While singles aspire to have a unique and memorable first date (after all, he or she could be ‘the one’), more often than not, someone you will meet on an online dating site or mobile dating app will ask you to get together for the default date of “drinks” or “coffee.”
While meeting someone at a happy hour, could advance to dinner, what do you do if you don’t drink alcohol? Should you fake it, or order a “mocktail?”
In polling over 8,000 online daters and analyzing over 100,000 messages, dating app Zoosk asked these questions and more for this Drinking Study.
Some of their findings show that singles are drinking big time on dates, with the majority, 72% consuming alcohol.
Since 1/3 of singles are non-drinkers, and it can help relax you if you’re nervous about a date, how does dating sans alcohol affect their dating lives?
No one should feel pressured at all on a first, date, but the Zoosk Drinking Study found that 10% of singles actually pretended to sip an alcoholic drink while on a date.
How do singles really feel about drinking on a date?
- A majority of singles (92%) order their first drink before their date arrives.
- A majority of singles (73%) believe meeting for drinks makes a good first date.
- Over half of singles (55%) think two (2) drinks should be the maximum on a date.
- Mentioning “sparkling wine” in your online dating profile or message increases your response rate by 29%.
All of this pressure to drink to feel more relaxed on date isn’t that necessary.
The study found that almost a third of non-drinkers find it more difficult to date when they didn’t drink, but it’s not all doom-and-gloom.
A majority of drinking singles (86%) say they’d date a non-drinker, and non-drinkers (81%) are open to dating those who drink alcohol.
What’s the solution?
If you feel the pressure to order a beverage, and you’re not interested in getting a buzz, try ordering kombucha, ginger ale, tonic and water, cranberry and soda, iced-tea, or an espresso.
Or, in the alternative, suggest a fun outing or daytime date that doesn’t include alcohol.
We’ve got plenty to choose from here.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over two decades with her Irresistible Profiles programs.
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One of our favorite online dating sites, OkCupid has partnered with the ACLU for a #RighttoLove Badge to show their support of ACLU, inclusion in honor of Pride month.
As reported on the OkCupid blog, 90% 0f OkCupid users who answered the YES to the question,”Do you support the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU)?” will receive the badge.
Also, OkCupid will be donating $1 for each user who adds the badge to their profile, up to $50,000.
Ariel Charytan, CEO of OkCupid says on their blog, “Nothing is more attractive than people who believe in every individual’s #RightToLove who they want to love.”
The site reports a 64% Increase in Political Terms on Dater’s Profiles in 2018, and we see similar sentiments and trends at Cyber-Dating Expert, with singles swiping left on Trump supporters, or making politics a deal-breaker for dating.
The conversation about politics on OkCupid is working, as they report profiles that included politics are, “52% more likely to have mutual likes and 78% more likely to have a successful conversation than members who do not.”
Charytan adds, “At OkCupid, we’re proud to be a champion of inclusivity because we believe you should be able to love whomever you want, regardless of your gender, sexual orientation, or ethnicity.”
Interesting stats on daters who support the ACLU include:
- They’re 4 times more likely to consider themselves feminist (and are looking to dating a feminist)
- They’re 2 times as likely to have responded “hell no” to the question,”Trump?”
- They’re 30 times more likely to believe in climate change.
Melissa Hobley, chief marketing officer at OkCupid, tells Refinery29, “LGBTQ communities using political filters on OkCupid comes from the feeling that their rights are under attack by the current presidential administration.” Hobley adds, “Many folks don’t want to have the experience of talking to someone, going on a date, only to find that they voted for Trump — because the stakes are very high.”
Every OkCupid user who answered the question of “do you support the ACLU” will receive the badge on their profile.
OkCupid was the first dating app to offer 22 gender and 12 orientation options on their users profiles.
If you’re’ a member of OkCupid, click here to answer the question and to receive the badge.
At Cyber-Dating Expert, we believe in inclusion and love for all. We constantly track the trends of politics and dating. We know the importance of finding a date with similar attitudes and values, and are proud of the dating industry as they address these issues.
Julie Spira is and award-winning dating coach and America’s Top Online Dating Expert . She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been coaching singles on finding love online for almost 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs. As a political dating expert, Julie’s now writing her third book, Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships.
