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Are you looking for a holiday gift or stocking stuffer this year for your single friends? Pick up a copy of the online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

This tell-all memoir spans 15 years and is a witty and heartfelt romantic story of the quest to find love in cyberspace. The book’s message is about authenticity, never settling, and staying optimistic even during the most difficult times. Is there a happy ending? You’ll have to read the book to find out.

Here’s what they are saying about The Perils of Cyber-Dating

?Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book.?

~ Joan Rivers
Comedienne and Best Selling Author

?It?s like Sex and The City in a Web 2.0 World.?

~E. Jean Carroll
Columnist,??Ask E. Jean? Elle Magazine

?This book is a must for this generation of singles, both male and female, who are into cyber-dating. It is possible to find someone if you know the rules.?

~ Dane Robert Swanson
Santa Monica Daily Press

The Perils of Cyber-Dating gives hope to singles that they can successfully meet someone online.?

~ Dr. Pat Allen
Author of the best-seller of?Getting to ?I Do?

?Thank goodness there are still hopeful romantics left in this world!?

~ Cheryl Woodcock
Producer and Correspondent, Entertainment Tonight-The Insider

This book is your must-have navigation guide to help you safely travel through the perilous landscape of cyber-dating. Plus, Spira?s personal stories are a hoot and a half!?

~ Diane Dimond
Journalist and Author

?Julie Spira tells a compelling story, shares intimate moments, and transforms her experience into means of larger good.?

~ Veronica De Laurentiis
Best-selling Author of?Rivoglio La Mia Vita

To purchase a copy of the book or for media inquiries, visit

Cyber Monday Gift from Cyber-Dating Expert


The Perils of Cyber-Dating

Thank you for visiting Cyber-Dating If you are reading this today, you will know that Cyber Monday has come and gone.

There was an overwhelming amount of requests from readers to take advantage of the Cyber Monday special, where I was offering *Free* copies of my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

The Cyber Monday promotion is now over. The link has sadly retired.

However, you can still purchase a copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating at a discount of 32% OFF on and be entertained and enriched.

I have also decided to extend the special promotion of 20% off IRRESISTIBLE Profiles? through December 15th. Don’t you want an IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile?

What is an IRRESISTIBLE Profile and how do you get one?

I have spent 15 years perfecting the art of creating an IRRESISTIBLE Profile and will be sharing my secrets with you to create a custom profile guaranteed to increase your odds of finding quality dates online.

If you sign up today, you will save 20% off the price of an IRRESISTIBLE Profile targeted to help you find the man or woman of your dreams. If you are already in a relationship, an IRRESISTIBLE Profile will make a great stocking stuffer.

‘Tis the season to be in love. Over 40 million singles have visited online dating sites. I’ll help you find the one, just for you. Don’t wait until Tuesday, as the link for the free gift will sadly expire.

If you are interested in private coaching, today only you will receive 20% off coaching packages saving you up to $1500!

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There’s still time to find your dream date before the holidays. Don’t delay as this offer will not be extended.

MatchMatrix Radio Show

Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira will be a featured guest on the MatchMatrix Radio Show on Monday, November 23, 2009.

Julie will be a guest with hosts Frank Seifert and Larry Michel and will be talking about her online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating. She’ll be discussing the ins, outs, ups, down, and ultimately the steps to success in finding love in an online dating site.

You’ll learn the following:

  • Why some profiles get thousands of responses while others do not.
  • The dos and don’ts for online dating profile photos
  • How to create a catchy screen name

Call in at (646) 595-4511 at 9pm Eastern Time/8pm Central Time/6pm Pacific Time with your questions, or listen online at MatchMatrix on the Law of Attraction Radio Network.

Dating Advice – 5 Reasons She Won’t Call You Back


Too often I hear men complaining that women won’t respond to their online dating profile or call them back. They get frustrated and take down their cyberdating profile without realizing what they have done wrong.

Here are my top 5 reasons why your email may end up in the trash bin and ways for you to correct it.

1. No Profile Photo. It’s fine for a woman to be a bit mysterious, but women do not view your missing photo as a challenge. They will think you are hiding something or are hideous looking. Upload your photo if you want to increase ?your response rate.

2. Suggesting a Late Night Date. I know of a gentleman who left a voicemail for a woman he had written to three weeks earlier. The message said that he’d be in her neighborhood “tonight” and would like to meet at “9:00 pm.” Regardless of what he was doing earlier in the evening, she pushed delete and conveniently lost his number. If you are interested in meeting someone, a first date shouldn’t start at 9:00pm. A woman will likely surmise that someone else was for dinner, and she would be dessert. Suggest a mutually convenient time or she will assume you are her booty call.

