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How to Pimp Your Online Dating Profile

If you missed my Pimp Your Online Dating Profile Seminar in Los Angeles, there’s no need to fret. My friends at Cupid’s Pulse asked me to help singles create an irresistible online dating profile just for Valentine’s Day, so I came up with a list of 5 Must-Do tasks that you can start doing today.

From wearing red to attract love,? to creating a catchy screen name and changing your visibility settings, it’s still time to find a Valentine.

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1. Be the Lady in Red: Everyone knows that red is synonymous with love and passion.? We?re reminded about Valentine?s Day as soon as New Year?s is over.? I always say the color red will attract a man.? Grab a friend and your digital camera and start snapping some photos wearing your favorite red dress or sweater to grab his attention.? Post three to five photos: one full-length shot, one close up and an activity or vacation shot.? Not sure what to use?? Check out your own Facebook profile and scan through your photos.? There might be one on your favorite social networking site to post on your online dating profile.

2. Create a Catchy Screen Name: When I create irresistible online dating profiles for singles, I?m always amazed at how many singles just use the screen name assigned by, eHarmony, or on the free online dating site.? There?s nothing catchy about it at all.? Think about a newspaper with a great headline and an interesting photo.? If it captures your attention, you?re more than likely to skim or read through the article.? The same theory holds true for online dating.? It?s a competitive digital landscape out there ? Suzy115279 isn?t going to impress him, but ArtLover4U or HikingGal will show him what your interests are.? This will make it easier for him to approach you.

3. Change your Settings: Typically, women like it when a man does the pursuing, but February is already here.? You need to let him know you?re available and ready to meet.? How do you do this?? Change your privacy settings to show you?re online and open up your live chat or instant messaging service.? Online dating is a numbers game and men are rejected all too often.? Make it easy for him to find you.? It?s a crowded digital landscape and the squeaky wheel does get the deal.

4. Shorten your Profile: There?s so much to say and so little time, but time is your friend.? Don?t tell your entire life story in your profile, or there?s no reason for him to contact you.? Shorten your profile to a simple paragraph with enough information to pique his curiosity.

5. Cast a Wide Net: So what if he doesn?t look like your dream guy?? If you have enough common interests, take a chance and accept a date.? You never know if a great friendship will develop or if he?ll have a friend to introduce you to, even if it?s not a love connection.? Women do fall in love with their best friends, so don?t be too quick to judge the book by it?s digital cover.

For the full article, Visit Cupid’s Pulse.

Helping Singles Find an Internet Date for Valentine’s


February 10, 2011

Our Irresistible Valentine’s Celebration is red hot and it’s continuing every day through February 14th.

Join me on Thursday, February 10th on WLW in Cincinnati, where I’ll be a guest on the Marc Amazon show at 11pm/EST, 8pm/PST. We’ll be talking about last minute romantic gifts and how to find a date to spend Valentine’s with this year.

On Saturday, February 12th, our Valentine’s edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert show will feature Dr. Gian Gonzaga from eHarmony. The show airs at 2pm/EST, 11am/PST. We’re also giving away 10 autographed copies of the new book, the? eHarmony Guide to Dating the Second Time Around. Like us on Facebook and share your dating stories on our wall for your chance to win.

The festivities will conclude on Valentine’s Day with a morning appearance on TRN-FM on The Mancow Radio Show at 7:30am/CST and a lively debate on Valentine’s Day on BBC at midnight in London (4pm/PST)? on the Tony Livesely Show in “Can You Find Love on the Internet?” This will be my third year in a row providing online dating advice on BBC Radio, so I hope you tune in and hear what they think about online dating in the U.K.

To read the articles in Psychology Today, Cupid’s Pulse, Providence Journal, She Knows, Single Minded Women, YourTango and more, visit our press room.

For a list of Valentine’s articles, advice and show schedule, click here for full press release

For Lovers and Lovers in Waiting Live Chat

I’m super-excited to have been selected by GenConnect to host their live Valentine’s chat this week, “For Lovers and Lovers in Waiting.”

Click on the link below on Thursday, February 3rd at 3:30pm, EST/ 12:30pm/PST for a live Q & A, where I’ll answer all of your relationship questions leading up to Valentine’s Day. I know how stressful Valentine’s can be. I see all the red candy hearts in the grocery store. Regardless of your relationship stage, take a moment and join our live chat. The best part is, one person will win an Irresistible online dating profile, valued at $495.

Our hashtag on twitter is #gCLove so you can follow the conversation.

Live Chat With Cyber Dating Expert Julie Spira

Julie Spira to Host Live Valentine’s Chat

Gen Connect Valentine's Chat

It’s with great enthusiasm to be the featured host of GenConnect’s Live Valentine’s Chat scheduled for Thursday, February 3, 2011 at 3:30pm/ET.

Valentine’s is a very stressful time for both singles who are dateless as well as for couples where the expectations are high. If you’re waiting for him to say, “I love you” or expecting a ring on your finger, you’re putting too much pressure on your relationship.

