As a special surprise, I’ve been in Hollywood in the studio for weeks recording the audio book version of my bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. The exciting part is we’ve added a surprise Epilogue to the book that will warm your heart. Beware, some who have seen and heard a sneak preview have gotten teary-eyed with this new ending.  Take a look at the behind the scenes photos below.

Plus! We’ve added some fun and new BONUS audio dating tips on how to date on Tinder and other mobile apps, as well as other flirty dating tips to help speed up your search. These are not included in the print edition, so keep an eye our for our release date!

Perils of Cyber-Dating Audio BookI’m grateful for my amazing producer Jeff Davis who is still in post-production on the project and all I can say is WOW! Thank you from the bottom of my digital heart. Turning lemons into digital lemonade has been an amazing journey and touching the lives of singles worldwide has been a complete joy. Reading the book again was a very emotional experience. I had to stop a few times and reflect on my romantic journey, while sipping tea and honey to keep my voice going for 15 hours!

Many thanks to my friends on Facebook, who after crowdsourcing a handful of book covers designed by the lovely Megan Johnson, it was almost a unanimous vote for the book cover in this post with the gold seal. While some authors don’t like to read their own books, I felt strongly about having my voice heard in this memoir, plus I spent years in radio on-the-air and as a voice-over announcer, so I’ve been trained in radio. I hope you’ll like the final audio book as much as I do and that it will help you on your journey to finding your true love.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo.

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Huff Post Live – Will You LIKE Tinder Super Like?

Tinder - Huff Post Live

Now there’s a new option besides swiping right and swiping left on Tinder.

On Huff Post Live, host Caitlyn Becker held a lively discussion on the new Super Like feature, which allows members to swipe up to highlight one potential match a day.

Are singles on Tinder looking for more serious relationships? Will this change the perception of Tinder from initially a hookup app to an app to find love on? Will you be flattered when you receive a Super Like notification, or will you continue to swipe left if you’re not interested.

READ: Tinder Adds Super Like Button to Nudge Your Digital Crush

All these questions and more on this episode of Huff Post Live.


For more on how to find love on Tinder, check out

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online and Mobile Dating Expert. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles coaching programs. For more dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Tinder Adds Super Like Button to Nudge Your Digital Crush

Tinder LikeTinder users now have a better way to get noticed by someone who’s been busy swiping right and left.

The new Tinder “Super Like” option appears as a turquoise star on the lower right hand side of your screen. Before you get in a swiping frenzy on a profile, think long and hard. Tinder users get only one “Super Like” a day. Tinder Plus users, their paid premium service allows you to have five “Super Like” matches a day.

Read: Swipe Regret on Tinder?

According to the Tinder blog, users are three times more likely to match with someone they Super Like and conversations initiated by a Super Like last 70% longer.

How it works is, when you see a potential match, click on the Super Like icon and if you haven’t been matched yet, the blue star will hopefully get your potential date to think about it and to swipe right. If it’s a mutual match, your match will know that you more than like them.

READ: Cyber Love Story: They Met on Tinder

Tinder Plus members will notice that the Passport icon has disappeared. No need to fret. You can still search in other cities, by viewing the Discovery option.

Check out their cool video on how Tinder Plus works.

Happy Swiping!

For more on how you can find your dream date on Tinder, check our

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and helps singles shorten their search while looking for love online and from their mobile phones.

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Hello October!

Hello October -Cyber Dating ExpertHello October!

I’m so happy you’re here.

It seems like this summer sped by like lightning in a thunderstorm.

It’s time to welcome one of my favorite months of the year, October. According to a Gallup Poll reported by the Today Show, May and October rank as the top two months of the year.

I love October, as the weather is still warm in Los Angeles and the leaves are turning colors in other cities around the country. It’s time for adventure, weekend getaways and thinking about love. After all, who wouldn’t want to fall in love this fall?

October is a time where we start to think about the holidays, change our wardrobes, and start to fill our calendars with regular activities that took a break in the summer. It’s also one of the flirtiest months of the year as we celebrate Halloween. We have some fun costume ideas to bring out your inner flirt.


Also in October, we start to think about Thanksgiving and what we’re grateful for all the good we have happening in our lives.

Here are Cyber-Dating Expert headquarters, we love to share our success stories and we have two couples we’ve worked with who are getting married in October in fairy-tale weddings and another couple who are moving in together. Does online dating work? You bet! It’s been fun going to bridal showers in September for these October brides!

So as we reflect on the summer romances we might have had and think about what is in store for us this fall, I encourage you to fill your date cards, think about the possibilities of attracting a great love in your life, and if you’re dating someone special, take a plunge and put all ten toes in. Have a profile deleting party just for the two of you and toast to your new relationship status.

If you’ve taken a break from online dating, it’s time to reactivate your profile. Try a new mobile dating app to speed up your search and let us help you with your quest.