Meet Melissa and Ross, who found love on Match.
When Melissa first came to me, she was nervous about hiring a dating coach, and just became single for the first time in 20 years. She was actually terrified of trying online dating for the first time.
We created her Irresistible Profile on Match, had a super-fun photo shoot, and went live her dating profile with the headline of “LA Farm Girl.”
Melissa loves animals, had lived on a ranch, and as a single mom of two teenage kids, needed to find someone who was devoted to his family like she was.
Ross, whose screen name was “Dog Lover” wrote to Melissa within a few days of her profile going live.
His first message said, “You are beautiful and too beautiful to be on Match.”
He asked, “Is that what you really look like?”
Melissa replied with, “I sure hope so. I just took the photos last week.”
Before she met Ross, Melissa went on three dates to build up her confidence and get out of her shell. “It felt a bit overwhelming,” she said.
As Melissa and Ross continued to chat, they both realized they had much more than pets and children in common. Both had coincidentally attended the University of Southern California (USC) at the same time, were both enrolled in the communications program, and lived two houses apart. It was hard to believe that they had never met while in college.
Then one day, Ross sent her a message on Match and asked, “Are you done meeting these weirdos and ready to give me a chance?”
Melissa felt a connection with him and started doing her due diligence to vet Ross to make sure he was the real deal. One of her friends told her that Ross was a terrific attorney. Another friend of hers said they had built Ross’s house, and that their children went to school together.
“Everyone said wonderful things about him,” says Melissa.
Because they knew so many people in common, she felt safe about having him pick her up for their first date.
By the time they met, Melissa said they both felt like they had known each other forever.
For their first date, Ross arrived with roses, wine, and they went to dinner, where they felt a warm connection right away. “He was a real gentleman,” says Melissa.
“I knew when I saw your picture and when I heard your voice from the first conversation, that you were ‘the one,'” says Ross.
They quickly introduced their kids to each other, met each other’s families, and now realize they are each other’s forever.
Congratulations to Melissa and Ross, our online dating success couple, who proves that the big world-wide-web can make you feel like you’re at home when the right one comes along.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and an award-winning dating coach. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs.
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In a study over over 100,000 dating profiles conducted by online dating site Zoosk, they found the majority (91%) of singles really do care about the environment, with 58% who said dating someone who cares about being eco-friendly an attractive quality. We feel the same and you hope you do too.
In the Zoosk Earth Day study, they asked 5,100 singles about their love for the environment, along with ecological attitudes about those they’d be interested in dating.
Nix the Trash on Earth Day and Every Day
When it comes to trash, if you’re one who litters, you probably won’t get a second date.
The study showed that 74% find littering a deal-breaker, with 81% finding littering an annoying habit. So if you see garbage on the ground, it’s wise to pick it up and toss it away properly, as the survey revealed that 59% of singles say picking up litter is sexy.
Zoosk provided a list of eco-friendly words to add to your online dating profile to get a greater response.
The most popular words to start using now to generate a response on your dating profile include: reuse, organic, environment, farmers market, nature, earth, tree, forest, outdoors, hippie, plant, and wildlife.
Favorite Green Date Ideas
Thinking about suggesting an environmental-friendly date?
The most popular green date ideas that online daters like include: going to the beach, going on a picnic, stargazing, visiting a local farmers market, or going on a hike.
So it’s time to fill your date cards with those who care about our beautiful earth, as 78% of singles responded that they’d like to date someone who cares about the environment and 51% prefer to date someone who’s energy efficient.
Wishing you much love and joy on this Earth Day.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of Internet and mobile dating and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over two decades with her Irresistible Profiles dating programs.
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Just how happy are couples in 2018?
A new poll commissioned by eHarmony and led by Harris Interactive shows good news for millennial couples.
“The Happiness Index: Love and Relationships in America” of 1000 couples reveals that 64 percent of Americans are “very happy” in their romantic relationships, with a partner or spouse with almost half being happy with their sex lives as well.
For an online dating site that has the sole goal of creating couples for long term relationships or marriage, the news is good that love and intimacy are thriving.