3. Repeat Offender. You found the perfect profile among the millions of single women online. ?You write to her. She doesn’t respond within 24 hours. You write again the next day and ask her why she didn’t write back. Patience is a virtue and the best things in life are worth waiting for. Some singles are just busy with work or other activities and don’t log on daily. A woman will consider you needy and put you on the bottom of her list. If you really think she is worth pursuing, wait a week or two and write again.

4. You Wrote a Novel. Statistically, shorter profiles get read more often. If you compile a lengthy tale of your entire life story and your dream date, it’s a turn-off to most women. Novels are made for publishing houses. A profile should be a snapshot to pique her curiosity.

5. The Ex-Factor. If you graduate to a phone call from someone you met online, don’t ask questions about her previous relationships or complain about your difficult divorce. Keep your first conversation light and get a date on the calendar.

For more information on how to create an IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile, contact us at

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Julie Spira Provides Online Dating Tips on E!

Watch THAT Morning Show on E!, where I was a featured guest talking about online dating.

I joined co-host Karla Cavalli and provided some dating advice from my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Enjoy the segment where you will learn how to spot the red flags in an online dating profile and hear some of my dating tips for successful cyberdating.

Julie Spira to Appear on E! Television




Los Angeles, CA (October 26, 2009) Cyber-Dating Expert and author, Julie Spira will be appearing on the E! Entertainment television program, THAT Morning Show.

Spira will be sharing her top cyberdating tips from her online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Spira helps singles navigate the online dating world to attract the love they truly want and helps single spot the red flags before it’s too late.

Spira’s guest appearance will be on Friday, November 6, 2009. The program airs at 6:00am – 9:00 am and is also available online.

For more information go to

WNBA Reads Its Own at Book Soup


Join me on Sunday, October 18, 2009 along with 11 other authors for a very special in-store event at Book Soup. Select members of the Women’s National Book Association’s Los Angeles chapter will gather to read excerpts from their published books.

I will be there at 7:00pm, reading portions of my online dating memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Book Soup is located at 8818 Sunset Boulevard, West Hollywood, CA 310-659-3110

Scheduled Authors:

Brenda Adelman,?My Brooklyn Hamlet;?Diana Aylward,32 Ways To Raise Your Frequency;?Jay Balter,?Forgiving Nuremberg;?Zane Buzby,?The Survivor Mitzvah Project;?Ruth Klein,?De-Stress Diva’s Guide to Life, Time Management for Working Women;Sharmagne Leland-St. John (A Little Hawk),?Unsung Songs;Pamela Philips Oland,?The Art of Writing Great Lyrics;?Paul Ryan,?The Art of Comedy;?Estherleon Schwartz,?Tears of Stone;Joyce Schwarz,?The Vision Board;?Julie Spira,?The Perils of Cyber-Dating;?Lisa-Catherine Cohen, your moderator,?I’ll Love You Unconditionally, IF…. `

Book Review – SHE KNOWS


Book Review: The Perils of Cyber-Dating


by Margeaux Baulch Klein

Author Julie Spira encounters every breed of man in her new tell-all memoir, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

Online since 1994, Spira is a self-proclaimed internet dating pioneer, having gone on over 250 blind dates, receiving several marriage proposals and then marrying (and later divorcing) someone she met online. Spira has turned her dating horror stories and romantic journeys, both the good, bad, and, quite literally, ugly into a witty memoir that every woman whose ever dipped her toe into the online dating pool will appreciate.

For starters, Spira compares a woman’s online dating profile to a real estate listing:

“In real estate, the first week that your house in on the market is important because if it’s priced correctly, professionally staged, and marketed well, it generates a lot of leads. Hopefully a qualified buyer will show.”

She also offers a “Top Ten Rules of Cyber Dating Netiquette” in Chapter 9 that is one of the best parts of the book. Here are a few tips she endorses:


Don’t knock-off more than 5-10 pounds off of your weight or 5-10 years off of your age on your dating profile. “It’s always best to be authentic and tell the truth,” she says, “but anything more than that is just too noticeable. You will find yourself meeting someone who won’t be so happy to see you.” In her list of common profile definitions, she also notes that if a man lists his age as 40-something, it means that he’s a 50-something who wants a 30-year-old female.


