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Top Online Dating Profile Words in U.S.

Online Dating Profile WordsWhat do you learn from joining 21 online dating sites? This in-depth study of a list of the top online dating profile words used by single daters in major cities in the U.S.  was a huge project to take on.

In Business Insider, writer Dana Varinsky details the research from artist, composer, professor of digital media and now a well-versed online dater R. Luke Dubois to highlight the top dating profile words in ten cities. Varinsky downloaded 19 million dating profiles, so we know he didn’t go on a dating frenzy, but the results of his research are a digital eye-opener.

So if you’re planning on changing your zip code, check this article out.

Varinsky downloaded dating profiles and created graphs of the following cities:

  • Los Angeles, CA – Lingerie, Booty, Spanking, Screenwriter
  • Washington, DC – Paraguay, Estonia, Kashmiri, Political, Journalist, Socially
  • Boston, MA – People, Drinks, Laugh, Sox
  • New York, NY – Now, Taxi, Photography, Brunch, Hipsters, Urbane, DJ,
  • Houston, TX – Rich
  • San Francisco, CA – Bisexual, Homosexual, Lesbian, Queer, Robot, Digitized
  • Detroit, MI – Automotive, Machine, GM, Graduating, Companionship, Dope
  • Anchorage, AK – Outdoorsy, Nippy, Berries, Corsair
  • Jackson, MS – Conservative, Cornbread, Baptist
  • Chicago, IL – Companionate, Gravitated

According to Business Insider, Dubois used 10 computers and took three months to compile his data in a project called, “A More Perfect Union.”  In essence, he created his own online dating version of singles based using keywords from profiles instead of the cities in the U.S. Census report.

While some of these might not surprise you, others might just make you want to change your zip code.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been coaching singles on finding love online for two decades. Julie’s the author of the bestseller The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene.

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I Love New York




As a former east coast girl, buzzing around New York City brought back many memories. After an energizing first week, I spent a relaxing weekend in Westchester County visiting close friends. I was notified that we’d be taking a “field trip” to Woodbury Commons. Even out in Los Angeles, women brag about their east coast trips to New York, which include a few Broadway shows and a drive to the famous Woodbury Commons Outlet Mall. With both high-end designer labels as well as affordable bargains for all, we braved the trip to this famous shopping spot on Memorial weekend. It appeared there was no recession in site, as visitors had to park miles away and ride on a shuttle bus to spend their hard earned dollars.

Riding on the train back to Grand Central Station was scenic as well. I gazed at the scenic Hudson River before the arrival and frenzy of BookExpo America, the largest get together for the publishing industry.

On Tuesday, I was a guest on FOX News Strategy Room hosted by Rick Leventhal. My friend, Andrea Syrtash joined me on the set as we talked about online dating and gave tips to viewers. You can check out our feed at We headed over to Lord & Taylor afterwards for week two of Dating Boot Camp, hosted by Matt Titus & Tamsen Fadal. There’s two weeks left of the four-week program. If you are in New York, head over on Tuesday night. You’ll have a great time.

I was even more digitally challenged this week as my USB modem split in half, my BlackBerry charger disappeared, and I had to make a special trip to the Verizon Wireless store. Life on the road can be challenging when you are blogging on a daily basis.

On Wednesday, the Pre-BEA festivities officially began with the Writers Digest Conference. I met with many of the top Literary Agents during the Pitch-fest and later in the evening joined my friends and authors, Robin Sax and Stacy Dittrich at Peter Miller’s PMA Roar Load and Proud party at FROG. Afterwards, we went for a champagne toast where they sang “Happy Birthday” to me at midnight.

Thursday morning, I celebrated my birthday with the KISS-FM Wake Up Club’s morning team of Raquiyah and Talent and gave them some tips on cyber-dating before heading to Author-101, put on by my publisher, Rick Frishman. ?I went over to the Javits Center just in time for the Keynote Opener with Clarence Clemons, author of the new book, Big Man due out this fall.?The E-Street Band’s saxophonist treated us to a solo of Jungleland as he shared the pain he felt when he was notified on the phone that the E-Street Band had split up. Fortunately for Clarence, he was with Ringo Starr in Tokyo at the time, and Ringo told the Big Man, “I know how you feel.” Aerosmith’s Steven Tyler was also on stage talking about his book, Does the Noise in My Head Bother You?

Later that evening, I stopped by the Yale Club for a reception hosted by Literary Agent, Bill Gladstone, who had copies of his new book, which is scheduled to be released in October. After a birthday dinner in Gramercy Park, I can actually say I celebrated the day in style in the greatest city in the world. On my last day in town, I celebrated the 100th anniversary of the 59th Street Bridge.? I am pleased to report that I still do love the great city of New York.

Julie Spira is an author, entrepreneur, cyber-dating expert, and radio show host. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. ?Visit her at