I spoke with Jeannie Assimos, Vice President, Content for eHarmony, who said the quality of people is very high on their site. “The intention is for our members to be there and spend time and thought into it,” said Assimos. ” Our singles are invested in finding a relationship.”
With Over 70% logins on their mobile app, you no longer have to answer 250 questions as a member, however Assimos says the matches will be better if you answer more questions.
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How did eHarmony describe perfectly happy?
“Tend to be on their first marriage, and they married young (‘for love’) while being very well
acquainted with their spouse/partner prior to marriage … seemingly they spent time getting to know each other first. They are likely to be exactly the same age and share many interests.”
● More likely than average to be married
● Their relationship length is significantly shorter than average
● Married at a younger than average age but knew their spouse for longer than average
before they got married
● Much more likely than average to be their first marriage
● Standard reasons for marrying (most likely ‘for love’)
● More likely than average to be in love with their spouse/partner and satisfied with their
Things they do together as a couple
“They participate in lots of activities with their spouse/partner, and have a shared interest in sports and keeping fit. Despite having kids, they make time for their relationship with regular date nights and they are not shy about displaying their happiness, being more likely to hold hands than other couples.”
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● Team sports
● Gym/exercise classes
● Game nights
● Particularly likely to have regular date nights and hold hands when they are out together
So keep those date nights scheduled on your calendar, even if you’re taking turns cooking a romantic meal for each other.
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Should singles change their zip codes while looking for love online, or even take it further by moving to a more desirable state in the country?
A new study from WalletHub actually ranks all 50 states to determine the best and worst places for single daters.
The list breaks it down further into four categories.
- Overall Rank
- Dating Opportunities
- Dating Economics
- Romance & Fun
Digging deeper, the study shows the best states for online dating are:
- New Hampshire
The worst states for online dating are:
- New Mexico
- West Virginia
If you’re attached to your mobile phone and find yourself swiping left and right on mobile dating apps, the study shows a different digital picture.
The best states for mobile dating apps are:
- New Jersey
The worst states for mobile dating opportunities are:
- West Virginia
Overall, California ranks as number one on the list. Perhaps the sunshine, Rose Bowl, and Disneyland contributed to that score. Just behind California is Florida, with New York coming in at number three.
Arkansas ranked at the bottom of the list as the worst place for singles.
This list shows the top 10 ranked states in the country.
Is your state on this list?
This map below, highlights each state to see where they rank.
Click on your state to find out the overall rank, and think about casting a wider net while looking for love online.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs.
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I have a confession.
I’ve been hiding a secret and can no longer remain silent.
As a dating coach in the business of love, I saw first-hand the strain on people’s relationships — including mine — when Donald Trump ran for and eventually became president.
During the campaign, my long-term boyfriend and I were on opposite ends of the political spectrum. He was on the right, and I was on the left. Initially, this didn’t alarm me, but over time, the division began to tear us apart, putting our relationship to the test.
I now fear, in this current political climate, that President Trump has destroyed romance as it once existed.
Once upon a time — two decades ago — we lived the fairy tale.
We fell in love at first sight, and after several joyful years together, we went separate ways. I wanted marriage, and he wasn’t ready.
Eventually, we wed others and lost touch.
Then in 2015, both divorced, we found our way back through Facebook Chat, proving a love so strong could never die.
We began sending each other digital versions of photographs neither of us had tossed away. His albums had been stored in an attic, while mine collected dust in a garage.
“We should meet up for a long drink and catch up,” his message said one morning.
I thought about it and both hesitantly and nervously, I agreed.
The moment our familiar eyes locked, we instantly realized the spark was still there.
I was the woman he wasn’t allowed to speak of during his marriage, he explained. He was the one I often regretted letting go.
When his curated mix of love songs arrived in the mail, two hearts resealed, and we resumed our romantic journey toward a second chance at love.
“We have the greatest story,” he proudly announced to my girlfriends when we reunited. I felt the same.
Blissfully, we started merging our lives with music as our backdrop.
He accompanied me to the Walt Disney Concert Hall to watch Gustavo Dudamel conduct the Los Angeles Philharmonic. Looking handsome, he wore an Italian sports jacket, and his sparkling hazel eyes matched mine identically.