On our end, October is always a big month for us. It’s our Anniversary month of the launch of and we’ll be celebrating our 7th anniversary with some special offers and the announcement of the audio book version of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. After spending two full days in a Hollywood studio recording the audio book, we’re now in post-production. All I can say is, wait until you read the never-been-released Epilogue! It will also include an audio bonus with the newest dating advice to help you while looking for love online and on your mobile phones.

Regardless of your relationship status, embrace the month of October. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

As always, we wish you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo

Julie and the Cyber-Dating Expert team.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of the Internet and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Do you need some hand-holding? Learn more about how our Irresistible Profiles can help you find your dream date and how Swiping Right can speed up your search on mobile apps such as Tinder and Hinge.

OkCupid – How to Search for a User

OkCupid User NameOur friends at OkCupid had a bit of a digital facelift recently.  Among the changes to help you find love online more quickly, you might notice that you no longer can search for someone by their username anymore.

A recent study showed that LOVE is the number one most popular search term for single searching on OkCupid. But what if you suddenly can’t find his or her profile anymore?

While they’ve refined the site to help you browse for matches more easily,  taking a peek at that cute hunk or hottie that you have a digital crush on might be a little bit more difficult.

If you’re wondering how to find his or her Internet dating profile, the good news is you can still browse and search for a user, but getting there is a bit more complicated.

Here’s how to find a profile on OkCupid based on the username:

1. Log onto OkCupid on your desktop.

2.  Click on your profile thumbnail on the top right hand side of the screen.


3. A drop down box will appear, where you can select “Find a User.”


4.  Type in the user’s name in the box where it says search by username.

Ok Cupid Username

5.  If their profile is active, it will appear and you can now click on their profile.

To make it simpler, type in this URL below in your browser while logged on to OkCupid.  It will take you directly to the “Find a User” page. Remember, unless you’re an “A List” where you can browse anonymously, or are using the new Incognito premium feature, which hides your profile from being viewed by users who you haven’t liked or messaged, users will see that you recently visited their online dating profile.

Are you using OkCupid? What do you think of the recent changes to their site?

To find out more about how to create an Irresistible Profile to find your dream date, visit

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For more online and mobile dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.






How Does Tinder Work? Julie Spira Reveals on KABC

How does Tinder work

Listen to the Peter Tilden Show on KABC Radio in Los Angeles, with solo guest host Lisa Guerrero, who asked me to join in to help her navigate the waters of Tinder dating. Lisa said she is happily married, so she’s not a part of the Tinder generation and mobile dating apps. It was a fun and interesting conversation.

Some of the questions about online dating and mobile dating included:

LISA: Vanity Fair wrote a juicy recent article on Tinder and the hookup culture. What in the world is a tinder hookup culture and why is it ruining romance?

JULIE: Some people think it’s ruining romance, but it comes down to everyone’s swiping.  We’re living in a swiping world. Everyone is swiping right and left on Tinder as a “hot or not” like a game to keep playing.

LISA: So someone gets this app and through this app they can see their picture and decide whether to swipe right or left and decide to connect with that person or dump them. Apparently what this Is this generation hooking up?

RELATED: Cyber Love Story – They Met on Tinder

JULIE: It’s easier to hook up because you go onto your mobile phone, a location-based app. You can find someone a few miles away and boom you’ve got a date.

LISA: In the VF story it’s reported 100 million people are using mobile apps with 50 million on Tinder. The Tinder blog reports 25 million matches a day.

JULIE: It’s huge. The numbers are enormous. Just because they are swiping doesn’t mean they’re meeting IRL. If you don’t take your relationship offline, you just have a digital pen-pal or someone you’re texting with.

RELATED: Has the Tinder Hookup Culture Ruined Romance?

LISA: So Julie, if I’m on a bar and I’m single, I can see the possibilities of people who want to
meet me.

JULIE: As long as you’re a mutual match. If I swipe right, the guy’s got to swipe right too and then you get a push notification that you have a mutual match and can start sending texts to each other.

LISA: This is based simply on links. Your only impression of the person is their picture, right?

JULIE: For men, it’s based on looks and they don’t even read the profile. They just keep swiping right as it’s a numbers game. Women tend to be more methodical. They look at profiles before they decide to swipe right or left.

RELATED: Swipe Regret on Tinder?

LISA: Back in the olden dates, things moved really slow. You went on dates and went from first-base to second-base. What I’m understanding on Tinder, if that a guy is interested he sends [naked] picks. Julie do you think this is a short term way of meeting people or can you find a long term relationship?

JULIE: A lot of people looking for a relationship are also going on Tinder.
There will always be people looking to hookup and always people looking for love. They’re both playing in the same digital playground now.

KABC producer Miriam tried Tinder for 2 weeks to get an idea for the sake of the show. She shared with us her experience that if you swipe to the right is yes, swipe to the left is a loser.

“It’s really scary what these guys are putting on their profiles. They really are looking to hook up. They’re specific in their chats,” she said.  Miriam wanted to meet specifically for a coffee date with a guy. Then he says, “Why don’t you meet me at my apartment.

