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Act Like a Lady – Think Like a Man

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It’s the number one relationship book online and in the bookstores. He’s been on Oprah. He’s just been named a special correspondent on parenting and relationships for Good Morning America. It’s been out since the beginning of the year, and it just made it into the Cyber-Dating Expert Reading Room.

You may be wondering, what took it so long? When ABC announced last week that Harvey would be joining the team, I finally went out and purchased his best-selling book.

You may have already read the book. But if you have not, I recommend Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment?for all the women who really want to know how men think.

It’s a simple book with a basic no brainer approach to understanding the male species. Harvey has his 90-day probationary rule and advises women not to “put out” before that time. He says you are worth the wait. He calls it the “cookie.”

The book helps women get into the mind-set of a man by listing three important facts on how a man looks at himself.

  • Who he is
  • What he does
  • How much money he makes

Harvey also adds three things that every man needs in a relationship from a woman.

  • Support
  • Loyalty
  • The “Cookie”

I call the “cookie” dessert. From a male’s standpoint, it’s the reward for his hard-working dollars. If a woman isn’t providing sex to her man, Harvey claims he WILL go elsewhere. It’s a simple tough-love formula and a terrific book.

Click here to order your copy.

Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com

Is 3-Months Really the New 3-Date Rule for Sex?

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When you say you are going on a third date, quite often the men will smile and say, “Ah, the third date. It must be the sex-date.” Women typically respond with, “You need to wait until 6 dates, 10 dates, or a month before ending up naked with your new guy.”

But has the outdated 3-date rule been replaced by the newer 3-month rule? On my recent Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert?radio show, America’s Love Experts Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal said, absolutely so. Tamsen believes in the 90-day rule as people are meeting faster with online dating, and you need to get to an emotional bond which will last longer. Her husband, Matt Titus claims that after 6 months the physical bond can fizzle out. On the program, he added that the “lure of sex” is more powerful than the actual “acts of sex.”

This also comes at a time when Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, which was released in January 2009, is still a number one Amazon best-selling book in the category of dating and relationships. Harvey who has appeared all over network television talks about his 90-day probationary period in the relationship and insists that women should wait before giving the man the “cookie.”?

All of the experts believe that if a man truly is courting a woman he wants to have a serious relationship with, that he will wait for the right woman to be ready.?If “60 is the new 40” and “50 is the new 30” then why shouldn’t the “3-month rule” be the new “3-date rule” for first time sex with someone you are dating. Men, are you willing to wait??I asked two attractive single men today at lunch if they were willing to wait and they both said, absolutely!?

Feel free to add your comments.

Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at www.CyberDatingExpert.com.