I went to the Stagecoach Country Music Festival with him, wearing my Stetson cowboy hat as we walked through miles of dust and hay.
We posted photos online of us looking deliriously happy.
After a decade and a half apart, we were, admittedly, different people with dissimilar lifestyles.
I was more of an urban girl who lived in Los Angeles and frequented the liberal desert city of Palm Springs. He lived in a post-divorce rental home one hour north of me in Ventura County and thrived in the ultra-conservative mountains of Northern Idaho.
“It’s just geography,” I thought, and as a couple, we seemed to co-exist in each other’s favorite places with ease.
“I’m sorry I never proposed to you back then,” he said one evening.
My heart instantly started to race. Was my boyfriend about to get down on one knee with a ring?
After a moment of silence, I secretly hoped we still had time.
Although he had a history of commitment issues, our renewed love was growing stronger every day. That was until the heated election season rolled in when our perfect relationship started to fray.
“I can’t take another four years of the Clintons,” he murmured while pouring himself a martini.
“Don’t tell me you’d vote for Trump,” I yelled, then lost my appetite.
Once a registered Democrat, during our time apart, my boyfriend shifted his support to the Republican Party. He also hated the fact that Hillary Clinton was running for president.
Throughout the campaign, people were taking sides, and the effects began to permeate the bedroom. Couples were splitting up in “you’re fired” style — basically, instantly and without warning.
The great political divide was crushing relationships, including ours.
In a time of angry accusations of “fake news,” I started feeling like I was living in an all-too-real, fake relationship.
I was in deep conflict, believing we were the poster couple for eternal love. I didn’t want our story to end, so I buttoned my lips when he brought up his anti-liberal rants, and rolled my eyes when he praised “The Donald.”
“Turn off the TV,” he insisted, as I watched the Democratic debates during our trip to the Florida Keys.
Real Time with Bill Maher was off-limits.
“Really? I asked. “I can’t watch one of my favorite talk shows?”
Instead, we settled on watching romantic comedies on demand, curled up together, as a form of truce.
When political coverage became a 24-hour reality show, I noticed his attitude and values contrasted sharply from mine. I believe in gun control and Obamacare, and he’s proud of his gun closet and supports the “big, beautiful wall.”
I thought we could just agree to disagree as my parents did, but it was clear our bipartisan relationship was in jeopardy.
For a woman with a big and public voice, I remained unusually quiet, with the hope that he’d calm down after the voting frenzy was over. Slowly, I started to pull away from him, and I felt him doing the same.
One month before Election Day, we officially became a long-distance couple. He moved to Las Vegas, and I stayed in Los Angeles. With 300 miles between us, and Trump looking over my shoulder, it was challenging to stay connected.
I visited him to see the Rolling Stones in concert. He came my way for Stevie Nicks.
Then Donald Trump surprised us both by winning the election.
Shortly after, with tensions still high, he escorted me to a Hollywood party where both of us arrived dressed in purple to represent unity during a combative time.
On Inauguration Day, my boyfriend couldn’t take his eyes off the television, and I couldn’t bear to watch. He was as excited with Trump’s swearing-in as he’d be if he scored an eagle on his favorite golf course.
Then I asked myself, “Could we survive Trump?”
Here I was, with a man who believed our country’s new leader was making America great again. Meanwhile, I checked Trump’s daily tweets, now the primary source of hard news, as my blood pressure rose.
It was clear my guy didn’t want a left-leaning girlfriend, and I couldn’t express my feelings freely.
Still, on Valentine’s Day, a few weeks later, my beloved curated the perfect 48-hour love fest, and the cloud of politics never made it to the bedroom.
He drove over four hours bringing me one dozen long-stemmed roses in a ruby-red vase, embellished with a crystal heart bracelet. We later dined at an ocean-view table at Shutters on the Beach hotel in Santa Monica, where two years earlier we had reunited.
Together, we posted photos of us on social media and still felt in love as we toasted, “to us.”
It was our last night together as a couple.
Three days later, we called it quits.
Since he’d moved out of state, I tried to convince myself distance caused the split, but it was differing politics and the associated party values that slowly killed us.