Join me for a very special pre-Valetine’s live chat with GenConnect. We’ll be discussing both online and offline dating tips and ways to improve your relationship this month. Sign up now to register for this event. One lucky winner will receive a personalized irresistible online dating profile valued at $495. Our hashtag is #gCLove

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The Cyber Love Basket – Valentine’s Special

As we celebrate both Valentine’s Weekend and the anniversary of my online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, we have put together a very-special Cyber Love Basket filled with romantic goodies to spice up your love life. The new, sexy, and romantic Cyber Love Basket will be raffled off on Valentine’s Day at the Love Panel at An Empowered Woman in Bel Air, CA.

What’s in the Cyber Love Basket and how can you be eligible to win?

Attend the Second Sunday Love Panel on February 14, 2010. Receive dating advice and relationship tips from experts Dr. Pat Allen, Julie Spira, and Lucia. Stop by the CyberDating Expert table and purchase an autographed copy of The Perils of Cyber-Dating. The first 30 who purchase a copy of the book will immediately receive a VIP Cyber Swag bag worth over $125 (including a one-hour private massage and olive butter steam hair treatment). Everyone who purchases the book ?will be entered into the drawing ?for The Cyber Love Basket, now worth over $1800!

Here’s what’s inside the Cyber Love Basket:

  • One bottle of Champagne
  • One private coaching session or IRRESISTIBLE online dating profile from Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira
  • Five one-hour private massage sessions from Beyond Physical Therapy
  • Hair and Beauty makeover from Steven Crithfield of Claudio d’ Italia in Brentwood
  • Chocolate Aphrodisiac hearts and love birds from Diana Phillips Chocolatier
  • Five private one-hour Pilates sessions from Beyond Physical Therapy
  • One 1-hour Tantra Session from Embody Tantra
  • Two tickets to Lock and Key Events
  • One beautiful painting, “The Power of Love” from artist Sandra Cooper aka R. Vega
  • One 3-CD Music collection, “Straight from the Heart” from SHOUT Factory
  • One DVD movie, “Yoga- An American Journey”
  • Diva High Maintenance Drama Candle Collection

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Cyber Dating Tips for Valentine’s Day

Cyber Dating Tips for Valentine's

Welcome to February. It’s officially the month of love.

If you are feeling the pressure, don’t fret. Here are some online dating tips to help you get through the month of February.

How many Valentine’s Dates Should You Have?

Valentine’s Day is on a Sunday this year. In addition, Monday is a legal holiday in the U.S. so it becomes a three day weekend for many. Does that mean that you should have three dates on your calendar if you are single?

I happen to believe that three is a lucky number. If you aren’t in an exclusive relationship and your online dating profile is still up, there’s no reason NOT to ask three women out or accept more than one invitation over the course of the weekend.

Your Online Dating Profile

If your online dating profile is still active and you have your date(s) lined up for the weekend, I suggest that you don’t visit your online dating site in the days leading up to Valentine’s. It might take the romance out of your date if he or she notices your activity level.

Dine in, or Dine Out

Make sure you make your dining reservations early. Some of the best restaurants get booked in full in January. If you can’t get a restaurant reservation, dining at home with take-out food on fine china by candlelight makes a nice alternative to expensive dining. If you don’t have time to call around, go to to see what’s available in your neighborhood and price range.

Valentine’s Gift Giving

When it comes to gift-giving on Valentine’s Day, it can be a bit tricky. Being over extravagant early on in your relationship might scare someone away.

If you are wondering what kind of gift you should give your date, ?stop by your local Hallmark store and pick up an appropriate card for your Valentine and a box of chocolate. One simple rose for her will make a nice addition to the evening. For the man in your life, stop by Whole Foods and pick up a chocolate lollypop that says, “You’re My Hero” for $4.00. You’ll find them both melting in your arms. If your relationship is new, find a card that is witty and humorous.

If you have moved into an exclusive relationship and want to impress him or her, stop by Tiffany & Co. where they have a selection of Valentine’s Gifts. Their Elsa Peretti? Color by the Yard bracelet in sterling silver with a pink sapphire?is priced at $175. They have a full page of gifts for under $100. For him,?Engine-turned oval cuff links in sterling silver are priced at $150.

The Morning After

Take advantage of the holiday if you can. If your date involves an overnight stay, having breakfast in bed together will be a nice way to end the weekend, but only if you aren’t book for a lunch date with another suitor.

Still Dateless?

If Valentine’s arrives and you don’t have a date, don’t fret. There’s nothing worse than pretending to enjoy a very expensive evening. During the daytime if you are in Los Angeles, I will be speaking along with Dr. Pat Allen, author of “Getting to I Do” at The Second Sunday Series of An Empowered Woman. For the evening, find another single friend and go to a movie or stay in and read a book. If there are any singles events in your area, sign up and meet other singles. It’s not the end of the world and before you know it, spring fever will be in season.

Julie Spira is known world-wide as The Cyber-Dating Expert. She is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at

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