For the rest of the radio segment, click below.

For more on how to find love on Tinder, check out and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the founder of and was an early adopter of the Internet. Julie’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years and from the convenience of mobile dating apps.  Sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and share your Tinder dating stories.

Cyber Love Story, Matt and Allee – They Met on Tinder

Cyber Love Story - Matt and AlleeMeet Matt and Allee who met on Tinder. Read, in Matt’s words, about their cyber love story and how “Swiping Right” led to his dream girl.

MATT: I met my girlfriend on Tinder.

Now, I know what you’re probably thinking. ‘Wow, that relationship must be solid if you met on a site like Tinder.’ Frankly, I don’t blame you. Up until about six months ago, I would have responded the exact same way. But Allee and I are living proof that you can find love on Tinder.

Before signing up in January of this year, I had never used any online dating sites, so you can probably imagine my skepticism. I had moved to Los Angeles only three months prior, and to that point had been wildly unsuccessful with dating. I’ve always been a gregarious, outgoing guy, and as a professional journalist and former TV and radio reporter, I’ve never thought myself to be lacking in the charisma department, so conventional ways of meeting people seemed to me much more opportune and much less shallow than some mobile app that asks you to judge someone based on your first impression of a photo.

I quickly found myself addicted to swiping in directions both left and right, and even more so to seeing the words “It’s A Match!” flash across my screen. When I first saw Alexandra (Allee) on Tinder, I’ll admit, I swiped right because I thought she was sexy. I swiped right, but got no response in the days that followed. During that time, I went out with a couple of girls, also from Tinder, but none that made me think “Wow, she’s girlfriend material.” Maybe a week after I had first swiped right, I got a notification saying that Alexandra and I matched.

I’m not sure why, but a voice in my head said ‘Message her! Now, you idiot!” I took a quick glance at her profile, which began “Independent. Sales Secretary. Sass queen.” I led with this:

Tinder message

Over the days that followed, Allee and I messaged constantly via Tinder. We would message each other ‘Good morning!’ every day before work and “Goodnight!’ every night before bed. I explained to Allee that I was unsure what I was looking for, because my previous girlfriend had left me abruptly, after a three year relationship, so she could explore other options in men. Allee told me she had reservations as well, because she’d been taken advantage of many times in the past. Despite my skepticism, there was something inexplicably magnetic about her personality, and I knew I had to at least give it a shot.

We continued to text and eventually made plans for dinner and a movie the following weekend, just before Valentine’s Day. Doing my best to quell my nerves when I arrived at the front door, I knocked and was greeted by a stunning, curvy blonde with a bright smile, kind eyes, and an infectious laugh. We were able to skip most of the formalities and awkwardness, since despite it being our first meeting, I felt like I knew so much about her from texting back and forth in the days prior.

The plan was to hit my preferred sushi joint, but as my luck would have it, the restaurant was closed for a private party. After having a laugh at my expense, we found a suitable substitute and bonded over our love of raw fish and Bradley Cooper films, and I regressed to a high school kid with butterflies in his stomach when she laid her head on my shoulder during the movie. We shared our first kiss that night on her doorstep. We made plans to meet again the following weekend, and went out on an impromptu Valentine’s Day date for Italian food and The Spongebob Movie: Sponge Out of Water (which we obviously loved).

Allee and I have now been together for more than half a year. We see each other several times a week, and enjoy going to baseball games, eating sushi, and going on hikes around L.A. with Allee’s German Shepard, Hazel. Allee is a thoughtful, selfless, hilarious, and generous woman. She makes me want to be the best version of myself but wouldn’t change a thing about me if you asked her. I often ask myself (and sometimes her too) what I did to deserve this. We’re incredibly happy together, and while no one can predict the future, we are planning to be that way for the foreseeable future.

The moral of the story? You never know unless you swipe (right).

Congratulations to Matt and Allee on finding their match on Tinder.

Do you have an online dating story to share? Send us your story and we might feature YOU in our Cyber Love Story series.

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and is the founder of Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene and helps them find love on Tinder with  For more dating advice,  sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

How Do You Use Tinder? Julie Spira on KPCC

TinderThe article on Vanity Fair about Tinder resulted in a #TinderMeltdown, when the mobile app lashed back out at writer Nancy Jo Sales. The story went viral with thirty-or-so tweets from Tinder defending their position of helping singles also find love online, and not just as a hookup app.

The point is, there’s a little bit of everything going on relationship-wise online and offline.

RELATED: Swipe Regret? There’s Help for Men

From hook-ups to marriage, soul mates to bed mates, there’s a mobile app for you.

As a guest on  AirTalk with Larry Mantle on NPR’s KPCC, we talked about this story, Tinder dating, and heard from a variety of men and women who are using Tinder who shared their experiences.

RELATED: Has the Tinder Hookup Culture Ruined Romance

To listen to the rebroadcast, click here

Do you have a Tinder story to share? Please post your comments here.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of the Internet and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and find out how Swiping Right can help you find your dream date.

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