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Love is Blind, But OkCupid Isn’t – Crazy Blind Date Mobile

Crazy Blind DateWith online dating, we’ve been told it’s all about the photo, as both men and women are visual.

Today, our friends at OkCupid have launched their Crazy Blind Date mobile app, where you go back to the basics of when your grandmother fixed you up, along with a technology twist.

In honor of the launch, you’ll feel a bit naked when you log on to OkCupid today, as the site celebrates “Love is Blind Day.” OkCupid has removed all ten million photos on their members’ profiles to create awareness of their new app.

Sam Yagan, OkCupid founder and Cyber-Dating Expert friend says, “People will say that Crazy Blind Date is too crazy.” He adds, “But for a whole generation of young singles, it’s going to be a great adventure, and a great compliment to online dating.”

One thing we know for sure, is that mobile dating does speed up the process to meet someone IRL. In our recent Mobile Dating BootCamp, several of the participants used OkCupid’s mobile app and other mobile dating apps to try to find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. This app could help you if you’re looking for a last minute date or don’t want to be dateless on Valentine’s Day.

OkCupid says that Crazy Blind Date takes less than a minute of work:

  1. Download the Crazy Blind Date app for iPhone or Android
  2. Choose which nights this week you want to go on dates.
  3. Pick your favorite bar or coffee shop.
  4. Go on with your day; Crazy Blind Date does the rest.

Users are encouraged to share their dates on Twitter with the hashtag of #CrazyBlindDate and fees for the dates will apply.

Are you ready to go back to blind dating?

Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of She’s the host of Online Dating BootCamp and Mobile Dating BootCamp. Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @Juliespira on Twitter and at

OkCupid Becomes’s Valentine

OkCupid and Match

It’s a happy day for free online dating site OkCupid, who was acquired today by for $50 million in cash, just in time for Valentine’s Day.

OkCupid, led by Sam Yagan has become the darling for online daters due to the ease of use and no cost entry fee.

How will this affect you as a member of both sites? Probably not at all. According to a press release, Greg Blatt, CEO of IAC, who owns,, Singlesnet, People Media, and Yahoo! Personals, “OkCupid has been a real innovator in our space, and the dating environment they’ve created struck a chord with a younger demographic.” Blatt believes OkCupid is the best site in its competitive set.

OkCupid was the recipient of four awards at the Internet Dating Conference in January, including Best Dating Site, Best Dating Site Design, Most Innovative Company, and Best Up and Coming Dating Site.

Sam Yagan from OkCupid was featured guest on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show’s season premiere last year. To listen to the program, click here

My personal opinion? I recommend both sites regularly to my coaching clients. I think they’re in good company.

Are you a member of both OkCupid and Match? Comments are welcome and please do like us at

Top 10 of 2010 – Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

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To remember 2010, we are pleased to share the best and highest rated show segments on Ask the Cyberdating Expert Radio Show during the calendar year.

All I can say is WOW! It’s been an amazing year filled with dating advice to help you while looking for love online. Over 37,000 loyal fans listened to the program, where we talked about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

Here’s our Top 10 list for the year for your listening pleasure.

1. The Frisky – Amelia McDonnell-Parry, editor-in-chief

2. Cupid’s Coach – Julie Ferman, founder

3. Liar Liar List – Beth Greenfield, founder

4. David Wygant – Dating Expert

5. Your Tango – Tom Miller, General Manager and columnist, Tomfoolery

6. OkCupid – Sam Yagan, CEO

7. – Whitney Casey, Relationship Insider

8. Senior People Meet – Dr. Terri L. Ohrbuch, The Love Doctor

9. People Media – Josh Meyers

10. Weopia – Dave Wilkie

The 2010 year also included well respected relationship authors and dating experts Andrea Syrtash, Lori Gottlieb, Dr. Carole Lieberman, Alix Strauss, Marie Forleo, Tina Tessina, Debra Berndt, Kristen McGuinness, Paige Parker, Dr. Diana Kirschner, Deb and Liv from Flirtexting, Cougar Expert Lucia, Carrie Seim, and Don’t Date Him Girl’s Tasha Cuningham.

We featured online dating sites and dating advice sites including Cosmopolitan – Ky Henderson, eLove – Paul Falzone, ?eHarmony – Dr. Gian Gonzaga,??The Wing Girls – Jet and Star, Brainiac Dating – Lawrence Chernin, ?Cupidtino – Mel Sampat, Perfect Match – Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Speed Date – Dan Abelon, Single Edition – Sherri Langburt, True – Herb Vest, Scientific Match – Eric Holzle, Opposites Connect – Larry Wilson, Meetcha – Jeff Taylor, and SKOUT Mobile Dating – Christian Wiklund.

A special mention goes to this year’s launch of the new digital dating cards with Lori Cheek from Cheekd and Rachel DeAlto from FlipMe Dating. It was an honor to feature Harvard Professor Michael I. Norton on the subject of virtual dating.

All of the programs can be heard at

We’ll resume again in 2011 and look forward to hearing more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

Show segments:

1. The Frisky

2. Cupid’s Coach

3. Liar Liar List

4. David Wygant

5. YourTango

6. OkCupid


8. Senior People Meet

9. People Media

10. Weopia

10 Best Cities to Find Love Online

Our friends at OkCupid looked at over 1 million active users on their free online dating site to see where the most active singles resided in the past year.

