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Match Poll Shows Men and Women Agree on Wearing Red on a Date

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I’ve always said single women should wear red on a date and on their online dating profile primary photos.

It’s not just because red is my favorite color, but research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology at the University of Rochester also proved that women who wore red on their online dating profiles received more emails from men, went on more dates, and the men actually spent more money on women wearing red.

We know that red is the color of love, passion, and the stop sign. But red is that winning color both in the boardroom and the bedroom.

To add to that theory, our  friends at Match partnered with Finery and polled 2500 singles to determine the best date outfits and the worst date outfits.

BEST DATE OUTFITS AS SELECTED BY MEN

The winner by both was clearly a simple sophisticated and casual mid-length red dress, paired with a classic clutch, heels, and fun earrings. The look was called “Red Hot,” and I have to agree on the choice. So for those who think you should wear a mini-dress, or plunging cleavage, think again. 

The second pick by the guys was called “Sweet and Flirty,” which is a good summer look. Off the shoulder tops are all the rage now, and wearing hot pink is as close to wearing red as you can find.

Sweet and Flirty

Sweet and Flirty date outfit

When it comes to first date outfits, or any date for that matter, where what makes you feel comfortable, flirty, and happy. Dressing in grunge, sweats, or uggs, are good for hanging out at home, but they’re a turn-off for a guy. Dressing for women who will notice the brands will just bleed  your wallet. A guy wants to see you wearing something feminine and form fitting.

WORST DATE OUTFITS AS SELECTED BY MEN

As far as the worst date outfits, the men gave a thumbs down to outfits with minimal effort, ones that were too trendy, mis-matched, Woodstock glam, and striped with a pop of color.

Here were the top 2 losers according to the Match and Finery poll

Minimal Effort

men's worst date outfits

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Men's Worst Dating Outfits

Former E! News Correspondent, blogger and stylist, Alicia Quarles, commented on the fashion survey and said,

“Our poll results don’t exactly prove that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, we actually found that both genders agreed on the best date look, and that men don’t care about the latest trends or high fashion.” Quarles continues to say, “They want to see a woman’s figure—and less women dressing for other women on a first date (i.e., in very fashionable outfits which are on trend, but that don’t necessarily show off everything). Through this, we’ve realized that men just want to determine all lines of attraction on a first date, including physical attraction, so outfits that don’t show a woman’s shape can potentially complicate things.”

So does it matter what you wear on a date? Absolutely. You have that split second to make a first impression and I think the choices selected by men and women are feminine and memorable, both online and IRL.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over 23 years. Find out how our Irresistible Profiles will help you find your dream date.

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Shape Magazine – Dating Beauty and Fashion Tips Guys Love

Shape

It’s a great honor to be quoted on Shape.com in the article, Dressing Sexy on a Date – Dating Tips: Beauty Tweaks That Are Big Turn-On’s For Guys.

If you’re wondering if that bright red lipstick says you’re hot, or not to a guy. Here are some highlights, but check out the full article on Shape.com.

“For a first date, red shows confidence, which is the ultimate aphrodisiac.”

“Plus, red is the color of love and romance. Red is the color of the stop sign.”

A survey conducted by Zoosk showed that 66% of men didn’t like dark makeup.

“Most men like a natural look over a heavily made up look, so ditch the smoky eye and red lipstick in favor of a natural gloss and a huge smile.”

Thinking of showing off your cleavage? Not just yet.

“If you dress with too much cleavage, it’s a turn-off.”

“Wear a top completely buttoned-up but form fitted to show off your gorgeous curves.”

Read: 6 Dating Tips for Spring Fever

Dress like a classic beauty, not the trend queen.

“When you dress over-the-top in a fancy outfit, men often think you’re a high-maintenance girl.”

“Wear a simple dress to show off your feminine side on a date. Or, if it’s a daytime date, jeans and a cute t-shirt are always a good idea.”

Leave the Lingerie at Home

Ready for that first overnight?

“While men fantasize about hot lingerie, it’s usually not with the girl he wants to take home to the family.”

“Wear something comfortable and sexy, but not slutty.”

Many thanks to Jenna Birch for the great interview. Ladies, are you ready for Spring dating?

Full article on Shape.com

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What White Women and Men Like the Most – Online Dating Stats from OkCupid

Our friends and OkCupid have analyzed 526,000 profiles of their members to see the differences between men and women, ?as well as compare their white members to their Asian and African American membership base.

What did they find? It appears that both women and men of all races love sushi.

White women like getting dressed up, romantic movies, dirty dancing, country music, and Eat Pray Love.

What White Women Like

On the other hand, white men like Harley Davidson, hockey, and the big lebowski.

What White Men Like

Click here for full article on OkCupid