Our president became his new hero, and he mirrored the commander-in-chief’s beliefs and behavior. He wanted a polyamorous relationship, and I wanted a devoted partner. It crushed us, but much to my surprise, I wasn’t devastated.
During the time that our country became so polarized, we had changed. My emotions went from sad to mad, but eventually, I started to feel empowered, and my voice re-emerged.
After our romance ended, I decided it was time to look for someone on my side. Luckily, I quickly met a political junkie who lives in town online on Match. He listed himself as liberal in his dating profile, which was enough for me to click the reply button.
Our first date was at a harbor-view restaurant in the Marina. A good sport, he drove over an hour in heavy traffic from downtown LA, looking distinguished in a business suit and tie. I felt immediately at ease.
“Did you vote for Trump?” he asked.
“No,” I quickly replied, as we both sighed with relief.
It was a deal breaker for us both, and as we talked about our nation’s challenges, we clicked.
I admired my brilliant date for helping Dreamers, along with his belief in stronger gun control laws. We talked about Obamacare, tax reform, net neutrality, and immigration issues plaguing sanctuary cities.
Call me a sapiosexual, but his intellect was an aphrodisiac, and our conversations lasted for hours. The floodgates opened, and in time, so did my heart. Who knew that shared leanings and Saturday Night Live monologues could top a mutual desire for dark chocolate?
Because we were in sync, we advanced to a second date, then to a third, and by now, we’ve lost count.
Talking about politics in Trump’s America is important to me.
I worry about our country, but I don’t regret reuniting with my former beau. While I realize our deep history and unconditional love had brought us back together, it’s a huge relief not to have that burning question of “what if” circling inside my head.
However, love is conditional, with politics now residing atop the dating totem pole. As disappointed as I am with our president, I have him to thank for this realization.
And I learned a valuable lesson when my love life got “trumped.”
I’m now watching Bill Maher’s monologues in the arms of a man who appreciates my strong voice, and I am forever grateful to be heard.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s a bestselling author and the the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert. As an early adopter of Internet dating, Julie’s been coaching singles on finding love online for almost 25 years.
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It’s been one-year since Donald Trump took office, and singles are still dealing with the big political elephant in the room, our commander-in-chief and his tweets.
During the election, and in the aftermath since Trump became president, talking about politics has become critical when dating someone new, and to those within their existing relationships.
I recently wrote an essay, Can Love Survive Trump, where I revealed my big confession on how I struggled in my relationship with my long-term love. He had strong and vocal opposing views from mine when it came to politics.
As a dating coach, I believe I provide good dating advice on how to navigate the singles scene, even with politically opposite views. I also really believe in having a good debate. While coaching others on how to talk about politics on a date, I found I didn’t take my advice and kept silent about my complicated relationship status. I now feel liberated, and continue to coach and write about the great political divide.
Politics has become so divisive in dating, that conversations that start at the breakfast table end up on opposite sides in the bedroom. They often no longer include, “Sweet dreams” and a hug.
When one person walks in the Women’s March wearing a pink hat, and the other is jumping for joy about the new tax reform, it’s clear that talking about differing political views need to happen on the first date, if not sooner.
Dating Sites Weigh In
In a Match Singles in America study, they showed that talking about politics on a first date will result in a 91% chance of putting the second one on the calendar.
OkCupid found that 50% of its users won’t date someone with opposing political views. The site also found that users mentioning political words in their profiles increased by more than 1000% from 2015 to 2017.
The site, known for asking provocative questions, has 19 questions about politics. “Trump?” received the most answers, with 74% responding “hell no” and only 4% answering “hell yes.” The most answered question was “Should guns be allowed in schools?” The most polarizing question is, “Did Russia hack the last US election?”
Mobile dating app profiles now include political terms, or instructions to “swipe left if you vote for Trump,” or “swipe right if you think Trump’s making America great again.”
Tinder states that 71% of their users won’t date a Trump supporter. Their Modern Dating Myths, released in April of 2017 showed, “Opposing political views were getting more left swipes.” Nine out of 10 of my dating coaching clients said that having similar political views with their dates are important to them.