Don’t Google a potential date before having the opportunity to see if there is a connection.?Partly due to her own embarrassment over a New York Times wedding announcement that she wishes didn’t come up when people searched for her, Spira believes that it’s too easy to misconstrue or jump to an incorrect conclusion about a piece of information without knowing its context.


A man should not suggest sharing an appetizer on the first date, nor should he meet his date for coffee without the intention of ordering a beverage.” Spira hates cheap men.


Don’t discuss ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands, or anything to do with body parts, extramarital affairs, and long lost loves on a first date. Spira declares that information should be rationed over the course of getting to know someone.


Don’t cyber-fight. Although it’s tempting to hit ‘send’ and launch an angry missive into cyberspace, Spira recommends sleeping on any upset or hurt feelings. “When in doubt, pick up the phone to get that real connection,” she says.

Even after two failed marriages and four engagements, Spira believes in remaining a “hopeful romantic.” She is still in search of her happily ever after.

For more info on The Perils of Cyber-Dating, visit

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Book Review – Date Daily

Book Review, The Perils of Cyber Dating
By Julie Spira
By DateDaily Staff

Online dating has become the norm for many people seeking a soul mate. With full-time jobs and the like, it’s hard to devote every weekend to finding the perfect person. That’s why Julie Spira wrote The Perils of Cyber Dating.

The book is so interesting you’ll probably read The Perils of Cyber-Dating in one day. From the second I picked it up, I knew it was going to be an interesting read. I was sucked in right away. Julie Spira has a way of describing her experiences that makes the reader feel like they were there with her, experiencing her feelings. You’ll laugh at times and open your mouth in amazement at others.

Although Julie Spira offers up a real-life guide to help others who want to get their feet wet in online dating via stories that might send others running in the other direction, her objective is to help readers hone their skills on the World Wide Web and come out unscathed.

Having experienced over 250 dates in almost 15 years, some marriage proposals and a divorce to boot, Julie Spira takes readers on her journey, which started in the mid ?90s.

From the “Investment Banker” to the “Plastic Surgeon,” Julie Spira allows us to be that fly on the wall as she vividly describes her dating experiences. But that
is not all Julie Spira does; she also provides us with her “Rules of Netiquette.”

Some of the Netiquette rules include:

The Google Rule – Don’t tell your date that you did a Google search before the first date.  She was Googled by a date and learned more about herself than she even knew.

The Body Parts Rule – Don’t discuss body parts. One date went into great detail about a colonoscopy that he had while they were eating lunch.

So if you’re a single looking for love online without much success, use Julie Spira’s The Perils of Cyber Dating as your guide to get over some of your worst dates and to look at online dating as an adventure, rather than yet another chore.

Highly recommended for both men and women.

Julie Spira Signs Foreign Rights Agreement for The Perils of Cyber-Dating


Cyber-Dating Expert and radio show host, Julie Spira’s online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online to be presented at the Frankfurt Book Fair.

Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) August 26, 2009 — Spira, recently signed to Columbine Communications & Publications for foreign rights representation, will be featured in their successful Foreign Rights Program at the Frankfurt Book Fair on October 14 – 18, 2009.

Cyber-Dating Expert, Julie Spira shares her hilarious, heartfelt, and witty stories in this romantic memoir about dating in the 21st century.

Online dating is a hot topic. The book highlights Spira’s 15 years of online dating from an Internet industry pro. With her rules of netiquette she empowers singles in the dating scene to try online dating.

The Perils of Cyber-Dating is endorsed by comedienne, Joan Rivers; Elle magazine columnist, E. Jean Carroll; Dr. Pat Allen, the relationship expert that Oprah Winfrey calls “Mother Comic Superior,” and Entertainment Tonight’s special correspondent, Diane Dimond.

Spira hosts the weekly radio show, “Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert” and is the LA Dating Advice Examiner. She has appeared on FOX News, BBC Radio, Crains New York Business, Cosmopolitan magazine’s radio show “Cosmolicious” and numerous other media outlets for her expertise in the field of online dating.

Bob Erdmann, President of Columbine Communications & Publications has been in the publishing industry for a half-century. He has represented U.S. authors at the largest book industry conference in Frankfurt, Germany for 30 years. The growth of Internet dating is dramatically increasing world-wide. Spira’s stories can be related to globally by singles looking for love.

For more information and to make an appointment, contact:
Columbine Communications & Publications
Bob Erdmann bob(at)bob-erdmann(dot)com

Frankfurt Book Fair: Hall 8.0, Stand N-935
Cyber-Dating Expert, LLC
Julie Spira – julie(at)CyberDatingExpert(dot)com
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