In an article on, Sam Yagan, OkCupid’s CEO and a friend of talked about the specifics of each city. Whether they are filled with tech-savvy singles or college students who chose to reside in their college town, overall the popularity of online dating continues to rise.

As more singles are busy signing onto Facebook on a daily basis, they are expanding their personal search onto Internet dating sites in record numbers.

If you’re lucky to live in one of these top 10 cities, it’s time to log on more often and revise your online dating profile. If not, I suggest you cast a wider net and look outside your geographical area if you are serious about finding love online.

OkCupid’s Top 10 Cities to Find Love Online

1. Boston, MA

2. Washington, DC

3. San Francisco, CA

4. Seattle, WA

5. Atlanta, GA

6. Portland, OR

7. Philadelphia, PA

8. Los Angeles, CA

9. Dallas, TX

10. Detroit, MI

Why People Lie in their Online Dating Profiles

Lately, more than ever, the subject of lying in one’s cyberdating profile has become a hot topic. Some have become accustomed to the age, height, and income exaggerations for the benefit of showing up in a search.

It appears that lying on your profiles never goes out of style. It’s become a bit of an epidemic. On July 29, I will be a guest on The Stars of PR with Cindy R at 7am/PT. Her radio show segment is called The Big Lie on VoiceAmerica Radio Network. Cindy contacted me as lying has become so in vogue that she wanted to do an entire segment on why singles lie to fit into a search. Just days later after confirming my show segment with Cindy Rakowitz, ?my friend Sam Yagan at OkCupid sent me an email with their latest statistical great post in OkTrends called The Big Lies People Tell in Online Dating. I am a big fan of OkCupid and always look forward to their blogposts.

Let’s take a deeper look at OkCupid’s findings, which are not shocking. Of course, I’ll toss my two cents in.

1. HeightReality: People are 2 inches shorter in real life. If you have read my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online,?which was released on Valentine’s Day in 2009, there is a chapter called “Profile Definitions.” In this chapter I list a side-by-side comparison of 21 profile definitions in “What They Say” and “What They Mean.”

My first entry simply said:

WHAT THEY SAY: Male: Height 5’7″

WHAT THEY MEAN: Male: Height 5’5″

It appears things have not changed in the past few years.

2. IncomeReality: People are 20% poorer than they say they are.

OkCupid says that apparently, an online dater’s imagination is the best performing mutual fund of the last 10 years. I have to agree. More often than not, men are not putting their income on their profiles so they don’t have to see for themselves what the economy has done. Others aren’t interested in finding gold diggers. A recent online dater that I know of listed his previous salary which was 50% higher than his current income. ?He was in his 50s. He also said he was divorced, however he was “separated, divorce pending.” Interesting data from OkCupid.

3. Photos – REALITY: The more attractive the picture, the more likely it is to be out-of-date.

OkCupid has some terrific tricks to determine when a photo was actually taken. It’s worth taking a look at. Their findings claim that “most of the pictures on their online dating site?were of recent vintage; site-wide the median photo age at upload was just 92 days. However, hotter photos were much more likely to be outdated than normal ones.”

I don’t disagree, but here’s a refreshing and amusing twist on the other side. A recent dater that I know of sat across from his attractive date and confessed the following: “I’m sorry. I’m uncomfortable. You appear too young for me.” Yes, you read this correctly. He was expecting an older woman, someone closer in age to himself or at least visually closer in age to his ex-wife, and not a woman that appeared closer in age to his daughter.

He added that, “Most women lie about their age in their profiles so I was hoping you would be older. You look younger than your photo.” Now, this isn’t the norm, but are we accustomed to being disappointed on our first dates to the fact that if you do indeed look like your profile it is a complete shock?

4. Swinging Both Ways – REALITY: 80% of self-identified bisexuals are only interested in one gender.

OkCupid claims to be a gay-friendly site and has some interesting statistics about their members in their study. The fantasy is clearly greater than the reality.

Feel free to comment and share your opinion. Do you lie on your online dating profile? Have your expectations been lowered to the point that you are in shock when someone looks like their profile and accurately represents themselves?

I hope you listen to our radio show segment on this subject on July 22, 2010.

Julie Spira is known as the Cyber-Dating Expert. She created her first online dating profile in 1994. She is the author of bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at Follow her on Twitter @JulieSpira. Like the Fan Page

OkCupid on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show


Listen to the Season Premiere of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show featuring Sam Yagan, CEO and co-founder of OkCupid.

Find out why they are different from other online dating sites and why Sam thinks his site is like an online singles bar.

Hear about OkCupid Trends, their blog filled with interesting surveys including:

  • How to get a better response to your initial greeting
  • How short or long should your profile be

Find out what the most popular dating tests are including:

  • The Commonly Confused Words Test
  • What Kind of Girl Are You Test

Hear about their iPhone app and what Sam thinks of mobile dating and more on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with OkCupid

radioshowlogoJoin me on Saturday, January 9, 2010 for the season premiere of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show.

My guest will be Sam Yagan, co-founder and CEO of the online dating site

OkCupid has been called, “The Google of Online Dating” by the Boston Globe. The New York Post calls OkCupid “A Perfect Example of the Web 2.0 Revolution.”

OkCupid is one of the top free Internet dating sites. They have set up hundreds of thousands of relationships. You will hear details about their report where they tracked one million users to see which singles had the best success rate of writing back.

Call in with your questions for OkCupid at 646-929-0012 at 2pm/eastern time, 12pm/central time, 11am/pacific time or listen live online at

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