Coffee Meets Bagel tells me their poll of 1320 members showed that the majority, 70%, who are Democrats said politics was impacting their dating lives, as compared to 43% of Republican singles.
Plenty of Fish conducted several surveys on politics and dating in 2016 and 2016 and offered some promising news.
POF found while the current political climate is tense, it’s starting to lighten up. They found that less than 1% of singles used the terms “Trump” or “Republican” or “Democrat” in their profiles. They also said that 90% of people had not broken up with someone over political views or party affiliation since the election and recommended not talking about politics on a first date.
Experts Weigh in on Trump and Politics
I spoke with Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and Chief Science Officer at Match, who said, “If singles feel very strongly about their political views, they should add it to their profiles.”
CNN Political Contributor and KABC Radio co-host John Phillips agrees with Fisher. “If both people are passionate and care about politics a great deal, it could be a problem,” said Fisher. “But then the relationship is probably doomed anyway.”
Dr. Fisher’s research indicates that people gravitate towards people who share their values. “For couples who are polar opposite politically, they just have to agree to disagree and find a way to respect each other,” Fisher said.
“People are going to stay strong in their positions because we aren’t talking about how you butter your toast,” said Fisher. “Things with the Dreamers and the immigrants is real and taps into basic values.”
Deal breakers for singles used to include height, smoking, and religion. They’ve been replaced with politics as a top deal breaker, with singles feeling more comfortable dating someone with same political views.
Phillips, who identifies as Republican, tells me that politics is more critical than ever in today’s dating world. “It’s more important than it used to be because the news has essentially become one endless talk show about politics,” said Phillips.
He believes politically charged opposite couples can co-exist in Trump’s America. “If Dodger fans can date Giants fans without the relationship ending in a 911 call, Trump and Clinton supporters can co-exist without domestic violence,” Phillips said.
Are we heading to a point where we can agree to disagree over an appetizer and enjoy crème brûlée for dessert? I sure hope so.
“There used to be water cooler topics. Now there’s one water cooler topic: politics,” adds Phillips.
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There was a lot of excitement the first week of January leading up to “Dating Sunday,” a day proclaimed by Match as the busiest day of the year for online dating.
Other sites and apps also saw the surge in activity and joined in on the Dating Sunday excitement, including Plenty of Fish, Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, and more.
As a guest on KENS TV in San Antonio and KHOU in Houston, I spoke with reporter Jeremy Baker, on why the first Sunday of a new year is always so active.
Baker’s mother met and married his stepfather after meeting in an AOL chat room in the 1990s, and he shares the history of online dating from the early days to the present, where singles are swiping on mobile dating apps.
Now that Dating Sunday is over, what should you do next?
If you missed the spike on Sunday while watching the Golden Globes, there’s no need to fret. Peak season is in full force right now, leading up to Valentine’s Day, just five weeks away.
There’s plenty of time to find love with some of these tips.
To get you armed for in online dating’s Peak Season, here are 7 online and mobile dating tips to help you get lucky, now through Valentine’s Day.
1. Post 5 -7 new photos to your profile and caption them if you can.
2. View and “Like” profiles and photos of 10 people a day during peak season.
3. Log on for 1/2 hour, twice daily to see who has viewed your profile and written to you.
4. Write back to those who are messaging you on dating apps and sites within the 1-4 hours, the sooner the better.
5. Don’t be shy. Make the first move and message someone whose profile looks interesting.
6. Rewrite your profile and include some of your goals for the year. Whether it’s running a marathon to writing your first novel. They’re conversation breakers that make you unique.
7. Turn on push notifications, so you’ll know instantly who’s interested in you.
If you need some extra hand-holding, find out how our Irresistible Profiles will help you find your dream date.
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A few questions we get asked often at Cyber-Dating Expert, is “how many people should I be dating at a time?”
“Can I date more than one person, and should I tell the people I’m dating that I am?”
I know it’s exciting to see so many people interested in meeting you and it can become overwhelming at times.
If you’re wondering what the magic number of people you should be dating at once is, or when you should become exclusive, my interview with Global news shares how to date, without becoming a player.
Highlights of the interview are featured in this video.
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FULL STORY at Global News